₦airaland Forum

Its not a sign of affluence or respect,
Rather it underscores the traditional extended family settings of
The average Nigerian family inspite of Western influence.
Its not unusual in most families to see a father,mother,children,
Father's & Mother's brothers & sisters including grandpa & ma.
Your topic is just a fallout of our family system and upbringing,
That tends to want to carry everybody along.
Though with youngsters of these days I wonder if ego does not play a part.
Blessed evening.

Its not a sign of affluence or respect,
Rather it underscores the traditional extended family settings of
The average Nigerian family inspite of Western influence.
Its not unuaual in most families to see a father,mother,children,
Father's & Mother's brother& sisters including grandpa & ma.
Your topic is just a fallout of our family system and upbringing,
That tends to want to carry everybody along.
Though with youngsters of these days I wonder if ego does not play a part.
Blessed evening.

We, Africans,ourselves are not helping matters.
When are we going to see the establishment of mechanisms
to entrench political relevance for Africa in the scheme of things?
Take for instance,Nigeria,as a case study.
It is on record that Nigeria has made over 600billionUSD from the
50s to date,England to the best of my knowledge,stand to be corrected,
has no drillable oil.
The oil located in the North Sea with logistics and overhead cost of
Drilling from such a location practically prohibitive!
What edge has our oil given us over those who have none and are
Obviously in great demand for the product? None is the answer!
Africans themselves need to wake up,go back to the drawing board
To see where we started derailing after our independence.
By the time we get our acts right,with resources at our disposal,
who go born monkey to call us "mid" talkless of "sub"!!
For now,the "sub" show must go on!!

Op after reading all the posts, I'm of the opinion that,
actually,you've got all you would ever need in the way of
advice on your issue. Regard this as an addendum.
Much as I don't support co-habitation I will
not be a co-signatory to consign them to the gallows as it were!!
Let he that is without sin cast the first stone.
You would do well to sift through the advice and follow.
Mynd44's is noteworthy as well esp the part about cessation of Intimacy.
Blessed evening.

Bros sorry,its just a manner of speaking I've been used to
Over ages. No harm meant though,sorry if it sounded that way.
Take care.

From your results,you have bilirubin and urobilinogen 2+
Protein 1+,pus cells 6-10 amongst others clearly pointing to
Liver malfunction and infection.
You can re-run the test to be doubly sure.
A doctor will guide you on treatment options.
Take care.

Op,your test results are pointing towards Liver problem.
You should go to a hospital and see a doctor for further
Consultation.
Blessed day.

Personally,I would say the world has been ushered into an unprecedented era
with the invention of recyclables and disposables.
Almost everything in the world is now viewed as disposable including
,and unfortunately,
Humans!
How sad!
This use and dispose mentality has eaten so deep into the fabric of
most minds that any attempt at compromise by pple in a relationship in order
to make it work is seen as weakness.(After all, you can dispose of the person!)

May God help this generation.

I agree with mashnino that its not a Nigerian thing at all.
It has to do with individuals and their varying mindsets.
You may need to be a little clearer on what the problem really is.
Blessed day.

Sending mixed messages is,to a large extent,dishonesty.
Its rather tempting to say it only shows insecurity.
But the truth is dishonesty.
The person sending mixed msgs knows that their partner
is being kept in a constant state of flux.
Never really knowing what to do to please the
other person.
So,yes,dishonesty is it!
Its more in males than in females,because of the
male chauvinism factor.
In females, sending mixed msgs
is more common in those who have been traumatized in
relationships or tutored in relationship matters by
other traumatized females.

You need to find out about other PLWHAs(people living with hiv/aids)
and follow on from there religiously.Find out what tips they've adopted to
remain strong and healthy.Find out even things that may seem mundane such as
Their love life and how they cope. Your hormones are still going to
be working.So,yes,find love if you must,a PLWHA lady came on
the dating section sometime ago,check past threads.
Many have lived with this ailment for many years and with
No retrovirals,but that solely depends on the level of your immunity.
Yes,a cousin of mine has lived with this ailment for upwards of
11years in fact since 2000. He's still alive on no retrovirals!
You likely have access to retrovirals so don't worry.You'll pull through.
Continue your work or school or whatever you are doing now as normal.
Its definitely not the end of the world.
Check the front page,I read of a scientist who's close to getting a cure,
So hang on. Don't despair.
Cheers.

[quote author=190][color=red]1. Tell your partner you love them.
Although it’s true that actions speak louder than words, words often speak more clearly than actions. Take a moment every now and then to verbalize your feelings for your partner. A simple “I love you” or “You mean the world to me” can go a long way towards making your significant other feel wanted, cared for, and secure in your relationship.
2. Show some affection.
Small acts of physical intimacy – the hand on the small of the back as you brush by in the hallway, your arm around their shoulder on the sofa, your hand on their thigh when seated side-by-side, holding hands while walking down the street – give your partner a warm feeling and convey the love and affection you feel for them. The littlest touch can be as important, or even more important, than the longest night of sexual intimacy.
3. Show appreciation for your partner.
Let your partner know on a regular basis what it is that you like most about them – what you admire, what makes you proud, what their strengths are in your eyes. Building a romantic relationship isn’t jsut about the initial bonding – it’s about encouraging and supporting each other’s growth over the course of your lives. Help your partner achieve his or her potential by constantly building them up.
4. Share yourself.
Don’t keep your likes and dislikes, dreams and fears, achievements and mistakes, or anything else to yourself. If it’s important to you, share it with your partner. More than that, be sure to share more with your partner than you do with anyone else. While there is certainly a need for some personal space in even the closest relationship, give as much of yourself and your time as you can bear to your partner.
5. Be there for your partner.
It’s obvious what you need to do when your partner faces a major life challenge like the loss of a job or the death of a loved one. But it’s just as important to be supportive when your partner faces life’s little challenges, too – an argument at work, a rough commute, a misplaced check. Don’t let yourself be a doormat, and definitely don’t stand for physical or verbal abuse, but thicken your skin a little and be the voice of calm and reason when chaos strikes. Listen to what’s bothering them and offer whatever help – even if it’s just sympathy – you can.
6. Give gifts.
Take advantages of opportunities to give material tokens of your love. Just the right book picked up at the bookstore, a special dessert, a piece of jewelry or clothing you noticed at the store – anything small or large that tells them you were thinking of them. Leave a love note for them, or send them an SMS at work to “I love you” – again, the little reminder that they’re always on your mind will help your partner feel better about themselves and secure in your relationship.
7. Respond gracefully to your partner’s demands and shortcomings.
A big killer of relationships is unreasonable expectations. Unless you married a robot, your partner comes pre-loaded with a whole range of human failures and foibles. These are features, not bugs! Learn to recognize and appreciate your partner’s quirks for what they are: an essential part of who they are as people. Since our weaknesses are often at the core of our deepest insecurities, make sure you don’t pick on or otherwise go out of your way to highlight your partner’s flaws.
8. Make "alone time" a priority.
No matter how busy both of your lives are, make sure you commit at least an evening every week or two to be alone together. Have new experiences, share your stories, and just generally enjoy each other’s company.
9. Take nothing for granted.
Cultivate a daily sense of gratitude for your partner and the thousands of little blessings he or she has brought into your life. Remember that, if you’re happy in your relationship, your partner is doing a thousand little things for you every day to make your relationship work (as, hopefully, you are for them). Never take that for granted – a relationship is work of the highest order, and the second you stop it starts to slide away.
10. Strive for equality.
Make sure you follow the Golden Rule in your relationship: do unto your partner as you would have done unto you. Strive for a fair division of household duties and other tasks, and don’t expect or demand special considerations you’d be unwilling to offer in return.

So on point.Sound bite.

Thank you for this piece.
Reflective and so on point,well thought out.
The very essence of human nature is reflection,
If we don't think, we stink literally!
No good product was ever achieved without reflection(thinking), including bathing soap!!!!
Thank you again, Well done.

And for the record,some of those plastic jobs are not
for cosmetic purposes only,but reconstructive as well.
Prolly after a bout with cancer or some other debilitating ailment.
If truth be told,most men of this generation have become insatiable in
Their demand for the so-called 'succulent' girls and some have
Even gone a step further to make it a top priority on their marriage criteria list!
Which girl no like marriage?! As Mercy Chinwo,winner of Nigerian Idol sang during the show,
"If you marry Mercy Chinwo God go bless you!"
When men have learnt to look for succulent girls with reckless abandon,women
have also learnt to make themselves look succulent with reckless abandon!!!!
The thing that beats my imagination is that after struggling to marry the
so called succulent girls,they leave them at home and chase the flat-chested ones
they looked down on initially!!!!!!!!
Men should go and learn contentment from God their creator.
You rarely see women complaining about their(the men) potbellies or bad breath or ugly faces,
I thank God for men who are understanding anyway and respect themselves.

Its either she lacks respect for you or she doesn't love you as
much as you love her.
Prolly,she's on a more sound footing economically and you are not as buoyant,that
May contribute to the lack of respect,
Or the 2nd option of loving you less,which is good because men usually
experience a reduction in their feelings over time,compared to women.
Anyway,I'm concerned because a typical woman would be practically squeezing
out declarations of love from the man,whether she loves him more or loves him less!
Spend more time with her,you'll unravel the truth of the situation.
All the best.

My dear,God bless you o jare!
Let him try the next entrance,this one is not available!
Later,some people will have the guts to say men only go after looks!
And some even start threads to that effect!!!!
By what nomenclature are we supposed to categorize this brazen display of
Avarice?!!!!
Please,this Patrick Obahiagbonism is precipitated by the reminiscence of
a plethora of misguided fallacies!!!!!!!!!!!
Op bless you jare! You do well!

Op,all you need do is,
Shed off some or most of the branches,after you've moved in,
that would significantly reduce the population.
And eventually reduce the nuisance they cause.
You could hire 1 or 2 hands for the task
or do it yourself.
With time,anyway,you'll hardly notice their presence,cos they would be fewer.
Remember though that trees provide shade and
Are an important part of ecosystem ecological balance,
For another thing,they help to make the environment airy.
So its not totally a disadvantage.

^^On point.Sound bite.

So on point. Sound bite.

^^On point.Sound bite.

This is quite unfortunate,
She's possesive and a control freak to boot!
At this time you are job-seeking,the last thing you need is
To isolate yourself, as she is suggesting, from possible sources of
info about vacancies and openings,
Which friends may prolly hear and get you informed about.
I know staying without a lady is not easy for most guys,
But, at the same time,you need your emotions in one piece to do
real job search,not on a roller-coaster!!
Besides,repeated series of infections is not good news for anyone who
Plans to have any business with kids later on. Get checked yourself.
I hope you are able to put your acts together and show her the door
Before its too late.
Blessed evening.

Op,I hope you have only good intentions in mind and nothing else.
Anyway,a little subtlety wouldn't be out of place.
I suggest you start by making little gifts for her,something she'll
Appreciate.
You know her better than I do,or playfully ask one day what she likes.
Without a word,you'll be showing her you care about her,gradually,one day,
she will notice.
After you notice she is now responsive to your advances,you can
Invite her to go to the cinemas or any other hotspot available in your area.
Don't rush her so she doesn't run into her shell.
But then again,I hope you have good intentions for her.
Blessed day.

Personally,I wouldn't advise anyone to kiss anyone that has a cough,
Including their spouse!!!(What if its TB?!!!) Someone has to be alive to take care of our kids you know!
That said,op don't feel bad,we are brought up in different ways
Some families everybody uses one sponge,one towel,not that they can't afford to have individually,
but because they feel it shows unity,therefore such an individual from such a background may have no qualms about things like a cough.
Sorry for the trouble this has caused though.
She'll come back when her anger subsides.

Mtcheww
Mtcheww
*walks to another sensible thread*

Hi. I beg to differ on some of your points.
First off,your topic should have been why do MOST women love money so much,since you already
Acknowledged in the 2nd line or thereabout that 25% are not money conscious.
2ndly,what makes you feel that women would not know that a car could be
Obtained by loan? Please,is there an official secrecy act on car hire,car loan,and things like that?!
Prolly they are obviously enthralled by the fact that if he could buy a new ride
Either by loan or full cash payment,he definitely is deemed creditworthy in the financial circles,
Another wrong assertion is that men only care about looks!!!!
How so dead wrong thwt is!!!! Look below you at some of the related threads,are
Those not guys looking for SUGAR MUMMIES? I bet they are looking for
Them to compliment them on how gorgeously old they look,abi?!!!!!!!
In short,your thread is filled with too many hasty generalizations that
I want to stop here,but I could go on.
I want to say that its better to go after those who show interest in you,
And leave those squarely alone who don't,so you don't have lamentations like these ones.
There are good,simple girls all over the place who are not looking for mmoney.
And need a good guy in their life. Not all girls like to be with a bad guy.
What's the fun in potential heartbreak,if you ask me.
Blessed evening.

The color of your teeth shouldn't be more worrisome to a guy than
The state of your finances.because you are ultimately going to be responsible to
A family.
I know a guy with the same color of teeth,though his is due to antibiotic injection
As a child.
He's very rich,married to a beautiful lady and has 4 kids!
All a guy has to be is presentable,clever and hardworking
If your problem is due to personal hygiene,I suggest you work on that,
Other likely affected areas would be your dress and grooming,
These could go a long way to either attract or repel a lady.
Visit a dental clinic for plaque removal which contributes to bad breath.
Don't worry,Mrs Right will come
All the best.

One sentence only:
Better to eat vegetables along with happiness than a fattened cow along with trouble.

The essence of this write-up is to distinguish the wife material from the naughty woman.
Spreading legs,riding in car,spending his money are things both the wife material and naughty woman can do,
But that is where the similarity ends!
All the super-abundant qualities attributed in the write-up to the wife material are sorely lacking in the naughty woman.
In conclusion,if you see any one with these qualities,wife her.
That is the essence of this write-up.
Blessed day.

The very essence of that write-up is not in any way to classify all women as bitches,
Rather it distinguishes,sets apart the finer,all encompassing qualities of the ultimate wife material
As opposed to a naughty woman.
To make issues clearer,a naughty woman is said to ride in a man's car,spread her legs for the man,spend his money et al,
Now a wife material may do the same things basically.
But what sets them apart is the fact that the naughty woman can't help the man achieve anything like a wife material can,
Naughty woman can not push him to be successful like a wife material can,
Naughty woman is only a leech,that falls off when she has sucked the last drop of his blood!,
Wife material showers him with positive energy as opposed to naughty woman who depletes his emotional reserve
By constantly keeping him on his toes running around to please her,
Wife material sticks with him through June-July!Naughty woman runs away at the first sign of rain,
Wife material complements him,naughty woman is rude and sarcastic and always throws unnecessary challenges his way,
In summary,the wife material possesses an abundance of superior intrinsic qualities which are sorely lacking in the naughty woman.
So the writer is saying,if you see any lady with these admirable qualities,wife her.
That is the essence of this write-up.
Blessed evening.

Op,Masturbation is not equal to fornication,
Neither is fornication equal to masturbation.
If we analyze them on religious rather than secular terms it becomes clearer,
Though masturbation is not expressly referred to in the Bible,
It does come under the umbrella of a group of sins termed uncleanness,
Whereas fornication is a gross sin.
Its therefore a form of sexual uncleanness.
So,even if he's not fornicating actively,he's still practising a form
Of sexual uncleanness.
Besides,masturbation more often than not becomes a psychological obsession,and hinders
The formation of healthy relationship.
In future,epidemiological research can be done on healthy volunteers to find out the correlation between masturbation and
Homosexuality/lesbianism.
In ancient Israel,Moses day,if a man had an emission of semen as is common in masturbation,
He was declared unclean,and appropriate sanctions placed on him till he was declared fit again
By the priest.
Blessed evening.

Op,thanks for this,
Simple yet profound,
Well thought out,beautifully expressed,laid back in gold,
Carefully crafted in nothing but the truth.
Thank you,well done.