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We put the whole blame on the girl. What about the deceased?

He walked himself into that hotel. He knew what he was doing.

MadamVanessa:


It baffles me how a girl will go and meet a man she hasn't met before all in the name of money.

I know i am stupid , but my stupidiity hasn't gotten to this level.

Rest peace.

If ever there's a next world, i believe when you come, you'll be coming with your senses.

What if it was her boyfriend and not a stranger?

Do you know some psychopaths kill people they know very well?

What if she has always been careful as you claim, but let her guard that one day?

Don't the judgement for now. The story is sketchy and you are no saint.

Johnsown1:
Please don't marry him, he is not your other half. Because Catholics are not christains and Pentecostals are the true christains. Fast for 80 days for cleansing then ask one of your pastors to marry you since they are closer to your God. Shalom

Wow, what criteria do you use to measure a true Christian ?

thorpido:
Some men are born evil.

Some women too. We see alot of them abandoning babies on the roadside, mistreating kids and whole lot of horrendous things done by women too.

We have psychopaths, sociopaths, narcissists and all kinds of evil found in all genders including LGBTQ. It's a personality and not about gender as such.

thorpido:
Men like her father are full of regrets in their old age.

Many of them don't, they just hate the very same things that reminds them of their flaws. He probably wish his family could disappear so he can be at peace. Some "fake regret" if the children turn out better in an attempt to financially siphon money from their kids.

Trust me most of them, dont regret. They hate the fact that the reminder is still alive.

marveangel:
Babies are always so cute, how some of them grow up to become ugly modafker is beyond my understanding

fatboyslym007:
Narcissist Alert...
Sorry bro you married a covert narcissist (most probably). They are the real wolf in sheep's clothing, they are hard to spot...
She must have been giving you some signs but she was so nice and understanding that you thought she just needs time to heal...(story).

The pregnancy has completed a lot of things.
But bro, you must draw a no-go line or else your life n dreams will be ruined. Get ready to move on. If possible get a safe house or room to get your sanity...
To divorce her, get ready to maintain your stands when she sees she can't control you, she will leave. But prepare to deal with her destroying your name and close friends...

Her family knows her mental condition that's why they were against it... She would probably also paint her family bad infront of you. Prepare for a lot of embarrassing secrets you told her coming out...

Very true. I wish NARCISSISM and other personality disorders can be a compulsory course for every human being.

Didn't she say she was tired of the marriage She was later admitted at a hospital and claimed she had been diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder.

There is no smoke without fire! My sister abusers can make you think you are loosing your mind and you start blaming yourself.

Anyways enjoy your plastic marriage oo. Different strokes for different folks.

He is triangulating her with Precious. Using the old wife to fight his battle.

Women, wake up!!!! Its not your battles, but his, refuse to be someone's flying monkey.

If he tries to bring you into his drama, he is not worth it. He will likely do it to you in the near future.

Gojo:
The 39-year-old, whose mother is Black and father is white, said she had been naive before she married into the family in 2018, but that she ended up having suicidal thoughts and considering self-harm after pleading for help but getting none.

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Naive!!!! Second time marrying and she was naive. Get out of here.

mkpologwu:
Too many unreasonable people here making comments out of hate. How can she be trafficked in her own country since you guys believed she's from SA? And why didn't she leave the said man during one of the said bookings in a hotel?

God help us to reason better.

I don't think you understand what is human trafficking. Internal Human Trafficking happen daily kn the country of birth of the victim.

Why would you want to wear someone else's identity? That's living a lie and its self hatred. They will grow up to be called coconuts ( white on the inside and black on the outside )

What's important is education, exposure and opportunities they get in those countries.

TainyLite:
Last week Tuesday, my wife gave birth to a son which is my second born... She has been staying at her mom's place due to misunderstanding we had around September....

After I paid hospital bills and gave her money for baby items on that Tuesday morning, she told my parents she has buried the placenta... I could not go to see her immediately I was called and I had to send my parents there due to my work...

This is a lady I want to separate from due to her mum trying to take over the marriage and my wife is always carrying her along... Now the woman is demanding I come see the son and apologize to her and sincerely I am standing on my ground that since she buried the placenta I will never go there to go see the child except they come to my parent's place on the naming ceremony....

The truth is I can't afford to live a second with my wife and I really want ur advice before tomorrow....

Most relationships suffer during pregnancy and child birth because of unbalanced hormones in a woman.
Sometimes some women can be diagnosed with PPD ( Post Partum Depression) which includes symptoms like sadness, feeling of being overwhelmed, mood swings, crying spells, rages, withdrawal, low libido etc.

After a few months after childbirth things go back to normal unless its PPD.

If its PPD your wife needs help and it would be disastrous for you and your children to leave her while she still suffers from remnants of childbirth ( PPD )

Wait it out, observe her, support her and ask for help before finalizing on divorce.

Good luck.

Burruchaga71:
Africa is the best place to raise a child but not South Africa... My kids will relocate to Nigeria after their primary educations

Is SA nothing Africa?

I think it's a tad bit too late. The younger ones are coming in,her popularity is winding down.

HCF:
You can easily burst the bubble and expose a Covert Narcissist, by simply saying ‘NO’ to their requests that don’t sit well with you. That way, they fly into rage, cos they hate being told ‘No’. It means if you look carefully enough, you can spot a Covert Narcissist either.

Ok.

incogni2o:
Have you been in a relationship where everthing ranging from conversations, action, reactions, calls, gist, advice, resolving issues, future goals, emotional intelligence and all there is to expect and have in a relationship seen to be in near absolute Perfect Harmony.

So perfect to the point that you became scared and you were finding other flimsy reasons to excuse yourself for a while or confused?

That could be a Covert Narcissist. Look closely. Hopefully you never shared with him/her about what you are looking for in a partner because they can temporarily mold themselves to fit the mold.

No human is perfect it's too good to be true. If you suspect that then it probably is.

Anything with sugar

It never stops sis, it will be temporary while he abuses you emotionally and psychologically and verbally.

Human beings are not projects to work on changing them.

Love what he/she loves. If you cannot love what they live, or don't like what you see, let go.

Stop setting yourself up for failure because you hope you will change a whole human being. They are not your special project.

CalliDora1:
Yes. Why not?

I really don't care how close he is to the mum. with time, he'll outgrow all that mummy's boy and get closer to me. So??

That's how relationships fail, because some woman hope and think they can change people or situations.

You cannot change people, love what you see in a man or woman without hoping it will change. If you don't, you will be up for massive disappointment.

Human beings are not personal projects to change or hope they change.

Kestolove:
Dr Stacey did you guys run HIV test? His Igbo ex says his hiv positive

What if she is aware and is also HIV +??

Certificate of clear mental health should be compulsory these days before starting a relationship. Some people date people who are suppose to be in a mental institution or medication without knowing.

Why would a nurse declare someone as dead? I know this to be a doctor's job

I am defeated What did her mother do to deserve this? Is it a generational curse?

A Narcissists in the loose with his victims with Daddy issues.

IamD18:
I'll choose a fertile lady over a wombless facially pretty lady!

I guess people choose to be fertile of infertile!!!!
I pray you don't get to swallow your words in future.

Neddstark:
You sit in a bus with 12 people in Nigeria. I can assure you at least 2 of them are actually beasts. People that did this evil don't come from outer space.
RIP beautiful soul. You deserve better.

Quiete true. Some are walking around with mental health issues like Depression, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Bipolar Disorder and a whole lot.

The way the Egyptians let Whites dig these graves is very clear that the Egytoans were never Arabs. Yet they do not want to openly admit that. Had not been Arabs they were never gonna let anyone dig even one grave. They can't even let you in closer to the Kabba. Arabs are hypocrites.

FortifiedCity:
What's his job lately?

I have realised that its dangerous to talk on behalf of Africa. We my look the same and share the continent, but we are very different. What works for Naija may not work for Togo.