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I never knew I would have to post anything personal on nairaland but I deeply feel like sharing this.
I am a graduate in my late 20s. And I got employed in 2017. In 2018 I told my dad my intention to move out and be staying alone so that I would be a bit free. This is because all through my undergraduate years, I went to school from home and couldn't really have male friends around.

My mum was totally against it, but dad was indifferent . Her opinion was that men would play me and not get serious with me.

In July 2018, I moved to my own apartment. Now the problems is, men I meet are either after something else or just want to be eating my food or collecting money from me. The ones that are a sane: have trust issues.

I don't know if men think when a lady is living alone she's not to be trusted or she's a cheat.

In November 2019, late last year, I started dating this guy. And everything seems normal, till he starts snooping around my phone. Atimes he will visit my place without calling, but I will wave it off. I think of it as him just trying to surprise me.

But on the 15th of January this year, he wrote me a very long message on whatsapp telling me how I have been disloyal and dishonest deleting text messages. What sort of nonsense is that? Is it possible for him to see a deleted text message?
I was never even receiving text messages from admirers except on my birthday. Which he didn't even give me anything. I was even the one who transferred money to him to take us out because he had not been paid and was short on cash. He said he couldn't go out since he was short on cash that we should stay at home, but I said it was my birthday and really felt like eating out.
I feel there is nothing bad in helping him out when he is in need and this is how he is paying me back; accusing me falsely, painting me bad when I have not done anything wrong.

He went and hacked my Facebook and was sending me chat history of 2016 and 2017 that had no business with his life. Digging my privacy and lunching accusations as if I had met him in 2017 and 2018.

All my life I had only get to keep a single man at a time unlike most of other ladies around me. I am starting to believe the adage "don't keep all your eggs in one basket". I am thinking putting all my thoughts and hope in a single man while trying to settle down is a mistake.

iLegendd:
It's wrong, but when dealing with a Nigerian scammer, keep all evidence openly available to the world.

Why? He will soon start telling the world we are the ones who scammed him just to spoil our business. Most Nigerians don't like hearing both sides of the story — they pass judgement instantly. What I did isn't professional, but it will save me damages later.

well you maybe right. I pray God will help both parties find a place for peace in their heart

iLegendd:
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I think this is just a case of misunderstanding.
I don't think it's ethnically right to upload a chat between you and your customer

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I don't know what you are going through for real but I am 100 % sure there are people going through worse

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This is so true

ufotty2001:
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Mr OP please don't waste away. Kindly consider joining the priesthood

Our Husband Has Gone Mad Again

It is a pathetic situation when you travel and can't make it home safely.
May God give those who lost people the fortitude to bear the loss

A Short Story : Advising A fool.
I hope you learn something and relate it to the pastor

On a mango tree in a jungle, there lived many birds. They were happy in their small nests. Before the onset of the rainy season, all the animal of the jungle repaired their homes. The birds also made their homes more secure.

Many birds brought twigs and leaves and others wove their nests. “We should also store some food for our children," chirped one of the birds. And they collected food, until they had enough to see them through the rainy season. They kept themselves busy preparing for the tough times.

Soon the rains came. It was followed by thunder and lighting. All the animals and birds stayed in their homes.

It continued raining for many days. One day, a monkey wet in the rain came into the forest. He sat on a branch, shivering with cold, water dripping from its body.

The poor monkey tried his best to get shelter, but in vain. The leaves were not enough to save him from the rains. “Brrr! It is so cold!" said the monkey.

The birds were watching all this. They felt sorry for the monkey but there was little they could do for him. One of them said, “Brother! Our small nests are not enough to give you shelter."

Another bird said, “All of us prepared for the rainy season. If you had, you would not be in this piteous situation."

“How dare you tell me what to do?" said the monkey, growling at the bird. The monkey angrily pounced on the bird’s nest, tore it and threw it on the ground. The bird and her chicks were helpless.

The poor bird thought, “Fools never value good advice. It is better not to advise them

ETWs:
Stupid girl

no one lives forever at the end. Try and be Sympathetic sir

Everyone keeps mentioning regular colors. Atimes it is good to try new and different colors.

OP the curtain you intend to use determines the color you paint your room.

I use pink colored blinds, so I painted my room pink dream. To achieve pink color tell the painter to mix white and red paint

VirginSearcher:
Too early for marriage the year just started

So you don't want us to eat rice abi

herzernIsHere:
Old people

the older the better atimes

Well it's a life of choices but I would always considered a husband and a wife as the ideal family set up tho

Oche211:
Chai...
See day light robbery

something is not right with Nigerian security apparatus.. I wonder if this is what they learn at police college

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Every body thinks they have an opinion when it comes to politics

coolie1780:
the show way dem give him 50milli

you were the one that authorized the 50 million abi?

Eaztzide:
Mad ooo!!!

When will hanty Tonto Dikeh and the rest join her. Lol

lol God call everybody differently

Its part of what is called political tools