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yorke:
Leave am 4 God.I'm curious of one tin,how old are u?

22 and please don;t say i'm young. I know what I want and where i see myself. He's 33

Bleep all of y'all that made such stupid comments and thanks to those that said something sensible but i can see that posting this to seek advice isn;t working. In all, i leave it to God.

He is so ready to settle down. He is very responsible and wants to settle. That's even my fear, he would get someone closer to his age as he said and settle.

Is there anything I can do to convince him about the age? That I am willing to work with him. I have tried everything but still to no avail. He said the age difference would always be there. He is 12 years older than I am. It hurts so much because he said he liked me a lot, we connected but the age difference would always be at the back of his mind. I am so hurt. Wish I could do something different.
I already have my degree and if he wants to settle, I am willing but all to no avail.

If you are married or close to being married, how many times did you get your heart broken? How many people did you encounter before meeting "The One"?

As I said in the other post, my bf just broke up with me. I would be traveling out of State soon as there is no use being here, I stayed here because of him but no to heal better, i have decided to move away from here. Is it okay to tell him to please wait for me to travel before seeing someone else or still be close to me before I travel at least?

maxtum:
@ Cosmass do you need to be told that the guy broke up with you cuz of the money? don't be decieved by what you see!!!

the guy run cuz you became over demanding!!!!

@Hbaby, you know am man enough to attend to any babe's need most Esp. yours! sugar pie! when we go see for corners?

I do not see that because he was the one that offered and still promised to even after the break up.

sexylogan:
@ Poster: I stil don't see y u two broke up. If he's stil offerin' u the money,by all means pls collect it. Seems to that u guys wont be seperated for long.

I already told you, he mentioned my age. If I was ready to settle, haven't really achieved a lot compared to his friend's girls who are like 27, 28 and above years of age, that the age difference is bothering him. After all these, how do u think he would come back? I believe, he has walked away.

Ournaija:
I dont think it`s a pride thing. She needs an excuse to collect the money.

@poster
What led to your break up?

No he was even the one that suggested giving me some of the money for the rent while I add the rent because I lost my job and could not afford where I was staying so instead of offering me his place for the main time, he suggested himself, that he would want to add some money, little while i add the rest. It's not even up to half of my rent. His decision to break up with me as he said had been there on his mind since, that prefers someone not more than 7 years his junior. I am 23, he is 33. That the age gap is 2 digits, he has been trying all these while because he loves me but what if I meet someone else and leave him. And even compared his brother getting married to a younger woman and she left him. I tried all I could to tell him, that I loved him.
Age was just a number, I might not have achieved a lot but I am willing to work with him to settle and a woman leaving has nothing to do with her age but her as an individual. But all to no avail. He was suggesting he wants us to be friends, that he was hurt too and would still give the money by the end of the week.
That was what led to the break up.

BlueDiva:
If he offers, accept.
Don't bother to ask till he offers.

Yes he offered himself. I did not ask him. Just worried that it might reduce my pride though I have no other alternative and I'd rather have preferred to walk away and heal very well.

Tink_sh:
Dont lower your pride to take money from him after he broke up with you. Please!!! He can use that against you. Move on and pay for yourself.

I'm trying to, but I just lost my job and I am paying more than half, he just promised to add little to add up for me to ease.

Rooneyboy:
I believe your excessive demands chased your ex away and u still fail to realise that . I d advice u get the money else where , dont bring direct insults to yourself.

What excessive demands? He was the one that used his mouth to suggest adding less than half of my rent money to help me ease my situation. Never suggested it. The break up had to do with a different situation.

afam4eva:
@ OP

I think that's why he broke up with you. Cos you're always collecting money. Have you no shame. How can you be thinking of collecting money from someone that's no longer your BF.

Please read the reason why we broke up.

hbabe:
It will be really embarrassing to collect the money from him but if you have no alternative of raising the money then you have to swallow your pride and try.

That's what I thought, he promised to still give by the end of the week and i have no alternative. I have some of the money and he was just adding little to complete.

yorke:
D guy must b a father christmas. Just kiddin. I guess he promise givin u d money b4 d break up? One more u didn't tel us what led 2 him breakin up wit u.

No he was even the one that suggested giving me some of the money for the rent while I add the rent because I lost my job and could not afford where I was staying so instead of offering me his place for the main time, he suggested himself, that he would want to add some money, little while i add the rest. It's not even up to half of my rent. His decision to break up with me as he said had been there on his mind since, that prefers someone not more than 7 years his junior. I am 23, he is 33. That the age gap is 2 digits, he has been trying all these while because he loves me but what if I meet someone else and leave him. And even compared his brother getting married to a younger woman and she left him. I tried all I could to tell him, that I loved him.
Age was just a number, I might not have achieved a lot but I am willing to work with him to settle and a woman leaving has nothing to do with her age but her as an individual. But all to no avail. He was suggesting he wants us to be friends, that he was hurt too and would still give the money by the end of the week.
That was what led to the break up.

My boyfriend just broke up with me. Before this, he promised to help me with part of my rent while i add the rest because of situation. Now we are broken up, I don't know if it's wise to still collect part of the money from him or don't. Would that let me lose my pride. I am so hurt.Need advice!

I came to spend the weekend with my boyfriend and he wanted me to accompany him to see a friend of his but I really was not in the mood to go see that his particular friend. He kept asking that we are meant to spend and go out together, that is it a bad thing for him to ask me to join him. I told him, I was indifferent and really don't want to go. I rather would have preferred maybe just going to the movies or a lounge, that's what I had in mind when he got back from work not going to see his friend. He didn't talk to me again and just left without saying a word. Here I am, all alone, thinking what to do.
Nairalanders am i in the wrong here and if so and if not, what can i do?

There's this guy that has been admiring me and likes me. We hung out once but afterwards I got so busy until i agreed to see him again. We went out, dinner, movies, then a lounge, then it got so late, i wanted to go home but he wanted me to stay with him at his place then I could still leave if I wanted to, take a cab. I followed, we stayed then we both fell asleep until I got up to tell him to call the cab for me to go, he now asked if I had money which was expensive because his place was far.
I was so upset and told him he could have let me go when I was closer to my place as it was cheaper. His car had a problem. He started saying, how there was nothing he could do and all, I just stood up and walked out. When the cab came, he came downstairs too but I ignored him and entered the cab and left.
Did i over react? Was I wrong or he was wrong? And if I was wrong, what should I do? Thanks

Aside my high school/primary, secondary school friends (girls), I have not maintained a lot of female friends past college even while in College. Even as much as I try to be extremely friendly while I go to parties and gatherings, i just can't make a lot of female friends. I just finished University to make it worse so it's difficult to come across females. Most times they feel intimidated by me like saying, "you have a big behind", "where do I get my outfits and all", that's where it ends. Is it just me or do other girls feel me on this?

Your opinion counts. Thanks