I cannot count with my fingers how many married men have approached and are approaching me. Before it used to be a taboo or shame but now, it seems like a norm where I'm no longer surprised and the temptation arises at times but most especially THE GIRLS agreeing soo easily without any form of guilt and they are living their lives rights. Imagine me confronting one of them and his reply "is it a new thing" and " he could remove his ring if i wanted"

What do you think about this?

BABE!:

 What exactly is the meaning of this? You want a pity party? You yelled at an innocent guy for wanting a meaningful answer from you and you're here playing the victim?   Abegy! Was anyone controlling your vocal cord?

Plus, why are you painting him as stalker? Why the french were you "hinting"?  You should have told him "No" from the get go.  

claremont:

Let bygones be bygones, move on with your life.

I have already called him to apologize and also told him I am not ready for a relationship with him, hence the yelling as he kept asking me.

Mynd_44:

You are no monster. Just call him and explain to him why you yelled

I don't know if i am doing the wrong thing or making a bad decision. There is a guy I've known for a while even before leaving for the UK for school and then back to Naija and he is still talking about a relationship. My mentality then is different from now plus i had other relationships. he kept pressuring me asking me yes or no and I am not the type to say NO point blank to a guy especially when very nice.

I already hinted to him that i don't want a relationship with him but friendship until i yelled at him to stop asking me to say yes or no, that what doesn't he get? I feel a lil bad and don't know if there's really ay reason to do so

Assuming for example you are an Igbo lady in love with a Yoruba man and the man's family are maybe separated, or does not look like a family your own family will likely get along with socially etc, what would you do? Would you break up the relationship despite the fact you love the guy? And guys, vice versa with the women.

190_@:

I remember when one babe called alexis toasted me that year

i told her to my GF and they fought (awww the memories)

If i had been smarter like now, na serious nyashing be that

But did you downgrade her?

If a lady walks up to you (man) and tells you she admires you and just wants to be friends with benefits, would you look at her in a degrading manner, a cheap slut or still the same way?

Sijo01:


U'r already hurt wit your being suspicious!.
@ya question, turn on your investigating antenna

So you prefer finding out? Just a thought

Assuming your partner was cheating or you suspect your partner of cheating, which route would you prefer to go? Investigating and finding out for yourself or go by the saying "what you do not know won't hurt you"?

jle:

How the hell did that couch boy win? Dis is the worst bigbrother i hav ever watched.

Seconded!!!! I'm pissed. How did he win? wth

Canisma:

Well said my brother. You see, this generation takes the marriage institution as if its a social institution. No marriage can work without God being directly involved in it. My advice to all men and ladies is ; once u get whom to marry, both of u should go to a good and powerful man of God for deliverance. Once u do this, then the sky would be your limit in your marriage. God bless u all.Well said my brother. You see, this generation takes the marriage institution as if its a social institution. No marriage can work without God being directly involved in it. My advice to all men and ladies is ; once u get whom to marry, both of u should go to a good and powerful man of God for deliverance. Once u do this, then the sky would be your limit in your marriage. God bless u all.

Your advice?? Deliverance for and from what?

rokiatu:

Erm so that is her husband?

Best dressed goes to Rita. Ini look nice but I don't like her shoes.

Crazy girl @ the bold. LOL

Congrats Mr and Mrs Sienna and the very beautiful baby . Happy Belated birthday baby

Goldieluks:

Give me some time to think about it---i like you but,i have a boy friend who's still hanging on me.
I wanted to hear your voice--i called just to make sure,you are alone(no babe with you)
I don't trust you---I trust you but your too handsome and irresistible.



more to come.

Hahahahaha, I have to agree on this, Right on point. I'm guilty of this too

dstiva:

I have been in a relationship with this naija guy here in the states for about 3 months with this guy who came after me, dated me, treated me well and then after about a month, he asked me to be his girlfriend. After I did, everything was cool until after about two months, I noticed his behavior changed, he would call and text me less than before so I waited some time and finally told him I didn't like it and he promised to do better, which he did for about a week. Then the next week, he went missing for a day and then after i called him twice, he finally texted me the next day saying that he was in the hospital with his sick uncle. I didn't believe him and got mad so i sent me a text saying maybe we should just be friends. He went silent, and didn't respond. The next day, I felt bad and I called and texted to apologize, and no word from him for 2 weeks! Finally, a mutual friend intervened and she confirmed that his uncle was sick and that his dad is terminally ill in naija and so he's going through a lot since he cannot be there for his family in nigeria. She got him to finally call me a few days later and when he called, I told him I was sorry again and he seemed non-chalant and polite, he didn't really want to talk about what was going on but he seemed okay, he apologized for not calling me, said he's been busy, etc. He ended the convo with "I'll talk to you later." He didn't call me again, so after a few days, I called and texted him again and he only responds to texts hours later with a polite "i'm okay just busy". After about a week, I offered (by text) to bring food to his house so I could see him as my attempt to be supportive of what he was going through and he did not respond for 2 days. When he did respond, he said "sorry, I just got this, was out of town but wish I could have been in town, thanks for the offer, i'll holla at u later". Its been another two days since that text and nothing from him. Should I just stop calling him, i feel like i am chasing him and he doesn't want me anymore. if that is the case, why not just tell me? Should I try calling him at work? Should i try to get our mutual friend to arrange a meeting? I need to know why he's treating me so bad! Or Should i be patient and leave him alone until he contacts me since he is dealing with a sick parent? or is he just using his sick family as an excuse because he doesn't care about me anymore? I haven't seen him in 3 weeks and he only lives about an hour away from me. He's acting so different towards me and I want to know why? What should I do?

My dear I have been in your shoes before and I can relate very well to how you feel. Best advice as some have said is to not call him or at least call him less. Stay away for some time and you will see him start calling except of course he is tired of the relationship. It hurts yes, but trust me, it would get better with time, just try and not call him. Occupy yourself with other things. Wish you the best.

He copied it from Vanguard Newspaper everyone.

Gush! This is very sad

please where's the link?? want to see it.

No picture. Where's the pic?

iice:

Are you married to him? No? Then he has no obligation to take care of your shopping and other financial situations. He is not your father or brother or uncle.
People are looking for men who are emotionally, physically and mentally there for them. If shopping money is the problem, maybe someone with money is the solution even if that is all he can give.

Good answer (y)

Ms. Potato:

Poster, its easy for people to comment but once in the situation its not easy at all. If you are in this situation I would and can understand how you feel. years ago I was in this situation that time he had nothing cause being in Malaysia, theres no job for blacks, and he has to pay his house, his school fees and everything else. His father tried sending him money but they are many problems in Nigeria causing him to not get money after certain mnonths from Nigeria and all. He respects me and loves me but thats the thing, he has nothing. And most of the time I feel like the man in the relationship having to sponsor him. Its frustrating. I understand how you feel.

What I would advice you to do is look at his current situation. As a gf, what can you do to make him to at least earn money? Like lets say if you could get him a job or maybe you both could open a business together or anyways possible to help him for a start to get him walking on his toes.

When he achieve it, than you will see his true colours. If he still behaves the same way (the money is for him), than you know than that he is not right for you.

I am still with my bf because 2 years ago he made his cheese and things were going well for him and when I was in deep poo, he was there throughout. Without him, I wont even get my degree in College cause he paid for it.

Another good answer (two thumbs up)

african1:

What is the point of having a boyfriend if you are not even gonna use them a little? You need to test them before you can marry them,

Use them how?

Mrs.Chima:

There is confusion in your thread OP because you saying would ladies give their all to someone that hasn't done much for them then you states in the body that if he has financial difficulties. To me that is different. If a man who uses the fact that he has financial difficulties to treat you less than is a copy out.

He doesn't have to be financial endowed to reciprocate the same manners as you have. There are other ways that he can do things to help you out that would lift burden and stress from you.

Now I will not give my all to a lazy NEGRO.

@ the words in bold. Yes i meant if he has not done much for you because of his financial difficulties but he treats you so well in other areas.

Dyt:

Dat name sounds so familiar bt nvm
yh back 2 d topic
u wanna trade all oda things 4 materials things?
Dont u v parents or work?
Must evryman buy n give u moni?
Or mayb he s stingy sha
i detest stingy men 2 enwz
i dont v ask b4 u buy me stuffs or give me anyth bt i expect u atleast know u suppose do dem
he must b a greedy lover
dump him

no he's not stingy just his situation.

ogugua88:

Not a shocker at all. If you saw Miss Taraba in the video and the non-photoshopped photos, she beat all of those girls hands down.

Congrats to this girl. She's too much!

It's not only about her looks, did you hear her speak? her English? And even her reply to the question? And she is to represent us? It was bad with what i saw

Perhaps you met a guy that really loves and adores you so much and makes you happy but he has not really done much in terms of material things, like shopping etc because of his financial status/situation. He is there for you emotionally, mentally and physically but materialistically, zero or close to zero. Would you still be willing to give to give your all to this person?

MRbrownJAY:

BWAAAAHH, what kind of nonsense is this??

LMAO

At poster, Please, that is tooooo much, infact 10 much.

Anambra all the way baby!!!!


I think the Amaka is from Imo not Anambra

xynerise:

You are a very good actor no doubt, you are intelligent and unique no doubt but YOU TALK A LOT! . You are not a woman unlike Patience Ozokwor. She is even better than you when it comes to complains. You complain a lot in a movie and it makes it boring. Maybe some people enjoy watching your scene but it sucks the way you talk for like 5 minutes without pausing. Geez! What a man! . You are one of the reason I dont watch Home videos. I am not a hater, but a fan. You need to reduce the minutes of talking in a movie. You made me loose my appetite in this newly release movie titled " ENEMIES OF PROGRESS". Thank you.

Then go and sleep lol! That is what makes him who he is in the videos and his character, I love everything about his acting even his talking a lot.

mama-gee:

Ewwww!!!

I hope he takes that nasty hair off before he walks down the aisle.

His hair looks like an eye-sore, disgusting!

LMAO Mama Gee pls don't kill me,

oh my goodness! Really touched. I loved this guy sooooo much. Very good and funny actor. RIP Uncle Ashley

LMAO This Missy B, you won't kill me. Lol @ ur comments, True talk sha

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa (screaming) This is very scary. Omg!!! Poor child.