seseannie:
Tnx 4 all ur responses I spoke with him n [b]he said he left a friend in his house n went to eat n that must have been when the condoms were used[\b]. He said he knew nothing abt the condoms. he. Has been swearing n begging me to believe him. To be candid I don't really know. What to believe

boofydon:
LMAO. Your bf no sabi lie. Its impossible for him not to have been aware his friend needed his room to f.uck.
My friends always tell me when they want to use my room to have sex in order to ensure no disturbance.

Just follow your mind

Jackeeh:
hmmmmmmm reading through comments uploaded before mine I can't help but wonder: everyone now feel cheating is cool. Men are polygamous in nature, condoms might be used for other reasons( like fetching water), quit snooping around,we are mortals, it must have been used by his friend, don't get him angry when confronting him etc. Why can't men and women strive to be faithful to their partners and quit justifying their evil acts? Being faithful is not impossible. it may be difficult but its attainable. And should you slip and cheat, please don't be smart about it. being defensive and cooking up reasons for cheating ain't cool. when you cheat on your partner, you destroy him or her. if you are caught and instead of being sorry, u feel on top of the world, you reduce your partner to nothing. cheating isn't cool in anyway. be with a partner who makes ur heart beat fast each time u set eyes on him or her. don't settle for less, or money, sex, good looks etc

braine:


She should run to where? Will you date her or marry her? Abi you want her to remain single forever? Na wah for you sha

seseannie:
Tnx 4 all ur responses I spoke with him n he said he left a friend in his house n went to eat n that must have been when the condoms were used. He said he knew nothing abt the condoms. he. Has been swearing n begging me to believe him. To be candid I don't really know. What to believe

pwerrymansion:
funny enough she won't remain single 4 life, a better suitor will come sweep her off her feet. If you don't move out from that your assumed comfort zone, u might not see the better opportunity that is out there!

seseannie:
Tnx for all ur responses. @ Chaicover he lives alone. He has gone to watch arsenal match I will ask when he returns

boofydon:
LMAO. Your bf no sabi lie. Its impossible for him not to have been aware his friend needed his room to f.uck.
My friends always tell me when they want to use my room to have sex in order to ensure no disturbance.

Just follow your mind

pwerrymansion:
what do u expect the boyfriend to say? It was me? Pls enough said on this topic cos the OP knows what to do

sirabbey:
By all means ask him, because if you don't, you will never be able to trust him again and nothing destroys marriage faster than distrust.

When you ask him and it is confirmed he cheated on you, leave him and quit the relationship because not only did he not love you enough, he disrespect you.

Moreso you can't change him and he may not change either when you're married.

On the flip side, when you ask him and he deny ownership of the used condoms and you're fully convinced and persuaded he is telling you the whole truth (don't indulge in self deceit here) then you can go ahead with the marital plan as there is nothing to fear.

Marriage is too crucial to start it on a shaky foundation.

Save yourself future regrets/tears, do it right now.

seseannie:
Pls advice me house. I and my boyfriend of 2yrs have fixed a date for our introduction nxt month. And I jst gained admission for my masters programme in another state. I travelled on sunday so that I can start the registration process only for me to come back today n see two used condoms in a nylon inside d kitchen. So many things running in my mind now. I am thinking of quietly quitting the relationship or should I confront him?

InZA:


Take the used condom to the laboratory, let them take a swab from the linings of the condom, there should be enough left for DNA analysis. Tell him to provide a sample of his own sperm, "stash" it in a sterile container and take it with you to the laboratory, tell them to do a matching DNA analysis... Your marriage or introduction should be kept pending until the results are released.

I have a personal principle which many may see as too rigid or even maybe to the low thinking ones, as being hypocritical and the principle is this-if I would hold myself to a stern sense of personal integrity and fidelity, I demand absolutely nothing less than that from anybody that I'm going to be spending the rest of my life with and so for me personally, I wouldn't even go through the "stress" of doing the laboratory tests I suggested, because for me "A suspected cheat is a cheat,". The fact that a girl could even remotely create grounds for me to doubt or question her fidelity to me, is enough reason for me to call it quits but since, by seeking our collective opinions here, it shows that you're more diplomatic than rigidly objective - I think you should go do that laboratory test.

You should want to get married to someone you can absolutely trust, someone that you are sure is committed to you and you alone, and trust me, the actions of your boyfriend have not fed such assertions. He says it was his friend that used the condoms- lies from the Toronto University. Is this the first time his friend is using his house, why was it the period you travelled that his friend chose to come use his house, why was it the time he had to go eat that his friend came to use his house.

And for all the previous comments here suggesting that guys are polygamous in nature, or 99 percent of guys cheat and all other shiity and trashy comments of similar nature - una dey craze!!!. If you have been used to having friends that synonymize the nature of randy dogs and goats, you should know that in the "animal kingdom" there are different breeds/species of animals.

sexymoma:
Egbami ontop say person see condom for person house.. if person come see the woman wey person bleep nko.. wetin person go do

InZA:




If only what ?

sucess001:


@ OP...keep running...till you discover you are a marathon runner...


introduction wont change your guy to a saint...


even married people sleep around...maturity is in you gently nudging him back to faithfulness..


forget these sick comments here...guys freaking cheat all the time...its the person dt is caught thats made to look bad...however...its now your responsibility to make him realise his home is with you. you do that by overlooking some of his indiscretions...

He ll realise his folly with time...


but you could listen to these guys and girls firing u up to go against the guy....just remember to ask them to provide you another guy who isn't capable of cheating...else ur loneliness wont be cured by reading comments on NL o...

pwerrymansion:
. if only I can have 2.

InZA:


Take the used condom to the laboratory, let them take a swab from the linings of the condom, there should be enough left for DNA analysis. Tell him to provide a sample of his own sperm, "stash" it in a sterile container and take it with you to the laboratory, tell them to do a matching DNA analysis... Your marriage or introduction should be kept pending until the results are released.

I have a personal principle which many may see as too rigid or even maybe to the low thinking ones, as being hypocritical and the principle is this-if I would hold myself to a stern sense of personal integrity and fidelity, I demand absolutely nothing less than that from anybody that I'm going to be spending the rest of my life with and so for me personally, I wouldn't even go through the "stress" of doing the laboratory tests I suggested, because for me "A suspected cheat is a cheat,". The fact that a girl could even remotely create grounds for me to doubt or question her fidelity to me, is enough reason for me to call it quits but since, by seeking our collective opinions here, it shows that you're more diplomatic than rigidly objective - I think you should go do that laboratory test.

You should want to get married to someone you can absolutely trust, someone that you are sure is committed to you and you alone, and trust me, the actions of your boyfriend have not fed such assertions. He says it was his friend that used the condoms- lies from the Toronto University. Is this the first time his friend is using his house, why was it the period you travelled that his friend chose to come use his house, why was it the time he had to go eat that his friend came to use his house.

And for all the previous comments here suggesting that guys are polygamous in nature, or 99 percent of guys cheat and all other shiity and trashy comments of similar nature - una dey craze!!!. If you have been used to having friends that synonymize the nature of randy dogs and goats, you should know that in the "animal kingdom" there are different breeds/species of animals.

chubbypearl:
Lol...a laboratory?haba!that is too extreme...and people are saying am too principled.I wonder what word will be used to describe you.i think you are not considering the op feelings.it will be heart breaking going through the process you have mentioned.Like someone said, her choice will determine her future.i pray she makes the right one .

kobonaire:


So your father was cheating all the time too??

Btw, we can all read just fine. Use regular font, it is NL rule #11

InZA:



I pray she does too. The guy has to really do alot to make her trust him[again].

hapyz:
U will b d biggest fool if u quit, bc u will neva find a man dat wil not cheat on u, so my dear go ahead wit ur marriage plans, my hussy slept wit 2 girls on d eve of our marriage they call it bachelor's eve, I stil went ahead wit d marriagee, now I am enjoyinmy marriage wit d best luxury, and my hussy gives me d best of attention a woman needs, so wot am I lookin for again,so dear tik twice bfr makin a deadly mistake dat wil mak u regret, hv it at d back of ur mind dat all men cheats

chubbypearl:
The funny thing is he may not really do much...All he may do is to say some words and she will swallow it all...well,that is what love does when you don't love with your head but of course,its only love when you love with your heart...