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Lizabeth25:
Must she marry? She no dey hear say most marriages don't last nii! This is why most women end up becoming a single mother.!

Make she go rest, live a holy and healthy life, pray more and believe in God.

Whether married or not, the question is, when JESUS comes, will you be ready?

Gbam!but with this african mentality,she MUST marry ooooo.the lady is already desperate,i pray she doesn't fall into the wrong hands

Dahjhi:
Good reasoning. I share your views about reproducing and increasing the worlds population unnecessarily.. Reproducing is good But not a MUST.

Lol@increasing the worlds population unnecessarily

Chinks:
@OP, simply ask yourself this thought provoking question: how many men have i turned down during my youthful days? if you could sincerely answer that, then we will start the advice from that point.

oh pls!does it matter how many she turned down?and how does that help her present situation?even if she had a terrible past,how does it help to mend the present.smh

steppin:
Packaging...that's all that matters.

You mean pretending?

Andrew3:
Came back from the office and the only thing i felt like eating was 'Goat intestine Pepper soup'
With no one to prepare it for me, I said wetin, the breast dem dey use cook? Dived into the market
and bought some goat intestine. Washing took me more than an hour because I am never satisfied
after seen a washed part. I started cooking. Added salt, maggi, onions, then my trouble started.
I opened the cupboard and found two bottles of cooking oil, u know the color naa, I quickly opened
One and emptied quarter of it in my pepper-soup with was already boiling. I kept asking my friend
in the room if he perceiving any aromas and his answer was always no

Finally I left the kitchen and went back to check and my whole pot was filled with foan. I thought
maybe I didn't wash it well. I went back to the room only to come out and see my longer throat friend
to take a full plate of the pepper soup explaining how hungry he is and patience is not one of his virtues.
In a few minutes he called and asked me if I washed with soup and I said no, he said there is a soapy smell.
I rushed into the kitchen, brought out my oil and behold, It was a dish washer I brought it out and called
my friend, what is this omo see heavy vomit as my answer.

This time...i really really laughed out loud

oseiwe:
I have cooking blunders in abundance, I can't remember when I cooked last. I eat when I get to work and before I get home at night.
I once put full tin tomatoes in spag, it turned black and bitter, no idea why. I once burnt a pot of beans twice, while the ultimate was leaving pot on fire and leaving for work, na only my parlour survive the fire, since then, I never cook again.

Lmao

GentleToks:
Thks but I used No 2 setting on the blender which doesn't turn d leaves to paste. Here is d dry crayfish at d corner of d picture

of course,there has to be crayfish!it would have been a taboo not to include it.(for me sha)i meant dry fish and stockfish.

GentleToks:
I have been with different babes from other side of my region; destiny has refused to lead Yoruba ladies towards my way. It's either I am with calabar, urhobo or Igbo lady.........

I quickly learn how to cook it on my own when I realised that these ladies have started using dis my yummy soup to hold me to ransom.

Next time,don't use a blender,it turns the leaves to paste.if you can't use a mortar to pound it,try and cut the leaves to tiny pieces and you will have a different taste.i didnt see dry fish and stockfish in your pictures.if there is a next time,do include them.btw,welldone!

tefoko:
both-ly of you-ly got me-ly cracking-ly seriously

Lol...

sucess001:
Urgent vacancy 4 lawyer wit 3-4yrs experience 4 a solicitor's firm.only intelligent male lawyers required.Pay 80-100k. Send cv to ayo_esq@ yahoo.com b4 12 noon today.

i have a friend who has just a year experience but is willing to learn,can he send his cv?

InZA:
Yeah well said...But you can not really love without loving yourself first and when you truly love yourself, you would normally and naturally demand that people treat you in a particular way...with utmost respect and regard for your feelings and emotions, after all that's the way you treat yourself, so why settle for anything less from anybody. Even if his "small words" would buy her over, I think if he truly respects her he should still go all the way by calling the friend and the girl the friend had the "stuff" with and bringing them to the OP, so they can openly admit to their "deed". Ofcourse even all that could still lies, but he just has to show her that he can and will go the extra mile to regain his trust.

Gbam!you have said it all.Words+Action!

InZA:
I pray she does too. The guy has to really do alot to make her trust him[again].

The funny thing is he may not really do much...All he may do is to say some words and she will swallow it all...well,that is what love does when you don't love with your head but of course,its only love when you love with your heart...

kobonaire:
So your father was cheating all the time too??

Btw, we can all read just fine. Use regular font, it is NL rule #11

Harsh response...though his/her comment sucks but...

InZA:
Take the used condom to the laboratory, let them take a swab from the linings of the condom, there should be enough left for DNA analysis. Tell him to provide a sample of his own sperm, "stash" it in a sterile container and take it with you to the laboratory, tell them to do a matching DNA analysis... Your marriage or introduction should be kept pending until the results are released.

I have a personal principle which many may see as too rigid or even maybe to the low thinking ones, as being hypocritical and the principle is this-if I would hold myself to a stern sense of personal integrity and fidelity, I demand absolutely nothing less than that from anybody that I'm going to be spending the rest of my life with and so for me personally, I wouldn't even go through the "stress" of doing the laboratory tests I suggested, because for me "A suspected cheat is a cheat,". The fact that a girl could even remotely create grounds for me to doubt or question her fidelity to me, is enough reason for me to call it quits but since, by seeking our collective opinions here, it shows that you're more diplomatic than rigidly objective - I think you should go do that laboratory test.

You should want to get married to someone you can absolutely trust, someone that you are sure is committed to you and you alone, and trust me, the actions of your boyfriend have not fed such assertions. He says it was his friend that used the condoms- lies from the Toronto University. Is this the first time his friend is using his house, why was it the period you travelled that his friend chose to come use his house, why was it the time he had to go eat that his friend came to use his house.

And for all the previous comments here suggesting that guys are polygamous in nature, or 99 percent of guys cheat and all other shiity and trashy comments of similar nature - una dey craze!!!. If you have been used to having friends that synonymize the nature of randy dogs and goats, you should know that in the "animal kingdom" there are different breeds/species of animals.

Lol...a laboratory?haba!that is too extreme...and people are saying am too principled.I wonder what word will be used to describe you.i think you are not considering the op feelings.it will be heart breaking going through the process you have mentioned.Like someone said,her choice will determine her future.i pray she makes the right one.

sirabbey:
By all means ask him, because if you don't, you will never be able to trust him again and nothing destroys marriage faster than distrust.

When you ask him and it is confirmed he cheated on you, leave him and quit the relationship because not only did he not love you enough, he disrespect you.

Moreso you can't change him and he may not change either when you're married.

On the flip side, when you ask him and he deny ownership of the used condoms and you're fully convinced and persuaded he is telling you the whole truth (don't indulge in self deceit here) then you can go ahead with the marital plan as there is nothing to fear.

Marriage is too crucial to start it on a shaky foundation.

Save yourself future regrets/tears, do it right now.

So true,avoid future regrets

Jackeeh:
hmmmmmmm reading through comments uploaded before mine I can't help but wonder: everyone now feel cheating is cool. Men are polygamous in nature, condoms might be used for other reasons( like fetching water), quit snooping around,we are mortals, it must have been used by his friend, don't get him angry when confronting him etc. Why can't men and women strive to be faithful to their partners and quit justifying their evil acts? Being faithful is not impossible. it may be difficult but its attainable. And should you slip and cheat, please don't be smart about it. being defensive and cooking up reasons for cheating ain't cool. when you cheat on your partner, you destroy him or her. if you are caught and instead of being sorry, u feel on top of the world, you reduce your partner to nothing. cheating isn't cool in anyway. be with a partner who makes ur heart beat fast each time u set eyes on him or her. don't settle for less, or money, sex, good looks etc

Gbam!God bless you jare!

Dragonking:
Women are the real cause of marital problems but they will never accept this..Check every dispute in a family, the woman is the major cause of the quarrel. I know of a woman that slaps the husband regularly, just because the man dey form i will not beat her until she slapped him in the public. Thats when he knew that enough was enough..the man waited until they got home and dealt with her big time..since then, she respected herself.

am not in support of men beating their wives unjustly but women should also not frustrate the man to do it.

Fallacy of hasty generalization

LadyX:
Who administers corrective medicine to you when you're wrong?

Good question!it is his type that a woman will use everything within her to subdue and tame him...

anonym0us:
Came back home my wife left the kids outside to gossip with her useless sister that came from Ibadan guess what I did?



she's in the hospital now right now in coma

Just that?I thought you wanted to say she is in the mortuary?abeg park well!

Mzflexydeeva:
birthday is 15th, tomorrow. Thanks all d same.

Birthday gal,i hope you are having a wonderful day.wishing you all the best in life.God's blessings all the way...

talk2odim:
On the contrary I only gave u what u asked for. U need to peruse my comment cos u seem to misunderstand me....I mentioned I only ask for full names if I add people on bbm. Re affirm

okay

talk2odim:
Duke

you are doing the same thing.you are asking for the full name but mentioning just your first name

adewumiopeyemi:
hunnn. happy val..GUYS...

wishing u d same

obyno10ten:
Thanks for giving me the luxury of making a choice but hope U will agree with my choice to tee?

go ahead...lets see

obyno10ten:
Which Val gift will make u shout "WOW"

A LAPTOP!

obyno10ten:
Am not taking "Us" bt U to............. mk a choice. (somewhere serene n romantic)

Lol...nah,you make the choice

read all,liked all and can't wait for mine.Future husband,wherever you are...hurry!

illicit:
well maybe next one, can i include you as well?

You didnt answer the question,about the including,am guessing you mean the fun?no,thanks

illicit:
nice, its a beautiful morning here, hows urs coming

its going fine.hope you have planned a wonderful day for u&missy?

illicit:
Tnks mzflexydeeva, wishing u smiles
hi chubbypearl

hi illicit

cacali:
Hi am Caca. Am 40 and feeling so ancient here.

Lol@ancient.@40?abeg oooo.like someone said,40 is the new 20

Mzflexydeeva:
awwwww! That's so thoughtful. Thanks I really appreciate. Wats been happening with u? Any gist? Seems it's just me & u left here so let's keep it flowing.

please tell me you have something fun planned for today coz you are going to have fun for two.