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Bro, u are a big weakling. Read my lips and Mark my word, she will cheat again, and this time, it will end in tears. U think it's that easy for her to leave that guy with the high emotional flames already generated? Wat did u do wrong the time she cheated on u? U are the one who caught her, and u are also the one begging the relationship to stay, I can sense ur level of emotional desperation. She still loves that guy cos that guy has not offended her in anyway, u are just a break in transmission in their affairs. If she has the courage to do it with him in church of all places, that's goes to show u how much she loves him. She will still cheat on u with dis said guy, and this time, the guy will Bleep her so bad. U just succeeded in teaching her the act of being very careful so as not to be caught next time. U are being highly manipulated, just seek for help.

Are u really sure she is a virgin?
Answer this question and get my advice.

Donbabaj:
I could be happy now but the next minute, she changes mood all of a sudden. We dated for over year after someone match make us but this mood swing things continued overtime so sometimes I get confused even as i really tried managing the pressure. She's a nice girl, takes good care of me, buys clothes, cooks, always wants me to look good but the problem is the rate which she switches mood easily.

Financially, we are both average earner but I think she earns better pay than me.

For instance, recently we got a new apartment - 2bedroom flat but whenever I say something she doesn't like or she doesn't want to hear, she just reacts like why would I say such a thing. All the while we were dating, we never stayed with each other as we stayed in our parents house. Fast forward* most times, as the man, after switching mood, I try to pacify her by petting and apologising but she doesn't just want to listen.

Just today, we were playing with each other on the bed, touching each other (not sensitive part) and she wanted me to kiss her. So I told her jokingly that "but you know this is not biblical" as an advocate of no sex until after marriage. I have never had sex with her either. The next thing she said, "why are you talking like this" she stood up, went straight to the sitting room and slept there. I went to meet her there to pacify her again but she wouldn't listen.

Please note that I have not and can never beat or abuse her cos I'm a Christian.

I'm just tired. She's really getting on my nerves. Our wedding is 3 weeks time but I dont just know what to do. People, friends and family are already aware of the impending marriage but I'm afraid that if a lady can switch mood like this, who knows what will happen tommorrow. I cant sleep in peace...

Please advice. This is happening right now.

was it biblical touching her the way u did which stimulated her to wanting to kiss u? In that aspect u were wrong. Talking about her frequent mood swings, tolerance of such attitude varies with human. There are men that can cope with her just fine irrespective of the mood issue but men who can't cope always take the exit door to avoid stories that touches later in life. U dated her for this long, why are u now confused or getting so uncomfortable at this point. Didn't u know she had this issue wen u made up ur mind and went about telling family members u wanna marry her, or did your eyes just clear? U are ur own problem and not that innocent lady. Infact I don't have any advice for u cos there are men out there who can tolerate her just fine and love her for who she is.

Peace......

Swtbabyvee:
hv u ever outed a secret u promised to keep

never.... In as much as it's called a "SECRET", then it remains a SECRET

Lalissa:
Okay, Omni-seeth and knoweth all things. Believe whatever makes you sleep at night.

well said...

Lalissa:
lol...trust me...the brown roofs ain't even much. Its a lovely place.

lies.... Then it means u are not in Ibadan.

This zone is too cold... Oya

Truth

Millenniumlady:
Yes my roommates boyfriend it wasn't a funny experience i called her to deal with him

was it deliberate?

Henreez:
Good day everyone, this is a life story of my friend.
She has been married for 2 years now, it seems the marriage is crashing. She needs help.

Her husband has suddenly changed, he no longer compliments her, no matter how good she dresses. As we all know, women are carried away by what they hear, they want to hear to compliment especially from who they love.
Her husband has stopped doing that for a long time now, he rarely talks to her for long periods without losing interest in the convo. Even when she prepares his favourite meal, he doesn't compliment her. He just eats and leaves.

She isn't happy in her marriage.

Now here's the problem, the husband's brother comes around from time to time, he seems to be doing all the right things, compliments her even in the presence of her husband. Tells her how beautiful she is, compliments her meals, listens to her and gists for long whenever he comes visiting. As a matter of fact, she is now fond of him and they talk on phone too. She needed company and thought it isn't wrong.

As time went by, they became so used to themselves. Now she thinks it's not proper but she can't stop. Her husband's brother promised to keep her happy until her husband regains his senses, now it's a problem to stop.

He asked her to visit him which she reluctantly did, now the guy is interested in marrying her, he asked her to file for divorce since she isn't happy.

Please help!

one the said visit, did he Bleep ur said friend?
The sincere answer to this question is the Genesis to my advice.

Nigg3369:
other than that how do I stop my 9yrs old cousin from being gay

gay at nine? How can u tell?
Is he exploring his sexuality at that age?

Herodutus:
Please guys and ladies, this is not just another how to stop watching porn kind of thread. there is this experience i have been having over time now. Most times when am watching ponography, i often feel a sharp cut on my skin, as though a person use a blade to cut me. When the cutting happens, i will feel the sharp pain and when i look, the lines will be fresh and redish.
At times, i can feel this cut at 3 different locations at a time. This has happened consistently now. Has anyone ever experienced this before while watching porn?
I think that their are certain spirits that are behind these porn movies. And each time we watch it, we open up our souls to these foul spirits to manipulate us at will.
This happens to me only when am watching porn, and when i look at the location where the sharp pain is coming from, the scar will still be as fresh as...cant explain it.
I need your views on this plz

Thank God u even know, u just said it all... Of a truth, pornography is never a good thing, it's highly demonic.

Norahsthought:
Hey guys, so a little background story. I'm 25, finished school quite early (schooled abroad), and got a good headstart. I am pretty comfortable, I have a good job with a great growth trajectory. So really, I'm focused on my career right now and not particularly interested in starting a family soon.

So here's the real story. I have two male friends who have shown interest in marrying me. They are both doing very well and from equally good backgrounds. I initially wasn't interested in marriage (at least for now) but you know friends and family. I am not in love with any of them or even with anyone at the moment (I am a woman of war lol) but they are both great guys.

So my challenge now that I have decided to be open to marriage is this, how do I choose? Should I even listen to the advice of friends and family to open up to getting married to one of these men or should I just wait till when I feel ready? I need advice and please be nice.

Anytime u are ready to marry, ensure u settle with someone ur heart connects with ( Love ) and not just any available option so u don't regret it later in life.

Small080:
Chai.....
I was calling her but she did not answered..... I make up my mind to touched her so that she can notice my presence.... Na so I hear hot slap o

hahaha..... she was actually Hawking those slaps that very moment...Hot Slaps for sale!!! Hot Slaps for sale!!! and then u called her attention and she actually sold out one very hot one to u...
But Bros, hope u didn't buy more than one...

I actually wanted to laugh ... Thanks so much

UniqueQueen12:
What if i provoked you real bad? Lol

I actual have a strong control over my temper. I will rather avoid u for the moment by walking out on u, that's if u get me so angry, then later play the mind game called the Silent treatment. This may prompt u to later apologise which is the tonic to mood reversal

zyzxx:
you won't hit her and give her the 500k?

That's inflicting pain at a price . To me, that's not cool except we both agree to it, but still, it will be difficult

zyzxx:
can you give your last card to a girl and go hungry?

Nooo.... That's foolishness. Except the said lady is hungry or in desperate need of money to solve a pressing issue, then giving out my last cash, yes, I can.

UniqueQueen12:
Will you slap me for 500k?

I won't even slap u at any cost.
I don't hit ladies for real....

UniqueQueen12:
Oya the question don do

Just beg am make he free u

Am in the mood to say the Truth

UniqueQueen12:
Lol. real hunting

Truthhhh

UniqueQueen12:
Zyzxx I didn't know you are online o

u would hv ran away if u knew
The guy is really hunting u

UniqueQueen12:
Story story

Small080:
Na everything you want to know

Yes oooo... At least make ur boy laugh small

Small080:
CAPITAL YES !
My boss sent me to call a lady for him ... Omg that day slap was hot... Am feeling it right now self

wow!!!! That's serious. Wat actually initiated the hot slap wen all u did was run a mere errand for ur boss?
Or is there more to it? Pls expatiate

UniqueQueen12:
Lol i dey fear o

Fullblast and clevybrown come and defend me na

"Only For The Brave"

It will definitely end that very moment

KamsiViva:
I will quickly highlight the reasons I broke up with him.



*"** he blocks other female friends from viewing his WhatsApp status once u as a female snaps with him.


*** He complains so much about your flaws...

**** He barely communicates with you after sex.

*** He claims to love you but does check up on you... unless he wants something done for him.

*** When u break up with him, he gets angry and tries to put the blame on you...

*** When u tried to reconnect back he doesn't want to talk with you at all and hasn't blocked u...

***When u make your success stories on WhatsApp, he would want to talk to u....

*** He tried dating one of your friend, since she demands too much, he felt u both have a bond more than your friend...

*** He sees a celebrity on TV and says stuffs like she is clean to be given a "head".

****He gets jealous when u talk with other guys but never shows it, unless u both are having an argument.

***He says stuffs like u don't look like a fashionable person...

*** You don't feel stimulated or even feel anything when u both are having sex but yet can't get him off your mind.


***He compares you with his ex...


Are these enough reasons to break up?

This are his own flaws... Outline urs so we can correlate,compare and contrast. I hate one sided judgement

abd09abd:
Irony of life! The girl you are madly in love with is also madly in love with another guy. I have been there and it really hurts. The moment they started seeing someone else is the moment they started picking up fights with you on irrelevant issues.
She doesn't see you attractive anymore. They add more security to their phone. She doesn't want to press or use her phone in your presence so that you don't know who she is talking to. They started deleting their conversations just for you not to see what they are doing with their phones.
Its such a awkward moment and feelings to see your love fading away in the heart of the person you love and there is nothing you can do.
I have woke up in the early hour of 5am in the morning on the day of my birthday only to drove my girlfriend younger brother to Ajah to sign his NYSC payslip and surprisingly my girlfriend was fighting me because I didn't pick her call while driving to Ajah and I spent almost 8hours waiting for his brother to do the payslip things so that we can go back home and have little celebration with my friends and family. During my stay waiting for the brother to get done with his stuff, my girlfriend didn't for a seconds call me to ask how im doing or if I have eaten at all despite the fact that she knew its my birthday. The only moment she chat me up was to ask me for subscription money for her phone. I got back home around 6.30pm that day and my girlfriend didn't care if I have a good day or not. She makes sure I had a bad day despite the fact that I was trying to help her own brother while I was neglecting my bday.
I use to take my girlfriend to Ibadan every Sunday and pick her up every Friday when she was doing her NYSC till she finished, but one fateful day, I left Ibadan around 8pm going back home to ogun state and there was a heavy rainfall on the road that everywhere was so dark and blurry that you will hardly see the road or the cars ahead of you. I almost crash my car and fell into a pitfall by the highway but God was there to protect me. I was shaking like a little baby. I had to call my girlfriend and informed her of my ordeal and what I encounter at that same spot but surprisingly, the next morning when I was expecting the first call on my phone to be from my girlfriend, opposite was the case. I was still the one that picked up my phone to call her again and greet her despite that fact, she didn't do as if I told her anything the previous night.
My brothers girls can be funny and so frustrating. Devil is living inside some of them but they are just pretending to be nice. God created every woman to be of bad deed but once they do good deed its their mistake and not the real them. They are created to be evil. We just need to be watchful and prayerful.

Are u still dating her?

Small080:
True

Have u ever been slapped by a girl or lady? If yes, in a short narration, tell u wat happened.

Shugavee:
Nonsense!! Men stop cheating

That's not humanly possible. It's an act that has being right from time immemorial. Am not saying it's a good thing, but it's one evil that has always and will always dwell among men.

nedekid:
Also with such haircut. Can you see the similarity to that of indaboski?

LadyGCrueDKilaB:
It's a medley of some of my previous, now-deactivated NL monikers
LadyGoddiva
KillaBeauty
Cruelladevil
pronounce it as you like

Those names sounds horror.