Hyinkar97:
12. Taxi
In 1975, while riding a moped in Bermuda, a man was accidentally struck and killed by a taxi. One year later, this man’s bother was killed in the very same way. In fact, he was riding the very same moped. And to stretch the odds even further, he was struck by the very same taxi driven by the same driver – and even carrying the very same passenger!

Ah!

higherpower:


She has right but not in National colors! Get some sense

You served 10 years ago but still reason like an ss3 student. If the law does not criminalize what she did, you're only making yourself liable for defamation. Bye!

higherpower:


I served 10 years ago! I didn't post the pix of her smoking or clubbing of which if she does them with that uniform I would post. What am saying is that there dresses for different purposes. Who cares if she wore mini skit, boom shorts or what ever. So far u are using national colours, u are accountable. Just like ppl complaining about police, customs or immigration dressing casually on duty. If NYSC wanted their uniform! they would make it so.

smoking/clubbing is a crime? you'll eventually end up posting pictures of people that will deal with you very well.

higherpower:


What difference does it make? Didn't she want people to see her?. She is supposed to be a pride of the Nation. Tax payers money is invested in her so she is supposed to be role model to others. Is this wha NYSC is all about?

you're the type that'll say rape victims asked for it. She has the right to do whatever she wants because she also is a citizen (she pays tax too), Mind your own business .

EmperorLee:


Lol, boss.

Oga, finish what you started

EmperorLee:


Awwn, cool . I guess it's fair to say it's Nice E-meeting you here, i hope our monikers will cross paths again, soon. Please, don't forget my moniker

soundrack: #InAdekunleGold voice "No forgeti ooo, No forgeti ooo, No forget"

EmperorLee:


My pleasure
Safe.

two of u set p finish, una no fit exchange contacts, shey make all that back and forth go to waste ni

RIP

8. Don't turn into their doctor

This is the role of health care practitioners and patients are often overwhelmed with information and may have to make decisions about their treatment based on this, sometimes within a short time-scale. Offer them a shoulder to cry on, a listening ear and support them in their decisions but don't give medical opinions.

7. Don't assume they want your help

The women in our study appreciated that having their children have more of a sense of normality during times of treatment helped them feel supported and more able to look after their own needs. Always ask if they would appreciate this type of support but don't assume peopleneed it.

6. Don't treat their return to work as a return to normalcy

Comments such as 'oh, you're back to normal' when returning to work after cancer treatment were considered to diminish the enormity of the psychological and physical ordeal the patient had been through.

5. Don’t assume they will change their whole life

Their life has turned upside down and they are adjusting to a new reality. Allow them to talk things through with you if they (and you) are ready. Try to support them as they make sense of the information in their own way.

4. Don't Google the cancer they have then offer statistics

Some people don't want to know their odds, the statistics and the recurrence rate unless they ask you to tell them. If in doubt, don't give informational advice, try supporting them in other ways. Offer to go with them to a medical appointment to take notes for them so this can help them to remember all the information that was discussed.

3. Don't assume they need help to do things

Offer to help with everyday tasks such as child care, going shopping, taking them to the hospital, cleaning their house, walking the dog or making a meal for their family. Friends and acquaintances often come into their own by supporting in everydaytasks such as helping cancer patients with child care. But not all people will need – or want – this help.

2. Don't become so emotional that they support you

Offering cancer patients a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on and supporting them in making decisions that are right for them are roles that close friends andfamily can play. But don't be so distressed that they feel they need to tell you it's going to be fine.

1. Don't tell them what you would do in their situation

In some cases, friends and acquaintances made unhelpful comments about how they might make different decisions if it were them facing a mastectomy.

Women who were given messages such as 'I'll love you whatever', regardless of whether they elected to seek reconstructive surgery or not, and who heard that their decisions would be fully supported by their partners and friends, told us they felt the most supported.

*.Fiona Holland, psychology lecturer at the University of Derby, interviewed 6 women who were diagnosed with primary breast cancer in their 30s and 40s

*.They told her the best - and worst - comments they receivedfrom friends

*.Here, days after World Cancer Day, Holland presents her findings

It can be very difficult to know what to say and what to do when someone you know is diagnosed with cancer.

Yet the type and quality of support that is offered can make an enormous difference in the person's life as they navigate their treatment and, hopefully, their recovery.

Cancer can make for difficult conversations, and sometimes these arechallenging to gauge.

Some people find talking about their diagnosis and treatment uncomfortable,others welcome a chance to discuss it. At times, family, friends and colleagues of someone with cancer may also experience difficulty in speaking about itor knowing what to say.

They may struggle to accept the news, feel distressed, and then find themselves saying things which are not comforting or supportive.

It can be difficult to understand how someone diagnosed with cancer really feels, what they think and what support they really need.

What is known is that social support offered by others can improve patients' psychological adjustment and some researchers suggest it can even enhancetheir survival.

Having spent time interviewing breast cancer survivors for a research project, it is very clear that having a network of supportive people around is vital.

The project, a collaboration between researchers at the University of Derby and Imperial College London, recruited women via a Breast Cancer Care UK web forum.

We interviewed a sample of younger women who had opted not to have breast reconstruction following a mastectomy to find out how their treatment choices had affected their relationships with partners, friends and family members – something which has never been explored in a study before.

The women explained that, although thelevel of support they encountered was mostly positive, sometimes it was well-meaning but negatively received and, on occasions, it was emotionally distressing to them

The study's findings offer ways that we can better support people living with cancer.

These are the things we identified as unhelpful and what to say instead:

Source www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-4200378/What-NOT-say-cancer.html

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brandonobi:
ur second makes sense in a way, if everyone adobts it then its right, similarly if everyone adopted mans in place of men then it is correct.
for ur first point, dance for someone, (so the person can watch u dance, or dance in a show in place of u) is what it seems like, u have to understand the role 'for' plays in the sentence, does it signify owning something or helping out with something* eg. the gift is for me, and do this for me, try to understand clapping ur hands in regards to both examples of for'

* you lost me there. It has anything to do with the reciever?

Well, I read something here: http://www.dailytrust.com.ng/sunday/index.php/politics-of-grammar/18848-q-and-a-on-word-usage-and-confusing-expressions since you've decided to try and educate me/convince me you are right, to educate myself and be more objective

Excerpt:

Question:
Someone just shocked me by saying it’s wrong to say “clap for him.” What’s wrong with that expression?
Answer:
Several other people called my attention to a Nigerian lady on Twitter (I can’t recall her handle) who said “clap for him” as a synonym for “applaud” is wrong, and that the correct expression is “clap him.” This isn’t the first time this discussion has come up in Nigerian English grammar circles. Many other people have pointed out that “clap” doesn’t admit of the preposition “for”They are partly right. All major English dictionaries support them. For instance, Oxford Dictionary defines “clap” as follows:
“Strike the palms of (one’s hands) together repeatedly, typically in order to applaud.” It gives the following usage examples to illustrate the definition:
“Then strolled out of the airport with my cousin who was clapping me on my performance.”
“Cars hooted approval, crowds cheered and clapped the heroes.”
“His father Gordon, a former York City star, asked the congregation to stand for a minute to applaud and clap Thomas, and ‘say thank you for knowing him’.
However, the pragmatics (i.e., actual use) of the expression is different from its dictionary definitions.
American English speakers certainly say “clap for.” This is attested to by the Corpus of Contemporary American English, the definitive record of English usage in the United States. I will give a few examples from the Corpus of instances where “clap for” appeared in prestigious publications.
The first example is from a 2012 New York Times article titled “Assad Accepts Cease-Fire; Opponents Are Skeptical.” In the article, this sentence appears:
“They bring people on buses to clap for him and say that he killed all the Free Syrian Army…”
Another 1996 New York Times article titled “Name a New Musical Star” contains the following sentence:
“And, in the theater, they clap for Ms. Channing, Ms. Andrews and Ms. Burnett as if they’d never seen a star before.
A 1994 San Francisco Chronicle article also contains the following:
“The fans began to clap for an Astros rally.”
I found numerous other examples in popular media and well-regarded academic journals where “clap for him/her,” not “clap him/her,” is used in place of applaud. In fact, not only have I never heard any American say “clap him/her,” the Americans I spoke with before writing this column told me “clap him/her” sounds “weird” to them—as it does to most Nigerian English speakers.Now, does this mean the Twitter grammar lady is wrong? Absolutely no. My checks at the British National Corpus shows that British English speakers prefer “clap him/her” to “clap for him/her.” The corpus bought up only one match for the expression “clap for,” and it appeared during a TV chat where a host, on March 12, 1992, said:
“ah let’s all clap for Neil, er, er what’s he gon na do go off and have a boxing match?”
So this looks like a dialectal variation.

I think this should put a closure to the matter. When in America, we behave like the americans, and when in England..... we drink early morning tea.

brandonobi:
from the dictionary u would notice that clap can be used as a noun and a verb, in (clap for him/clap him) it is clearly used as a verb, so clap playing a role of a verb similar to carry drop follow etc. clap also can be used in place of applaud.
when your friend wins a lottery you....
a- you applaud for him.
b- you applaud him.
other examples of words used as verbs include. thank him, praise him, respect him. in the ones the words are pointed at the person in question. now when u say something like, pray for him or speak for him also right for him, ure doing it on behalf of the person( he can't do it, so do it FOR him). adding for to clap means clapping on behalf...which means he cannot congratulate someone so use ur hands and clap on behalf of him, which makes no sense.
by clapping ure not doing something for someone but at someone so u clap them not clap for them as if ure helping them with clapping.
PLUS- Nigerians didn't invent English language, so when the people who did say it is like this then that is how it is, it is hard to change from something I've used all ur life, but it doesn't change the fact that we r wrong!!!

i don't agree with that. 'for' in the statement 'clap for him' indicates who is recieving the action. Replace 'clap' with 'put your hands together' in that statement. One the other hand, I think 'clap him' is a PHRASE, which begs the question 'where?'

And you're not clapping at someone, the same way u aren't dancing at someone.

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The users of a language define it. Not its inventors. That's why Americans have their own english. There will also, always be revision to languages. Meanings and uses of words change periodically. So, if Nigerians adopt it and it's used by the majority, it ceases to be wrong regardless of what the englishman thinks of it.

brandonobi:
still doesn't mean that clap for him is right, u can also Google it.

give reasons that'll convince me and i'll believe you. I'll rather trust my brain than google

crotonite:
amen bro.

lol, see this one. You want to end up in Canada but the snow tip is of no use to u

brandonobi:
clap for him is similar to saying congratulate for him instd congratulate him or praise for God instd of praise God etc.

clap is different from congratulate/praise in that it is an action verb, you perform the 'clapping' through action, while you express congratulation/praise through speech/orally, thats why clap (and other verbs that takes this form) take for while congratulate doesn't.

He trekked from Lagos to Abeokuta for 3 months?

crotonite:
nice writeup or plagiarism or whatever they call it. The snow tip is of no use to us, u can safely delete it to safe seun some few bits

the electrocution tip i cant wait to apply. i just de imagine the kind whacking when i go use whack mynd back to life from electrocuting...

u can never tell, u may end up in Canada

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BodePolScience:
A a painful stroke with swollen mouth, unable to speak, dreaming inside dream or dreaming of waking up and eventually being alert and happy that it was all a dream though with spits and a mild pain around the mouth. Is it also sleep paralysis?

sleeping paralysis is when you're unable to move, speak or react during either falling asleep or awakening, often acompanied by feeling of pressure on one's chest and difficulty breathing, and terrifying hallucinations to which one is unable to react to due to paralysis.Yes, one is relieved to wake up, but i dont think sp is what you're describing here.

Sleep paralysis is the terrifying feeling of being held down after just waking up or going to sleep. You can’t move or scream, and sometimes this paralysis is accompanied with the certainty that someone or something is in the room.

Quite simply, sleep paralysis is one of the most horrifying experiences in life, because we feel awake but can’t believe what is happening to us.

The truth is, sleep paralysis is a biological event and there is nothing to be worried about. You’re not dying. It’s a hiccup in the brain’s chemical soup as we transition from sleep to wakefulness.

Recurrent sleep paralysis can often be prevented by attending to lifestyle choices, but making new habits can take time.

So how do you wake up from sleep paralysis tonight?

Here I compiled 9 ways to get out now.
Note: Because this is such a personal thing, some of these tactics will work for you, and others won’t. Choose the ones that make the most sense to you intuitively. Think of these strategies as tools in a toolbox tobring out when the conditions are right. Make a plan and resolve to remember it for the next time you wake up in sleep paralysis.

1. Don’t Fight
If you feel like you are being held down and you can’t move, do not fight back. This actually will intensify the experience. Not only is fighting back likely to increase the feelings of being held down (so much that it may seem like you are being crushed), but fighting back will also increase the fear, thus triggering the emotional centers of the brain and strengthening this lucid nightmare. Controlling fear is the most important skill during these moments.

2. Surrender and Go with the Flow
Instead, try to relax when you notice SP starting to happen. Prepare an affirmation like “This is SP and I am okay.” If you feel pressure on your chest, see if you can “go with” the pressure rather than against it. It’s like winning a fight by having no resistance. For example, for me, I often feel like I’m being pushed into the mattress when I have SP. I let myself go, and mentally “pull” in the direction I am being pushed. What happens is I then “pop” into a full-on dream, or I can wake up directly.

3. Wiggle your Toe
Another excellent tactic that works for many people is to try to move an extremity, such as a finger or a toe. Most of the feelings of paralysis are in the belly, chest, and throat. So focus all you attention on the toe and try to move it back and forth. In many cases, this will break the paralysis.

4. Clench your Fist
This is a variation of the toe wiggle method. Clench and unclench your fist.

5. Focus on your Breath
An easy way to stop these nightmares is to do some controlled breathing. Controlled breathing does several things at once. For starters, it lessens the feelings of chest pain that sometimes accompany SP. Breathing is autonomic like the heart’s beating or digestion, so it’s not paralyzed like the big muscles in our arms, chest and legs. But breath can be controlled with attention or be affected by severe fear, which may be why SP sufferers “forget”to breathe when under attack. If you can control your breath, you can control your fear. Simply draw your breath in at a normal rate, and exhale fully, using all of your lung capacity. Notice that you can breathe fully without obstruction. This technique will keep you calm as the SP runs its course and then you will wake up without any trouble. A few moments of focused breathing with a strong intention to wake up is effective.

6. Lean into Love to Find Courage
Now is also the time to lean into unconditional love. For many, the surest path is in religious or spiritual beliefs. Regardless, focus on a figure that you admireand love. Think of someone who calms you down—someone who you associate with peace, love and safety. This could be Jesus, the Dali Lama, or someone you know personally. In my first SP nightmare when I was fourteen years old, I thought about the love and respect I had for a girl in my class. Embarrassing but true! It worked: the feelings of oppression and evil dissipated immediately. In this case, true love really does conquer all.

7. Getting Help from your Sleep Partner
If someone shares your bed, youcan tell them about your SP attacks and what to look for when you are having a nightmare. For example, my wife used to shake me awake whenever I began to breath heavily and irregularly in my sleep. As it turns out, she was waking me up each and every time from an intense SP nightmare. Now when this happens, I tell her not to wake me up, because I actually use SP to go into a lucid dream.You could also have your partnerrespond to a verbal request. This only works some of the time, because some people cannot speak in paralysis. But some can. Choose a short word that is easy to say. “Help” is a good choice. When you’re in paralysis, focus your attention onyour throat and say “Help.” Don’t try to say it as loud as you can; what may happen is that your imagination will take over and you will only say the word in your dream. Instead, say it forcefully but without screaming.

8. Coughing for HelpA variation of using your voice is to try to cough into wakefulness. Like breathing, coughing can be autonomic or consciously regulated. By coughing on purpose, you can jar yourself awake.
9. Write out the Plan
The suggestions above all have helped hundreds of people get out of SP and get some sleep. Not every tactic will work with you. But having too many tacticsin your mind can actually be counterproductive. So it is important to make a plan, almost like the fire escape plan you may have for evacuating your family home in case of emergency. Write it out; this will cement the plan in your mind and make it easier to remember when the paralysis comes on strong.

10.THE ULTIMATE METHOD
I know — I said 9 ways, but this is the single best way to wake up from sleep paralysis and it’s really in aclass of it’s own. When you realize you are in SP, scrunch up your face. In other words, make a face like you just smelled something bad. Snarl and squint. Do this two or three times in a row and the paralysis will break IMMEDIATELY. I’m not sure why it is so effective, but unlike the pinky wiggle, this method is foolproof.

After you wake up, get out of bed immediately and turn on a light. Wash your face with cold water.
If you just stay in bed, the chance of sliding right back into sleep paralysis is pretty high.

source: http://dreamstudies.org/2010/04/29/9-ways-to-wake-up-from-sleep-paralysis/

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