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nacosprof:
you need help,...ur blood viscosity & u stress alot check ur vascular resistance,.call me

Really?? Dr nacosprof. Will do

Police have apprehended three Nigerians suspected of launching cybercrimes in the United States.

The men, arrested at an Ajman flat, are suspected of targeting the online accounts of people and organisations in the US and stealing private documents with the purpose to commit fraud.

Local authorities were alerted after receiving information from California security authorities, police said.

While the information provided did not include the men’s identities or whereabouts, a team from Abu Dhabi, Dubai and Ajman police were able to locate them.

Among those arrested were B A, 24, the gang leader; G A, 26, and A A, 26, who had entered the UAE on a tourist visa.

Police monitored the suspects until they were confirmed to be in the same location. After they were apprehended police found electronic devices, documents relating to remittance, hacking software and a list of more than 5 million electronic bank accounts to be targeted by the gang.

UAE cybercrime laws states that those found guilty of accessing websites, electronic information systems, computer networks, or information technology without authorisation – whether such access is intended to obtain government data, or confidential information relating to a financial, commercial or economical facility – will be fined between Dh250,000 and Dh1.5 million.

They also face jail time.

A five-year jail sentence and fine of between Dh500,000 and Dh2m will be given to people charged with deleting, omitting, deteriorating, destructing, disclosing, altering, copying, publishing or republishing any information obtained in the above manner.

“Such a step has been made in a bid to entrench the efforts of peace and global security, and to protect the rights of citizens around the world,” the Ministry of Interior said of the arrests. “It works to enforce the law outside of the local context to serve the international community on one hand, and on the other, to effectively instill confidence and trust in the reputation and competency of the UAE and its various agencies.”

newsdesk@thenational.ae

http://www.thenational.ae/uae/nigerians-suspected-in-cybercrime-attacks


Why spoil things for everybody in UAE

I don't understand this body contact with someone's husband. Is it still acting

I wouldn't be comfortable if my husband take selfies with colleagues and faces all touchy touchy.
Maybe I am too jealous.

francizy:
It's good to spend time with friends but not all the time.. Make it a once in a week thing and not everyday. Who spends time with your wife or who will your spend time with? When she delivers, who will spend time with the kids or who will the kids spend time with? The mother alone? Not cool..

A man has to recognize that he's married and drop some kind of lifestyle he's been living since he was a teenager. On a different case, what if the woman was always meeting up with friends, jumping from one beauty salon to another, just to make over and not concerned about her career or family even as a married woman, shey the man will like it like that bah?

Yes you are correct a man should not make it his daily bread to spend time with friends.

But if you read my earlier post I think you will understand where I am coming from. This phase is probably temporary and not permanent.

I earlier said that a pregnant woman is different, some are needy, some have tempers, some bullies etc. Some man do not have an idea on how to deal with such situations. I don't care if that man is Dr Phil, men find it hard to understand woman and 10X harder to understand a pregnant one. Lets say a woman is bully and nagging because of hormones, the only way for some man is to go cool off just to shift focus from a pregnant wife.

I never said that I condone man who stay out with friends everyday.
This is a phase and it will pass. For now they need to steer their boat with caution. The woman is pregnant and the man is the first time expectant father who has no idea of how to deal with the situation.

I further said that OP should examine what she may be doing or even ask the husband for feedack. She may be nagging, temperament etc

Are you married? Have you stayed with a pregnant woman? The way you responded I doubt you are married or have ever dealt with a pregnant woman. Maybe you will not even be able to tolerate half of what her husband tolerates if you can be with some pregnant woman. Some women behave like pregnancy is a disability. Some are so bully and provoking. I am not saying OP is like that. She knows best.

YES PREGNANCY IS A BEAUTIFUL THING, IT MAY BRING SOME COUPLES TOGETHER AND SOMETIMES IT MAY TEAR THEM APART TEMPORARILY.

MarvellousGod:
Next time when he wants to go out. . Dress and follow him joor.. pregnant woman dey flex na.

I understand how you feel, weekdays you're both busy and[b] weekends you ought to spend together, he spends it with his friends. . Your action is born out of love....
Can't both of you visit his friends together?
What does he do when he goes out with friends? Watch football? play PS? You can start doing those stuffs with him at home...[/b]

Or you can always be the person to talk to him about going to somewhere. . You can tell him let's see a movie this weekend, let's go see this and that friend, et al.. introduce those stuffs....

Then your marriage is still very young, I believe with time he'll adjust.. he's still enjoying stuffs associated with being single. . Maybe, when your baby comes it'll dawn fully on him that he's now a married man and has some obligations at home... His friends probably are still single, you can encourage him to mingle more with responsible married men...

All d best.....

This sounds like she will be forcing herself into him. The wife is hormonally and emotionally fragile and you cant force things.

Remember even with no pregnancy, you are still different individuals. You should both be allowed to be individuals while adjusting to marriage.

Men sometimes need time alone with his friends and women as well. That is not a bad thing. Sometimes when you go to where men are, you find that they are talking about nonsense and some which doesn't make sense. Allow a man to spend his time talking about nonsense. Some just having some few beers together etc. Give each other space and a breather to miss each other. If you are always on his face and forcing him to spend time with you, it will not work at all. Forcing to spend time together just because you have a ring, does not sound like the best way to resolve this. Instead it will repel him and push them further apart.

He must do things out of love not obligation.

your hormones are not doing any good to you.

Firstly examine what makes your husband prefer spending time with friends than his wife. You may be a problem because of pregnancy. Some woman become bullies when they are pregnant, others cry babies, others lazy, some short tempered etc. Therefore some man don't know how to deal with the change of hormones and prefer to seek other things to take them off what is undesirable.

You maybe doing things that your hubby doesn't enjoy right now as you are pregnant.
He may not even be cheating

Calm down. Since you have spoken to him, see if there will be changes while examining yourself.
But if I were you when he goes out, I would ask him to drop me off where I will also enjoy ( e.g. movie, friends place, visit family etc.) and pick me up when he is done.

With time he may be interested in finding out what really keeps you, and what you do in his absence and join you.

But divorcing while you are pregnant is a bad idea which you will later regret.

Just to tease you: I feel for your husband, you sound like a pregnant bully and cry baby at the same time.

DrObi:
Educational Psychology is a great career when it comes to your choice as a teacher now. please stop the big names that are being labelled to universities and take your graduate program , Names matters only in Nigeria or Africa but skills and experiences are other issues in the field of psychology.

Dr Obi. Actually I didn't just look at the name and decide on the prestige. I looked at the courses offered in the programme and that is what encouraged me to want to study there.

http://www.gsas.harvard.edu/programs_of_study/psychology.php

http://www.unisa.ac.za/contents/faculties/humanities/psy/docs/Unisa-MA-Clinical-Psychology-2015.pdf

Sammyblake:
yo, it's not pride OK, i know wah I'm saying! Bt i can't argue with my superiors

oookay ooo Chill.

You remind me of one Psychologist I once visited ehhhn, The woman can snap at every confrontation. I wonder how she even passed the selection process.

Sammyblake:
kk you re the expert sir, won't argue with you #.... Pls i want you to advice me on something, I really do not like counselling, Not that i can't do it, bt it's not my thing, and i wanted to go for clinical psych b4 bt yo can't go for clinical without liking counselling, what other field of Psychology do you think i can do?

Pride comes before a fall eehn??

32??

Drastic measures

DrObi:
Chi. you had a background of Psychology as of this time you should focus and gain your education.

Well the whole idea behind working was to
1. To save money to study at Harvard University ( one cannot only depend on funding ) I am so terrified of that since I also got married last year.
2. To explore the idea of pursuing Educational Psychology as apposed to Clinical Psychology.

Now I think I have a clear I idea of what I really wanna do, and where I wanna do it.

The only problem I have now is gaining Harvard admission. Thats the challenge.

But I can see if I dont get Harvard admission in the next three years, I might be compelled to settle for something else. I dont wanna do it in SA as well. That's the reason I asked if you can recommend any other BEST INSTITUTION.


REMEMBER ALL UNIVERSITIES CAN OFFER THE POST GRADUATE COURSE, BUT NOT ALL ARE VALUE FOR YOUR MONEY

Dr Obi. I did my Bachelors ( Univer of Free State ), Honours ( UNISA ) all in SA.

I have been in a limbo, I left my Masters admission and moved to Saudi Arabia to teach English for a few years. I am not in a hurry.

I wanna do my Masters and Phd at Harvard eeehnn? Dreaming big Just that my application was not attended to last year for this year. I don't wanna loose hope. But sometimes I need to be realistic.
What other best Uni can you recommend?

DrObi:
So private my dear but much more better here than Nigeria sorry to say this.

Ookay I get you. I wouldn't attempt to do it in Naija neither

DrObi:
Advice (: check on the APA different field of specialization in Psychology on whether you are in the right track or not.

Yes I know, its just that your advice was blunt and funny to me. Personaly I have never heard of Engineering Psychology.

We learn ooo

Dr Obi,Why did you decide to study in the Phillipines?

DrObi:
My dear , there is nothing and no field of Psychology is being label as Engineering Psychology . Be advice accordingly,

pardon me

Are you saying she studying for nothing

DrObi:
I am in Far Eastern University in Philippines

Thanks. Thats interesting. Can this house ask you questions?

Dr Obi, where did you do your Phd, if the question is permitted?

nice dress

No wonder she is weird. Not really ordinary.

She should be happy that she has those people. Some people don't even have parents to be crying that she has parents but they lied to her,

Wasting time, when she should be grateful for the love that surrounded her.

Attention seeking.

Those who dropped prayers, for what? Did people even drop prayers? She got very caring fans eeehn?

These social networks are really to boost peoples little dented egos.

I visit an optician yearly. I wear both contact lenses and glasses to give my eyes a breather. So whats the biggest deal? Millions of celebrities all over the world wear contact lenses. mmmmxcceeeewwww

Emmayur:
Every human has a need, a desire to own something that might have eluded them. I have see poor people who are married and have wonderful children wishing they were rich, rich people wishing they had children, people with children wishing some other person's child was theirs, men with influence and money wishing they were healthy. The fact that they all crave these things doesn't mean they are not successful or they have not never succeeded. A desire is not the same thing as a need, desires could be categorized as wants at best but not as needs. Linda Ikeji could get a child if she wants by way of getting a sperm donor and other options available to her need is children and her want is a man. We cannot assume that she needs to be married, she might just need a man's company not ring.

SIR, the debate was still on " SINGLE WOMAN ABOVE 30 AND BEING HAPPY WITH THAT "
I am not sure where the success comes in and kids, sperm donor, defining need, desire and craving and want and all that you mentioned come in I must say you are an Academic. Pheeeewwww That aside this is not a thesis.
We are talking about a ''WOMAN AS AN INDIVIDUAL BEING HAPPY TO BE ALONE AT 30 AND ABOVE'' please Are they happy or not Thats it.
I had said earlier on that "WE ARE ALL LOVE BEINGS, WE WANT TO BE LOVED AND RECIPROCATE LOVE" So she is a human being so love is ruled out. She wants it period.

At the highlighted you agree that '' THE NEED TO LOVE AND RECIPROCATE LOVE may be THERE" The ring one, she will never tell you, but its there its just that she wishes she could have a perfect one, with no mistakes that will embarrass her as a public figure. Or she is living with regrets.

Now the only thing left is to know if she wants to be loved with or without a paper. By having something official. Sure she does. No woman wants to be tagged along and be girlfriend for life, meanwhile the men she dates make her a park station and move on to marry other people. And I went on to say "SHE WILL NEVER TELL" Society will judge her ( e.g. she dumped good man in her youth she waisted time, she wanna be a man in relationships because she has money etc. in her secret corner when she is alone, she will admit to wanting to marry to herself.

We all want it all. We all want all the happiness in all spheres of our lives ( career, money, family, marriage, children etc ) That includes marriage. No human being wants the least or half happiness

Anyways I am tired now, case closed. I was just debating with cococandy

cococandy:
First of all,If everyone needs to be married to be happy, why is no one deliberating on the unhappiness of single guys?
Baffles me. Maybe they don't need women to be happy too. Only women need men to be happy?
I'm saying this because even you stressed on single women.

Well before you get me wrong, I never alluded that anybody can be an island. So yes people do get lonely and yearn for love.

If they can be fulfilled with being in love with someone ,do we still say they are unhappy because they haven't entered into a marriage contract?

From what I've seen in my short life, I think I can still maintain that marriage is not the key to happiness. I know why I'm stressing on this. Because people tend to believe what they read on the Internet and expect that once they get married, their sorrows will varnish. How, I don't know. I think this their sole belief that marriage is the key to utopia is the leading cause of disappointment after the wedding ceremonies.

The magic is not happening and then they begin to react negatively because somehow they did not develop the understanding before going into the union that it won't be magic wand that solves all their emotional problems. Plus all the responsibility that comes with it.

For me I think it's who you're in love with (if you are) that helps determine if you're emotionally satisfied or not. That's what our babe here does not know. So she assumed Linda is unfulfilled because no papers were signed.

Dear I focused on women because they are mostly the ones going around denouncing that '' THEY DONT NEED MEN'' When they should be saying I do need a man, its just that I made wrong choices in life and missed good man or I have not met the man I can comfortably say I love etc.

Its very rare to hear a man say '' I DON'T NEED A WOMAN/WIFE". Majority rather keep quiet when they see they have also made mistakes in life, than giving fake responses.

Secondly, you are now going into the nitty gritties of what happens in marriage, that is not the point we are discussing here. We all know that life on its own is not a packet of candy. Even though its like that, people don't stop getting married because marriage has challenges. It didnt stop you from getting married as well. This is not about the complexities of marriage.

The point was " IF WOMAN ABOVE 30 AND UNMARRIED ARE REALLY HAPPY". That includes dear LINDA IKEJI.
We all wanna experience that unknown which may be good or bad. Our experiences in marriage are all going to be different. Even some woman who had bad experiences in marriage, wish to re-marry and relive the marriage in a different way

Back to the point, A WOMAN IN HER 30's WILL NEVER ADMIT THAT THEY ARE UNHAPPY AND THEY WISH TO EXPERIENCE MARRIAGE. especially when they have never been married. They will keep on giving fake responses and pretending that they are happy being unmarried. Meanwhile they want to experience marriage.

Don't be deceived by the cool exterior that LINDA IKEJI potrays. When she is all alone, alot floods her thoughts and what she could have done right etc. She is no angel. She might have fooled men, and got fooled herself and regretted etc. Majority of woman in their 30's have rejected good man in their youths and later regretted. I don't believe she never met a good man in her 35 years that she has lived.

I still say you will never understand what those ladies go through because you got married before 30yrs. But honestly they yearn the happiness that is increased by having a man on your side.

The way the guy was feeling before his head was cut off just like that is imaginable.

Facing your death May God forgive his sins and accept his soul. Amen

cococandy:
Yea well not everyone who's above thirty and single is unhappy.

Stop assuming on her behalf.

I have to disagree with you on this one.

We are all love beings. We want to be loved and also reciprocate love, regardless of who you are, ( disabled, gay, lesbian, teenager, mentally unstable etc. ALL HUMAN BEINGS ARE LOVE BEINGS.

Woman always PUBLICLY say " I dont need a man ", " I am happy" blah blah blah. In their private spaces they yern to be loved and also reciprocate love.
Woman always say all those things when they see that things are not going their way. No man is proposing and the can't keep no man down. They are also the first ones to attack people who ask about their single status.
Some of them you find that they made wrong choices in life e.g. kids before marriage, dumped good guys for bad guys, HIV or STI status etc. When they see that they cannot reverse those choices then they start forming " I DONT NEED A MAN TO MAKE ME HAPPY " nonsense

I will only believe all these bla bla bla " I am happy" " I dont need a man" stories when those woman have never dated, are not dating and will never date. So long as they continue to date its a lie.

Unless you have been raped, victim of abuse, even so, they yearn for a good partner who is an opposite of what they went through.

Ironically the same woman later on in life they chase after other peoples husbands and also young boys. Who is fooling who?

Well, thank your God you didn't reach 30 without a ring on your finger. Frankly you can never understand what an over 30yr old woman who is not married feels like. In their private spaces when they are having self conversation, its not easy ooo. THEY WILL NEVER ADMIT TO YOU.

I am not saying Linda is unhappy, but she needs a man to add to her happiness. She may have the money, but she cant talk to her money, cuddle her money, have s.x with her money, be mad at her money, cook for her money, shout at her money etc. She needs a man for that, not even sisters or kids can never fill that role.

That being said, I am not saying single people are not happy, but they need somebody to add onto their happiness
WE ALL WANT TO BE SOMEONES CENTRE OF UNIVERSE.

so coogar is somehow right.

It's called "Peeping Tom"

He needs help

martineverest:
nigerians will always remain nigerians....we dislike gayish act

If he wants to be a Nigerian and practice all being Nigerian, he must stay in Nigeria.

He should not go to other countries where people voted and passed constitution to respect every persons right regardless of sexual orientation.

If I was Canadian government, I was gonna hand over a very harsh sentence.

What pissed me off the most,is the fact that Linda did not ask for permission to publish her wedding.

The lady is not a celebrity, even with celebrity weddings, you ask for permission.

edwife:
What makes her think she is happier than Linda?

A wedding?

What made Linda think she is happier than her?

This man wants a pity party.