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Lima98:
okk but it's a muslim that I have so I think is not possible

yes sir/ma

Lima98:
what religion are you I have someone for you

I am a Christian

Another new advantage I have now is that I am just admitted into u.i to have my masters this session.it can be an avenue to meet some nice good replacement

Samantha123:
That girl you've mentioned doesn't exist.. so you might as well make peace with being single for the rest of your life.

i am not here to be fighting you.I have seen young girls and married woman exhibiting these effortlessly so it is not a big deal.so if you can’t do those things as a person...no need to attack it.

excanny:
To get a good girl, you have to seek her in all possible ways and be prepared to date as many as possible.

On street, parks, from friends, blind dates, social media, etc, changing your environment, etc.

Have a set standard and don’t hesitate to flush off any lady you meet that doesn’t fit into what your want.

excellent piece sir.

Samantha123:
What is a good girl according to you?

A good girl is a girl that would give her man total respect irregardless of anything.A good girl is open,transparent and knows how to set right boundaries with other men outside her man.A good girl is well-mannered,very contented,not money-centric.A good girl value her man’s inputs.she honour her man time to time and give respect to opinions and advice of her man.A good girl doesn’t double-date,lie or cunny and deceptive.A good value her man and prays for him.A good girl manages anything her man put down.The list is endless

Joniww:
you are weak bro.

Forget about those your simp ideology and be a realistic person.stop deceiving yourself.you think I am weak ? I smile I am not weak at all.I know the reason why I brought this talk to this public arena.

phemmyfour:
Are you a good man? You attract who you are

Honestly I swear ...I am a good man with good heart

Peterrio:
I would advise that you overlook those bad habits of hers, overpamper and pet her a lot, then one day talk to her in a cool voice just before going to sleep

State the things you don't like and tell her to try and stop, that you love her and you want the marriage to work

Thanks sir

Peterrio:
Good ladies are usually good friends with other good ladies

It's highly unlikely that you'll find them in a particular place

They're scattered in church, school, etc

Thank you sir

frozen70:
When next she threatens to leave the dare her that she should leave

You are married and living with someone who doesn't ha e respect for you

What are you still doing with her

Return her to her parents then start thinking of how to breath fresh air

when i met this young girl,she was homely and well reserved and she loved me then.I told all my pastors about 9 pastors to help me prayed on her with about six names to make the total names I gave to them be 7 girls.All the pastors prayed on it and they all singled out this girl that is the lord’s choice. Her parent also prayed too on their side by given my name with other 5 names to their pastors and they all prayed and their pastors singled me out that I am the lord’s choice for their daughter.And this is what further made us to get married and we got married in 2020 after we did introduction by 2019 august.All through the time we were dating i love the girl and the girl loved me too and the girl has been good and faithful to me.But i ran into a discovery about my wife then why we were on the road.when we wanted to start the relationship i asked her a question that is she in a relationship currently at that time and she said she was not into any and that the one she was b4 went into water.ok I accepted to her.But one day she was sick and I was away I then called her to know her health condition and one guy picked her call and I was shocked and asked her who was he? And he said he was his boyfriend and I said boyfriend but she never told me she was in any relationship when i met her but out of my genuine love to my wife I just told the guy to not attack her becos she was still ill.Then later when she was totally ok.I sat her down and asked her who was that guy and why couldn’t she tell me the truth then.she then begged me and said she had broken up with him at that time i met her and it was her own friend that advised her not to tell me about it.And when I did my background check I saw that she was not with that guy again because she caught him having sex with her junior.But the guy kept pestering her and begging.Then later on her sister and mother called me that they really want to see me then and it was from there I further confirmed that my wife just finished dating that guy then b4 she broke up with her after she discovered his sexcapade with other younger girls.what do i want to bring out from this narration is dawned on not being totally sincere with me. I caught her there.Another area i caught her lying was when i returned from traveling and saw a new phone in my wife hand then and when i asked her she told me her dad bought it for her but i knew soonest they truth would be revealed.in the course of our relationship then I got to discovered that the old guy that she had broken up with bought her the phone then and her aunty later advised her to return the phone back when it was obvious she would marry me when the spiritual findings of their pastors came out,i overheard her aunty telling her on phone.And when i confronted her she later lied that she didn’t tell me that her father got her the phone.she said the guy gave her the phone as part of his begging to come back.That is lie no 2 I forgave her cos of my love and warned her but the guy was pained that he was unable to sleep with her when they were courting then because my wife was telling him then to wait till their wedding night because i read their long time chat they had on Facebook why they were together then.So when we eventually married...going forward i saw my wife randomly chatting guys with whom they went to secondary school with and some guys that once toasted her and i told her to stop that when she is now married.Even her pastor called her and warned her to never anything to do with those old guys again when she is now married.But one day i just checked my wife contact and I saw a particular number she saved with *Gabriel my first mistake* I was curious what that could mean.And my wife telling me she never had sex with anyone in all her previous relationship but she said she is not a virgin because one incident that happened to her while she was growing up in the north where one old man raped her when they sent her to buy bread by her parent.I didn’t believe the narrative but the same thing she told our church pastor when they asked us during one private discussion point with them.But i stumbled on one book where I saw where she wrote *my first husband Gabriel and put two numbers but I tried to call those numbers but they were not active.Then I remembered one day we were driving out together and we saw one guy and I was talk about him and my wife said she knew him very well.it was there my wife made mention of his senior brother whose name was Bro Gabriel,she said they were in the church quoir and the brother use to called her *his children mother and she use to called the brother *her children father* she told me they took themselves as husband and wife already but one day when she visited the brother the brother told her my children mother let step this thing up by having intercourse but my wife said she just stylishly find a wise way to dogdge it by telling the brother that she is coming to do the act with him he should just wait for her to tell her sister waiting to receive sth outside then she would then come in to do the thing with him.she said she has to use that wiseness because she can’t abuse or struggle with him cos the guy can do anything with her.if that is true or not I can’t say but I am looking at the meaning of *my first mistake* that is very symbolic.with that symbol,I believed she slept with that guy hence the reason why she saved his name with *first mistake*.That is another redflag I observed.Then about one week ago my wife was telling me she would change her phone pin and pattern so that those people in her shop won’t be able to swipe her phone start using it to make calls.I said it would be good and do you know my wife changed the pattern of her and she didn’t come to me to show it to me and I was waiting for her to come tell me as being open as it should be being husband and wife.I watched for 8 days and I concluded she deliberately didn’t want to let me know .I was then wondering what she could be hiding from me when she would look my phone from morning till night.But just yesterday I then confronted her and told her I don’t know the kind of wife she is that she would be hiding things from me.Then she exploded and was telling me that she used a pattern I once know.I then said she should show me the pattern and I could see it was a different pattern and I told her baby you use to lie.why is she lieing? I then told her i have some history of her lieing and I started mentioning those lie she lied that she was not in any relationship when she was in one and she just broke up when I came.I then mentioned that I saw a number on her phone that she saved with *Gabriel my first mistake *immediately she heard that ...she kept quite all through* and the next thing was she went to her phone dialed one unsaved number which happened to be Gabriel number though the number is still inactive.I then confronted her when I saw her dialed the number while she is still married to me.That made her to start telling me she is tired of this marriage and she told me I should go and bring my lawyer to divorce and she threatened that she would walk to where nobody know.And she was crying and I felt for her and started begging her again not to sad because of the love I had for her.

Medianna:
Go and ask for forgiveness from the good girls you offended from the past..
Nothing happens just like that..

I have never destroy any good girl.My very first young i loved turned bittered and all effort to change her for better and make the marriage work is just failing

frozen70:
Get one and nurture her the way you want her to be by directing her in a well mannered way

But you have to be prepared and responsible to achieve that

Forget about those crazy girls

They are better of fir dating

If you know what you waefrom a girl interms of behavioral, teach her

If she loves you she will be humble and obeys you by being loyal

If she doesn't love you, she will argue every thing you tells her

I got married to one young 22years for the past two years plus now but she is very untrained for me to my taste becos she always resist all my taste teaching and she loved me when I got her initially.But now she has turned into a very disrespectful girl,very sultry(she can abuse a corpse),she is very unthankful no matter what you did for her.I have provided all good things of life for her yet she doesn’t see me as anything.At any slightest disagreement she would be threatening me to leave and be raining all sorts of abuses and curses on me.And she has a problem sef...her Fallopian tubes are blocked I have been trying to adopt for us and yet she doesn’t value it .prior to discovery of her tubal blockage after hsg test.I had spent over 2mln on her case and my own sperm is good and can impregnate a girl.But i am trying to see if I can see better option for my life.pls help me o

I am very unlucky to have good girls that can make good wife.The one I currently have is so ill-mannered,ungrateful,sultry,snaky and cunny.
Pls I need suggestions of where to find good girls that can be made good wife.Help a frustrated cool headed guy with heart and heart of Gold.

VictorUSA:
Hmm! I didn't date her o. She sent a letter to me requesting we should be friends, from there platonic friendship turned into erotic relationship.

I was desperate to have a gf then coz i was fresh out of secondary school. And i later found better babes.

teach me how to get better babes...I am tired of the ungrateful,sultry,mannerless,low sex drive lady I have

Verovert:
I was able to find such information on the Internet there is a lot about sexuality and you can find a lot of interesting things, I advise you to go and read it.

thanks sir

Starz825:
That's very very bad on her part....but i understand

Let me hint you....

Buy her a gift...make her kind of happy...even though to her she feels like you aren't doing enough maybe financially or sexually..so she is not happy with you...
So just try to make her happy in a language she will understand....
We are all human beings..try to know why she's acting that way...and try to adjust...
Make her happy
Sorry for your present situation...
It can be very very frustrating..I understand..just do as I said
Thanks

There is nothing I have not done for this my wife i opened two shops for her .I funded two trainings for her to become a registered nurse and patent medicine administrator.I have bought a piece of land for her .I bought everything she can ever dream to have yet she always deny me sex .she would say she is not always wet.I am always frustrated

Starz825:
Anyway..your urge is normal....
there are abnormal urges actually...like the frequent urge for porn and masturbation I wrote about.

Yours is normal...

However, it's so wrong for partners to part way for long ..it's not healthy at all....it leaves both partners vulnerable...even your husband is feeling it hard where he is rn

I tell people..... financial frustration is a bit bearable than sexual frustration...(sincerely both experience ain't cool)

if you are frustrated financially...you can find a way through it... get a loan, meet friends and family, you know what I mean, you could rally round for funds....you sure gonna get some help somehow ...

But, you see
When you are sexually frustrated (esp. in a marriage setting) ...you won't able to think straight or do anything else for long...you will just be nagging for no reason..

To cap it : nobody will be able to help you in this mess; not your family, not your homies...
it will be so tiring and since you are married, this will further leave you vulnerable (one of the reasons why people cheat on their spouse)

Infact it's a crazy experience for women even a crazier one for men....

Ok now my advice:

*you will have to talk to your hubby about it ...tell him how you feel...ask about how he feels (he should be feeling hot too)...share your sexual hassle together (Do this regularly)....it makes you feel strong and that you are not alone.

*If your husband is at a location where you can reach him (if you don't mind the distance and the expenses) , try as much as possible to visit him...

*If you are a Christian, you can pray and fast... listen to gospel music regularly...

* Try as much as possible to stay away from any sex videos...it will only add to your already brimmed urge..and that could knock you off..

* Pls don't cheat.... keep holding up...

Good luck and God help you

ok what about me that I and my wife are living together yet she won’t give me sex and I would be sex starved.I always resort to masturbating

Slynation:
Even tho some of this ladies doesn't have sense, I'm of the opinion to be a lady ain't easy, imagine getting DMs from so many guys...

as an intelligent lady you maintain your stance cos all they just want from you is sex and run away.

emekachief:
No bro. Not everyone will settle down with Ashaw0.

Catch them Young is the only winning formula.
Go to your village and marry a young naive secondary school leaver.

That's what I did. I married my woman immediately she finished her ssce.
I'm enjoying my marriage without stress

what of if she get to city and she met some friends that can re-orientate her into bad things and she turn wild?

MrPaul2:
Programming or data analysis is the new oil well.

can you expansiate the more

CUMIN:
Whatever...no be me go marry her. Everybody get his/her skeleton including you and I.

I have banged a lady customer when I was doing Uber.

how did you do that lady customer chief..give me hint

blingxx:
I hardly toast , I don't even know how to do that anymore yet we dey fvck pussy pass those who dey in relationship

how are you doing it dear

nosleep:
When masturbation finish with you bro you go understand please look for a calm lady you will love relationship

true

Jephyard:
Bro at the bold sentence, you have been lied to and also you dont understand how women body work. No woman that have had sex can stay without sex in a month. I repeat no woman can stay without sex within a month except the dick is not readily available highest Nah masturbation. I am stating fact. Before or after their period they are highest at their mood and looking for mate to sleep with. They won't come out tell you this cause they dont want to be seen as being loose or something. Another info women have more sex than men and enjoy sex than men. What men has is initial gra gra.

my wife may not give sex throughout a month and she is not cheating or taking dick anywhere she just has very low sex drive

Majesty33:
My brother, many women are out there just begging for men that will sex them staedily and one person will use it to do shakara.

how I wish I get such to marry

Majesty33:
God bless you so much bro for opening the eyes of many men to the truth. I am currently having an affair with one and she only give me sex when i hang out with her and also give her money but at a time i stop begging for it and i gave her gap and i am currently sorting myself elsehwere. As we speak, havent touched or even asked her for it for a long time and she is begining to feel so so bad. I was thinking of marrying her but when i realised she has that character, i just adjust .

pls adjust o.mine was giving me sex effortless b4 I married her immediately I married her I have not being enjoying her sex like those times I have not married her

EmmyDJourno:
I don’t want to have side chick when I marry, but most married men have said this is the only way to have a happy home…..God Abeggoo

The so called wife would push you to have one

MonsieurX:
While there are elements of truth in what the OP wrote, I disagree with the idea that lack of sex in a marriage means that your wife doesn't love you.

A man must understand his woman well enough, such that sex isn't forced, it just happens. If you pay attention to your wife's emotional needs, talk to her & establish mutual understanding, romance wouldn't be lacking in the home. You have to know how to turn each other on.

Some men believe that working and getting home to tell their wives "honey, spread your legs" is what marriage is about, no! A woman will go the extra mile to please her husband if both of them have a good emotional bond, after all, sexual urge isn't limited to men alone.

Let's stop passing our limited views to others please. It's too much on social media nowadays.

never generally conclude because some women like my wife would even be removing my hand if I want to be cuddling her ,infact she would face the other side of the bed and back me.what about that?

wunmi590:


Nah man wey dey force him wife split bill or no dey take care of him house responsibility him wife go dey deny se everytime

Na lie.some women won’t give you sex and you are doing all you ought to do to her as a husband.A perfect example is that of my wife