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Wanted to ask about santa brabra and the rich also cry but realized the list is for kids born in the 90s...

This is the reason wh a child out of wedlock is a no for me. This is the reason why polygamy is a no for me. This is the reason why I always say young men and women should be responsible. If your dad had a proper relationship with your mum,your aunt would have had better info about him and it would have been easier for you to find him. I pray you actually do find him. I hope other young men and wmen would be able to pick a thing from this. Whatever you do today,think of the effects on the kids unborn.

All these cheating men and women,una matter don tire person sef. Una nor go let people wey want marry,even see reason to marry. I hate ccheaters with a passion. Not irks me more than that in a relatonshp.

Naah,let meexplain something toyou. The fact that he's dropping her off at her. Parents place,would send them shivering for fear. Of what people would say. To both the lady. And the parents,it's a shame. As a man,when you're not yet married,the woman'sfamily can do shakara and. Theyususally havethe upper hand. The moment you're married,your family have the upper hand and the woman's family wields less power. No parent want their neighbors or friends to hear that their daughter was returned after been given out in marriage;it's a disgrace to the entire. Family. If people see her in her parents house for too long wthout the husband especially when the kids are suppose to be in school,they will start asking questions. They can't be that stupid in their famil to allow people start asking questions about their daughter...

Pls pardon m typo errors. My keypad is faulty.

Tunechi1:
there is a lil bit of loophole in wat you said wat if the elder sisters who were telling her to open a secret account are now sayin we told to open a secret account becos of situations like this not know he his only doin it to create fear in them and for only a short period of time wont the elders sister wishes come through

Dude,I appreciate your forgiving nature. But you haven't acted like a man yet. Read my lips: "send that woman to stay with her parents for 3 weeks to 1 month". Don't tell her you're sending her away. Pack your things. And act like you guys are going to spend sometime. With. Them. After the first night,don't. Sleep there. Leave her there the. Next day and tell the parents she'd be living with them till further notice. I can bet my life. That they'd. Be dead scred of what you have up your sleeves. After they've spent 1 month begging,ask the parents to bring her back;don't go there to pick her. Yourself. I can bet that. Your wife will come. Back a better behaved person. You need to show the man in you,and what you're capable of doing. If they mess up next time. That's the only way they can respect you.

Nb: sorry for the way I typed. My keypad is acting up and malfunctioning.

DevGuru:
UPDATE!!!

I must confess that Nairaland is a wonderful online community. In these trying times of mine, the only thing that has kept my head intact is the company I have here reading all comments. I would have revealed much more information about us especially for the sake of those who have expressed their doubts about the veracity of my story, but I can't, because I wouldn't want to provide some pointers for anyone on this forum who might know any of my wife's relatives or mine. Although I got several diverse opinions, all comments still depicted the kindness in the the hearts of the commenters. Even those who called me stupid for not being too hard on my wife did so because they feared I could lose my life - a high level of kindness which I appreciate a lot. Even the opinions I did not follow on this thread still served a purpose of enlarging the pool of options from which I was able to make a choice. I expect much more expressions of disappointment towards my folly (for deciding not to go for a divorce for the sake of my child, the unborn and the fact that my faith forbids me from marrying another woman if I choose not to live with her anymore).

On the morning following my last update, my wife's depression continued but I tried to act like a loving husband towards her. I could read in her face that the more I tried to be kind towards her, the greater the emotional torment she passed through because she found it hard to believe that I could forgive her. Maybe she even thought I was planning a brutal revenge, but this time, not against her alone but against her sisters. She could not imagine the extent of my actions if I was to execute her thoughts. In the evening, as we were having dinner, she started talking softly to me while looking at the food on the table. I had to tell her to speak louder because it was like she was talking to the food. Then she voiced out as tears rolled down her cheeks saying "I've informed all my siblings about our conversations that got leaked to you and they are not talking to me again". I asked her why they were not talking to her and she said they all must have been confused and I understood that to be because they did not know what my next move would be. Married adults of ages between 35 - 45 were running helter-skelter because they had just ruined their sister's marriage. Their ONLY hope was in my forgiveness. The Lord had suddenly delivered my 'enemies' into my hands and if I chose to wield my sword, they might have to relocate away from their home town because the extended family would know the shameful story that threw their last born out of marriage. I told my wife that seeing her crying for the misery of her sisters was annoying to me as it meant she was further betraying our home. Then I picked her phone on the dinning table to check whether the records were still there... lo and behold... everything was gone. Even the app itself had been uninstalled. I smiled and asked her why she cleared the calls and the app, she replied (crying further) "I just can't listen to the evil voices of myself and my sisters". I smiled again and asked "What about the app? You don't want me to ever hear anything again? She replied "No, I just wished to clear everything that could bring bring back the memory". Then I opened my laptop and navigated to a folder where I had copied all the conversations. I played one and she was shocked to hear it even louder than it was on the the phone. Her fears had just been confirmed... "Why was he pretending that he had forgiven me..." - just my own thought anyways. But truly, I had forgiven her, I was just trying to follow some wise counsel from Nairaland. She couldn't wait till the end, she left me with the food and walked to the bedroom. I slept on the living room couch that night.

The following morning, I continued to read comments on this thread and remembered I was sitting on a time bomb by keeping the whole thing to myself. I went to have my bath and told her I was going out. She was surprised because it was a public holiday. I was already on the road when I called my father that I needed to see him urgently. Luckily for me, he was at home, so I went straight to him and explained all that had happened to him while I played some 'music'. He praised me for taking the matter to him first because he knows we are all closer to mum and revealing such an issue to mum would mean an end - or at most, the beginning of the end. My dad respects my wife's parents a lot and would not like me to take them to their knees on this issue. He spoke with me at length. He said my wife was a good lady but the reason she was so vulnerable was because of her position in the family and that the sisters weren't so lucky this time. He advised me to get closer to my wife so that a natural distance could evolve between her and her sisters. He then begged me never tell my wife that I had revealed the matter to any of my family members because that would be a strong way for me to prove my love to her which she would ever live to appreciate. After all talks, he asked me to call one of my wife's sisters' husbands right in his presence because he knew they (the husbands) must have been told a 'padded' story. I first used the FCMB Mobile App on my phone to load N3,000 before making the call. At the start, he was cold with me on the phone as if a rival was trying to ask for his girlfriend's best food. Later, he admitted that he was aware of all that happened and started all those Yoruba elders' talk... how he had never raised his hand to beat his wife, how he would always walk out, how he and his wife prayed together... bla bla bla. Then I told him I was going to terminate the call and forward some files to him on Whatsapp. I simply picked two of his own wife's conversation with my wife and forwarded to him, expecting him to call back. After about 30 minutes, my Dad told me to call back. I called twice before he answered. He became cold again and couldn't say anything but that his wife would call me soon. After about 1 hour and nothing happened, I had to leave, but my dad told me to carry him along. When I got home, I walked to the bedroom and met my wife on the phone but I did not know who she was speaking with. I returned to the living room and continued reading from my myriad of advisers on this thread.

Then the call came in. It was my wife's sister's voice (not the eldest one)... begging me to forgive and try to forget. She sounded like she was outdoors under the influence of some heavy downpour. I can't express the feeling at that moment but the only thing that I remembered was Proverbs 16:7. (apologies to the wonderful Muslims on this thread...). Even though she didn't believe me, I forgave her. Then the husband collected the phone from her and spoke with me at length... apologising on behalf of the entire family. The major point he kept re-iterating was that I should not let my people know...

All the while, several other simultaneous calls were on. My wife's family members were calling one another while some also called my wife to know the extent of what I got hold of. Interestingly, the first born (who advised my wife to keep a separate account) had also been hinted and had run to their parents to open up to them. She could imagine the level of shame that was coming to her - A PhD holder who is the family's Senior Adviser on every issue. Her parents called her husband to join them immediately as he was their only front soldier who could speak to me. Suddenly, the first born's husband's call came in. He pleaded that he would not like us to revisit the ugly situation but that I was the only one that could save the entire family from the mess by forgiving everyone. He stated that he had been told everything that was done to me and he would like me to honour him and reverse my war order - this was when I confirmed that they had been speaking to my wife. He showered prayers on me while I remained aggressive in my AMEN responses (as if to let them know I was neutralising their spells on me). He promised to call my wife and warn her never to discuss her family issues again with any of her sisters. He also begged me severally never to reveal it to my people as it would mean a reversal to the beginning. Although he didn't give me the impression that my wife's parents were with him - my wife told me this later...

At night, my wife came to kneel down by my side to make her own pleading. I was very glad because the whole ambience was like the clear sky devoid of any cloudy covering after a thunderous rain. I spoke softly to her and began to re-iterate my ideals to her - it was a good preaching time for me. Now everyone (including my wife) is praying that I do not decide to spill the whole thing out one day. My wife's eldest sister later called me that night to directly tender her own apology - at a time she had confirmed I wasn't going to be hostile anymore.

For me, I believe there's so much left for me to do on my wife. For anyone who has followed the recent events of my life which could have ended in a tragedy but for God's intervention and would love to give me some helpful ideas as I move forward, kindly drop your comments. I'll be very glad to read them.

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God,any woman that will make me abandon my family,separate me from such.

I'm not a fan on the range rover sport but I think I prefer the vogue to a G55. The vogue autobiography depicts luxury and class. I like the fact that you can't upgrade the 03 body kit to look like the 014. Give me a 2014 vogue autobiography and I'm good to go but then the G63/65 always wins;guess it's a collectors item. I'm shocked to hear you say the range is a poorly built SUV though.

Siena:
[color=Blue]I'm not exactly a fan of either SUV.

The Range Rover is a not so well-built SUV, and in terms of quality control and build quality, utter garbage. I would rather buy annual Oyster cards, than touch a Range Rover in any guise. Ugh!

The Mercedes-Benz G-Wagon is well-built, but big and brash, the ultimate show-off's SUV. A status symbol deluxe. This is the SUV that will have me running.

Towards it. [/color]

The comments on this topic,shows why Nigerians are stuck with Buhari as a president. People look at things with sentiments and not based on logical reasoning. For those who do not understand,let be break it down to you.

Peter and Paul own the P-sqaure brand and have 50/50 right to use it. Peter and Paul are currently pursuing solo careers but also doing business as a group. As solo acts,they go by the names Mr P(for Peter) and Rudeboy(for Paul). In business,you have to have 51% stake before you can have any major controlling right to make decisions that ooverrides the next person who has 49%.
Based on this,both Peter and Paul,must agree on the terms of any contract being carried out with the P2 brand. Peter can't book a show as P-square and perform alone. It will be termed as fraud,and he can be sued heavily for that. Same goes for Paul. Jude's tactic of booking the show as a p-square show only for paul alone to show up,shows he is not just a fraudulent person,but a person who is greedy and not totally professional. You cannot book one of both twins as P-square;that's totally wrong. Peter is simply saying and doing the right thing. If the organizers decide to sue P-sqaure tomorrow,Peter would bejoined in the suit,whether or not he collected a dime from the proceeds of the show. That they are brothers,doesn't mean he should be stupid or not set things straight. You cannot book Jackson5 for a show,and only Janet jackson or Marlon jackson,turns up to perform;you will be sued heavily for that in the US. You cannot book Dru-Hill for a show,and present only Sisquo;they'd slam you with a heavy lawsuit and demand damages...

The earlier Nigerian youths start having sense and using their brains,the better for us as a nation. My sibling cannot be defrauding people with my name and I'd keep quiet because we are blood,knowing fully well that if it backfires,I'd also be held liable.

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