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Fulaman198:
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Freemanan:
Welcome.... More hate... Go on....

damiso:
Made jollof rice for everyone so before I tuck in and chop two full plates I sharply made my own jollof quinoa

Really fallen off the wagon so much this week from chocolate cake to pizza to ice cream was not to much sha let me console myself

Quinoa mixed into Stir fried diced peppers and chicken breasts

olola4:
It started around February,this woman happens to be a colleague at work but is 3year old marriage broke(with 2 kids)and her husband who I know as a very aggressive man (on the day he came to visit his wife at the office, I think he came to give her something he almost slap the security officer who was asking him what he came to do) sent the wife out of the house.After the husband have sent the wife away the only option the wife(my colleague at work) have is to move to the residence of her elder sister who happened to be my own neighbour in the same flat.

At first the only thing I do is to drop her children at school and carry her along to the office, later since am still single and am the only one leaving in my flat except sometimes when my fiancee or my younger brother come spend some days/weeks in my place, she started coming to my flat to watch film,she said her sister didnt subscribe and she is missing her favourite T.V. programs and opera, later she started watching film over night and now she is now leaving in my flat with the excuse that her sister's husband send her packing.

The problem now is that my fiancee cant come over to my place, i have to always lie to her that am not at home, and the woman herself is seducing me by wearing tight inside the house, also am the one to buy everything including foodstuffs and provisions even toothpaste.

The day I sat her down and told her that am not comfortable with her staying with me she was crying and when her one year old daughter saw her crying she also started crying and also she brings visitors which I hate,this will make me be like a stranger in my house.

pls fellow nairalander i need your advice.

Stillfire:
Nigeria is patriarchal and all these occur, so I don't get your point.
How do you explain a case like Nigeria, that is evidently so patriarchal, ruled by Nigerian men since independence and totally being destroyed by men at the moment? If anything Nigerian Patriarchy is destroying itself (to my pleasure of course) since it has been unable to curb its excesses and create a better place for women and children.
At least your African forefathers despite the society being patrilineal had the foresight of putting up structures that did not silence the voice of the African woman, but since the colonialists came in from a region that regarded womanhood as disfigured images of men, you men gladly helped them destroy these female structures. Even the colonialists have abandoned these demeaning ideals and their societies are better than yours. So how has this Nigeria's demonic patriarchy benefited our society?

This surely doesn't look like men who have gone 'soft', lmao.

Many men – including fathers – bear the burden of an inherited historical arrogance and superiority over women. I see it everyday when I watch a man say sexist remarks at an ordinary woman going about her business or on social media. And, of course, I see it in myself. We can't just come to terms with the fact that a woman can employ you, pay you, serve you a querry, or sack you when she wants.

Lmao. At least you are being honest here that women have now been empowered, it is left for you as men to learn how to adapt to the empowered woman.

mentorandfriend:
Whether uncultured, or the nascent trend of acculturation problem, the fault is clearly with fathers who have become soft, or worse even... silent in raising the kids, in taking their place as authorities in the home; as mothers become super mums and shoulder it all. The dangerous teenage boys who rule the hood, kill and maim without conscience is clearly a fault that should be led at the feet of weak and/or silent fathers.
That was the point of the post.

mentorandfriend:
I agree with you that there's nothing wrong in a man cooking and washing plates. But there is this recent trend of aculturation of our cherished traditional values; a situation where the woman sees it not as a favour, but as a duty of the man to share kitchen cores with her equally, since they're in it together. One sad drawback of equality in the home.

I frown at it same way I will frown at a man who sees it not as a favour, but as the responsibilty of the woman to contribute more money to running the household, to be the breadwinner of the home. Both are misnomers.

francizy:
Hehehehe, I don't really care whether she does it in that 7 star hotel in Dubai or inside an empty cesspit, cheating is cheating..

all4naija:
I disagree with you. You probably haven't seen worse in p o r n.

francizy:
Does doing it in a hotel room make it less abominable?

all4naija:
Sorry that I have to say this. It looks like plate for pets. Above all, I really like your food.

damiso:
Why naa?

The beef kebab & fettuccini Alfredo looks yum.

all4naija:
I knew it before I saw it! You are the best cook on Nairaland yet! I can easily eat your food without worrying about any belly trouble later.

GeneralShepherd:
Yesterday, I had a conversation with my friends about using physical force to correct kids.

I was not really surprise that many of my friends were corrected with physical force when they were younger. However, I was shocked that many said they will use physical force (gentle spanking) to correct their kids.

This is very troublesome because we have tried physical force and quite frankly it doesn't work. The level of crime and social injustice in Nigeria suggests that corporal punishment is ineffective.

Yes you get immediate results as a parent,however you are teaching your child that it is okay to express their displeasure and frustrations with physical force.

It has been proven by the research that it unbalances the child's emotions. This makes the child fear higher powers and have total disregard for those under him or her.

This clearly shows itself in the way Nigerians relate with their superiors and subordinates at work.

I personally have never hit my dogs and I have three. Why I should then hit my kid?

Madness is doing the same thing and expecting different results. Let's stop correcting Nigerian children with physical force.

Cc Lalastica Ishilove

Chidoks:
After marriage is sweeter joor. at this point you are the center of his plans.life is not about partying and clubbing or even 'fast fooding' there is much joy in the guy seeking your opinion on how to invest, how to dress, how much to spend on feeding, what car to buy, how to manage his assets.there is nothing as sweet as he saying 'we' when he's discussing about most private issues of his life with you instead of the former 'I'

CFCfan:

I'll be shocked if she did anal with that man