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nwadiuko1:
poverty is really a disease it can cripple the ability to reason and act like a normal human being......you really need help

Fool,... We are not on the same level. No need quoting scum like you!!!
God wasted a very good as$hole when he put teeth in your useless mouth. Fool!!

Pinocchioo:
This is wonderful, OP welldone

Thanks

histemple:
Absolutely on point. One of the major causes of our problems is the misplaced aggression to emulate the western culture. The nascent gender equality drive has subjected unfounded mendacious sentiments and has virtually made almost all our women to become feminists. And most of us are trying so hard to live an European live in Africa.
Every society operate based on their value system and cultural inclination. For instance, western countries encourage single mothers and so they are indirectly increasing the number of bastards and marriage breakups. In Africa, a woman is more dignified and respected by the society based on her ability to build an enviable home. In Africa, a respectful woman has more power and influence over a man and can get anything she wants.
To justify my point, a true african woman will appreciate this advice from a mother but it's a complete trash to a Western lady.
My fellow women, we must be truly African to live peacefully and happily in Africa as trying to be Western in Africa will result to increased frustration.
Woman submit and respect your husband and the Man should respect his Wife.

Coming from a woman? This is just beautiful. Men can get their own advice from this thread https://www.nairaland.com/2439762/steps-make-wife-happy
Cc: Ishilove
Lalasticlala

nwadiuko1:
what part of delta state do you come from....cos. I think you are faking it

This one is just a foool...

nwadiuko1:
are you this jobless? The five eastern states are the BIAFRA we are talking about.........anybody that has any links with igboland can join.....we are not begging or forcing anybody......so why are you foaming at the mouth?

who is this useless goat Abeg shift!!..,nobody knows you!

Every waking hour of the day, you are faced with
‘choices’ to make, that can either add to the richness
of your marriage, or could potentially harm it in
some manner.
The hard and cold truth of marriage is that staying
together can be tough at times for almost any couple.

To ensure that one's marriage lasts "as long as we
both shall live" as opposed to the increasingly
popular "as long as we both shall love”, couples
should undertake daily connection rituals that
facilitate intentional marriage.

You win at marriage when you win your wife’s heart.
Think about when you dated your wife, it was the
easiest thing in the world to focus on her happiness.

She made your every dream come true; and you
lived to please her. Once your wife knows she is the
focus of your life, she will return your love and build
a better relationship by your side.

As men are different from women biologically, so
also are they different emotionally and
psychologically. Men are analytical beings while
Women are emotional beings.

Below are some steps to help foster your marriage:

Step 1: Make Marriage Your Job

Surprisingly, men who can masterfully deal with
conflict at work say they just do not know how to
handle marital problems, and they tune out and give
up. Why not start thinking about your marriage the
same way you think of your job. It’s easier than you
think. You will feel more adept at managing marital
problems if you use your work skills: long-range
planning, active listening, and considering all options
before action. And, just like your job, your marriage
has many rewards: from personal fulfillment, to a
longer, healthier and more financially secure future,
to a better sex life. (Yes, studies show that the
average married man has more satisfying, sex than
his unmarried peers.)

Step 2: Know Your Wife

If something works for me, it must work for my wife,
right? Wrong. It is likely that your wife and you see
practically everything differently. Here is where your
job skills come in handy. To understand the way to
your wife’s heart, you must first learn what makes
her tick. A bouquet of flowers may not mean much to
you, so it may seem like a colossal waste of money to
send them. But that is not the way your wife sees it.
To you, working late might be your way of saying: “I love you and will take care of you.” To her, it might
mean you do not care about the relationship. If you
learn how she views the world, and learn to see
things through her eyes, you will understand what
actions you must take to affect her in a positive way.

Step 3: Be Home Now

Most marriages that dissolve begin to unravel in the
very first year. Do not underestimate the importance
of spending time at home with your wife. Time
together is proof that you care. You may have
thought the wedding ring was enough evidence of
your commitment. But for her, the vows are only a
start; she wants you to prove your love for her every
day. To do this, you must give up your bachelor
identity. You may want to ‘hang-out’ with the boys on
Saturdays and Sundays or regularly attend happy
hour; If that is what you choose to do, do not be
surprised if you arrive home to find a fuming wife
that sends you to the guest room to spend the rest of
the night.

Step 4: Expect Conflict and Learn to Deal with It

Most people assume that if there is conflict in a
marriage, there must be something wrong. The
reality is, conflict is part of marriage. If we always
agreed with our spouses on everything, imagine how
boring life would be. Disagreements happen even in
the best of marriages. There are good ways to fight
and bad ways to fight. Those who maintain
relationships learn to go into the argument slowly;
they avoid accusations such as: “How dare you say
that?” and instead share their own experience: “I was
really upset when you made that comment.” Don’t
panic when you clash. It’s OK to disagree. But avoid
contempt, criticism, defensiveness and emotional
withdrawal. If you fight fair, you will find that conflict
can help you learn about your wife and make you a
better husband. When the heat builds up, do not take
off in a huff. Loving humor and kind words can help
heal the rift.

Step 5: Learn to Listen

Men and women differ dramatically in verbal
communication skills. The average woman uses the
spoken word three times more frequently than the
male of the species. For many women, verbalizing a
feeling is more than communicating a thought; it is a
way to establish closeness.
Men, you have to learn the basics. When she wants to
talk, sit quietly without distractions. Turn the TV off
and, while you are at it, put down the newspaper.
When she talks, take a few moments and reflect back
on what she has said. I realize you know exactly what
she is saying or trying to say within the first five
seconds, but it does not matter; Let your wife talk,
and let her know you are listening. Before offering
suggestions to the problems or her concerns, ask her
whether she wants advice or whether she just wants
you to listen. You would be surprised how
appreciative she will be that you are just a good ear.

Step 6: Aim to Please

Funny, isn’t it, that most people treat strangers
better than they do their loved ones. You know that if
you treat someone well, they will think more highly
of you and treat you better in return. Now apply that
principle to your wife. Do something sweet or
thoughtful for her; it shows that you have her on
your mind constantly.
Aiming to please may frustrate you, and may leave
you wondering, “When do I get my needs taken care
of?” I understand your frustration. But I guarantee if
your wife doesn’t feel like you are fully committed to
meeting her needs, she won’t be there to meet
yours. That doesn’t mean you always have to agree;
after all, one of the things your wife wants is a man
with a backbone. Before disagreeing though, listen
carefully to what she says. Try to determine what she
needs, and ask yourself: Is there some way I can
make this happen for her? Being a happily married
husband means regularly and consistently
demonstrating your love for your wife.

Step 7: Learn the Truth about Sex

Sex is not the overriding factor in either marital
happiness or marital distress. And while in most
cases women want a romantic experience and men
want sex, there are many steps to take to make both
parties happy. You will have to start by understanding
her and aiming to please. But do not stop there. It’s
O.K. to ask (not demand) for what you need sexually.
You should be proud of your sexual desires, not feel
like they are something to be suppressed.
Importantly, learn to satisfy your wife; know her
sexual points, be innovative behind closed doors and
bring out the sensual woman in her.

Step 8: Re-Introduce Yourself

Most couples assume getting needs met is, one
partner goes half way, then sits and waits for the
other partner to meet him or her there. That does
not work in marriage: When you are at your half-way
point, your wife may see it as only coming along one-
tenth of the way. She is expecting you to keep
moving, and you will wonder why she is not trying to
come toward you. Only when she recognizes you are
totally committed to her happiness, then (and only
then) can you begin to get your own needs met.
If you have gotten this far, you are ready to
introduce yourself to your wife. 1: Take a good look
at yourself. Are you the kind of guy your wife would
want to know? If you derailing in any area of your
relationship, clean up your act before you ask to have
your needs met. 2: Help your wife learn who you are,
what makes you tick, and how she can make you
happy. Lovingly help her to see the world through
your eyes. You won’t end up convincing her you’re
right, but you can help her to learn from you and
grow with you. 3: Focus upon the things you did that
helped your wife fall in love with you in the first
place. Be the person she fell in love with, the man
she got all weak in the knees for.

Step 9: Tell Her How Great She Is

Women loved to be told how great they look, sounds
like a smart place to start. Remind her of how
beautiful you think she is, how pretty her eyes are,
or you love her new hairstyle. Remember, keep it
simple and to the point, that is what they want to
hear. It takes a lot of courage to do this, but those
were the things you said to her when you first met,
so this is nothing new. Swallow your pride, trust me,
it is those things that will get your wife to look at you
like she did when you first laid eyes on her.

Step 10: Respect Your wife

Men are usually quite unaware of how much women
need to be respected. When they are not respected
they feel insecure and lose their sense of self. That is
why it is so vital for you to take special care of your
partner’s need for respect.
There are a number of ways to show respect to your
wife. To begin with, do not try to change or
manipulate her, but rather, honor her needs, wishes,
values, and rights. Respecting your wife also mean
including her in decisions. It is always amazing when
you find a husband who wields all the power in a
marriage and makes all the decisions, regardless of
what his wife thinks.

Build your wife’s self-esteem and sense of security by
asking for her input whenever you can, even on the
small things. When you make a decision that might
affect her, say: “I’m thinking about..., What do you
think of that?” or “I’m thinking we should. What would
you like?”

Respect says, “I support you, you are valuable to me,
and you don’t have to be any different from who you
are.” In return for this respect, a woman will be able
to relax. She will not have a compulsive need to
prove herself as an equal, but will automatically feel
and be equal. What a wonderful way to live with a
woman.

Step 11: Celebrate your Marriage
When champions triumph, they party like there is no
tomorrow. If your marriage is a success, it is not out
of luck, fluke or chance; it is out of honed skills and
hard work.

Making your union work demonstrates more than a
personal victory; it is a way of telling your family and
your community that you have achieved something
special. So take time to celebrate. Treat yourselves to
a weekend away from the kids, go to the beach, or
pack up a picnic and take her somewhere you can
both let your hair down. Then, tomorrow, it's back to
work, because keeping your marriage alive requires
attention every day.

As I conclude, I leave you with this poem to consider
the continual choices that you make and consider
whether you are making choices that contribute to
the health of your marriage or contaminate it.

IT’S THE EVERYDAY CHOICES THAT YOU MAKE:
[i]To do what is best for your partner in life…
To respect the commitment of being husband and
wife…
To be still and just listen —not have to be heard…
To forgive and forget and not need “the last
word”…
To admit you’re not perfect —you’ll both make
mistakes…
To support the decisions that each of you makes…
To be willing to laugh when a day has been rough…
To divide up the burdens when life becomes
tough…
To support one another when things are too
hurried…
To comfort each other when stress keeps you
worried…
To be willing to cherish your true love and friend
with a joy and compassion that will never end.
As you celebrate each year together:
May you always have Understanding to make your
marriage work,

Commitment to make your marriage grow

And Love to make your marriage happy![i]

WORDS FROM A MOTHER TO HER DAUGHTER ABOUT MARRIAGE

1. The wife that wins all arguments with her husband is not wise. The home is not a law
court.

2. The wife that uses sex as a weapon in the home - placing embargo, going to bed in jeans shorts and
trousers -lacks wisdom.

3. The wife that uses the modern trends and laws of "women's rights" to insult or ridicule her husband simply makes a fool of herself.

4. A woman that makes her home devoid of peace
through bickering, nagging and quarrels needs help.
A man should be eager to run away from office to be at home, for that should be the safest and closest place on earth for him.

5. Modern-day equality in marriage does not mean competition, It simply means partnership. Taking advantage of such equality to turn around and become the defacto head of the home and oppress the man is tantamount to playing with fire. If you destroy your home, soon you will be the boss of an empty home.

6. A wise wife makes the man feel so good that he
assumes that he is the head. Once he gets that
feeling, the woman gently wields her power and the head actually turns to wherever the neck wants without a protest.

7. A wife that does not pull herself away from
friends' influence and advice or even from the
control of her mother and father will have herself to blame.

8. When a man is looking for a wife, he bypasses
women of different shapes and sizes to choose a wife But soon after childbirth, many women hide under the excuse of childbirth to let go of themselves. Many stop bothering about their looks,shape, dressing, etc.
Within 5 years of marriage, people start wondering if the wife is the man's aunt, even though she is 7 years younger. Her defence is that if he truly loves her, he should love her the way she is but when looking for a wife, he saw people like the present YOU and ignored them and settled for the former YOU. Today, you go to bed smelling of onions.... You go to bed wearing grandmothers' clothes. Why are you playing with your marriage? Love is not about looks - we know But looks enhances love and marriage There is a difference between someone disfiguring herself and the person being disfigured by an accident. Please don't be complacent. As hard as it may be, work on looking like you were when he first saw you and began the chase.

9. If every night you are tired, sleepy, sore, down
with headache or fever, "not in the mood," you are a joker, a serious comedian!

10. If your children suddenly become more
important to you than your husband, you need
prayers.

11. If you assume that as the woman, only you need to be pampered and fussed over while the man is a stone that has no emotions, you need to be pitied.

12. A woman that has the mind of a wife does not
excite her husband. Wives are usually complacent
and presumptuous. A wife must strive to have the mind of a girlfriend, A girlfriend is always nicer, sweeter, more loving and always thinking of ways to wow her sweetheart; a girlfriend does not try to win all arguments, does not call the man a "useless man", is not careless about her looks or dressing, always smiles and laughs with the man, sends the man sweet
messages and calls, etc. Are you your husband's
girlfriend in word and in deed?

LASTLY, DO NOT INFORM ME OF YOUR QUARRELS, I DIDN’T JOIN YOU TOGETHER, GOD DID, GO AND
INFORM HIM AND HE WILL SORT
YOU OUT.
#RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE BUILDER

Nigeria LNG of all companies...That scammer must be very stupid oh.

Na dem sabi!

Igbo dream...see 100% of comments are from igbos!!...good dream for them...I pray they get it.

Shebarh:
99.9% of guys on nl aiint virgins so y the thread

@virgin detector, welldone oh @ statistics of 99.9%!!!!

Crap!!!...a some virgin guys will bleep you like they have 15years experience on the job.

Can remember my first time...was crazy!!!!

Goodboiyy:
my frnd shut up, if u gat nothing to contribute better exist the thread.

How many times av u seen d OP shouting PDP or APC, so anybody that does not see things d way u do is a TANS.

SMH

Seriously bro, its just funny what politics have turned our youths into. They can't reason clearly anymore. Even when they see clear wrong like PMB's refusal to make his asset declaration public, they still go about defending his actions.

IbnSultaan:
the command center has not and will not be infiltrated
crap from you. was the use of checkpoints in benue , Abuja,Niger born. its like taking coflin to treat headache

IN THE. NORTHEAST checkpoints were never removed
the are vital to stop intrusion

I STAND with PMB for removing NON essential checkpoints that have corrupted military personnel's

First I don't want to reason what you mean by 'crap from you'. That's rude and insulting.

Secondly, we heard of bombings in Kaduna and Jos...if you have an unbiased mind, why do you think this happened? Do you think the checkpoints would atleast have helped at all?

Removal of checkpoints had no advantage!!!...it has only disadvantages.

Tell me 3 advantages of removal of army checkpoints. If you can't find 3 advantages then rest your case on this issue.

heneversleep:
CHM11 if what you claimed to be is true, how does your attack on the persona of PMB and Osinbanjo makes you one?

If you are conversant with Nigeria terrains, the removal of checkpoint has nothing to do with the current incessant killings in Yobe and Borno. These places are scarcely less populated comprising only of villages and towns that are even miles apart with large land masses. The solution I see to it is the mass deployment of foot soldiers through the MJTF to combat these forces gradually.

As regard the suicide bombs attacked in part of Kaduna, Jos and Kano, I have much less to say about that except only if our military works more on their intels cause they do have a kinda bomb expats and manufacturing bases in those states.

CHM11, proferring solutions is the best as a true non-partisan instead of faulting, abusing and pointing fingers at our leaders.

My question to you is what would you have done if you are the president?

To solve a problem, one must be analytical and figure out what caused the problems in the first place, then additionally, what we have done wrong, how do we correct it? We can't be going round and round doing the same thing and expect different results.

GEJ made a lot of mistakes, we shouldn't be doing same thing and expect different results. These steps by PMB have not given any positive results. Instead it has given us negative results.

There was something GEJ did few weeks before the election with bokoharam sect that almost saw the sect annihilated. If I was president, I will continue this since its bringing positive results, the I will also try and improve intel gathering.

IbnSultaan:
You lack knowledge of Military operations

How will bokoharam infiltrate a Military command center. i wouldn't discuss much but its not possible

Two military checkpoints are still active in the Northeast
incidents of suicide attack can only be stop through Intel , the last govt didn't build Intelligence capabilities

All my life I've lived with the best of brains in the army. Even the PMB himself, we've lived in the same quarters in the barracks. I know a lot about military tactics.

About insurgents infiltrating army command center, I am very disappointed at your comment. Have you not been reading the news or seeing eye witness videos since 2009 of military persons having links with insurgents?. The world over, terrorists get their strength by infiltration of their enemies. Throw millions of dollars at a colonel and see the loyalty that is within him. Only a very minute few will resist such temptation.


The military checkpoint removal was a bad move!!!!..let's not drag that issue because of our love for PMB...let's call a spade a spade...the results of PMB's actions are very obvious to us all....an almost dead terrorist group gained serious momentum all because of these actions.

For Heavens sake! Why remove military checkpoints?? What do you stand to gain by doing that? The only thing that will do is give insurgents chance to move around freely!!!!!
Didn't Buhari attend war college? Doesn't he know that after a war, your men should spend some time around there to make sure normalcy is restored?
All the war videos my parents brought back from Somalia, Liberia etc...after the real war, UN soldiers stay and form road blocks for months so as to ensure normalcy is restored....Buhari knows removal of these roadblock had only disadvantages to the nation and advantages to the insurgents, yet he went ahead and ordered that they be removed.....!!!!

heneversleep:
Lol...PDP blood is running in your veins. Just try to check your write up again.

Not everybody who posts on politics is a 2 way wire bro.....Not everybody has the PDP/APC brain!!...some of us actually truly care about Nigeria and the future of our people.

drtwist:
where went you when we were trying to enlighten Nigerians about the implication of Voting an APC led FG? its too late Bro. Just pray for 2019 to come quick. Well I pray his government will not be overthrow by coup because he seems more clueless than anticipated.

Also pray he Serve his tenure alive because I can't stand someone Puppet (osinbajo) becoming president. I remember how this guy was campaigning then with big! Bigger! Biggest! English. Proving mister intelligent.

I am CHM11 bro, on politics section of nairaland and even in real life I was very vocal against the person of GMB. Though I sometimes lay low because the other option in the person of GEJ wasn't also a good choice. The PDP was actually destroying this country!!!!.....not like APC is doing any better now, they look like they will do worse!!!

IbnSultaan:
op
PMB was right to move the command center to the front to improve communication BTW command and combat troops more
Command center of operation zaman lafiya was moved to enable better coordination by all components involve in the operations


Removing checkpoints in NON essential location was necessary, as soldiers were carrying out responsibility of the police.
unethical cases were increasing
Note :-Military checkpoints are still active in hot zones


BH is using sleeper cells to carry out attacks, this is possible because past govt failed to stop the growth of the enemy allowing it to grow and train cells

But the almost killed insurgency has resumed and gained weight after all these actions.
Maybe, the command centre relocation has been secretly infiltrated by the boko haram group as it is now closer to them and far away from the Commander in Chief of the Armed forces who is in abuja!!!....

Removal of military checkpoints at this time wasn't the best. Even with the armed forces + police, it was hard to tackle the insurgency. Then you reduce their strength by removing part of the security ie the army from the roads!!....poor approach at this time.....Results are obvious to us all as many have been killed by the group after this action in a frequency we are not used to.

None of these actions look like it will help cut off the boko haram cells. Rather it looks like a strategic attempt to strengthen the insurgents.


Its very saddening.

These are the experiences Nigerians have been forced to endure in the past 6-8months.

Pre Election.

Boko haram attacks were on the rise and they even attacked in Abuja, the country's capital.

Boko haram selected GMB as negotiator with FG, This didn't happen.

Buhari said killing bokoharam members is like killing Nigerians.

Buhari became the APC candidate few weeks after the APC clearly stated that it had zoned the Presidential Ticket to the 'Muslim North'.

The APC did a primary where Buhari contested against the likes of Atiku (new from the PDP, stood no chance), Rochas Okorocha (from the south east, already secured his Imo state governorship ticket by leaving his inlaw as the candidate until after the pres. Primaries, he lost and his inlaw stepped down for him), one other northerner who I don't even know (Stood no chance at all). What happened to the likes of Babatunde Raji Fashola? Or Adams Oshiomole? (Buhari wouldn't have wanted a fair primaries against these people)

Buhari won the Primaries and went on to campaign for Presidency claiming to borrow money and making a lot of promises. One very important promise is PUBLIC ASSET DECLARATION.

He selected a virtually unknown/powerless commissioner from the south west in the person of PYO. (Virtually unknown because even PMB himself at one of his campaigns couldn't even remember his vice's name-Osunbade saga).

There was issue of Certificate missing and/or inexistent. Affidavit was submitted in place of real certificates. Then Cambridge and WAEC made public declaration that Buhari can request to clear the air as it regards his certificate if he has one with them. This was never to be. Recall that some years back, it was on the news that Bokoharam loyalists and members were to burn their credentials to show that they are against western education.

Election was postponed by GEJ for selfish reasons and there was serious onslaught of boko haram members by the joint coalition between Nigeria, Chad and Cameroon Mil. Forces. Boko haram almost became inexistent and we didn't hear of any of their attacks during the entire election.

Then came the ELECTION

No attacks by the boko haram group as they were on the run as the Army was getting on them drastically. Nigerians almost saw the end of the group with almost utmost certainty.

Nigerians voted and thanks to the South west, GEJ's simplicity and Jega's ruggedness, Buhari won and was sworn in as President of the federal Republic of Nigeria.

POST ELECTION

First the Army command base was moved to Borno.

Boko haram resumed their atrocities with an unprecedented frequency and weight.

Military Checkpoints were removed from the roads by PMB.

PMB called Bokoharam members his 'misguided brothers'.

PMB says he is open to Negotiations with the boko haram sect even borno residents were against this.

PMB ordered the release of bokoharam suspects in the army's care.

PMB refused to PUBLICLY declare his assets.

PMB relocated Boko haram prisoners to the heart of Igbo land, the pride of the igbo nation, Anambra!!! Of all places.

PMB Quarantined VP. PYO at major meetings.

PMB sidelines and shortsleeved Tinubu, and the Northern elders keep warning PMB against non northerners like Amaechi.

PMB has made 9 appointments already and 8 out of the 9 are northerners.

Jega named his successor, and PMB overruled naming his own.

PMB claimed to have met an empty account which wasn't true as data proved otherwise.

PMB has refused name ministers over 30 days in office.

PMB called his Kinsman from Daura out of retirement and named him as Director of the state security.
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These events really makes me skeptical as to what we are in.....some say its too early but I believe diseases like Cancer should be treated when its still young.

I am not for PDP or APC...I am virtually not inclined to one group because I am person inclined rather than party inclined. I love BRF and I also love Akpabio....
This said, I must say I am very very concerned about the direction our country is going to.

I am a christian with Muslim friends. I respect Islam but religion is a thing of choice. With what I'm seeing, I believe there is a clear blueprint to spread this insurgency thing.

Let's keep politics aside, let's think about our old parents and little siblings and children who can't fight for themselves. The dangers are just too heavy for us to be playing lip service to.

I am open to learn though, if there is another view to these, please feel free to share because most of these issues bother me as a person who loves my country.

And the student lay down there to receive 100 strokes while his buttocks is bleeding?.....hmmmmm...even me that schooled in an Army school, a soldier can't do this to me...we will fight!!!!!...anything that wants to happen after that, my parents/school will handle that...one u flog me and I see blood.....na fight straight up!!!

Goodboiyy:
My point here is that I think the Okpe Dialect is the hardest in Urhobo , Followed by Uvwie , my experience thou.

Men @ bolded lolz, Abeg marry Urhobo Girl so she go speak Urhobo to ur Children,nor worry I can teach u, Maybe on a voice note and send to u, well am ain't full Urhobo, but I speak and hear fluently #Singleparents tins BT I nor know itskeri atall

Lol its understandable. We go try dey learn the one we fit learn

Goodboiyy:
Was travelling yesterday with my mom for some family Meeting, so the bus we entered two people who sat Close to me were speaking The Okpe dialect of urhobo , I was totally lost, I do hear the Uvwie dialect and urhobo bcous i stayed with my mom and she only speak urhobo to me. but when they spoke the okpe dialect I was really lost even my mom too didn't hear what they said.

Just wanna ask my urhobo Peeps here if they hear the okpe dialect or they are in the same shoe with me.

CHM11 was your contributions??

I really can't tell the difference as I've not lived in Delta. My Urhobo is not so strong I am damn proud to be called Urhobo.
Every Okpe man I know is proud to be identified as Urhobo.

HonAdepitan:
I thought I should give you feedback. I am done with the interview...It was a panel of three. Two Nigerians and a Russian. The Russian is the of sales so he bombarded me with questions...I was audible this time around,however my split dried up almost immediately the interview commenced,not funny though. Even while I was saying jaggons, I was looking him in the eyes anf was aslo emphazing on my passion for the job
there was a time he told me i was mixing up marketin,sales and customer care together. so

Lols, hope you told him about your willingness to learn and what you know that differentiates the3 departments?

Anyway its done, the rest is with the God you serve. Just go and start giving thanks, live a good clean life and show God that you can actually build a track record of sacred service.

I wish you the best.

Kind regards.

HonAdepitan:
I really appreciate your indept advice. Thank you so much.

You are welcome.

What do you know about sales?

Please do your research bro. There must be something useful in google..remember to tell them that you are a very fast learner and you can learn and grow on the job as you have a strong passion for meeting goals and targets.

Why do you think we should employ you?

I believe the company's values of bla bla bla (know their values) align with mine and the atmosphere here will support my career ambition in the short and long term. Also, I bring more than just what you need, I have great passion for sales and business development. Excellence is something I value so I know I will go the extra mile in ensuring I meet and exceed expectations on the job.

I believe I am the best person for this role.

Be confident and assuring when saying this.....





Just go there and talk to the persons.....they are guys and ladies like you and I...relax and Sell yourself to them.....let them be interested in you and love how you come across in a way that even after the interview, the memory of you stays with them.


Success at your interview bro.

Where do you see yourself in 5 or 10 years?

Naturally, I am someone who values continuous improvement as I am a very fast learner with strong ability to improve steadily. In 5 or 10 years, I would have gained skills and competences that will make me exceptionally excellent in the job. I should be taking more responsibilities, improving the sales team and its efficiency and delivering outstanding results. In 5 years I should have learnt the rudiments of what it takes to be a sales professional, in doing so I will be driving business development and helping the company achieve its mission statement of ........(Search for the company's mission statement online).

In summary...make sure you vision yourself in 5 years with the company and doing great things. Start with stating that u like improving, state that you will take on more responsibilities, you will learn the required skills and you will deliver results, not just any results but results that will be in line with the company's mission.

HonAdepitan:
Good morning house.I have an interview tomorrow for the role of sales trainee in one of the leading IT firm in Nigeria at victoria island . I need a sincere advice and motivation on how to present myself before the interviwers tomorrow. I am seeking your assistance simply because I noticed I hardly speak up during previous interviews that I have gone for,even when I am saying the right things. However, I will like the house to note that I don't have sales experience but I am a versatile young man willing to learn. Please how do I answer questions like (1)lets meet you (2)where do you see yourself in 5 or 10years. (3) what do you know about sales(4)why do you think we should employ you... please a sincere advice.

Most important thing is not what you say but how you say it. Your confidence matters here, see yourself as the best there is and remember that its humans that you are going to have a chat with not God himself.
See the interview as a discussion with a friend and not 'the almighty interview'.

About the Questions, a google search will help you know how best to answer them. But if I was u..here's how I will approach them.

1.Let's meet you.
Ok, my name is Wasiu Adepitan, I am 28 years old. Naturally, I am a very analytical and goal oriented person which was why I studied computer science at the University of Benin where I made a second class upper degree. I had my intership with Huawei technologies where I worked as a Applications research intern. Upon graduation I had my NYSC in Yobe state where I taught computer science and had some interesting achievements. Since passing out of my youth service, I have been working as a system analyst with Microsoft corporations and also recorded some good achievements. (Make sure u know your achievements cos it might be the next questions)

I have this strong passion to build my career in the business development function of a good organization. Values I live by include teamwork, professionalism, integrity and Dedication.

----In summary...name, age, core strength, relate core strenght with why you studied what you studied at where u studied it and what you graduated with if its 2'1 and above. Professional experience (internship, NYSC, work), Career ambition, core values.