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obekediamondfuto:
chaiiiiiiiiiiiiii....

guy why art thou so savage?
your savagery begs for containment!

but only those that know..... actually know that u just opened the cookie jar!

but my oga said we should die the matter, so I concur....

Make una talk naa

Which one is die matter die matter.

kneehighbootz:
send me your email address.

Use this
Egbochinenyemmm@gmail.com

breakerofchains:
You'd be surprised now many women don't want to have kids.Finding one shouldnt be too difficult but hopefully,you are not the average naija guy because for a woman in a society as ours to be bold enough to not want kids,she probably won't subscribe to patriarchal standards like submission and all that. Be ready to be treated as an equal not a Lord. She will be very. different from your regular naija girl. I must commend your honesty too . A breath of fresh air.

Thanks.



Cool

kneehighbootz:
Good morning good people. I know my post might look weird but bear with me

Is anybody looking a roommate, preferably female? You must be female too. I can't comfortably afford rent for an apartment right now so I'm interested in living with someone, preferably female.
Of course, we'll discuss rent splitting and what not. My own stipulation is that the rent must be affordable, the house must be clean, situated in a safe area, good access roads and regular power supply.
And above all, please be a nice and tolerant person. And the house must be located in Benin city

If you fit the above description and you'd like a roommate to live with, please post on this thread. Thank you very much.

P.S: If the mods can move it to the front page, it would be nice.

Hi I got your pm.
Unfortunately i cant access pms

How do we contact each other?

GrabHisBalls:
You are not an anti- naturalist. You're just confused based on what I'm reading here 'cause your reasons for not wanting kids seems more situational than that of an anti-naturalist. What do I mean? If the world was less 'evil' would you have nurtured the idea of having kids? That aside, do you know wealth could make your kids not know there's evil in the world?

Calling people's opinion who wish to have kids for continuity(primogeniture) asinine goes a long way to prove that you're immature. No insult intended.

You talked of immortalizing your name by establishing a company, or having a copyright. Well, there are CEOs who died and their companies died along with them. Secondly, not all books would give you the fame Chinua Achebe and the likes have.

Was only thinking differently.

In as much as you are entitled to your opinion or to think differently, it still doesn't give you the latitude or leeway for undiluted stupidity.


The primogeniture (sic) reason is bunkum by the mere fact that you wouldn't be bothered upon your demise.
So whether your name is maintained then or not is immaterial to a dead man!


Again, I never used the world anti naturalist. I wonder how you ascribed it to me.


ASIDE: Take notice that primogeniture you used is wrong.
Primogeniture refers to the right of or custom where the first or eldest legitimate son is allowed to get the main or all inheritance.

Vyolet:
Hi anti-natalist...
Do you know your reasons for not wanting kids are as asinine as same reason those that want kids present?
An antinatalist would never even think of bringing forth kids not to talk of giving reason as shallow as the world is filled with evil to justify their cause.

You were approbating and reprobating at the same time.
You said an antinatalist wouldn't want to bring kids to the world in the first place"

Did I say I want to bring kids to the world.

I guess this is even the first time you have heard that word "antinatalist"

How many books in that area have you read?

Phenomenal16:
....nwannem nwoke this is quite surprising...... U don't want onochie....wait until your mom hears this

Lol

Phenomenal16:
Are u a Nigerian? I doubt.....

Yes, I am from the East too.

crackhaus:
Didn't you ask people to tell you what they think about it?

If all you can swallow is an applause for your decision, not criticism, you should have put a caveat to that effect on your post.

I wanted views not baloney.

crackhaus:
Firstly, what I think about this is that you're contradicting yourself a lot without even realizing it.

You have made the choice of going against societal norms by not wanting kids, yet somehow you still want a wife which in itself is very much a societal norm.

You're yet to see compelling reasons why you should have kids, but somehow you stated the following reasons as to why you need a wife:

News flash: These are not compelling reasons.
You can do all that and not be married to her.

You made mention of Oprah in a comment above as an example of someone who doesn't have kids. Well hello, she's also not married. Get my point yet?

If you're intent on rebelling against societal expectations, go all out and do that. Picking and choosing is a tad bit hypocritical and counter intuitive.



Your second question about how to find a single woman who has never had kids and is willing to be married without bearing any children from that marriage?
Well, good luck with that.

But allow me offer a tip to make it easier - look specifically for girls with fertility issues that medically prevents them from becoming mothers, or look for divorced women with kid(s) from a previous marriage and no intention of having any more.
The latter option though, will make you a step father, but at least the kid(s) won't bear your name and you can instruct them not to take care of you when you're old since you dont need the help.

Cheers.

You tried but you ended up in the murky waters of obscurantism.

You committed fallacy of false analogy when you assumed that my going against societal norm of NOT WANTING KIDS presupposes that I shouldn't want a wife too.

Now I was stupefied by your statement that I shouldn't pick societal norms to "rebel" against. In other words, I should do what everyone is doing. So if the norm in a particular area is that all young males smoke and get drunk then I should smoke too and get drunk?


Also, you said I can do all I listed with a woman and still not be married to her.

This suggests that having kids consummates marriage.

Have you ever seen Matrimonial Causes Act or the Marriage Act before?


Gosh! This is off putting.

Doleful. Your rejoinder is way non sequitur.


Thanks for stopping by anyway

Named market after his mum. SMH

Mindfulness:
And you wanting to have kids is not for any selfish reasons whatsoever, right?

Mindfulness:
Contumely,
it is your choice. You don't have to justify your decision at all like the ones who contribute to the explosion of the world population do not justify theirs. Do what is right for you. There are women who do not like children, who dread the idea of carrying a pregnancy and delivering children and also women who can't have children for medical reasons. It's just that these women are not free enough to express themselves in a mindless society like this. Be open about your decision and the right person will find her way to you.

Mindfulness:
And you wanting to have kids is not for any selfish reasons whatsoever, right?

When I see smart people I know. lol

The dude is prolly still young and not exposed.

He is not well read too.

Every human act is for a purpose which may be called selfishness if you don't want to be politically correct.

Strictly speaking, my parents did me no favour by giving birth to me. Only people with good IQ can understand this.

Only if he had seen Adam's Smith book "Wealth of Nations".

Nice to have you bro!

blissgregory:
Gudluck on ur searching.Me,i love kids

Nice to hear shaa.

blissgregory:
D probability of finding one is zero

A woman with fertility issues and knows may agree.

Or someone like Nse Ikpe Etim who had to remove her womb as a medical solution.


Again, I have heard few girls say they don't want kids.

babyfaceafrica:
how did you know his dad married his mom
.before he was given birth to?

Leave the dude with no exposure.

What does he know apart from indoctrination?

He even thinks my parents did me a favour by giving birth to me. Gosh!

I can't discuss with such a simpleton.

That's why I ignored him.

greatme2good:
Op how old are you? Your answer I this question will determine what I will tell you.

And your answer now to me will change in 5 years time?

solmusdesigns:



There is this believe that your kids are like a passport for your rebirth or your re-incarnation,, this is why Monarchs and royal houses literarily screens their bloodline, even Adam to Abraham down to Jesus are same bloodline, Prophet Muhammed is also Abraham's Bloodline.

In this simple view i think child bearing and nurturing is important to preserve your DNA for re-entrance of your soul back to the living world from the spirit world. This is why some Europeans create wealth and conglomerate lasting multiple Generation so as to come back to this world and enjoy part of thier labour.

Imagine such myth. Gosh!

And Obama has just 2 girls.
TB Joshua same.

Oprah how many?

khatea:
OP! Ur write up summarises selfishness plus irresponsibility... Ur dad married ur mom to have you without being self centered, ur blood need be tested. #walksaway

I need intelligent responses from smart people.
Unfortunately, you are bereft of all.

blissgregory:
And u tink u will see such a wife??old age neva catch u.Money is nt everytink wen it cums to having somone to care for wen u r old.Raising ur kids is d best tink dat can ever happen to mankind.R u impotent or scared of responsibilities??

Know there is a difference between impotence and infertility.

Impotence is when I can't get the peniis up or sustain it's erection.

.

I can get it up.


As per responsibilities, I doubt if I can make sacrifices required to raise kids because I hate mediocrity. I like A one in all I do. I love the best.

Again, I feel this world is unfair and painful. I don't think I want to bring anyone here.


I feel I may find a woman with such views too.

Logobenz:
We are the same bro.i cannot sacrifice my happiness to make anyone's future better,hence I think I don't want them.
God those little things are work!can't deal.

How do you explain to Nigerians that won't mind their business?

And do you think you will ever regret it?

This is weird. It's strange and outside the societal norms.

But then, I have yet to see compelling reasons why I should have kids especially in this sinful world, nay Nigeria.

The most prominent reason I hear is

"I want someone to bear my name"

This reason to me is asinine.

I mean, what's my business with people bearing my name?
Will it matter upon my demise? Of what benefit or use is that if I die?

I feel If I care so much about immortalizing my name then starting a company like Toyota, Toshiba etc should do that. Or maybe writing books : Achebe, Robert Green etc.. Or establishing a school, hospital etc.


Another reason is "Who will take care of you in old age?"

I feel like this shouldn't be an issue if there is some money somewhere that one could rely on. Money answers all things you know!



I just feel like I need a woman whom I would love, cherish her as my companion, travel the world with her and of course have seex and share our lives together.


I love women. But don't feel like I want kids. Could it be that I feel I may be unable to sacrifice a lot for them?

Or could it because I feel the world is evil with so much pain hence no need bringing kids into the world.


It seems I am an antinatalist you know.


Firstly, What do you think about this?

Secondly, How do I find a woman that has same views?

Cheers!

IamPlato:
Somebody else will give her kids

She has to agree ab initio.

But how do I find someone that will agree?

This is weird. It's strange and outside the societal norms.

But then, I have yet to see compelling reasons why I should have kids especially in this sinful world, nay Nigeria.

The most prominent reason I hear is

"I want someone to bear my name"

This reason to me is asinine.

I mean, what's my business with people bearing my name?
Will it matter upon my demise? Of what benefit or use is that if I die?

I feel If I care so much about immortalizing my name then starting a company like Toyota, Toshiba etc should do that. Or maybe writing books : Achebe, Robert Green etc.. Or establishing a school, hospital etc.


Another reason is "Who will take care of you in old age?"

I feel like this shouldn't be an issue if there is some money somewhere that one could rely on. Money answers all things you know!



I just feel like I need a woman whom I would love, cherish her as my companion, travel the world with her and of course have seex and share our lives together.


I love women. But don't feel like I want kids. Could it be that I feel I may be unable to sacrifice a lot for them?

Or could it because I feel the world is evil with so much pain hence no need bringing kids into the world.


It seems I am an antinatalist you know.


Firstly, What do you think about this?

Secondly, How do I find a woman that has same views?

Cheers!

dark is bae

I wonder why sienna left here and deactivated his account.

He was very smart, versed; knew his onions and even tomatoes.



He was a pundit. Unlike that one gazzuzz abi gazzzuz, who can't hold a candle to him yet arrogant.


I missed him.

Hopefulandlord
Ubunja

God cannot defeat itself in Satan!!

You have tumor cells in your womb or kidney failure; You call it the work of Satan.

Your uncle or aunt prayed for long life, yet he/she died premature, at 29yrs; You call it the work of Satan.

You pray to get married, yet you never did or married a perverted drunkard who makes life hell for you and kills you slowly; You call it the work of Satan.

Another woman is unhappy, she cannot conceive; You call it the work of Satan.

A girl is raped and she got unwanted pregnant; You said it's the work of Satan.

A conceived fetus failed, miscarriage, pain, and curiosity; You said it's the work of Satan.

The same fetus stayed in its mother's womb till 9 months, yet come out a still-born, dead on arrival. Agony for it's mother and the whole family; You call it the work of Satan.

A one-year-old child died, tears; You call it the work of Satan.

A child was born deformed, without both hands; You call it the work of Satan.

A church or school building falls and 23 innocent children, all under 12yrs old died instantly and 18 others severely wounded and traumatized; You call it the handiwork of Satan.

A parent has buried 3 of their own adult children and the 4th is sick. They wished they should die instead than to bury another; You call it the work of Satan.

An accident occurs and a young family of 5 perished in an instant; You call it the handiwork o Satan.

A priest impregnates an underage church member and disappears; You call it the work of Satan.

A pastor/imam dies in a plane crash; You call it the work of Satan.

A religious fanatic/terrorist kills your sister/brother; You call it the work of Satan.

Another religious conman with the Bible/Quran in his hands tricked you, got your money and use it lavishly on himself; You call it the work of Satan.

A bus conveying a religious contingent (prayer warriors) crashed and 15 out of 20 died instantly; You call it the work of Satan.

Another bus carrying convicted prisoners crashed, many died; You call it the work of Satan.

An earthquake happens and 2000 people, including 120 children/babies were buried in their sleep and in their homes at the middle of the night; You called it the handiwork of Satan.

You cannot control your anger, you beat your wife in the presence of your children and both of you landed in the hospital, police involved; You said it's the work of Satan.

Your father fought hard to make money, to be rich, yet he died poor; You call it the work of Satan.

She has struggled all her life to see you grow and become independent, successful and happy. But just months before you could start making money to pay her back, boom - heart attack, your mother died; You said it's the work of Satan.

Your vehicles' tire burst at the middle of nowhere and while waiting you were robbed by a group of a mob; You said is the work of Satan.

Armed robbers attacked and killed your neighbour, you said it's not your potion; It is the work of Satan.

Is there anything SATAN is doing which God/Allah can prevent or stop??

capitalzero:
net pay after loan, cooperative , tax and association deductions

explain more pls

omoadeleye:
So lecturers can earn 59k salary?

is this true?

highered cc

mfm04622:
They are government owned health insurance provider. They are cheap. Health insurance is just 15k per annum. There are many private health insurers. If you have money, go for them instead of NHIS. Nobody should be without health insurance in Nigeria if nowadays.

Name the best.

3 separate unis?

funding nko?