Thanks all. I will never regret the day I stumbled into nairaland. It has always come to the rescue when some critical/sensitive decisions ought to be made. It's always served as a pointer/guide. GREAT NAIRALAND, KWENU!

As my wedding draws nearer, I have been putting together my vote of thanks but due to series of pressures from various angles, I feel I am not doing well enough. Please I need samples so I can compare with what I already have put together. It should be simple but rich  if you know what I mean.

Thanks all.

I'm here again to get the view of my fellow members on nairaland. My wedding is in a month's time & will be taking place in my wife's church. Now my family is insisting that the thanks giving be held in my own family church & not my wife's church on the sunday after the wedding. Pls I want to know if its right to go to another church instead of the church the wedding took place? This matter is raising a heated arguement. I think it should be on the church the wedding took place. Bottom line "WHERE SHOULD WEDDING THANKS GIVING TAKE PLACE?"

@Kablooee
I don't know when it has become disrespect to seek for opinions. Yes some has done some bashing to her, those are their opinions, it doesn't necessarily mean I'd go their way of bashing. I love my woman & no amount of bashing here can change that fact. Yes we are humans & under pressure we are bound to think of several things. That doesn't mean I want to leave her. I just wanted to find out from fellow NL members who are matured & have worked this road before if I was biting too hard by trying to know how our money is being spent. I have already taken home my lesson on this thread which is "I deserve to know how our money is being spent". Thank you.

@cooldud69
I do not intend to exchange words. However, I will not allow you pass a biased judgement on my person based on my previous posts. If you do ur checks well, you'll find out I left NL a long time ago due to mediocres like you who never believe themselves let alone someone else. As humans, we all have fantasies. Some have been lucky to live theirs while others haven't be very lucky. Mine was in the form of a wild party which I made a post here to fulleil my last bachelors wish before finally settling down. and got no response. People throw parties all the time. If it is not in you to throw such parties, don't hate people that can pls. Maybe you forgot, Nairaland is a forum where people meet to interact with each other & like every other meeting place, relationships can blossom from there. For same reason the initiator carved out a section called "Dating & Meetup Zone". When I made a post on the same zone that is supposed to be for dating, I got shelled with different kinds of arsenal. These and others culminated to my zaping. Now you are at it again. To answer your question: I did not meet my wife on NL, sorry to burst your bubble. Please stop player hating & show some love. Life is too short to waste is player hating.

@oyinda, permit me to correct an impression. I did not give her 2.5m to plan the wedding. We talked extensively on the kind of wedding we want & after our rough calculations, we arrived at that budget. Not because all the money will go into, but worse case scenario, we spend all but not a dime more. When ever she wants to go shopping for anything, I release money to her account. At the end of the day as someones wife, when she comes back while talking on how the shopping went, I expect her to say honey see how it went and so on. Example; lets say we budgeted 80k for a lace material & she got it for 50k, is it a crime for me to know? I don't know for others but it gives me a sense of belonging. Even though she spends all the money voted for that particular shopping, let me know how it was spent. Kind of a break down. Is that too much to ask? I just want to be carried along thats all.

Thanks all for your great understanding of my worries/pain. @gentlegg refused to understand the main crux of the post but instead wasted his precious time steaming over the wedding budget. What an irony?

Anyway, I'm keeping my fingers crossed. When she starts to work, I'd see how she wants to spend her money. I love her but as some points during this preparations I've wished I could retrace my steps but I'm too far gone to go back.

@OBNOXIOUS, thanks for those analysis. If I say I've not thought of all these points you raised, I'd be lying to myself. My today went bye without me achieving anything. I couldn't stop thinking if I'm not making the same mistake I ran away from a yr ago. The last was even better she has a good job but we could not agree on being frugal with money. She was a spendthrift & wanted a multimillion naira wedding else we wait till we can achieve it. I'm an understanding & humble individual and will not judge a person based on status as long as you are smart, intelligent and has a sound education. In my opinion, that woman you are seeing on top today was never on top yesterday. She climbed the ladder gradually. I'm very supportive & know I could see her through to the top. But this attitude from her & her family is begining to give me great cause for concern. I hope I've truly not burnt my hands. God help me. I hate to ponder on the saying "Good guys come last". It gives me shivers.

@gentlegg, why the outrage? In seeking advice from fellow NLs, won't you paint them a clearer picture so they'd understand where u are coming from instead of posing them a puzzle? Anyway, I'm sorry if that got off to you on the bad side. Happy though others ain't complaining.

@ronnig. God bless you. We have had some serious issues since this planning started. Ranging from pressure on her family's side. They claim that preparations are supposed to have been concluded since last month. They are claiming I'm too slow. Am I too slow on the preparations when we still have 2months to the wedding? I'm begining to think I'm marrying a woman who lacks understanding. And are weddings associated with this kind of headaches? Its driving me nots.

Thanks all for ur input so for. We had a serious arguement last night & it led to her crying & that alone got me angrier. I didn't think there was any cause for her crying. She was insinuating my present actions means I'd be dictating for her what & what not to buy in the kitchen. Is that a sound judgment? Does that make me a dictator? I'm so relieved to hear from you guys that I'm on the right track. Yes every woman has a dream of a fairy tale wedding but realities has shown that most often than not, it has remained elusive for the majority due to the realities on ground. Money does not grow on trees like someone rightly said & I'd press further to know what our money is being used for, how much was spent & what balance do we have so we can channel the balance to other needs still aimed towards a successful wedding. Can you imagine her saying that her friends & cousin claimed this planning period is a time for her to make some savings which obviously will be at my expense. How am I supposed to react to this please my people. I need to know o. I want to be a great husband to my wife but I also know that money doesn't grow on trees.

My white wedding is coming up on the 29th of August and as the preparations are going on, I was demanding from my fiancee that we should be accountable for every money we spend so as to squeeze the wedding within our tight budget of N2.5M. The problem is she's complaining that I'm scaring her by my suggestions. She said I'm not supposed to know how much she buys stuffs or what she does with the money I give her. Pls am I on the wrong part? Does that make me stingy and tight fisted with money? I'm footing all the bills as she is not working & no support is coming from her side.

Oh sorry guys and girls. Been way too busy lately, reason I have been able to communicate you guys on the change of date for my Valentine party. The party will no longer hold on Vals day proper. This is because I reasoned a lotta girls & guys will be out on a date and having fun. I don't want to rob anyone of that day. As a result, I have re-scheduled it to now hold on Saturday Feb 17th. Its a weekend and as such kind of prefarable.

So what are you waiting for? Send me your info as requested earlier so I can text you an IV as attendance is strictly by invitation. Well, I can spill the venue afterall, only your IV text message is the pass to the gig. Venue is Eko Hotel & Suites pool-side and time is 8pm till,  Its gonn be fun. See you girls and guys at the party.

Meanwhile, HAPPY VALENTINE all. 

If you are interested, send me your name, phone/gsm number and maybe location so I'd text you the IV and venue. Time however will be from 6pm till you are tired. Date is on valentines day. I want the venue to be private to avoid party crashers if you know what I mean. Its going to be one party you cannot forget in a hurry. I'll send out invitation messages containing the venue on the 10th. If you live outside Lagos and you think it will be convinient for you to attend, you are welcome.

Dress Code: Tantalizing I'd say. Anyhow sha, just be in a party mode/mood.

Send your name and numbers to freaky.chee@yahoo.com.

Note: Your text message is going to be your IV. Its going to be a lavish private but decent party. No under 18s' please. You are free to backout if you don't like the venue.

I don't doubt that a lotta pips in da house will be thinking dirty. There won't be any of such besides, I know the stories will fill the forum from the ladies that are lucky to attend it. Lets have a memorable valentine.

Funny to note now that people are hooking up via nairaland let alone hearts getting broken. I thought they said it is a taboo in the Nigerian context to meet someone via the internet. I almost got skinned alive for daring to make a post requesting for a true and intelligent sista.

Anyway my dear Chistiana, sorry for the incident. I always advice friends mostly my female friends to always espect heartbreaks. This is because, there's never been an instrument made to measure a guy's or lady's intentions when in a relationship order than what you are being told. Also, wisdom has it that, there is little you can tell about tomorrow when it concerns relationships. The saying that "There's a thin line between love and hate is not a paranoia".

Only if this story is not fictional. Besides, you don't sound like a grad to me. _{sorry o, don't mean no insult}.Take the money. Bingo! The chick is as good as gone.

Boy, forget the deal (friends with benefit). I have a bitter experience from such. At some point if you are romantic and your sex is good, emotions will start running high and she'll start professing her undying love for you and want to have you for keeps. If you are not playing card her way, then you are doomed. She'd call you names, abuse you, spread rumours about you, even threaten your girl friend. Boy the list of what she can do is endless. I learnt the hard way. Friends for benefit, bullshit. Women in an unreciprocated love can be VERY VERY dangerous.

Bros! RUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUN.