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The jet I am going to use in proposing to my future wife is still coming. Anyways, love is a sweet thing ooo

From your story.. You sounded a very nice man with one soft heart that can be melted by just the smile of a lady.. That's good and bad...
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Good in the sense that if you fall in love with a lady that understands and loves you so much..she will help build up some defenses in you...
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Bad because as your story showed, these two women have your separate remote controls.. Ex can call and with that sweet voice control you even if you caught her cheating the previous day... Same with the main babe.
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So, bro... You've got to work on yourself.. No babe can help you on that for now. At the time being, cut off all communications with ya Ex (I don't eat leftovers.. Learn that too).. She is ex for a REASON. Imagine how she broadcasted getting you back.. Her remote worked on you...
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As for ya main babe.. You've started you love her so much and blah blah, but Oga, be a man na.... Enjoy your life alone and let the way you enjoy ya life bring women closer to you and not you acting clingy and needy like you dey on heat... You can call ya main babe and talk things over with her,....... But stop being too soft like a weakling.. Act like a Boss, let her call you often.
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Give her space and meet other ladies too just for fun etc.. No bleep (unless chance come), but try having a side chick.. It helps to balance how you pour ya emotions.
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See as these ladies are advising you here..lol .. Most of them get like 3 guys that they control sha... So treat them like that... Don't lay ya heart on one babe to avoid heartbreak.. Remember... Leave ya ex.. That babe carry ya manuals for hand and can control you like her dog.

5. Sabi bleep well well

Is vaseline that expensive in your area? Get one abeg!

Those babes that just lie like log of wood while you do all the work like say its only you come dance ooo....

If your babe no CUM... Are you a normal man...

Michelle55:
dreaming to serve keh..no even reason am sha.this my side dey dry like desert oh. the place Don make the service year tire me sef

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What's this bad dream.. That is it you ain't from there na....

Michelle55:
Ogun state.tanchu

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The place I'm dreaming to serve.. Wow!... Dreams are coming true.. Cakes almost done

Michelle55:
lolzzz...a dance from me? hehehehhehe.. I don't even know how to move a foot not to talk of dancing.. sweery you go tey for okija junction if you dey wait for my dancing steps. hmmmm, how do I want my B-Day cake? I want it decorated with just my name boldly inscribed on it. tanchu

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You've got to learn how to move ya legs.. That's what gets me tripping for them babes.. Or if they can dance in the oz room too...
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Location location location... Where the Cake could be delivered...

Michelle55:
lolzzzz.thanking you

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Happy birthday, honey.. A dance from you is okay for me today.. How do you want ya birthday cake?...

FreeSpirited:
It doesn't really mean I be 'I no send'...I just get human feeling helping deir situation, dats if they have enough to compensate for it sha...... Its a win win...I don't lure, dey show green lights...and I help them

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Its good to help sometimes ooo... Very good esp the big boobs and big back side chicks.. You can't just allow the stuff be wasting na

True talk... Keep enjoying them ugly babes... #TeamInosend

TheGreatIYANU:
This post pisses me off more than anything on nairaland. Brother you mean the bolded happened and you still in a r/ship with that harlot.

Are you kidding me?! You guys hammering on his useless games, una no read wetin I bold for up abi na only me see am.

Dear Op, you don't need our honest and sincere advice. What you need is a honest and sincere Psyche Evaluation.

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You've got a point sha... Op was Mr. Romeo that met the wrong Juliet.

GodnGold:
I get it. Thanks bro!

. You're welcome, keep ruling!

This one follow for news?... Hehehehe.. So those who haven't got skills can be creative, abi??... Madam vp wife, you talk well, but stop telling us how much you spent on it...
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GodnGold:
Oga,abeg teach me this push and pull method.

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Very simple... Act nicely and loving this moment.. Sendless the other moment.
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Something happened to me yesterday. I have an online chick that we chat and things are going normal. I noticed on Saturday that she was getting cold on chats, I didn't bother.. I placed a call (my mumu self), she wasn't sounding cheerful like the one I know.. I laughed and as she didn't reply my fb msg that Saturday morning, while she was online.. I vowed to ignore her.
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I did that all through yesterday, she sent two msgs on fb calling me sweet names, I didn't bother to open it while I'm online making posts and even when she comments on them, I reply her on my post to show I am online yet I ignored her on inbox..mixed signals...lol
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She called, I no pick and didn't call back.. Mind you, na person that we dey be love birds ooo....
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So I'm on the pull method now to try make her realize that without her, I fit be enjoying and being happy. The push method was making her feel big head, so na the thing I dey try reduce...
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This is applicable in real life too... Don't act love love everytime, sometime create an issue and ball out small like a boss..lol.... To test if she really kwadu you well... Psychologically, we pursue things we no fit get easily.

tukurutaiwo:
We've been talking about marriage and plans too.. She's not picking my calls and I've been to her place once but she wasn't around. There's no way i can know the time she'll be home cos she's not picking my calls..

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You shouldn't be calling her as if your life depends on her..that's bad...
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Also, what about ya side chicks?... This is the moment you need them most.
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For her not being around when you visited.. By now, you ought to know the time she should be at home sha. And please, don't act clingy or needy when you meet her at home. Rather talk with ya eyes wide open, but I tell you... You are the person at fault by playing games with her.
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But that's not the main reason, your were just all over all and couldn't let her miss you... Like they say goods in large supply are always cheap and not valued as much as goods in little supply.. Use Gold and Water as an example here

tukurutaiwo:
I like your response and i really appreciate it.. God bless you.

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No qualms... I've been in that sh1ts shoes where I'm not sure if she loves me like I do, and it can be frustrating... But like I said...
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Decide what you want with her.. Marriage? Then go and have a talk with her... Dating? I suggest you let her be because 9 years no be beans and she won't forgive you if you turn her mind to continue and you later dump her..
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So, if you've got marriage plans, pay a visit.. Talk and sort things out... Then when things are going well, start using the push and pull method on her.

You are showing how desperate you are and that's pushing her away.
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If you still love her, try and pay her a visit and be objective when you reach there.Not being too emotional like soft baby. Talk things out with her and explain to her that it was all joke...
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By the way, she give you love portion? Try to give ladies in ya life chance and enjoy ya life alone for sometimes... Use the Push and pull method also when dealing with ladies you love because I bet you showing you care and love so much can makes ladies run away (I've tried it too).
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Be the prize here, stop acting like she is doing you any favor by dating or getting married to you... She must need you as you need her too... Else, na one chance you dey...
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Peace

Shegzkenneth:
Bosses in d house, plz, help me out, I just started dating a girl recently and everything was going on smoothly not until last week when I noticed her change in behavior due to d fact dat I over pamper her, don't know what to do to be in control again

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Boss Harddon.. See a nigga here

Shegzkenneth:
No, Still nice to her nigga

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I don't know, but I'm a hunter before I stumbled on this thread and discovered that even as I hunt, I should be tactical on it...
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My main suggestion is that you read this thread from page 0, I bet before you reach page 20, you will see what you were doing wrong and how to man up your game.
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By the way, your story is shorthanded... Explain more for easier assessment and solution.

HARDDON:
Humbled!

Spread the good news. You dont eat good food alone, you share.

I've been directing my friends here to learn too... I've been that Mr. Nice Guy so much, though I always strike.. My niceness always spoil the attraction.
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Lost a relationship of about 3 years recently before I stumbled on this page last week. I don't count that as loss, because many fishes are in the sea.. Men roll with big balls and that's my aim.. To sendless.

Once more, thanks so much for everything... Hopefully, I start practising it physically.. The chatting practice has been awesome.