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Goooooooooalllllllll. Thunderous free kick from Iheanacho

We need that cutting edge in the midfield. I miss Moses. The boys are trying though. This is Argentina w'r talking about

Una see wetin Akpeyi don cause us. Shebi Una dey blame Ezenwa

ITV Benin is showing it on Gotv.

jokolo282:
oh my God. see poster i was Having the same issues as yours. then o. life was so hectic and unbearable for me while i was living with my mum. she made me to hate myself and always pick on me over little things. i feel like going away far from her. i kept on praying to God to show me way. now Here I'm living with one of my bro here in Abuja ,living a peaceful and calm life. enjoying and Having fun. and waiting for admission list from from my Uni.my advice for u is that. find a place to stay and leave your parents house

. I understand. Thank you

greatwhite:
Whatever you do bro, don't kill yourself. Time would make history out of all you are going trough. Just focus on your goals. Plan and execute. Soon you would be out of the house. Just hold on. Don't kill yourself.

. That's what I pray 4 bro,it's what I pray for.

Nickie277:
Cool 10 and Azandiogu, I felt just like you yesterday and day before, to make matters worse for me, the people that I'm living with traveled for the weekend and I was left alone in their house, the house felt lonely and strange, I felt I don't belong there, that I don't belong anywhere, I sent a terrible text message to my mom and my dad, accusing them of using my destiny, which I regret immediately, I was feeling that terrible. But I had to draw myself out of that deep, dark place. Told myself it will all be a testimony someday.
Suicide is never a solution to anything, you will only deprive yourself of the chance to be happy in future.
I'm not going to preach the count your blessings thing, but I'm going to say this, no matter how deep you find yourself in depression, only you can bring yourself out. Stop thinking about others for once, ignore people's opinions about you, form your own positive opinion about yourself, at the end of it all, your life is yours, and only yours. God bless.

. Thank u

Warrior07:
I feel for you. But don't be depressed, life's always like that I felt worse few years back but now things are different.

Life is in phases, don't jump ship before completing this phase. Better days ahead.

Email me @gen2lordkay@gmail.com, let's discuss. Pele, it will be well

. I appreciate this. Will keep it in mind.

LordKO:
Like I said earlier on, creating an emotional and physical distance with them will do the magic for you. Meanwhile, you need to become more tolerant and try to eschew conceit.

On the issue of admission, you need to tell yourself the truth that "it's not the early morning bird that catches the day." - this doesn't mean that one shouldn't be gritty, no, it only means that one should always endeavor to put his best effort in whatever he does but still allow nature to take its full cause. More so, remember that if wishes were horses beggars would ride - so, try to master the act of surrender tactics. If the supposed main course of study you long for doesn't come through this time around, consider to go for another course. For one, what you need to succeed in life is thorough education not academics (school) - this doesn't negate the importance of schooling though.

Create your own life path and encrypt it, that's the main secret of happiness.

. Thanks a lot. On the emotional distance thingy,I'm quite good at that but most times it ends up infuriating them the more which boosts up their rants and ticks me off the more. U see the cycle again?. They seem to feed off my attention either positively or negatively. I definitely need to figure out a way to handle that. Thanks again.

Arondizuogu:
I really thought I was getting better. Yesterday and this morning was so overwhelming. I haven't felt like this in months. The strange desire to end it all came again. Currently talking to my counselor. OMG. I never want to feel this way again.

. You even get counsellor sef. Bro just hold on. It's what i'v been advised to do and it's what I'm doing. Hopefully the feelings will subside.

LordKO:
@OP

No matter the situation of things around you stay strong for your family, if not for anything at least for the sake of your late father. Actually, the problem you're passing through has nothing to do with gender per se, but it has everything to do with people of small-mindednes - small-mindedness knows no gender.

Consider to create a physical and emotional distance with them. . . You neither need to alienate them from your life nor become mean or evil towards them, no. Just adopt a conscientious and unorthodox lifestyle, doing this will simply make you a no nonsense guy and happiness will be yours.

Once clear difference between noble small-minded people and noble people is that the always former try to conquer the world without conquering self thereby loving self and hating the world, while the latter always strive to conquer self but not the world and loves the world but without hating self.

I say go the way of the noble people and no nonsense people.

. It's presently the path I'm on but it's not an easy path to stay on. Sometimes when they're ranting and I'm my usual self(quiet and unphased),I feel like I need to say some things to them and on the rare occasions I do,I get into that deep regretful hole again. When I wanna walk away I think it might be insulting but that's even better. They even pick on my words. They're free to say whatever but when I do they say I don't have self control. It's a seemingly endless cycle. They just get to me sometimes. Today was crazy.

shimmer1:
I am ooooo

. Whuph#cleans sweat#. For a minute there I thought I was gonna bear hug a guy. Noted. Thanks again shimmer.

BiggerPRICK1:
Op no kill ursef o...
I no won story that touches the heart....


Be strong and mix up....dont be alone in a room o...

try and look for something doing with good jovial people

. Noted bro

shimmer1:
Aww. I feel like giving you a bear hug right now .

. You actually brought tears to my eyes. That's hard these days. Bring the hug in baby . Hope u a lady though

gsainttrinity:
Op one thing I have observed in my long life on earth is that people always try to bring down anyone who is better than them through words and actions.

Live your life bro. Don't let anyone define what success means.

Because success is definitely not an admission into a University neither is it the acquisition of Billions in your Bank account.

success is what you think it is.

The fact that you have been able to stave off their negativity is enough Big success and you needed to drink and celebrate to it.

Nevertheless as someone up there said.. Never stop working to improve yourself.

The epitome of failure is kill yourself for whatever reason..

. You know I actually thought I was gonna be bashed here but y'all proved me wrong. Thanks man.

coolestofall:
Op she is right. Never give them any reason 2 feel justified abt any negative thought they hv abt u. Prove them wrong by putting all ur efforts 2ward succeeding against all odds.

. I appreciate this.

ashjay001:
No single, happening uncle/guy u can go bunk with?

That home is toxic, u need to get out fast! And, try get a job, or any kind of training(u might need it to support urself, when u rebel). Too much time on ur hands.


Dont fecking kill urself! U've not even had sex!

No one oo. I don't have much friends. The ones I got are pretty much pretenders. Don't be too sure about that sex part though

Beamborla:
The best revenge is to hang on and make a man of yourself. Not just a man, a successful and fulfilled one.

Don't forget, happiness comes from within. Channel all the pain into achieving greatness.

. Thanks a lot.

nuhuanku:

o guy! Just keep on praying God will surely do something good for us.

. Thanks man.

[quote author=shimmer1 post=62351247]Really sorry about your dad. But why do I feel your story is incomplete. Why the hell do they demean you, yell at you and the likes? Okay, they may actually be really terrible people, maybe you should try to stay away for a while, spend like 10% of your time with them, the rest spend it on developing yourself. In that process, you hardly have time to brood over issues and feel bad. They are still your family no matter what.
I hope I helped a Little?[/quote ].





Obviously I couldn't have said the whole story if not I would have mentioned the time I cried every night cursing death for taking him away or the time I almost jumped in front of a moving ceiling fan. It would have been too much notes. As for why they did so,I can't say. Some will say it's cos of the realization of his death but common,I'm the one who had to grow up as a boy without a dad without him teaching me intricate things about teenage and adulthood. That's a lot. That was a long time ago though and God saw me through. They've reduced the derogatory remarks prolly because i'v grown,worked on my voice,confidence,presence and even gained some muscles so they're prolly scared . As for ignoring them,u and I know that ain't really easy. Thanks all the same.

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edrys:
I may not be in your shoes Bro, but know that taking ones life is not the end of life woes. You are also someone's strength and joy, don't bring unending sadness to that person's heart.

. You know, I doubt that. The only reason I'll be missed is because of their own personal gratification(I am an only son and that will make them regret a lot of things due to cultural beliefs). My mum who u'd expect to be by me, sides with them every opportunity she gets even when they're wrong just because they're older. I care so much about others that I begin to wonder where to draw the line and care for myself. I get ur point though. Thanks

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Arondizuogu:
I thought I was getting better. I am not!! I just finished a bottle of NyQuil and I don't want to die. I have already tried suicide with almost same drugs. Oh God!! I'm so done.
I don't know what to do. I seriously thought I was getting better.

. Just hold on. I don't know what the future holds for you but things do get better. I'm also in a deep hole,u'll see if u read my comment above but hold on bro.

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kefasdamil:
best male and female western Africa.
wizkid(male)
tiwa savage(female)

Is wizkid around?

ANTONINEUTRON:
second highest goalscorer turn villian.


Even tho e don reach seven years, For goal wey u miss u deserve ..

. Lol but the way we Nigerians tend to bash ourselves is alarming. I just even realised it's SEVEN YEARS ALREADY yet people still remember that thing like their names. Islam Slimani missed a very similar chance 2 days back against us and I certainly doubt he's being criticized like we do Yakubu. Let's learn to forget certain ill happenings and focus on the positives. Life will definitely get easier that way.

Why's Yul not debating?

I so much love Ezenwa's swag. He'll go places.

Gotv dey show am?

crazygod:
Ehm...... No.... Not by a long shot.... Where u have the likes of Nonso Amadi, Tjan etc Johnny Drills is very creative but not the best singer

. Add Ric Hassani to that list

Damn,na so Abraham take dump naija? No p,we will survive.