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Politics / Re: Buhari’s Punishment For Ballot Snatchers Constitutional, Says Keyamo by cooljuman: 12:56pm On Feb 20
It's festus keyamo on the beat.
Politics / Re: VP Osibanjo Takes Over The Worship Session At RCCG, Ikoyi by cooljuman: 1:37pm On Feb 17
Scam

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Politics / Re: Magnus Abe Celebrating Supreme Court Judgement (Photos) by cooljuman: 5:29pm On Feb 08
anjigirl:
Port Harcourt and their ogbonno politics! You people shouldn’t be in hurry. Jagaban is coming for you once he is done treating Sarakis fucck

Tunda FIA your mouth for their

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Romance / Re: Free Whatsapp XX Group Link by cooljuman: 8:10pm On Feb 06
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Politics / Re: You Lied’ — Amaechi Challenges Peter Obi To Public Debate by cooljuman: 7:47am On Feb 02
If anarchy is looking for a lier to debate with, he should first go and challenge lie Mohammed who is the chief lier of APC, VP osibanjo. Then we will know he's serious to challenge Peter Obi.

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Romance / Re: I Want To Get Married To My Fiance But Her Medical Condition Is Making Me Having by cooljuman: 10:03am On Jan 15
oluwafreshkid:


No pains, no irregular flows, no big stomach.... It's completely asymptomatic. She'll be going for another round of tests before the month runs out

I don't understand, please more explanation for me to understand.
Romance / Re: I Want To Get Married To My Fiance But Her Medical Condition Is Making Me Having by cooljuman: 4:01am On Jan 14
ceeceeuwa:

Take her for another medical examination since she claims to be fine after taking the trado medical treatment.

She don't want to go for further medical examination, she said all she wants is for us to get married, after that she'll be ready for any medical examination. Cos she said that she's ok cos of the herbal drugs.
Romance / Re: I Want To Get Married To My Fiance But Her Medical Condition Is Making Me Having by cooljuman: 8:30am On Jan 13
1Ronaldo:
If you are earning well, pregnancy would never be an issue.
Women with hormonal imbalances and fibroid still get pregnant.
Shey she is seeing her menses, right?
Even if she isn't, there are plenty of treatment for her whenever she wants to have a baby like taking drugs for ovulation induction or just doing IVF...
If you love her, you will marry her..

And please, she should stop taking those herbal concoction....



PS: I am in your shoes ... Almost the same thing. Hers is even a more serious condition with the possibility of her not getting pregnant.
But all things being equal, we are working towards getting a solution ...

Modified: what's her reason for not going for surgery?

Except she gets married she's not going for surgery. To her marriage is an assurance that I'll not leave her no matter the situation. For me I just want to know that everything is OK before marriage, cos marriage comes with its own challenge and adding fertility to it might just be too much for me.
Romance / Re: I Want To Get Married To My Fiance But Her Medical Condition Is Making Me Having by cooljuman: 8:23am On Jan 13
Yohh:

Then if that's d case, u are just unnecessary anxious.
The fact that she was ovulating doesn't give 100% assurance she would pregnant if she has sex besides many think they know their fertile period but don't really know.
Even World health organization sets a period of one year before diagnosis of infertility can be made.
Both of u were just misinformed
Funny enough, if she gets pregnant now, she will think it's the herbs that worked whereas she might even not have fertility problem in d first place.
Pls who ordered for hormonal assay and why? There's no indication for that in ur story.

We met a gynaecologist after examining her ordered for the various tests including hsg. Doctors are of the opinion that if she goes ahead with pregnancy without surgery, she might have ectopic pregnancy. I advised she go for the surgery but she insisted that she's not going for surgery and opted for herbal medicine.now she said she's ok and all she wants is marriage. So I said let her get pregnant before marriage but she insisted on no marriage no pregnancy. Am so confused.
Romance / Re: I Want To Get Married To My Fiance But Her Medical Condition Is Making Me Having by cooljuman: 7:55am On Jan 13
Yohh:

First, why did she go for a scan in d first place before the fibroid was discovered
Secondly, a scan won't reveal hormonal imbalance and there's nothing in ur story that is an indication for hormonal assay.
Thirdly, having fibroid doesn't mean she cannot conceive. There are different types of fibroid actually Abd none require treatment except if symptomatic.
The truth is most women u see out there have forbids but are just not big.
In conclusion, I think u have been misinformed and probably deceived coz I'm not comfortable with the view u have about fibroid, hormonal imbalance didn't even fit into ur story at all. She needs to see a gynecologist.


She did hormonal profile test too. The reason she went for the scan was because we had unprotected sex and she said she was in her ovulation when we had the test, when she didn't get pregnant she insisted we go for testing, that was when we discovered this whole thing.

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Romance / Re: I Want To Get Married To My Fiance But Her Medical Condition Is Making Me Having by cooljuman: 7:48am On Jan 13
martyns303:


You gave her half the money, is she capable of raising the remaining half?

Is she based in PH? attended UST? from BY?
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Yes, she's capable of raising the remaining half, cos she working. Yes, we're both based in ph

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Romance / Re: I Want To Get Married To My Fiance But Her Medical Condition Is Making Me Having by cooljuman: 1:11am On Jan 13
marvin906:
I might understand where she's coming from..
I believe she's afraid of unforseen complications during the surgery maybe destruction of her womb which might make you dump her..
Buh you have make her understand that is her health she's putting at risk just because of fear..
Can't believe am saying this buh dude stand by her
If you where in her shoes you will do the same and please find a specialist in this case


For a year now I've been pleading with her to go for the surgery but she's only talking of getting married before surgery. It's her health we're talking about and she's talking about marriage. She's telling me that I want to put her life at risk by asking her to go for surgery, well since she doesn't want to go for surgery then I need pregnancy before marriage.
Romance / Re: I Want To Get Married To My Fiance But Her Medical Condition Is Making Me Having by cooljuman: 1:05am On Jan 13
bigpicture001:
95% of ladies who underwent surgery to get rid of fibroid usually do not conceive again...

Sh is very right in her fears of the after effect of the surgery. Doctors will pet u into doing it nd leave to God with the consequences.

Plz try understand her. My elder sis is now 9 years after same surgery without being able to conceive again..

U guys should luk for hospitals where foreign doctors com for humanitarian surgery expose'. That is ur best chance of a rather successful surgrey

She said she's ok after taking the herbal drugs several months, so what stops her from agreeing to get pregnant so we can get married. Am not forcing her to go for surgery, all I want it lets try pregnancy then we get married. It will reduce my fears.

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Romance / Re: I Want To Get Married To My Fiance But Her Medical Condition Is Making Me Having by cooljuman: 9:58pm On Jan 12
[quote author=samysmoothfresh post=74704752]

........and now you've discovered she doesnt want the surgery. In other words, she doesnt want help.


Dont be offended, but I have another question for you.


What do you think you should do?[/quote

Well, as it stands there's nothing I can say to convince her to either accept pregnancy or surgery. Last time argued she said am using her, so I just want to stay away from her for awhile and if the situation don't change, I'll have to move on with my life. Yes I may be wrong or right. Let it be my loss.

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Romance / Re: I Want To Get Married To My Fiance But Her Medical Condition Is Making Me Having by cooljuman: 9:48pm On Jan 12
ValCon888:

You don't need a doctor, you need a counsellor and this is what i have to tell you;

When you were fvcking her constantly for 2 whole years it was sweeting you abi? Even with the big stomach you were still lashing her mercilessly.

Now you know she has fibroid and hormonal imbalance you want to dump her.

Dump her for who if i may ask?

I don't want to dump her, I just wanted her to solve the problem. Everybody have expectations and I want children from my marriage. Is fvckingg a woman now the ground for marriage? Is bleeping now enough to trade everything?

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Romance / Re: I Want To Get Married To My Fiance But Her Medical Condition Is Making Me Having by cooljuman: 9:38pm On Jan 12
samysmoothfresh:
Oga, i only have one question for you.


You collect the money wey you give her for the surgery back after she tell you say she no want surgery but want dey drink agbo(herbal medcine)?
No i didn't collect the money back. I left it with her. I really didn't need it. I just wanted her to solve the problem.

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Romance / I Want To Get Married To My Fiance But Her Medical Condition Is Making Me Having by cooljuman: 9:16pm On Jan 12
We have been dating for more than 2 year, but in 2018 she went for a scan and found out that she has fibroid and hormonal imbalance and that it could hinder pregnancy. Doctors advice that she go for surgery in order for her not to have complications with pregnancy. I gave her more than half the cost of the surgery which she agreed to go for. Same day she said she's not going for the surgery again until she gets married. She started taking herbal medicine that it will reduce the size of the fibroid and that way she will be able to get pregnant even without surgery and she also took drugs for the hormonal imbalance. after some months the size of her stomach reduced cos initially it was bigger than normal. Late last year we started having disagreement as regards marriage. She wants us to get married but I'm reluctant cos of her medical condition knowing she didn't go for the surgery and not sure if she's going to find it difficult getting pregnant after marriage. So I asked her to get pregnant before we get married and the once she get pregnant I will marry her, but she said she's not getting pregnant unti we're married. again, I'm working and earns in six figures. She said she don't want to get pregnant and that she's not going for surgery until we're married. I love her and will like to get married to her but the medical condition is putting me off. What if am right and what if am wrong. We've not talked to each other for two weeks now and we've not seen either. Doctors in the house i need advice please

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