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LordVoldermort:
Aside from Lola how many Yoruba girls do you know are married to igbo boys

Yoruba hypocrites carefully preserving their own pure blood while bastardizing the blood of others

Your assertions are not true. Many of your Ibo brothers in Lagos are busy sleeping with Yoruba girls but when it comes to marriage ,they run to pick a wife from the east.

nanaman:
I was informed that they don't attend to cases without referral. That is, you have to present your case via email, call or in person. After proper information gathering, it would then be assigned to a social worker for necessary intervention and casework. That's where he can come in. Let's see how it goes from here. Report today, please.

You can get the address, email and phone number on the doc attached. NO 14

I have sent an email to DSRVT

[quote author=ProtectMyMoney post=85092677][/quote]She cannot think straight, suffers PTSD and maybe concussion.I dont think the family can handle this.she needs professionals because she had endured this for 7 years.

[quote author=ProtectMyMoney post=85092677][/quote]She cannot think straight, suffers PTSD and maybe concussion.I dont think the family can handle this.

Pavore9:
Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team (DSVRT) is an organisation under Lagos state Government committed to ensuring total eradication of Sexual and Gender Based Violence in the State. I think this government agency would be of a help, so get in touch with them.

Thanks

nanaman:
Ministry of Social Welfare.. You can drop your email or any contact you are comfortable with. I'd fwd to a social worker who will get in touch asap.

Thank you very much

A sister’s life is in danger as we speak and she is still living with a Psychopathic husband who starves,beat,demoralise her.He takes money from her and she cant stop giving him money inorder to have peace.

The Children are starved and emotionally traumatized and they are getting aggressive .The husband seizes her phone sometimes.

The Sister is a shadow of herself(Skeleton) ,she cut herself now but hides it from her
Family.She always run back to her abusive husband because of the children.

The Sister’s in a matter of life and death situation.She needs a place to stay temporarily pending when she sorts herself.

1.What can be done to prosecute the husband,
2.a place to rehabilitate her and make her bounce back to life again?

RoyalRoy

9. They Lack Basic Social Skills
Maybe the most jarring and easily noticeable part of a psychopath's behavior is their lack of basic social skills, as noted in the aforementioned Psychology Today article.

Regardless of situation, your spouse should not need reminders on how to treat you or other people with the basics of human kindness, fairness, or respect.

Psychopaths often lack empathy, and therefore don't understand these very basic skills. If your spouse consistently has to be reminded of these things, you should consider looking deeper into your partner's behavior with a medical professional.

https://www.romper.com/p/9-signs-youre-married-to-a-psychopath-so-you-know-what-to-look-out-for-36138

5. They Have A Grandiose Sense Of Self Worth
A grandiose sense of self worth is one of many items on Ronson's checklist in The Psychopath Test.

Because psychopaths think they're better than everyone else around them, they tend to highlight their own accomplishments, stories, and assets, constantly. Is your partner constantly showing off their enormous ego?

Taking control of every conversation and shifting it back to them? Obsessed with themselves and their looks? All could be signs pointing toward psychopathy.


6. They Are Chronically Bored
In an interview with Reader's Digest, psychologist Dr. Randall Salekin said that psychopaths are hardwired to be more under-aroused than other people. "A psychopath’s nervous system is wired so they need to keep doing exciting things to feel normal and reach normal levels of arousal," he said. Salekin added that this means that psychopaths are the most likely to initiate fun-oriented activities for you to do, in an attempt to cure their ever-present boredom.

7. Their Psychopathic Behavior Is A Pattern
Dr. Robert Schug, a neurocriminologist and clinical psychologist specializing in the biology and psychology of the criminal mind, told Reader's Digest that while it's regular for people to get swept up in occasional moments of road rage, or extreme fantasy, that this behavior is a pattern for psychopaths. “[With a psychopath], these are things happening over and over again,”

Schug said. “It’s a personality disorder. The personality manifests at work, at school, with family, with friends, when they’re young, when they’re a teenager, when they’re an adult.” A one-off isn't enough to categorize your spouse as a psychopath, but if you find yourself facing the same irrational and negative behavior over and over again, you may want to consider digging deeper into your spouse's behavior with a medical professional.

8. They Have Questionable Morals

According to the aforementioned Psychology Today article, psychopaths enjoy degrading, humiliating, dominating, damaging, and belittling others. Deceit and manipulation are high on the common traits for a psychopath to have. All of these traits and habits point to questionable morals. If your spouse enjoys partaking in any of these things, you may have a problem on your hands

5. They Have A Grandiose Sense Of Self Worth
A grandiose sense of self worth is one of many items on Ronson's checklist in The Psychopath Test.

Because psychopaths think they're better than everyone else around them, they tend to highlight their own accomplishments, stories, and assets, constantly. Is your partner constantly showing off their enormous ego?

Taking control of every conversation and shifting it back to them? Obsessed with themselves and their looks? All could be signs pointing toward psychopathy.


6. They Are Chronically Bored
In an interview with Reader's Digest, psychologist Dr. Randall Salekin said that psychopaths are hardwired to be more under-aroused than other people. "A psychopath’s nervous system is wired so they need to keep doing exciting things to feel normal and reach normal levels of arousal," he said. Salekin added that this means that psychopaths are the most likely to initiate fun-oriented activities for you to do, in an attempt to cure their ever-present boredom.

7. Their Psychopathic Behavior Is A Pattern
Dr. Robert Schug, a neurocriminologist and clinical psychologist specializing in the biology and psychology of the criminal mind, told Reader's Digest that while it's regular for people to get swept up in occasional moments of road rage, or extreme fantasy, that this behavior is a pattern for psychopaths. “[With a psychopath], these are things happening over and over again,”

Schug said. “It’s a personality disorder. The personality manifests at work, at school, with family, with friends, when they’re young, when they’re a teenager, when they’re an adult.” A one-off isn't enough to categorize your spouse as a psychopath, but if you find yourself facing the same irrational and negative behavior over and over again, you may want to consider digging deeper into your spouse's behavior with a medical professional.

8. They Have Questionable Morals

According to the aforementioned Psychology Today article, psychopaths enjoy degrading, humiliating, dominating, damaging, and belittling others. Deceit and manipulation are high on the common traits for a psychopath to have. All of these traits and habits point to questionable morals. If your spouse enjoys partaking in any of these things, you may have a problem on your hands

1. They Had Early Behavioral Problems
According to a Huffington Post piece by Jon Ronson, author of The Psychopath Test, a record of bullying, and altogether bad childhood behavior is an early warning sign psychopathic behavior.

"Psychopaths are very good at hiding their psychopathy beneath a veneer of normalcy," Ronson wrote, which is why early childhood behavior can be such an important indicator. "It’s harder to hide a hoodlum childhood." If your partner was a troubled child, you may be looking at a child that grew up into a psychopath.

2. They Never Takes The Blame For Anything

Externalizing blame is common among psychopaths, according to Psychology Today. If your spouse refuses to take the blame for anything in your relationship or lives, they repeatedly attempt to wiggle out of blame with deception or jokes, or they blame your emotional sensitivity for whatever happened, you could be dealing with a psychopath. Any way to lessen their responsibility for the act is a go-to move for psychopaths.

3. They Engage In Promiscuous Sexual Activity

According to Reader's Digest, a University of London study showed that psychopaths were associated more with promiscuity and not commitment. For psychopaths, sex is not about the other person involved, but about themselves, and their ego. Ronson wrote for The Huffington Post that the consensus among neurologists is that psychopaths lack the proper functions in the part of the brain that produces the signals of remorse, and fear, and distress. This in turn lets them behave in atrocious ways without feeling guilt or worry about it.

4. They Are Hypersensitive About Themselves
Though most psychopaths can fling blame and negativity in your direction, the aforementioned Psychology Today article noted that they can rarely take it themselves. If your partner flies off the handle when anyone criticizes, looks down on, or challenges them, it may be because they're a psychopath. Though this behavior is also common in people who are insecure, for psychopaths, this has everything to do with their own vision of their superiority.

9 Signs You're Married To A Psychopath, So You Know What To Look Out For

When entering into a marriage, nobody thinks they're marrying a psychopath. If you've been with someone for long period of time, you think you know their best and worst qualities.

But sometimes you end up marrying someone and their worst qualities don't come through until after the "I do." But if you have suspicions about your partner's behavior, there are some signs you're married to a psychopath that you might not have recognized them at the beginning of your relationship, but can be on the lookout for going forward.

Robert Hare, author of Without Conscience: The Disturbing World of the Psychopaths Among Us, and emeritus professor of psychology at the University of British Columbia, told Reader's Digest that there are two million psychopaths in the United States, and he considers that a conservative estimate. Though it's easy to label someone who's wronged you a "psychopath" because of their behavior, discerning the difference between an actual psychopath and someone who's just severely unpleasant can be tricky.

If you truly think you may be married to a psychopath, remember that a spouse exhibiting a few of these signs doesn't qualify them as a psychopath, and that an actual diagnosis can only be made by a medical professional. That being said, recognizing the following behaviors in your spouse can be the first step in revealing whether or not you're married to a psychopath.

A narcissistic personality disorder causes problems in many areas of life, such as relationships, work, school or financial affairs. People with narcissistic personality disorder may be generally unhappy and disappointed when they're not given the special favors or admiration they believe they deserve. They may find their relationships unfulfilling, and others may not enjoy being around them.

Treatment for narcissistic personality disorder centers around talk therapy (psychotherapy).

Symptoms
Signs and symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder and the severity of symptoms vary. People with the disorder can:

Have an exaggerated sense of self-importance

Have a sense of entitlement and require constant, excessive admiration

Expect to be recognized as superior even without achievements that warrant it

Exaggerate achievements and talents

Be preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate
Believe they are superior and can only associate with equally special people

Monopolize conversations and belittle or look down on people they perceive as inferior.

Expect special favors and unquestioning compliance with their expectations.

Take advantage of others to get what they want
Have an inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others

Be envious of others and believe others envy them

Behave in an arrogant or haughty manner, coming across as conceited, boastful and pretentious

Insist on having the best of everything — for instance, the best car or office

At the same time, people with narcissistic personality disorder have trouble handling anything they perceive as criticism, and they can:

Become impatient or angry when they don't receive special treatment

Have significant interpersonal problems and easily feel slighted

React with rage or contempt and try to belittle the other person to make themselves appear superior

Have difficulty regulating emotions and behavior

Experience major problems dealing with stress and adapting to change

Feel depressed and moody because they fall short of perfection

Have secret feelings of insecurity, shame, vulnerability and humiliation

When to see a doctor

People with narcissistic personality disorder may not want to think that anything could be wrong, so they may be unlikely to seek treatment.

If they do seek treatment, it's more likely to be for symptoms of depression, drug or alcohol use, or another mental health problem. But perceived insults to self-esteem may make it difficult to accept and follow through with treatment.

If you recognize aspects of your personality that are common to narcissistic personality disorder or you're feeling overwhelmed by sadness, consider reaching out to a trusted doctor or mental health provider. Getting the right treatment can help make your life more rewarding and enjoyable.

Causes
It's not known what causes narcissistic personality disorder. As with personality development and with other mental health disorders, the cause of narcissistic personality disorder is likely complex. Narcissistic personality disorder may be linked to:

Environment ― mismatches in parent-child relationships with either excessive adoration or excessive criticism that is poorly attuned to the child's experience

Genetics ― inherited characteristics
Neurobiology — the connection between the brain and behavior and thinking

Risk factors
Narcissistic personality disorder affects more males than females, and it often begins in the teens or early adulthood. Keep in mind that, although some children may show traits of narcissism, this may simply be typical of their age and doesn't mean they'll go on to develop narcissistic personality disorder.

Although the cause of narcissistic personality disorder isn't known, some researchers think that in biologically vulnerable children, parenting styles that are overprotective or neglectful may have an impact. Genetics and neurobiology also may play a role in development of narcissistic personality disorder.

Complications
Complications of narcissistic personality disorder, and other conditions that can occur along with it, can include:

Relationship difficulties
Problems at work or school
Depression and anxiety
Physical health problems
Drug or alcohol misuse
Suicidal thoughts or behavior

Prevention
Because the cause of narcissistic personality disorder is unknown, there's no known way to prevent the condition. However, it may help to:

Get treatment as soon as possible for childhood mental health problems

Participate in family therapy to learn healthy ways to communicate or to cope with conflicts or emotional distress

Attend parenting classes and seek guidance from therapists or social workers if needed.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20366662

Zenzu01:
StarBoy no just get joy oo

where Tiwa and Davido dey speak grammar,, Wizkid just chook Ogun for the Mara

Wizkid knows Ogun na their real god wey them fear and nothing else.

It's judgment time" according to The Economist's The World in 2020
The annual standalone special launches this week, featuring future-gazing articles from The Economist's editorial team and a wide range of global contributors

LONDON, Nov. 21, 2019 /PRNewswire/ -- The World in 2020, the annual publication from The Economist, predicts that 2020 will be a testing year ahead, citing decisions to be made in the US election and Brexit, concerns over a faltering world economy and worries about nuclear proliferation. But there will be many events to celebrate such as large global sports events in Japan and Australia and exploration on Mars.

Now in its 34th year, The World in 2020 will be available within The Economist app, and online on Thursday, November 21st and on newsstands on Friday, November 22nd. The magazine can also be purchased at The Economist Store at shop.economist.com

Twelve themes emerged out of this year's publication:

It's judgment time. That's doubly true for President Donald Trump: first in Congress with the Democrats' drive to remove him from office (the Republican-controlled Senate will save him), then in a febrile election in November. It will be ugly; the artificial intelligence we consulted reckons Mr Trump will lose. Britons, meanwhile, probably will get a chance to pass judgment on Boris Johnson.

Economies wrestle with negativity. Banks, especially in Europe, will battle with negative interest rates. America will flirt with recession—but don't be surprised if disaster fails to strike, and markets revive.

China highlights positivity. It will claim to have met its target of achieving "moderate prosperity" by 2020. Other countries will have to work out how to position themselves, in trade and technology, between a Chinese sphere of influence and an American one.

Sport has a jumbo year. The Tokyo Olympics will draw a huge global audience. The Euro 2020 football championship will be spread across 12 countries. Cricket hopes for a smashing success in Australia with the t20 World Cup—and in England with a new, even shorter version of the game called The Hundred.

Worries about nukes proliferate. The five-yearly review of the Nuclear Non-Proliferation Treaty will be a fraught affair, 75 years after the bombing of Hiroshima and Nagasaki. Fears of a new arms race will grow as nuclear arms-control agreements fray.

Sustainability is all the rage. At least, talking about it is. In Kunming countries will discuss biodiversity. In Glasgow they will make pledges on carbon emissions. Business leaders will vow to support sustainable capitalism—as long as shareholders let them.

The Gulf welcomes the world. Dubai hopes its World Expo will have a lasting impact. More awkward, Saudi Arabia hosts the g20 summit.

Multiple missions head to Mars. America, Europe, China and the uae all plan missions.
Tech has both highs and lows. The highs include flying taxis, electric supercars and personalised medicine; the lows involve tech giants bracing themselves for more regulation, taxation and critical scrutiny. Instagram will find itself in the spotlight of controversy in this American-election cycle.

Big anniversaries resonate, especially Beethoven's 250th. It's also 500 years since Raphael's death, 400 since the Mayflower sailed to America, 300 since the South Sea Bubble burst, 200 since the birth of Florence Nightingale (the World Health Organisation has designated 2020 the Year of the Nurse), 100 since Prohibition, 75 since the founding of the UN and—while their fans gently weep—50 years since the Beatles broke up.

A torrent of entertainment comes on stream. Television's streaming wars intensify, as streaming opens new vistas for gamers, too. But James Bond fans will head to old-fashioned cinemas for the 25th film in the franchise. And a new national museum in Cairo will show that physical presence still matters.

It's the decade of…the "yold", or the young old, as sprightly baby-boomers hit 65. For the first time, the world will have more people aged over 30 than under.

The 2020s promise to be a bad decade for African dynasties, a disruptive one for countries facing separatist pressures and an exciting one for plant geneticists, who in ten years' time aim to be drawing down carbon dioxide from the atmosphere at a global scale.

"The start of a new decade prompts bigger-than-usual thoughts about the future" and the year ahead "will not be short of drama," says Daniel Franklin, Editor of The World in 2020, who after 17 years is stepping down to focus on his role as Diplomatic Editor. From next year Tom Standage will take over from Franklin, working on the annual issue alongside his current role as Deputy Editor of The Economist.

The magazine, which will hit a circulation of one million this year, sits alongside The Economist's other annual supplement, The World If.., and under an editorial umbrella for the future-gazing franchise, The World Ahead. It's complemented by a podcast of the same name, The World Ahead, a monthly series examining an assortment of what-if conjectures and provocative prophecies. It's available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google, Stitcher and TuneIn.

The World in 2020 is specific, numerate and opinionated: full of predictions, and an exciting read. The Economist's writers are joined by leaders from business, politics, science and the arts who also add their ideas for 2020: Robert F. Smith, investor and philanthropist; Juan Guaidó, interim president of Venezuela; David Malpass, president of the World Bank; Ren Zhengfei, founder and CEO of Huawei; Jim O'Neill, chair, Chatham House; Demis Hassabis, CEO, Google DeepMind; Guido Barilla, chairman of Barilla Group; Jane Sun, CEO of Ctrip; Adena Friedman, president and CEO, Nasdaq; Joanne Chory, professor of plant biology, Salk Institute; N'Goné Fall, curator, "Afrique 2020"; Iván Fischer, conductor.

It is this mix of contributors that makes The World in 2020 uniquely authoritative in its predictions of trends and events—and that has won the publication a loyal and growing readership around the world.

https://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/its-judgment-time-according-to-the-economists-the-world-in-2020-300962898.html

AlwaysUltraPad:
Though, Trupm's impeachment might be overturned by the republican-controlled Senate, but I think this guy here had many posts that directly or indirectly pointed to the truncation of his administration(even if it's for a moment). I think that's the closest anyone has gone to seeing Trump's current political battle.

Usually, after any political event of this nature, we ask if any pastor foresaw that in their new year prophecies.

Now, can we call this nairalander, caseless, a prophet?

He is not a prophet of any sort,the simpsons cartoon predicted Trump’s impeachment before he won the presidency.The guy only follows current trends
Trump might suffer the same fate as George Washington by resigning as American president.

shogsman:
Sadly they are, they wanted to dial down the case

They should visit his house for more evidences.

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Front page please

davidflipcy5856:
More pictures

They should visit his house for more evidences.

shogsman:
The matter is far beyond that.he has been nailed already and he has confessed.

It doesnot work like that in a court of law.He can claim duress for making the confession or insanity but with overwhelming evidence he will not go scotfree.

davidflipcy5856:
The church is on fire right now and police are shooting people

These mob are fools ,why are they destroying the evidences to nail the pastor in a court of law.Nigerians are always responding to stimuli with anger and no clear thinking.

Hi Everyone,
Can anyone recommend a trainning centre for IT (programming,software development,application development,web designing etc)?
a) How much are the fees?
b) What is the duration of the programme?
c) What are the job prospects in Abuja and Ibadan environs or internationally?

Thanks

SocialJustice:
Yeah I get but these days women want so much more. It is no longer about protection and providing for offsprings but living to be better than their neighbour no matter what it cost.

I guess the social media contributed to that with the small girl, big God syndrome, Yahoo boys, celebrities etc
In Nigerian society ,everyone is trying to show off because of religious messages.The poor and pious is not respected but the rich,lousy is hailed and worshipped in our society no matter his source of income.

SocialJustice:
Men are born he-goats and I wasn't blaming women just stating fact. Every girl wants to get paid for sex. Even when they pretend to be decent, no girl will Bleep you for free in modern day Nigeria. She might fool you by not collecting money initially but eventually you'll pay and if you don't have money, your relationship is heading for the rocks.

The female by nature needs a protector,a man with means who can take care of her and offsprings to survive plus attention from a man.

It is not gold digging it is nature.Just like men loves to have sex because of the need to plant his seeds/multiply.

SocialJustice:
L
Well in the end, almost every girl out there is a hooker. We just have to settle for the one we're most compatible with.

Hookers exist because men keep patronisizing them.The customer of a hooker is the male gender not ghosts.

The men who sleeps around and prostitutes are both hookers.The society only blames the women as if it doesnot take two to tango.

In Sweden ,the men patronisizing prostitutes are arrested if caught on the street. So the Johns do it coded.

vpnwqyw95:
I stopped taking feminist seriously when I met my landlords wife. Outside she is a feminist and women advocate fighting for women world wide, but inside house she be like foreign furniture them they couple her every day.
Updated: nor be say landlord dey beat am oh. But she submissive dieeeee!

Feminists are no different from MGTOW men .
They fail to realise men were created for women and vice versa the two can never do without each other till eternity.Thats how nature made it.

Kennedyiheme:
all this problems for women but they are the ones always rushing men for marriage

In the Nigerian society ,the woman is incomplete without a crown(husband) and children.

DenreleDave:
1. She bears the name of her husband.. Switching from miss or Mrs. Hence, she earns the respect

2. Financial opportunities. The man go feed her feed her family

3. Protection

4. Women wants children to surround them.. They need a man sperm for that..

5. They get sex anytime they want, not anytime the man wants... Rubbish

Disadvantages of marriage for women

1. The men demand sex whenever they want and think they own the woman’s body.

2. Women get saggy breast and flabby tummy after childbirth.What of the pregnancy period and ceasarean section in some cases?

3. The children bears the man’s name alone.In some countries ,children bear both the mother and father’s surname.

4. She endures sleepless nights trying to raise the children.

5. She does house chores coupled with her job.

6. The husband’s family take her as their slave and she is blamed for what her husband does to his family.(money)

7. The woman is expected to follow the husband’s decision whether good or bad(submissiveness).

8. The man uses the woman to multiply his seeds on earth.The man is the gardener, baby is the plant and the woman being the incubator continue to nourish the plant till maturity.

9 . She is meant to endure cheating or 2nd wife from her husband as well as domestic abuse in some cases.

10. In case of a cheating husband ,she will partake in his infections and stds.

11. Incase of infertility,the woman is blamed and shamed for not having children ontime even when the man is the culprit.


Marriage is meant to unite a family unit and help the children grow up in a stable and happy environment to attain emotional,Psychological etc wellbeing and stability in their lives.

Children from single parenting always have a need for the missing figure in their lives.

RichDad1:
Because it’s a Yoruba fraternity.

It is not a Yoruba fraternity ,Nnamdi AZikwe,Rochas okorocha are ibos but belong to the group.Members come from all walks of life in Nigeria.

Some of the prominent Nigerians he listed as members of the Ogboni fraternity are Archdeacon T.A J. Ogunbiyi, Sir Adeyemo Alakija, Sir Adetokunbo Ademola, Chief Oladeinde Lawson, the late Archbishop Vining, Reverend David Mellor, Nnamdi Azikiwe, the Sardauna, Ahmadu Bello, and Chief Samuel Ladoke Akintola.

gypsey:
Why was she owing Them 4 months salaries? And even had the Mouth to call them black pigs?


Very Ugly woman now her black pig's husband and ugly children can enjoy having no mother and husband.

She had no right to owe them 4 months wages.

How will the woman(likely a housewife) owe him 4 months salary if he is an estate worker.?One family doesnot live in an estate.His salary should come from all occupants of the estate not one family.

The killer could have called her white trash or white pig too.

Plebian:
I'd advise on the underlying health issues, stop all medications, change your diet from acidic to completely Akaline, drink spring water only (gossy) consume Akaline fruits, get herbs rich in iron like.
Sarsaparilla
Irish moss
Bladderwack
Burdock
Nettle
Chaparral
There's a legit page on Facebook "fast on herb (SA)" they are in southafrica but it can be shipped down, nature is the only way to heal your body. Peace.

Are you a listener of Dr Sebi vidoes?