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LordOfTheWeed:
From the senseless post you just posted, one can deduce that you're only pained all because you can't afford one.. .. .. Bro, life is too short to be a sadist, new year is approaching, you mustn't continue like this in 2016.. .. ..

Cheers

Thank you my brother. Some peeps can't for a bit be jovial. Acting like a shrink online and displaying their high intoxicating level of stupidity. The op was just trying to have fun and some retarded sadists are spewing rubbish by spreading their slanderous filth. If you don't like what the op posted, then help yourself out and fuckoff.

Please, what's the meaning of do obo?

obiorathesubtle:
I dy tell you man!




If the ass na striker.. E go be aguero.

Obiora, see as una dey analyse anoda man property. You and stfuareyougod

Lemme add some op

Women- so mysterious and charming.

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]I would be embarrassed to take photos with Cossy Orjiakor.

Let alone post the photo for the world to see.[/color]

Wow, mamagee. Your dp is kinda pretty. Just a compliment.

Op, Breakups can force us to play all sorts of elaborate mind games with ourselves. We fixate on conflicting, dissonant ideas — like an ex's awful qualities and all of the warm-and-fuzzy memories we had with that person. Sometimes it's easier to be bitter about a relationship; that way, you don't have to dwell on all the good times (even though you might still miss them). But, for better or worse, relationships teach us things. And there's often something positive to be gleaned from each one.
We take away more than nostalgia from our relationships. The lessons we learn from the people we date soon become real pillars of our personal relationship styles. "Past relationships can influence future ones because they set different kinds of expectations for you and change how you see your next one,contributes to the individual and partner you are today — and the individual and partner you will be tomorrow.

Life lessons hurt a lot sometimes but if you can recognize the problem and what must be done, you're better for it even when accounting for the loss involved.

That's a human for you Op.

micolo5000:
My gal friend of 3yrs now has All of a sudden locked her phones from me assessing them.. Guys wat exactly does this mean? Privacy or something else

Op, take heart.

adaksbullet:
Gud mournin ppls off NL...............mine gf his doin sumhw too me..............am introduced mine frnd too her last week. Noun mine gf oFf 7yr his say she his nort loved me agn dat she his in love for mine frnd.................am noun ask her while and she jos send me these pisure thess mournin..............am nort no whot she mean

Ohhhh, wetin be this again na?

HBD Hemmy.

CaroLyner:
how will those rap artists help curb heartbreak

Try out the song by lost frequencies and tell me what you think. It ain't about the genre sis, the lyrics matter. And also runaway by kanye west, you'll understand better.

Runaway- Kanye west, Pusha T.

Blessings- Big sean, Drake, Kanye west.

She will (remix) Lil wayne, Drake, Rick ross.

Pursuit of happiness- Kid cudi.

Are you with me- Lost frequencies.

Op,there have been plenty of girls that I've met through friends or randomly in public, but in bars, the sheer density of attractive, young, single women is enormously greater than it is on the street or beach or office (or anywhere else); and my dating history reflects that. I've made the point previously that the higher concentration of the opposite sex in nightlife venues is a good thing, and I stand by what I said. But as I've gotten older and come to know myself better, I've recognized two serious disadvantages to meeting women in this way.

1. Randomness
The first thing I've realized is that I don't value the way that I meet women I met in bars – that is, I don’t value the process itself. I was telling this recently to a girl that I know, and she suggested that it was because meeting girls in bars is "too random." I think this is the common supposition - namely, that because you don't have any history or connection with the people that you meet in bars, there is no foundation for a relationship, and so any attempt at one is doomed. But this isn't the problem. A strong foundation for a relationship is just as much a function of personal compatibility as it is a function of common history or connections. Meeting the opposite sex in a bar isn't unsuccessful for lack of foundation, and it isn't unsuccessful because it is random. It is unsuccessful precisely because it isn't random.
Randomness is actually what we all want, in the sense that we all want our "how we met" story to be unique and unexpected. The more random it is that you met someone to whom you find yourself deeply attracted, the more special it feels, because you know that you were incredibly lucky for it to happen. It's the same phenomenon that makes people appreciate life so much after a near-death experience. You value what you have because you know that you almost didn't have it. As absurd as most romantic comedies are, it says something about our ideals of romance that so many of them start with some permutation of a girl hitting a guy on a bike with her car - randomly - and then falling in love with him. Things are romantic at least partially because they are unexpected, that is, seemingly impossible or unreal. I probably don't need to explain to most women how un-romantic it is to receive flowers on Valentine's Day. It might be nice, and it might be better than never receiving flowers, but it isn't romantic because it is too predictable. It isn't random at all.
Being picked up in a bar also isn't random at all. In fact, it is exactly the opposite of random; it is boring because it is too mechanical, too planned. Guys know that they want to meet girls, they know where to find them, and they go there to do so. Girls know that they want to meet men, they know where they will be hit on, and they go there for that reason. The encounter might take place in an exciting, fast-paced and sexually-charged atmosphere, but that's just superficial ornamentation. Underneath, those meetings are absolutely blank, because they are absolutely intentional.
Yes, obviously, not everyone in a bar is there with the conscious intention of meeting the opposite sex, but the percentage of people who are is infinitely higher in nightlife environments than it is in, say, a shopping mall. I don't value the women I meet in bars because there is nothing special about the way we met.

2. DIFFICULTY
The second thing I realized is that I don't value the effort I make to meet girls in bars. There isn't necessarily anything wrong with the girls themselves, but I don't respect my relationships with them because I didn't have to work very hard to make those relationships happen. We men are very keenly aware that things of low value are easy to obtain, and so we assume (and in most cases are right) that things that are easy to obtain are low in value. A man might have the best job in the world, but he'll never feel good about it as long as he knows that he only got it because his father pulled strings with his professional contacts to make it happen. The same mentality applies in dating.
It hasn't always been this way for me. In my early twenties, approaching a random girl in a bar and attracting her enough to get her phone number took balls and felt like a real accomplishment- because at the time, for me, it was. I was able to have genuine relationships with girls that I met in bars because I respected myself for meeting girls in bars. But I don't anymore, because it has become too easy, too boring. Without the challenges that my adolescent social anxiety used to pose, all I see in bars is a social scene hugely facilitated by dark lighting, loud music, commotion and alcohol.They’re still a great place to have fun and get laid, but they’re not the kind of place where I expect to find a relationship anymore.
Now, does this mean that bars are a bad place to meet guys, or that you should stop going out?
Not necessarily. Despite the fairly categorical nature of my post, what I am really saying here is that bars are a bad place for me to meet women at this point in my life. I am no relativist, but the reasons explained above don’t apply to every guy, and they don't apply in every situation. If you meet a guy tomorrow who is the way I was at 22, for whom it is a big deal to meet a girl in a bar, then this isn't going to be an issue at all. And even if the guy you meet in a bar is exactly like me in the sense that it isn't a challenge for him, there is still the possibility of something working out; it just means that you are getting off on the wrong foot. If there is a strong enough connection, "how you met" probably won't be enough to prevent or disrupt it.
There is also the chance that there will be some other coincidence that makes the encounter incredibly random, despite the environment – maybe you find out that you both come from the same town on the other side of the country, or that you have identical ancestry, or that you are both obsessed with the same nerdy movie, even though you met in a nightclub. And as I explained in previous posts, you still have to consider the disadvantages posed by what I've explained above, along-side the low probability of getting off on the right foot somewhere less intentional, like a shopping mall or at work.
No, I am not saying that you shouldn't go to bars. I am saying that you should be cognizant of the fact that men – just like women – will not respect or value what comes too easily, whether it comes too easily because (a) it is too mechanical or (b) because it requires very little effort. The converse of this is that men will value their encounter with you in proportion to how (a) unlikely or (b) difficult it was. While this doesn't mean that you should lock yourself in a steel cage and only accept men who are willing to tear it down to get to you, it does mean that you should avoid situations in which every man has easy access to you. You might think of bars and online dating as completely different – even opposites – but they share the strong similarity of taking the difficulty out of approaching (and therefore, being approached by) the opposite sex. Even though it seems like an ideal situation on the surface, the reality is that, for many men and women, bars and online dating are shortcuts. And no one wants to know that they got something important to them by taking a shortcut. Even if online dating or going to bars isn't a shortcut for you, be aware that it might be a shortcut for the guy, and that he is liable to respect himself and the relationship less because of it.

Finally, op do what you feel is right. We all have a choice to make in life.

This match is gonna end draw. Both teams to win either halves.

tosyne2much:
I prefer small bumbum and big bosom


*nobody should quote me*

I must quote you.
For me, like them equal in all ramifications.

Jolllyjoy:
thanks hon you are a sweetheart:*

You're welcome

Jolllyjoy:
u dey find my trouble oo

Nor vex sis, oya have this to keep yourself busy. Bar man, bring 2 can of smirnhoff ice for this lady.

Jolllyjoy:
shebi u see say her pusssy don stretch and u dey help her stretch her more?



Na thunder go fire your left ball.

Lolz, miss take it easy na.

Lwkmd

Op, where the remaining 12 na

La click, La faint.

irunooboo:
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foolish mumu

Lolz

irunooboo:
its obvious u av a small dick. no wonder u sound pained

Lmao.

Op, are you in great physical pain, or is that your thinking expression? You're awfully small to be so hugely irritating and what's with the ''All Nl men''You look like something I'd draw with my left hand and I can see the most exercise you get is running your mouth, jumping to conclusions and pushing your luck. Jeez, for God's sake, did it hurt when you fell from the top of the LovePeddler tree and banged every guy on your way down and start claiming Nl men are weak. P.S, No need to play hard to get, when your face is already hard to want.

Btw, don't be angry at me, because the only time you seem honest is when you're insulting someone and the only honest things I can say to you are insults.

No hard feelings sis.

SameMissclassy:
[color=#000050]So because you registered on nairaland, means you should create a thread immediately to generate awareness for your _stupid self?

You are an imbecilic fool.

What surprises me is how dimwitted attention seekers like you always manage to find their way into this corner of the cyberspace.

Bastard daughter of a thousand leprous gorillas.[/color]

Now, this is an awesome welcoming speech.

prettythicksme:
lol,like wat?

Ahhhhh, you want to hear every detail. Nah, some things are better left unsaid sis.

April 2nd- Aries- Fire

Ohh my good God.. Wetin person nor go see for Nl. Op, try using a vibrator or Love Machine still. Nor come here dey look for wetin go send you go ''Thy Kingdom Come''.

Girls like una na dey say ''It's not that I have jungle fever, I just want a sexy black man who might cause some kidney damage''. Sit down there dey find wetin go give you heart attack you hear.

What am I even saying self

Durrent, I will report to halfrica that you're cheating on her

prettythicksme:
But charles,i dont have a pro pics

Don't mind me joor, just imagining some crazy stuffs

Mamagee is back again. You're pretty joor, don't mind them haters.

But, I still choose prettythicksme cos she's Pretty, Thick and lips sealed.