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AbdulHaram:
But I bathe my girlfriend, is that wrong?

Yes,it's wrong if it's not your wife, you are fornicating.

all4naija:
. Nice one though. Not for me!

all4naija:
Sorry, I don't like Couscous!

Is it all about you? I bet you think the world revolves around you.

People are cooking and posting on this forum, but definitely not for you.

freecocoa:
What are you talking about? What does wanting to experiment have to do with anything? Are you saying that a female child of 12, wouldn't want to experiment if she was bathed by her mother? So if the child is incapacitated and only the dad was available to bathe her, are you saying, she'd have to go without a bath?

It might be irresponsible parenting(because we are supposed to teach our kids how to cater for themselves) but it doesn't mean there's a sexual undertone to it, nor does it mean the man is irresponsible, you sound like you don't trust every man around little girls.

In certain circumstances like illness, or when the child is mentally ill or physically disabled a father can chip in. But bathing a normal 12 yr old girl should not be part of the fathers daily duty.

In one of my posts I mentioned that there are developmental stages for every stage.

E.g. A responsible good parent will teach their girl child the following WITH REGARDS TO HYGIENE
3 yrs ------- teach the child how to wipe herself whenever she goes to poo ( FRONT TO BACK TECHNIQUE TO AVOID INFECTIONS
4yrs -------- teach the child how to wash their vagina whenever she takes a bath ( tell me how a man ill teach a girl to wash her vagina )

5yrs ------- be able to dress herself and properly wear her shoes
6 yrs------- tie her shoe laces


11-12yrs ------- bath and put on roll/deodorant stick on ( if her hormones have changed her body odor).
Be able to clean her vagina ( wash properly between her labias
taught how to use pads and discard pards.

TELL ME, HOW AND WHAT TO YOU EXPECT A MAN TO PROPERLY COMMUNICATE ALL THIS HIGHLIGHTED?

When you teach your girl child you don't do it for them but you have to monitor that its done properly. Otherwise if all the stages are not properly monitored you will forever fetch your daughter from kindergarten or elementary school smelling of poo and other kids will be laughing the hell out of her.
If you bath a 12 yr old, how do you expect her to wash her panties when she cant love herself by washing her body.

A normal man knows how to identify a child who has entered puberty.
A normal man will know that puberty is the time he has to back off from being hands on.

If a man is unable to identify that he, is pretending to be ignorant and that has a sexual undertone to it. If my father can enter a room when I naked at this age and tell me that he is my father, then he is a pervert. There is definitely a sexual undertone to that. Equally same thing when you continue bathing a girl child who is entering puberty.

What delayed the parents from teaching the child from a young age. One would think it has some sexual undertone because abusers normally delay such developmental stages so as to keep the victim dependent on them and also keep the victim within their radar and thereby reducing the chances of spilling the beans.

Yes, you are right I do not trust any man to wash my wash my girl child's vagina or to teach my girl child about vaginal hygiene because he doesn't know anything as he doesn't own a vagina.

Though I am not saying all man have bad intentions. but I question the intentions of a man who continues to keep a girl child dependent on him.

A man can help with bathing and teaching the kids how to bath from 0-9yrs but from 10yrs up a child should be having some form of independence from both parents ( mother or father ).

Humblega:
Immigration to canada reality.

pinkpebbles:
People should see this from another angle. What if the little girl's mom is dead and the father has been bathing her since she was a child. I am talkin from experience. My dad bathed me at least every weekend til I was 11 and everytime I was ill and came back from school,he bathed me even till I was 15. He is late now,God bless his soul. If not,if I am ill today,i am sure he would still offer to bath me.

My dear your dad may have done that to you but it doesn't mean it was good for you. Your husband or boyfriend should tell us about the outcome

Even if the mom is dead, that is when a 12yr old has to grow fast.

Psychologically there are different developmental stages where for every age the child is expected to have made progress with regards to doing certain things
e.g
6 months ----- hold her feeding bottle
2 yrs ----- talk
3yrs ------ sitting on a potty or toilet ( no daiper ) etc
10yr ------- make bed, wash undies and socks etc.

So 12yrs also has its own developmental expectations which include puberty changes and also bathing yourself.

If a child doesn't meet some developmental expectations, the child may be abnormal or spoiled. If the child is spoiled, as a parent you are not doing any justice to that childs development. She may find it hard to cope in some life situations.

I remember at a University,I had a roommate who came from a similar background. Her father used to bath her, cook for her etc. When she got to University she could not cope. She would take all her menstrual soiled underwear and discard it and buy new ones. She got married and she didnt stay long in her marriage, the husband could not cope with her dirtiness.

Her parents didn't do her any justice. A girl of 12 yrs is suppose to have even started learning how to cook.

Teach them while they are young, so that when they grow old they will not deviate.


These girls who have this type of upbringing are some of the girls that man complain about in marriage. Dirtiness, unable to cook etc.

Truckpusher:
Omo! You dun spoil work abeg.

You must pay o.

I am sorry bro's. Na joke ooo.

I know you were just yabbing too with your busy mouth.

Truckpusher:
Ignorance ke , I was only trying out something with a beautiful and intelligent moniker but you came around with your bad belle and scattered everything .

In fact the thunder that would fire you is being designed by the Chinese .

My didi is smooth - I'm a Southerner.

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freecocoa:
I got my first period at almost 12, unless you are arguing that, time has something to do with a person's character, then I maintain, it is not the best form of parenting but calling it irresponsible is going overboard.

Being irresponsible is when both parents don't teach a girl who is at puberty stage to be responsible of her own body and independent to wash her body.

Being irresponsible is when you are letting a girl in her puberty to be handled by a man.

For clarity purposes, a girl in her puberty stage experiences a lot of changes including hormonal changes which lead to ( breast development, growth of pubic hair and also sexual urges etc)
If you let a girl in her puberty be handled by a man, ( even if it is the biological father) that is irresponsible.

She will want to experiment or she will let the father experiment.

That's very irresponsible.

If your parents did that to you, it doesn't mean it was right.

Truckpusher:
Of course I agreed that you were right , so why all that plenty emoticons where you'll be bending ya face like an uncircumcised diick?

Yes I used emoticons but I was just amazed at the level of your ignorance.

With regards to the dick, yours may be a good example, that's how you know an uncircumcised one.

Do yourself a favour, book for that circumcision

Truckpusher:
You're right but these kind of fathers hardly exist here.

Ask people who work with sexual victims or counsellors, then you will know how common it is.

Talk less of trusted uncles.

This kind of inc..est is rarely spoken about because it's a taboo. Some people keep it until to the grave. So the reporting is so low, but it's common.

freecocoa:
It doesn't always has to go down to molestation, her dad may just be over pampering her, I was a daddy's girl and know how it can be, some parents don't just know where to draw the line, it's good to know when to draw the line.

I understand you, but bathing a child who is of almost menstrual age is uncalled for. 12 yrs is too old. Remember times have changed, perhaps you got your first period at 18. Kids of today get them earlier.

Still this is not justified.

Again in this day an age, you cannot trust even their father with your daughter. Let alone siblings (brothers).

So this is irresponsible.

Truckpusher:
Abusive fathers don't show any form of doting or love to their kids - they start with both physical and sexual abuse.
Though I got your drift.

Not true some abusive fathers start by gaining trust of their victims ( daughter) . And normally they prevent anybody from having access to their victim so that there can never be an opportunity to ask questions and thereby spilling the beans.

How they gain trust is by giving extra ordinary love and attention to their victims.

This kind of incest can go on for years without anybody in the family suspecting. The father will be confusing the victim with attention and love. The victim will be confused because she will be getting attention and love and can never tell because of guilt and avoiding to disappoint the father who gives her so much attention.

KINGSAMURAI:
Today i heard a shocking confession from a little girl, she said that at her age which is 12years old her dad still bath her in the bathroom, personally i think her mom need to stop the dad, nairalanders do you think its wrong or there is nothing to worry about?

Disgusted. Such an old girl like that. One day, the father will scrubb off her blood cloths. A 12 year old is ready or is already getting her menstrual periods.

I don't know what to say to that woman.

That's how molestation starts.

BUTCHCASSIDY:
Here I got Couscous cooked with chicken stock with shredded chicken, shrimps, spring onions and lots of stuff

This is not fair. I feel hungry now.
Looks good.

rhames:
Boss dont be afraid. That animal is called a seahorse. Google it and see. No cause for alarm.

Thats not a seahorse

OP, why don't you advice whoever posted the photos to take it to the nearest University Zoology/Biology department.
They may be interested in studying the bat and perhaps keep record of photos etc

OP, did you gain admission yourself?
Have you completed your studies?
What were you studying?
What sort of funding did you get?
What did your funding cover?

What was the point of flying all the way to London to die Does it make his death more dignified

No matter the size of the house we live in, the hospitals we attend while we are alive and the cars we drive, when die all our graves become equal size in depth and width.

If the infection was through bed intercourse, why didn't she use a condom or else test before.

In this day an age, you meet a man with 32 teeth already, and you just think he is disease free or never had any STI in his life

Human beings sometimes are strange.

Very sad especially for older employees who are above 45. Finding another job may be hard because of age. Meanwhile some are at the Peak of their lives, their kids at University

When is this Biya of a man, planning to leave power. His wife like some Albino peacock.

He is an eternal President, abi?

onyeguy:
Thomas Good morning

I am good Judas and how are you

The write of this article is a liar.The wreckage has not been confirmed if it was for MH370.

Congratulations to the young man

Teeboy15:
I think u shld b honest about it.
Tho it depends on d reason for dismissal.
But I believe honesty will pay off for u at d end.
Good luck

People accept lies than the truth.

When you toast a girl, do always tell all the truth about yourself

Same strategy with jobs?
Just like a potential employer would never like to hear a potential candidate dissing an ex employer.

OP, in this case the truth will not set you free, it will ruin you rather.

Accept the job and in a years time look for another one in case they find out. But no truth please. I used to be a recruiter.

Don't remove the experience. The gaps will leave recruiters wanting to know, why you have so much gap.

Simply say you resigned, period

If they ask you the reasons for resignation, say to pursue business.

Another way out of this is "retrenchment"

Maryalex1805:
Are the both of them ugly? Or is it the picture?

Yes they are both ugly, particularly inside.

J

olatricia:
Yours is not any better. Is it?

Beautiful outfit. I love her short hair so much. Suits her perfectly. She is looking fly.

As for the bag,just when I though counterfeit Chanel products are for ordinary people like me!!!!

We are all answerable to God.

all4naija:
That is oriental meal. I don't like the taste of couscous. I have tried it once in one of the North African nations.

I am glad you don't like it. If you don't like it, it doesn't mean I shouldn't like it too.

Couscous and calamari tubes.

I followed some pinterest recipe and the results are amazing.