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Family / Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by Cosmass(f): 9:56pm On Jan 01, 2014 |
dinachi: Happy New Year to you too!!! Thanks a lot. Sent you an email. In regards to what some of them wrote, despite them being harsh, most of them said/are saying the truth. The treatment he handled it with and to my family was really bad. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by Cosmass(f): 2:39pm On Jan 01, 2014 |
Baby mama: WOOOOOW! Hold up! Geez some of you here are really, really harsh. I did not disappear, I went to church and went out too. Wasn't available on here. I just read everything now even the fights (don't want any fight here) I have read your opinion and yes I do have parents, friends etc and they have all told me the same to forget him. They are also very upset but it's left for me to move on even without answers, even with the manner he handled it even if he didn't want to be with me again. onegig: I think it would pay off a long way for some of you commenting to at least know the background before concluding all sorts? You reall think money is the issue Let him come and tell you where he was working when I met him, the car he was even driving, My job was better than his. He was a mere banker, marketing. Even after he showed me where he stayed, his folks, what they do etc, and there was money, I still told him point blank that I wasn't really interested deeply with him that let us take it slowly so what are you talking about Mr. onegig And there is nothing like having a spare girl etc. The marriage wasn't forced. He was the one who proposed to me. He even called his folks to tell them he has proposed. From what I heard, his mum and him were even the ones to go get the ring so I don't really understand what you are talking about. onegig: I have to agree with you on all of these. The main issue is the aftermath. Someone even told me so if you cheated, committed the worst of atrocities, then you will be finished. kundi90: Haba! Relax. I am still here. i did not give half truths, I just don't want to keep narrating the same story since based on all I've said, to move on, that's why I only wanted to email him based on his opinion. alutacontinua: People also advised me to be cautious. That assuming we marry now, I might even be scared to break plates because I now know the whole family would be involved. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by Cosmass(f): 9:50am On Dec 31, 2013 |
kundi90: @all please you guys should leave her alone. Some humans need to experience life before they can learn. From what i can gather she is young so she needs to be heartbroken more before she understands what you are telling her. It is her type that end up being a relationship expert after so many heart-breaks. She really wants (needs) that guy, so she would not listen to those of you that are against him, but someone like dinachi. Come to think of it, that guy is really missing out on her, she really loves (loved) him. What do you classify as being young? Who told you I haven't been heartbroken before? |
Family / Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by Cosmass(f): 12:30am On Dec 31, 2013 |
ypepe: From frying pan to fire! What is the benefit of being harsh? What is about this thread that would make you/others harsh? Did I post about reconciling with him or begging or what Also who is the new admirer? Is it because I said I sent a poster an email. I sent in regards to what he was asking about the relationship, didn't not want to write another long story on here. |
Family / Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by Cosmass(f): 11:55pm On Dec 30, 2013 |
dinachi: Sent you an email. |
Family / Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by Cosmass(f): 10:41pm On Dec 30, 2013 |
Oh my! Guys LOL! A lot of harsh messages. I'm not contacting him or contacted him since. I am only asking on here 'cos I wonder sometimes, what would have made someone after 2 years, wedding date set etc suddenly turn around and not just that, the manner he used was very mean, degrading, belittling and of no value. I did not cheat on him. I just wanted to hear from the men, even after pleading like a fool, talking to the mum etc, he refused to at least respect me a bit to tell me to my face, why, the issues etc and leave on a clean slate. I have been moving on guys. dinachi: @ OP the only way one can give you good advice is if you tell us exactly what happened. I will not advice leaving him until I hear what happened between both of you. The fact that you have been begging seems to me that you are the offender. I do not support your fiances approach to the whole matter but it could be as a result of the fact that maybe you have been repeating that particular vice. So tell us exactly why he stopped talking to you...then we will be in a better position to advice. I wrote it in my previous post. We had an argument 'cos he kept ignoring me and so I took the laptop he was working with and struggled. He called his mum, who came over to the place and reported me to her. I do not know why he stopped talking to me. I have pleaded and done every single thing like a fool. He did not tell me anything. |
Family / Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by Cosmass(f): 10:34pm On Dec 29, 2013 |
https://www.nairaland.com/1474833/what-hurdles-challenges-faced-before https://www.nairaland.com/1534628/need-serious-advice-urgently In regards to my previous posts, it is almost 3 months now that he has refused to at least talk to me or let know why this matter was handled this way. We were supposed to get married in less that 3 weeks. There is nothing I haven't done to apologize for my own side, gone there, sent messages, went to even talk to the mum. Infact, the last my folks and I heard from them, we did not even come to any conclusion, nothing as such. Just totally blanked us. |
Family / Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Cosmass(f): 7:58pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
Sisi_Kill: I remembered the written sentence in bold. The friend called me today, but I ignored and not even thinking of returning the call. Stronger than before, would have entertained the call but NO MORE! |
Family / Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Cosmass(f): 8:45am On Dec 02, 2013 |
hispinkolo: There's something sweet and satisfying when an ex comes crawling back isn't it?The whole I was wrong please forgive me thing. Lol no you are not wasting your breath. I actually meant it when I said noted, I have put it behind me. No answering calls or entertaining any, as I said when my ex called, I did not pick up or reply his message. I am working on healing myself and as for praying, I am praying for myself. This is a new month, new things.. I have tried a lot. Also as for the age, I'm not really scared of aging, I'm not old at all I was more like angry when I saw the call and text but also laughed at it. veave: u keep sayin 'noted' 'noted' but u dont sound like u r noting anything dow. I mean it lol to the noted. And yes I am not going to his house, if he wants to drop off my things, he could drop at my house or better still dump it in the gutter. Enough of the humilation, no matter what he felt I had done. I thought True love encompasses all things. At least no infidelity was involved or whatsoever. It will be and it is well. |
Family / Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Cosmass(f): 9:45am On Nov 30, 2013 |
Sisi_Kill: I agree with you very much and noted! Toyinletstalk: Love will push one to believe or do anything. But the right answers and the right thing to do is usually within us. Connect with it and you will not be misled. Be patient. Some people come into our lives to teach us some lessons and when that lesson is taught and done with, they move on. Take what you've learnt from him and move on. You have to completely let him go so that a new and better man can come into your life. andromida: Lerrie John: Dear cosmass Lyn Forward: Cosmass! Cosmass! Cosmass! How many times have i called you? Thanks to everyone that has contributed their opinions so far and the advice is being heeded. No more picking up the calls from whoever that is close to him. I need to be me but I am doing much better. At least not picking up his call last night and not replying his message has given me an upper edge. I will be fine. Thanks again to everyone |
Family / Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Cosmass(f): 10:54pm On Nov 29, 2013 |
Sisi_Kill: How many times will he tell you to move on....you ask? Errr......Maybe if you aren't giving his silly friend an audience, going on about God will fight for you instead of telling the dude to mind his business, you won't be getting text messages telling to move the eff on. Please take it easy with the words! What did I write that you do not understand? Did I tell you I am not moving on Did you not also see where I told him that I am not interested, that I just want to be on my own and pray to my own God, that I do not need his outside help? Did you not see where I wrote, he called and texted me but I did not answer or reply, that I am quietly moving on? What is it you see that you do not understand that I have written? Chillisauce: Cosmass, you still got feelings for him. Just have an open mind, go and collect your things as he said but be strong dear. Take the things and leave. Thanks dear but I have decided, I am not going anywhere close to him or his house. If he wants, he will find a way, if not, so be it. |
Family / Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Cosmass(f): 10:15pm On Nov 29, 2013 |
UPDATE My ex fiance just called me but I didn't pick and then he texted me saying " I hope you are doing well and have moved on. Please come and collect your things. The dvd is missing, I think one of the security men stole it but I'll buy another dvd for you". I read the message but did not reply or return the call. I called the guard to ask him if my things were still with him because he had told me he dropped my things with him, the guard said no that my ex had taken back upstairs since last week. This call and message comes after one month. How many times will he keep telling me move on. I have not contacted him since or sent him a message yet he is texting me again after how long if I have moved on. I haven't heard from him since. One of my friends jokingly said are you sure the jazz of the close friend isn't working? We just laughed but I was advised not to go anywhere, if he wants me, he will come look for me. If he wants to drop my things, he could drop them with his guard or drop them off somewhere. This ex of mine, Oh God, take control. |
Family / Re: At A Dead End by Cosmass(f): 8:26pm On Nov 29, 2013 |
Lerrie John: @ OP after the details you just gave I can sweetly tell you to think seriously before tying the knot with your fiancé. You both have a lot of work to do on your relationship. Seems he has little/no respect for you. In future keep your past to yourself that way it can't be used against you. I am also in a similar situation. You could check my post. My question here is what if the fiance does not give the opportunity for a reconciliation, closure, discussion, open doors to air things even if you both don't end up together? What if he just tells you good bye on the phone through a text message, how do you get the closure to move on? |
Family / Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Cosmass(f): 4:47pm On Nov 29, 2013 |
baralatie: why would I want him to finish my life? andromida: NOTED. |
Family / Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Cosmass(f): 4:47pm On Nov 29, 2013 |
baralatie: why would I want him to finish my life? andromida: NOTED. |
Family / Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Cosmass(f): 3:47pm On Nov 29, 2013 |
andromida: NOTED! Exactly what I need to do. And also when I meant God fighting for me, I meant I do not need the guy going places, finding out for me, that let God be the one to fight for me, if it's meant to be, it will be, if not, so be it. |
Family / Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Cosmass(f): 3:23pm On Nov 29, 2013 |
UPDATE: The person close to him called me again to tell me that the girl and my fiance or ex fiance whichever he is, had an argument last night and were screaming at each other, afterwards, she was dropped back home. That he believes it is the work of those he went to see that are working against the girl. That do I stil want to go ahead to make sure she leaves and my man returns to me. I finally told him, thanks for his help but I think I still stand by us just praying and leaving it all to God. Let God fight for me, if it is charm, God will destroy it himself. He said okay, no problem. |
Family / Re: Do Charms/jazz Really Work? Are They Really Real Or Fake? by Cosmass(f): 12:53pm On Nov 29, 2013 |
ebamma: It works, if u need a love charm, u can contact me, am a love doctor Not interested. Keep it for yourself. |
Family / Do Charms/jazz Really Work? Are They Really Real Or Fake? by Cosmass(f): 12:22pm On Nov 29, 2013 |
Is there anyone that has really seen charms/jazz work on someone? Is it really real? Do they really work on people or what? 1 Like |
Family / Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Cosmass(f): 9:34am On Nov 29, 2013 |
Update I finally called the person close to him and told him, thanks for his help and concern but I'm not interested in finding out whether and how to break the charm the girl is using on him. Asked whether he believed in prayers and God, he said he does but I know that prayer/God can take time to answer. That he just wanted me to get my man back, that in very few weeks my man would call and apologize to me but if I'm doubting and not interested, then we can just leave it. I just told him thank you but my mind isn't at rest, finding out again and all or going somewhere. He said he is not a bad person, that he believes in prayer, that it is because I am a very nice person, he just wants to help me. I just told him, let us just be praying and wait on God. That if it is that charm, let God destroy it himself. |
Family / SEEN IT, thanks by Cosmass(f): 8:14am On Nov 29, 2013 |
https://www.nairaland.com/1534628/need-serious-advice-urgently#19868757 Where is this topic MODERATORS?]\ Seen it now, thanks |
Family / Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Cosmass(f): 8:12am On Nov 29, 2013 |
theLORDreigns: Yes I see it very well. It just hurts the way he is and went about everything but as I said, I am quietly moving on. esmeralda1: I just read thru ur other thread and seriously I do not believe he was or is under any jazz, jazz ko jazz ni. Lol @ jazz ko, jazz ni. Yeah been advised that, to heal, move on and if he does come back, he has to beg my parents for the embarassment and then I decide if I want to work things out again only after HEALING. blank: Don't be patient anything, move on! Forget him and look for someone else to mutually make happy. Lol, It's not really easy justn jumping into another relationship, it happened barely two months and I don't want to be scared to trust someone else plus I'm still healing but I know I would be very fine and alrite. |
Family / Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Cosmass(f): 8:08am On Nov 29, 2013 |
WHY IS MY TOPIC NOT SHOWING ON THE FAMILY SECTION? I HAVE TO LOG INTO MY PROFILE TO GET TO MY PAGE. |
Family / Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Cosmass(f): 4:16pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
andromida: I don't believe anyone used juju on your guy my guess is he fell for the other gal maybe he will come back maybe he won't better move on and don't wait around. Well that is true but what beats me is the way he went about it. Even the mum has ried talking to him. He sent me terrible, hateful and scary messages barely 2 weeks after the slight misunderstanding. It is very strange. One would imagine where we ever together? After two whole years? Someone that, me just hitting my foot, he could even rush me to the hospital to make sure I was okay. Even a week before we fell apart, he was telling our mutual friend, that he cant wait to marry me, we would have kids immediately, even asking how much wiz kid would cost for a wedding etc. It is really strange... I have not set my eyes on him since the incident. I'm not waiting around, I was quietly moving on, my family is very upset too with him. It was just the recent news that the person very close to him brought to me, that brought me here. theLORDreigns: @OP, I've read through your other thread. I just have to say that you are so desperate that you'll believe anything that you're told about this guy. Reading what you wrote again "Through text message" an engagement, that the wedding date has been set, halls booked, through a text message, brings me back to my senses. You are right. I have been quietly moving on, healing myself and the pains and then this news came up, that's what brought me here. I'm still praying but also moving on, without answers, nothing said to me or my parents. They just left us hanging. theLORDreigns: He said I should not really worry, it is not my own problem but mine is to be patient, continue praying and not be too angry with him. That he is not himself. |
Family / In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Cosmass(f): 10:31am On Nov 28, 2013 |
https://www.nairaland.com/1474833/what-hurdles-challenges-faced-before-getting-married This was the last post I had posted, going to 2months now. I haven't heard from him or so except a message he sent me over 3 weeks ago. Good bye, this and that. So I started healing myself and moving on. Until recently Someone close to him that is with him 24/7 works in the same place with him, called me and informed me not to be angry with him, that what is going on is not ordinary. That because I was nice to him, he had vowed to help me to the root of this problem and got to find out a lady involved was using charms and holding him. That my guy has not been himself since, excessive spending, coming late, fast foods everyday and sometimes compare me to the other lady that I am better in everything but he can't just call or come out. I was shocked and began to remember the harsh words sent to me and started relating them, that I believed it wasn't normal, So the person close to me just advised to be patient and keep praying that everything will be alright. I was scared at first and just told him that whatever it is please no jazz, magic, etc.. he said No that God is God, that we are just all praying. I said Okay and droped the phone. I am confused on what's going on but I've decided to just stay on my own and pray and wait. |
Family / Re: What Were The Hurdles And Challenges You Faced Before Getting Married?!!!!!!!!!! by Cosmass(f): 8:32pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
pickabeau1: Where. Will you live post wedding where will I live as in? |
Family / Re: What Were The Hurdles And Challenges You Faced Before Getting Married?!!!!!!!!!! by Cosmass(f): 11:41pm On Oct 12, 2013 |
kulyie: My dear cos,the ball is now in your ILE EJO. But the shocking part of your tale is that You actually know he is an omo mummy still you wan chook head.i bow for you o.infact my mouth to heavy to say talk to your legs but if you think you can cope with rich inlaws that will be treating you like sh1t and making you feel its an honour for you to marry their son,you can go on,but remember yorubas say what you will not eat,dont smell.however if you are sure that that is the type of marriage and baby in a mans body you want for yourself.abeg,dont come here and open a thread few months later with change of id and say,my mother inlaw said this and my husband didnt say anything.at least here in this nairaland,i read of a brother inlaw slapping his brother wife.i dont wish you that but a wealthy inlaw is very likely to be domineering and your omo mummy husband will not defend you AGAINST ANY MEMBER OF HIS FAMILY IF ANY GBEGE STARTS be it his mom,sister etc. It's not the way you are saying it. Aside being a mummy's boy which is a no no, he is a very wonderful person. He spoils me, close to God and can do almost anything for me. He truly and really loves me. 1 Like |
Family / Re: What Were The Hurdles And Challenges You Faced Before Getting Married?!!!!!!!!!! by Cosmass(f): 10:12pm On Oct 12, 2013 |
Chinwem: He's probably loaded with a rich influential family that's why they are calling the shots and putting YOUR own wedding on hold My dear, you got it! They are very wealthy. And they are doing all these because my so called fiance, is also letting them get away with it. If not for the incident, the part I played with the laptop issue, snatching it from him and all, I don't think I would even be bothered. |
Family / Re: What Were The Hurdles And Challenges You Faced Before Getting Married?!!!!!!!!!! by Cosmass(f): 9:18pm On Oct 12, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw: I agree with you. I have backed off and leaving it all to God. Kanwulia: Before, during or after. . . . . . Too funny but also right in a way. Blackbeauty: Am not an expert or anything but i will tell you what i hv deduced.I saw some red flags ur relationship.. A man is not perfect,does not excuse some behaviours your fiance exhibited..Firstly your dating for two yrs doesnt guarantee that you know what u r supposed to know about him.His attitude of calling his mum in the middle of an argument is way too immature for a man you will be spending your life wif,and doesn't show relationship experience..its an issue u guys could have settled easily without involving a third party.Ask yourself, do want to marry a man who will involve his parents and maybe friends to be all up in ur marital issues? Spot on! You've said it all. Would follow this. kulyie: He is actually a mummy's boy. They are soooo close. ferhyntorlah: Babe, Thank you for this. Infact THANKS TO everyone that shared their opinions. I truly and really, really appreciate it. God bless you all. Mwah |
Family / Re: What Were The Hurdles And Challenges You Faced Before Getting Married?!!!!!!!!!! by Cosmass(f): 3:18pm On Oct 12, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw: Hello miss cos, My dear, if you are in my shoes, you will understand. t is not really desperation, more like every single person around me knows the date and keep asking me preparation and also he is a very good man you wouldn't want to let go of. He is just too close to his folks that they seem to make most of the decisions. |
Family / Re: What Were The Hurdles And Challenges You Faced Before Getting Married?!!!!!!!!!! by Cosmass(f): 11:55am On Oct 12, 2013 |
LewsTherin: Are you sure your guy is ready for it? Are you being too desperate for it? You guys don't seem to have such a steady relationship or is this a new thing? It's not as if I'm worrying about the wedding but the date has been set, people have also been told about the date. t is supposed to be exactly 3 months from now, now all these. I even suggested the pre marital counseling, he didn't answer me. No relationship is perfect. There is no cheating or breaking of glasses or such in our relationship, over 2 years, this was new occurrence. We are all humans. Only if he had just communicated and said he has to do something, even though I will be mad, I could still understand not disrespect me, leave me hanging and then go to work. |
Family / Re: What Were The Hurdles And Challenges You Faced Before Getting Married?!!!!!!!!!! by Cosmass(f): 10:18am On Oct 12, 2013 |
Chillisauce: OP, let them hold the meeting. Get your hands occupied with something else. That's the issue I've always had with him. His parents are always in our business and my fiance doesn't help matters. They are soooooooooooooo close. I've begged him to talk to me, all he keeps saying is his parents will get back to my own parents soon. Also my only fear now is because of the my action with the laptop incident so I'm also thinking could it be my fault. If he had not called, this wouldn't be happening. I'm sick worried, thinking what will be the outcome of the meeting? |
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