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Glock8:
I don't know why some of you guys are trying to defend dishonesty and lies.

Okay she posted this as her dinner on the 24th of oct 2015




a picture that was posted on fb in 2014 is her dinner in 2015

most of the pictures she posted here are just random pictures.

Yes you have a point. It's not compulsory to lie. Especially or Nairaland. On Nairaland,one is not compeled to divulge personal stories. Why lie now?

People don't realise that for anything you do, someone smarter is watching or listening. That's how she got busted.

Sad though, she is one of the great "cooks". Peer pressure is a devil.

VisaOfficer:
Good morning everyone,

Well, I'm off to the airport with the cats to catch a flight to my next assignment. Thank you for three wonderful years in Nigeria! I wish you all the best. Good luck with your visa journeys -- and remember, just tell the truth, and if you qualify for the visa, you'll get the visa.

Sincere gratitude and much love to Justwise. He does so much behind the scenes to keep you all safe from scammers and nogoodniks. You're very lucky to have him here!

Again, best wishes. Take care and be kind to each other!

All th best.

Binge eating. Missing my family.

londoner:
You're talking about single headed families as if there was never a marriage. The Convo is about having children outside wedlock also known as b word children. You can be a child born to married parents ( not a b word child)and end up in a single parent household if the relationship between your parents breaks down or they get divorced or one parent dies.

Also,it is good to observe more than just one section of society or just one type of family setup or fall out.

It is not far fetched that a child born out of wedlock with no father figure whether from biological father or wider male figure will experience a similar loss to a child born to married parents who experiences the breakdown and divorce of that marriage leading to a single parent setup where there is a loss of that father figure or male figure substitute. Especially during formative years.

In both instances it's about what comes to fill the vacuum of that absence.

https://www.nairaland.com/2623775/ten-reasons-why-sex-should

Sweetheart read this for interest sake.

Read point 9

shogz89:
The second picture looks like an eid goat about to be slaughtered

Those earrings, yuuuck.

He became the sacrifice instead of the ram.

Sorry oo. RIP.

rabiuchi:
I almost left my wife and 2 kids for a colleague in my office. I tot I was in luv. It was a lie, I was only enjoying the everyday pussy and blinded by her proximity cos wify is in anoda state. The day I realized I was destroying my future and dat she can never be for me like my wife. I left. It took Jesus Grace cos I almost impregnate her. He will leave u without regret after awhile. Just pack n leave.

Thank you.

God is good.

All this " I was forced to marry her " is just shitty scam.

I have someone I know who was in a similar situation as you.
The man promised her to divorce the first wife and marry her. He asked for a baby She fell into his trap.

One month after the baby was born, the man started taking reverse steps until he completely landed back into his first wife's arms.
The girl is left with the baby boy, though the man supports his child. And till today he is divorcing the wife and the baby is four years old now. I guess he cant find the pen to sign the divorce decree.

Get pregnant you will see where his loyalty lies.

Its your choice.

londoner:
Agreed, but how many children from divorced parents go off the rails? We are talking about people not born out of wedlock. There are families that are common law married but never got married that manage to provide a stable and loving home to their children.

Marriage itself does not equal a good home.

I see we will not agree on this. Give yourself time and observe kids from single headed families. Or observe kids born of these babymamas until into their teens.

In America teen mom/babymama trend was once fashion. Look at their society right now, particularly "African Americans." Majority of black men see the jail cells once in their lifetime or drug addicts etc. African American woman as well also have maladjustment issues. But lets leave it at " OBSERVATION" from your part.

londoner:
It's not just studies......look around you. Does that tally in your environment? Some will come from homes where parents were never married, some will come from families that were married some from those that are divorced which easns the parents were once married. Some happen because of the type of marriage they are seeing or experiencing.

Yes it does tally. Majority of young people that I have done counselling for, come from single parent families.
Alot of young men in jail would say " I did all these things because I had no father figure to show me how a man should behave."

Hear me, I didn't say kids from good families do not misbehave. They do. But its easier to correct their behaviors than those from single headed families where the parents never married.

londoner:
Open your eyes and look around you. Now how many people who were children of married parents have died an early death? Be honest to yourself, how many people are living a useless and disappointing life even though their parents are married? Speak the truth of what is happening around you and shame the devil.

Nobody is encouraging having children before marriage but that does not mean we should advocate abortion.

I am not sure if you were talking to me. Alot of studies have been done and show that alot of misbehaving teenagers are from broken families ( divorce, and single parents ).

Alot of studies have also shown that parents have a big influence on a child's life because they copy alot from them. It has also been proven that if the parent was a teen mom, the child is likely to follow suit later in life. Same thing with single parenting and marriage. Though it doesnt mean kids from normal familes dont misbehave, but its better and easier to correct behavior when a child lives with both parents and in a normal healthy environment.

londoner:
To be honest nobody is discouraging sex before marriage. In fact there are a few vices especially in Nigeria that has taken root long before Nadia.

We all know how many kids Tuface had before he married all but one of his kids with three women. Do we not know that Wiz kid and Davido have children? Even Timaya.......what was said against them even Peter of Psquare had his son outside of wedlock. Did we call their children b.ast Ards or do we create threads here about which one has more swag?

Whether it is the issue of childbirth, marriage or divorce.......it is only the woman that is seen negatively. Let there be a stigma on men too and let's see if trends don't change.

I am not sure if we are members of the same Nairaland. But this Nairaland has always discouraged both man and woman celebrities who had babies before marriage.

The same Tuface you are talking about has been mocked countless times and given a name "Father of all Nations" etc before he settled with Annie. P Square has also counteless times been an object of riducule on this forum. The Davido and Wizkid have also been mocked and discouraged on this forum.

Society should jump at any opportunity to discourage behavior projected by celebrities who are influential in our societies. This Nadia girl is seeking attention, relevance and fame and she doesn't care about society and youth that she is influencing. Meanwhile if you are a parent with an 18yr old daughter, this will ruffle your feathers.

On the issue of stigma, I can say society stigmatize and focuses on woman because they are the ones who get pregnant and are left with babies. No one want this for their daughter or son, regardless of who gets the stigma.

ojeffo:
Hypocrite..are u not phocking?..u put super glue 4 der?...u chop comot ya own...she chop born her own..U NO HOLY PASS

Just because some of us had s.x before marriage doesn't mean it was right and should now be made normal, please.

I don't think you would advice your daughter or younger sister to go around having sex before marriage. I always advice young people against it because I know better. That doesnt mean I am " HOLY''

You are a hypocrite.

Shebarh:
Am not encouraging pre or extra marital sex... She had sex out of wedlock yh it is bad..but she is pregnant..Do u xpct her to abort the child

Nope, I am not expecting her to abort. But society should discourage unmarried people flaunting their pregnancies as if its some kind of a reward, especially celebrities.
That does not give wise ideas to the younger generation.

If her mother kissed her tummy its their own baby, but flaunting it on social media, knowing exactly that she is a public figure and a model for some young people is absolutely wrong.
If she posted the pic now, why would she even post it when she has even delivered the babies What the purpose of her photo to her fans
Some younger people will think that it is a good thing to be pregnant before marriage and your mama should be rubbing your tummy.

Just like some people discourage same sex marriage, sex before marriage and kids before marriage issue should be equally given the same attention. Lets not be hypocritical.

Shebarh:
Am not celebrating her.. A child is a blessing weather gotten out of wedlock or not...

Which blessing?
God did not bless that s.x and union. I cannot encourage and pay attention to wrong things because I did them in my past.

You are one of those people that wants us to candy coat what is wrong to accommodate wrong choices made by people, abi?? Having s.x before marriage and having a child before marriage is wrong and should be totaly discouraged, period.

Read this and think wisely if you are a christian

[b]Wisdom 3-4
https://www.bible.com/bible/431/wis.3

But children born of adultery or of a forbidden union will die an early death. 17 Yet even if they do live a long time, they will never amount to anything. They will not be respected in their old age, 18 and if they die young, they will have no hope or comfort on Judgement Day. 19 Children born of a forbidden union suffer a miserable fate.

It is better to have virtue, even if it means having no children. Your virtue will be recognized by other people and by God, and you will be remembered for it for ever. 2 Virtue provides an example for people to follow; when it is not there, they miss it. It has always been the finest prize a person can win, and it will always be so. It is the noblest of all the good qualities a person can have.

3 No matter how many children are born of a forbidden union, none of them will ever amount to anything. They are illegitimate; they can never lay a firm foundation for themselves, never take deep root. 4 Like trees with shallow roots, they put out leaves for a while, but they sway in the wind, and storms uproot them. [/b]

Fear your God and stop encouraging trash.

Rb53:
An Expatriate plans to go back to his own country while an Immigrant plans to stay

Spot on.

yetunsbay:
Ok alright. Let me get there also make I see for my eyes

Now you are talking.

yetunsbay:
then you need more findings about Saudi. pls do

Which findings are you refering to, when I live in Saudi Arabia?

What I am talking about is no hear say.

yetunsbay:
Awared and more than awared. At least I wouldn't be hearing about gay/lesbian & other immoral acts

You got it all wrong. Plenty gays an lesbians here. Its just that they don't do it publicly. At the University where I teach, alot of us have witnessed it. And were told to turn a blind eye to it.
Recently we have been stopped from wearing pants inside the school premises, because apparently the students lust our bodies. We only wear skirts under Abaya. How trashy can it get.

You are deceving yourself If you think immoral things are not here. Live here and witness more.

Employers raping foreign househelps.
Son of employers raping househelps.
Saudi men lusting for foreign woman under Abayas.
Employers failing to pay foreign workers.
Girls married at the young age.
Africans, other Arabs and Indians treated like rubbish.

Ask yourself, why don't the Syrians run to Saudi Arabia for refuge since they have common religion.

Tonto should work on her hairline.
She has been wearing weaves and these are the results.

It's Khaalaas. Finish. Kaput. Finito.

yetunsbay:
Saudi Arabia

Eeeeeuuuuwww.
Are you aware that you can't be a citizen here even if you can live here for 100yrs?

Are you aware that your wife and daughters will always be covered in black abayas and niqqab whenever they go out?

Are you are ware that even if you are Muslims, Saudis still treat you like......

Are you aware of their harsh justice system?


Are you aware that here you can't even great your female hommie in public just like that?

Are you aware that you can't even laugh out loud ( LOL ) because loudness is unacceptable, let alone run?

All the best.

Kennydoc:
I really hate it when you Muslims boast about how Islam is the fastest growing religion in the world. Muslims are given a free hand to practice their religion in the western world, even to the point of building imposing mosques. There is no integration of Christianity into government policies in those countries. People are even free to denounce Christianity and accept Islam, which is often celebrated on the pages of newspapers and on social media.

In the Middle East however, the situation is exactly the opposite. Islam has been integrated into the government of those nations, making it very difficult to practice another religion. Renouncing of Islam has to be done in secret otherwise it will be met with death, which is the sentence for apostasy. People even go ahead to kill their siblings or children who renounce Islam, calling it honour killing. Are you aware that many Muslims are daily being converted to Christianity in Pakistan, Iran, Afghanistan, Saudi Arabia etc, but they can't open up on their conversion for the sake of their lives.

Why is there no freedom of choice in Islam? Why can't people be allowed to choose which lifestyle or religion they desire in the Muslim world?
Until the Muslim world adopts democratic governance in their Nations, they should stop celebrating any advantage they gain from democracy in the Western (mostly Christian) Nations.

Spot on. Particularly their Head Office ( Saudi Arabia ).

The government/religion even bars social interaction between foreigners and locals. And as foreigners we do what is done from dressing to everything. There is no freedom to practice your own.

husnath:
Islam is the largest growing religion in the world. By 2060, Islam will be the largest religion in the world (PEW research). That means we will have an increase in American Muslims as well, which in turn means non-Muslim Americans will regularly interact with American Muslims. That means your kids and grandkids will have doctors, lawyes, engineers, etc. that are American Muslims. Do you really want to continue the ignorance?

Whoever did that research for you deceived you. How does he know the minds of people who are not even born yet, and those that are living.
No machine or amount or science can read a human mind. So, no one knows what 2060 religious landscape will look like.

menix:
Bro. If u re able to convince me the below ain't true, then I will blive a good muslim is not a time bomb..


The Shoe Bomber was a Muslim
The Beltway Snipers were Muslims
The Fort Hood Shooter was a Muslim
The underwear Bomber was a Muslim
The U-S.S. Cole Bombers were Muslims
The Madrid Train Bombers were Muslims
The Bafi Nightclub Bombers were Muslims
The London Subway Bombers were Muslims
The Moscow Theatre Attackers were Muslims
The Boston Marathon Bombers were Muslims
The Pan-Am flight #93 Bombers were Muslims
The Air France Entebbe Hijackers were Muslims
The Iranian Embassy Takeover, was by Muslims
The Beirut U.S. Embassy bombers were Muslims
The Libyan U.S. Embassy Attack was by Musiims
The Buenos Aires Suicide Bombers were Muslims
The Israeli Olympic Team Attackers were Muslims
The Kenyan U.S, Embassy Bombers were Muslims
The Saudi, Khobar Towers Bombers were Muslims
The Beirut Marine Barracks bombers were Muslims
The Besian Russian School Attackers were Muslims
The first World Trade Center Bombers were Muslims
The Bombay & Mumbai India Attackers were Muslims The Attack on Nyanya bus station Abuja Nigera were Muslims
Fulani Herdsmen Attack in Plateu(jos) Nigeria Are Muslims
Charlie Hebdo shooting (paris) Was by Muslims
The Achille Lauro Cruise Ship Hijackers were Muslims
The September 11th 2001 Airline Hijackers were Muslims'
Think of it:
Buddhists living with Hindus = No Problem
Hindus living with Christians = No Problem
Hindus living with Jews = No Problem
Christians living with Shintos = No Problem
Shintos living with Confucians = No Problem
Confusians living with Baha'is = No Problem
Baha'is living with Jews = No Problem
Jews living with Atheists = No Problem
Atheists living with Buddhists = No Problem
Buddhists living with Sikhs = No Problem
Sikhs living with Hindus = No Problem
Hindus living with Baha'is = No Problem
Baha'is living with Christians = No Problem
Christians living with Jews = No Problem
Jews living with Buddhists = No Problem
Buddhists living with Shintos = No Problem
Shintos living with Atheists = No Problem
Atheists living with Confucians = No Problem
Confusians living with Hindus = No Problem
Muslims living with Hindus = Problem
Muslims living with Buddhists = Problem
Muslims living with Christians = Problem
Muslims living with Jews = Problem
Muslims living with Sikhs = Problem
Muslims living with Baha'is = Problem
Muslims living with Shintos = Problem
Muslims living with Atheists = Problem
MUSLIMS LIVING WITH MUSLIMS = BIG PROBLEM
**********SO THIS LEAD TO *****************
They’re not happy in Gaza
They're not happy in Egypt
They're not happy in Libya
They're not happy in Morocco
They're not happy in Iran
They're not happy in Iraq
They're not happy in Yemen
They're not happy in Afghanistan
They're not happy in Pakistan
They're not happy in Syria
They're not happy in Lebanon
We're not happy in Nigeria(North East specifically)
They're not happy in Kenya
They're not happy in Sudan
******** So, where are they happy? **********
They're happy in Australia
They're happy in England
They're happy in Belgium
They're happy in France
They're happy in Italy
They're happy in Germany
They're happy in Sweden
They're happy in the USA & Canada
They're happy in Norway & India
They're happy in almost every country that is not Islamic! And who do they blame? Not Islam... Not their leadership... Not themselves... THEY BLAME THE COUNTRIES THEY ARE HAPPY IN!! And they want to change the countries they're happy in, to be like the countries they came from where they were unhappy and finally they will be get hammered
!!!!
Islamic Jihad: AN ISLAMIC TERROR ORGANIZATION
ISIS: AN ISLAMIC TERROR ORGANIZATION
Al-Qaeda: AN ISLAMIC TERROR ORGANIZATION
Taliban: AN ISLAMIC TERROR ORGANIZATION
Hamas: AN ISLAMIC TERROR ORGANIZATION
Hezbollah: AN ISLAMIC TERROR ORGANIZATION
Boko Haram: AN ISLAMIC TERROR ORGANIZATION
Al-Nusra: AN ISLAMIC TERROR ORGANIZATION
Abu Sayyaf: AN ISLAMIC TERROR ORGANIZATION
Al-Badr: AN ISLAMIC TERROR ORGANIZATION
Muslim Brotherhood: AN ISLAMIC TERROR ORGANIZATION
Lashkar-e-Taiba: AN ISLAMIC TERROR ORGANIZATION
Palestine Liberation Front: AN ISLAMIC TERROR ORGANIZATION
Ansaru: AN ISLAMIC TERROR ORGANIZATION
Jemaah Islamiyah: AN ISLAMIC TERROR ORGANIZATION
Abdullah Azzam Brigades: AN ISLAMIC TERROR ORGANIZATION
AND A LOT MORE!!!!!!!
Think about it........ frown emoticon 20 signs that psychopath Muslims do:
1] Kill any one who insults Islam or Moham-mad. (Koran.33;57-61).
2) Kill all Muslims who leave Islam. (Koran.2;217/4;89/Bukhari.9;84-57).
3) Koran can not be doubted. (Koran.2;1).
4) Islam is the only acceptable religion. (Koran.3;85).
5) Muslims must fight (jihad) to non-Muslims, even if they don't want to. (Koran.2;216).
6) We the non-Muslims are pigs and apes. (Koran. 2;62-65/Koran.5;59-60/Koran.7;166).
7) We the non-Muslims cannot be friends with Muslims. (Koran.5;51).
8*)We the non-Muslims sworn enemies of Muslims and Islam. (Koran.4;101).
9) We the non-Muslims can be raped as sex slave. (Koran.4;3 & 24/5;89/23;5/33;50/58;3/70;30).
10) We the non-Muslims the vilest of creatures deserving no mercy. (Koran.98;6).
11) Muslim must terrorized us (non-Muslims). (Koran.8;12 &59-60/ Bukhari.4;52;220).
12) Muslims must strike terror into non-Muslims hearts. (Koran.8;60).
13) Muslims must lie to us (non-Muslims) to strengthen and spread Islam. (Koran.3;28?16;106).
14) Muslims are allowed to behead us (non_Muslims) (Koran.47;4).
15) Muslims are guaranteed to go to heaven if they kill us (non-Muslims). (Koran.9;111).
16) Marrying and divorcing pre-pubescent children is OK. (Koran.65;4).
17) Wife beating is OK. (Koran.4;34).
18) Raping wives is OK. (Koran.2;223).
19) Proving rape requires 4 (four) male Muslim witnesses. (Koran.24;13).
20) Muslims are allowed to crucify and amputate us (non-Muslims). Koran.8;12/47;4).

Bible says do not keep record of wrong doings. Forgive all of them, bros.

sameolg616:
not my loss but hers(i never lose in love cuz i always give my all)...my whole family was behind her..for once,i enjoyed a sister-girlfriend union...guaranteed she wont have had my family probs...my children would av stayed with my mum temporarily...i heard all women are the same....when they eventually get what they want,they start showing their true colors....news flash!im never scared to get rid of anyone causing me pain....thankfully,divorce aint something so serious anymore...its like a breakup now..even parents are so eager to have their child back..
congrats on ur own success..for me,im back to my original plan....to have a child in every continent....and we would be a "we are the world" family...
Asia....here i come!

Good luck father Abraham. Father of all nations. King of "We are the world" clan

craziebone:
@chineloSA, i understand your position perfectly, but i am disappointed at some of the things you said.

First of all, it is wrong (in my opinion) to refer to children as "baggages". They are not! Marriage or no marriage, does not make a child illegitimate. A child is legitimate, pure and ok wether he was concieved out of wedlock or not.

Secondly, you mentioned lonely life in the future as a reason why people should get married to avoid. But what about people who got married but their spouse absconded in the end? What about those whose spouse died?
If loneliness is the problem, you think getting married will cure it?

A man or woman who has had a child before, is not a "less". You may not want them but that doesn't mean you are settling for less when you get married to them.

Also, priests and nuns who do not get married do feel lonely sometimes and do think of having a family too, that i agree. But we can also say the same thing about those who are currently married. Ask married people and let them be honest with you; they will tell you they sometimes feel lonely even as they are married! Some married people have confirmed this to me before. So you can see that getting married does not shield you from emotional problems later in life. Also, many priests and nuns have confirmed to me before that yes they do feel lonely sometimes but that if given the opportunity again, they would choose the same life. So not all of them regret their decisions not to be married.

I am sorry if the word "baggage" hurts you. But to me its the correct word because it refers to issues brought from your past to your new partner. If you cannot leave your past in you past, that is baggage. That include past girlfriends or wives an kids conceived in your past.

Well it's sad that in our modern days we have to candy coat certain anomalies to accommodate people who make wrong choices in their youths so that they feel less guilty with their past choices.

If you made bad choices before getting married, you did and unfortunately you have to live with them.

Having kids before marriage in our parents times used to be condemned and discouraged, now it is made to look acceptable by making people who condemn it feel guilty and bad.

I cannot remember saying anything about loneliness. I do remember saying " one is incomplete without a family an you feel it towards your forties"
Nevertheless God created Eve for Adam because he saw that Adam was bored an needed a helper.

Yes marriage is for lifetime companionship and share love and life together. That's why people marry. So I don't see anything wrong when people marry for future companionship.

sameolg616:
but ur still single?....just cuz it dint work for u..doesnt men it cant work for ohers...all these single guys out there are presently enjoying the good life and want none of that wife bullshit...i neva used to be a "1 girl" guy(only 1 woman no fit chop all these dangote sugar...na pile be that) until i met her..i never even wanted to marry(i just wanted the fruits of marriage without a binding contract"..she made me believe in marriage..in fact i started sleeping in the same room wit a woman...WHAO!she kept pressurizing me abt the future of the relationship..i swear,i almost tore my world apart but i never thought the children would play a major part in a decision so hard..no way i wld leave my children with my baby mama..my children must grow with my close supervision.....
guess its true what they say:many talk the talk,only a few are up for the moment"..and she backed out in my fight for custody of the kids......
so if tomorrow she never finds another undying love....what wld be her excuse?she is 33 already....
i met a good woman once unprepared and accidentally in the worst circumstances..for once,a woman made me think,made me believe...i was just willing to finally give marriage a good shot.....but she bounced!wat was she expecting....the highest pride of a woman just handed over to her freely....hell no!love shd be able to handle competition..and thats what most sane gals aint prepared for or wont accept...
i aint looking for love anymore cuz av blown the chance to.....right now there are just too many fine lady to choose 1....funny,its even cheap....(check the rate on BADOO if u are in doubt)

No lolo, I am not single. I got married.

As I said in my previous post, some woman don't mind a man with a child or children. Personally since I experienced it, I would not advice any single childless woman to enter such union. They are draining to the one with no kids.

Sorry to hear of your ordeal. It will come to pass.

sameolg616:
as i always say:when it comes to matters of the heart,there are no rules....moreso,to find true love is hard and even harder to keep.....it takes guts and grace..
only the 2pple involved would know the pain,,,not nlers or anybody else..pple just seem to make things hard that it totally confuses the mind...
if u cant live or suffer for my past mistakes then wats the beauty abt love......instead its a contract....but u want me to put up wit ur own present condition(lets say u cant av a child)may arising from ur own past mistakes(infection,abortion)..
also,are u saying all the baby mamas out there dont deserve to re-marry cuz |Why should I suffer for a man's past mistakes when I was not there...
as my mum says:mariage is an institution where u dont pass or fail....so dont make high expectations,just keep doing what u have to do..
i love my kids and maybe thats all the love i need for now..i wont trade them for all the happiness in the world...if u wan join the party fine..else,bounce....the show must definately go on...

True love is hard to find when you are single and childless and even more harder to fin when you have baggage.

I am glad your ex girlfriend bounced. It is not the wisest decision for someone who doesn't have kids. I am glad her mom made sense to her.
For someone in your position, a person with kids from previous relationship I bet would be the best match for you. You just blend your families from your past and add more.

I learnt the hard way myself. When babymama drama started rearing it's ugly head, all started to make sense. He was a good man, but long term, my happiness was gonna be at stake because of constant compromise to accommodate his other family.

I am not saying single mother/father should not find love. Some man/ woman have no problem with that. But from my past experience ,given another opportunity to choose again, I would go for a single childless man.

Right now, I have no babymama drama and no compromise to make. Our families are just embracing us and instead putting us under pressure to procreate as I said. And that is absolutely bliss. We are just focusing on ourselves before kids come.

Don't take it to heart, I bet you wouldn't want your daughter (without kids) to marry a man with kids from previous marriage or relationships.

All the best bro. you will definitely find what God has in store for you.

sameolg616:
im really feeling ur comments...when u said baggage,,,it reminded me of the 4yr relationship i lost a few months ago...at 33,she finally decides to leave the relationship cuz of my baggages(2kids)from pressure form her mum who is advising her not to start her life as a step mum....
love they say begins wen lovers decide to carry each others baggages...
gals think wen they search for a man to marry,it simply has to be just single guys....hello,wake up!the option includes,guys seeking a 2nd chance,baby daddies and the ones who u would find out the real truth abt them only wen ur deep wit them..
women are too choosy nowadays and as i have been told...its the quest for material tins that is ruining our generation..
mostof these young dudes dont want any of these is why they are scared...and thats the reason why married guys have becoming exceptionally loving and caring(they are experienced)
as my lecturer once defined...to the african man,marriage is procreation...its only oyinbos that can be happily married to themselves for yrs without a child or even wan av a child....they are contented even if it means living wit a pet....but are we like that..
women shd av a plan nowadays....the oversmart,paranoid ones....are the ones that are still single..
the ones that are smart.......are baby mamas,they get wat they want and move on with their carreers
then the ones that are blessed.....are the ones married...so know ur role...

As someone who has been in a relationship with someone with baggage, I can never advice even my enemy to marry a man with baggage.

I moved on, and I cannot express it in words how happy I am now. It feels good to have both our families putting pressure on both of us to procreate. Knowing both families can't wait for our baby, "priceless"

That was the best decision I have ever taken in my whole dating history.Funny I brought it to Nairaland for dissection and NLers hammered sense into my brain. I am grateful for that.

Being an instant mom is not easy. The only people that a woman should listen to are widowers only. Why should I suffer for a man's past mistakes when I was not there. It was a man choice to have kids before marriage and a man/woman should be ready to bear the consequences.

Pidggin:
So in such cases beyond our control e.g. widowhood or vice versa the child will be screwed because one parent is missing? What of kids born in wedlock but into polygamous families? Or kids born into poverty where both parents can't feed them or cater for their needs? Or kids born into families where one or both parents are psycologically unstable? Leave and let live.

Not sure if you saw the abbreviation "etc."

You just rushed to tell me where to get off, Abi?