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The term area boys is always striking in the hear of every resident in Lagos.They are as constant as the Northern star.Although, many government's regime especially the military regime has tried to flush them out yet they remain part of the real system of Lagos.Area boys are the social miscreants who have become legalize illegal government in Lagos because any government in power always recognize their leadership for peace to reign and as political tools during elections.
Although, many may not like them but they have come to stay,a force to be reckon with in the city of Lagos.
These are ten major things to know about them:

1.They have organized hierarchy: In any location you find them in Lagos,they have a very organized leadership system starting from street to street,area to area,bus stop to bus stop and from motor park to motor parks or tarmac as its fondled called by them.These leadership system regulate all their activities,they don't operate in isolation.If you engage them in a duel,that is when you will know that they have leaders-Area fathers.

2.They have a common language. e.g'' twale!,waasere Omo,Ma palantia,Omo aye,mawoju uche,mawararo,marepete,oga ade,etc.In later time,I will write about common Lagos slangs and their meanings.

3.They fight to take control of an area motor park:Area boys are the' owner' of Lagos roads that is why they collect tolls from commercial drivers at every bus stops,private vehicles that want to park in some major spots like markets,streets .Most especially, when goods carrying vehicles like farm produce,machines,building materials or containers drive to any location, area boys will gather in their large numbers to collect their toll before the goods can be offloaded. Resistance from the owner of the vehicle or goods will lead to a bl**dy clash.Even Police can not stop them.

4.They operate by intimidation:To live in Lagos,you need a large heart .Lagos is not for the lily-liver or coward which area boys often refers to as "Omo ase or Omo ote".That is why they live on drugs,alcohol and Indian hemp in order to speak with intimidating voices and actions.Most times,they intimidate new comers,"Omo ase" "Omo butty" to pay more.Always speak to them with boldness like a comrade,be fearless.

5.They are violent in nature:Don't fidget while discussing with them but don't go into violence with them.Violence is their trade,you can't beat them in it.If you are violent with them,you will lose all your valuables and you may even lose your life if care is not taken.Handle them with wisdom and patience.

6.They make money daily through extortion at various bus stops,Motor parks,markets,Container off-loads,building renovations,new site constructions,collection from musicians' live shows and parties.

7.They don't like communicating in English and they gets annoyed with anyone communicating in English with them.Don't try to 'form' before the area boys with your Queen's English,you may regret it. It paid-off if you can communicate in their street languages ,Yoruba or at worst in pidgin English, this will make them feel at home with you and you will get a good bargain.

8.They are extortioners:They extort money from people during heavy traffic, parties or during heavy downpour. The help push cars that break down and collect tolls from the owners.Whenever the major roads are blocked, area boys will erect a' toll- gate' at the entrance of a connecting street to collect money from any vehicles that want to pass.It is either you are ready to pay or you turn back.

9.They often look Unkempt:Most times,area boys appears Unkempt and wild.This is so because, many of them live inside' Molue' buses,under the bridge and motor parks.Since the underdogs among them are homeless,They may not take their birth nor change their clothes for many days .The fact that they take cigarettes, hemp and alcohol 24/7 also contribute to their wild look.

10.They take note of people's face:This is one good quality you can't take away from area boys.They have a sharp memory at keeping people's identity.Many at times ,many don't know that the area boys in their area know the car you drive, house and the flats they live.If you follow a particular route often,they recognize you with your car.If you are the type that give them money,they will hail you and clear the traffic for you whenever you are passing but if you often ignore them,they will take note of your face.The danger thing is that some of them engage in armed robbery at night and if they come face-to-face with someone who doesn't give them money during the day,they will be ruthless saying " bobo yen yen man kala gan"meaning that he is very mean,wicked and miserly.but they often spare the ones that is generous to them.
To enjoy your stay in Lagos,make good use of the points above.
.....This piece is coming from a repentant area boy and a retired omo-igboro.
To my fellow Lagosians,I say twale!!!

http://www.familyparliament.com/4307/10-things-to-know-about-area-boys-if-you-must-live-in-lagos

Is the kind of sex in which you are not putting your spouse into consideration if she is fulfill. you just release and go away.
they use to call people like that a sparm donor

rexkexmilan:
Which one Is "Animal" Mating Biko

In the bedroom, there are three major kinds of sexual activities that can take place between a man and his wife. The category you fall in will show if you can be called an irresistible husband.

1. Marital Rape. Some husbands force their wives to bed. They force themselves on their wives without their wives’ consent. I call this marital rape. It is not all right to sleep with your wife by force; every sexual relationship must be with her consent. It is crude and barbaric to beat her, threaten her or injure her because of sex. You must be a lover not a fighter. s*x is a love game not a fight-to-finish affair. Be a man not an animal; be a friend, a gentle man.

2. Animal Mating. Another s*x that normally takes place in marriage is “mating”. Like animals, it takes place in the bedroom without love, care, emotion, passion and attention. All some men want is s*x not love or romance. They believe women are good for the kitchen and the bedroom only. They don’t believe women should enjoy sex, because it is only meant for men. In fact, they believe women were created just to give men pleasure. Many men want s*x but hate pre-intimacy; they want intercourse but not love play. Some of them grab their wives the way a cat will grab a rat. Anytime you sleep with your wife selfishly without love and affection, or anytime you have her without love talks, love play and pre-intimacy, you’ve just “mated” not made love. Anytime you bark orders at her because you want to have s*x with her: “Remove your bra, now! “Remove your skirt fast!” “Are you a fool? Don’t you know you are supposed to have removed your pant by now?”, “Open your lap wide idiot”, “Won’t you hold me foolish woman?”, etc all you are doing is mating.

3. Love Making. What God created s*x in marriage to be is “love making”. “And Adam KNEW EVE his wife…….. (Genesis 4:1). God does not want s*x in marriage to just be about “laying together” but about “knowing each other”. Love making should involve love, sharing, patience, pleasure, communication, communion, enjoyment, giving and receiving. Let her enjoy s*x with you. The man must not see himself just as a receiver but also a lover. You are not a horse rider. You must have appropriate knowledge of what s*x in marriage should be and develop yourself to be the best. Don’t ever think of getting sexual satisfaction outside your marriage; it is dangerous, selfish and unrighteous. Look inwards and get righteous s*x at home. Satisfying yourself through another woman will lead to your death and eternal damnation.


culled from Secrets of Irresistible wife available on konga.com .......http:///Jk433W

I don’t know if I should call myself a single lady or a married woman but I am in between two disturbing situations. I am a young lady who has been living her life quietly before I met a guy who came from abroad on a holiday but he is my Mum’s friend’s son. We got talking; he visited me severally when I was in UK all the way from US. Along the line something happened, we just got fond of ourselves and before long we started planning wedding. To cut the long story short we got married and he stayed for 1week before traveling back with the hope that I will join him soon. When he got back abroad he called once and after that stopped calling. Whenever I called, he will not pick but on this day I called and a lady picked who told me she was his wife and I later got to know that he had another lady too he impregnated. So he currently has two women with kids though married to one. My mother informed his Mum who claimed she never knew anything about those ladies but made a statement that “that was how his father started carrying young ladies too at his old age.” Immediately she made that statement, I just remembered what he did before travelling. When he was leaving, he packed my wedding gown, the certificate and every other thing that could be a sign that he married me and when I asked why he said just to reduce my load when I am coming. Presently, I stay alone and I’m shattered. What can I do? Please your sincere and urgent advice needed.


http://www.familyparliament.com/3687/i-don-t-know-if-i-should-call-myself-a-single-lady-or-a-marr

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- Bisi Adewale

There are many types of spiritual life, we need to know them so that you can know the state of your own spiritual life and make amend where necessary

1) DEAD SPIRITUAL LIFE: This is non existing spiritual life, prayer is a long time history, study life is totally dead, and fasting is a past tense. The owner of the spiritual life is a backslider, an unrepentant sinner; the pig has gone back to its puddly.

2) COLD, WEAK OR SICK SPIRITUAL LIFE: Most Christians are on this level, their spiritual life is very weak, and prayer life is off and on

3) GROWING SPIRITUAL LIFE: This is spiritual life that shows greenness and signs of growth. Better prayer life, deeper in the word, consistently growing prayer hunger for God, deep love For God.

4) HOT OR SOUND SPIRITUAL LIFE: This is spiritual life that is hot exceptionally, appetite for God is exceptional, and Passion for souls is incomparable. Prayer, fasting, evangelism, study of the word has become way of life it has gotten to level of addiction.


http://www.familyparliament.com/3142/types-of-spiritual-life

This is not to say that a lot of people don’t want to get married. However in our day and age, there is an ongoing trend of delaying tying the knot and saying “I do“. It’s as if it’s a bad thing to declare your life-long love to the person you want to spend it with.
1) It’s not as Bad as you Think

In fact, it’s not bad at all!

There’s a promise attached to it in the Bible which says: “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.” – Proverbs 18:22

Know what that means? That means that when you get married, the Lord’s favor is on you.

I know that weddings are daunting and our society is pushed to think that weddings have to be grand and awesome. While it’s a once-in-a-lifetime event, it doesn’t have to be a reason for bankruptcy or debt.

When I was set to get married, Apple and I shopped around for wedding suppliers. We were actually thrilled because of the thought of marriage but we were also nervous because of all the costs it entails. When I calculated all the expenses we needed to meet, it was a price that I had no way to pay off.

Still, we stepped out in faith that God’s favor will be on us. We continued to set meetings, sign contracts, and make everything possible for our wedding day to happen.

Little by little, God showed His faithfulness to us. We got more contracts signed in my SEO business. We got help from our parents. We got encouragement from friends. Things just kept coming.

My wedding day was every bit as beautiful I imagined it to be. It didn’t seem possible at first. But God pushed through for us.

2) Legitimize the Urge

Let’s face it: We are all tempted. Especially as a dating couple.

There will always be a time when you are left alone together especially in our day and age – and you’re free to do anything you want without accountability during that moment.

The more you delay getting married, the more this will happen. And the more chances of you falling into sin.

I know. I’ve been there.

When you step up and decide to finally get married, you legitimize s*x and all that comes with it – and you enjoy it in the boundaries that is glorifying to the Lord.

3) True Love Commits

You can promise her the sun, the moon, the stars, or five straight hours of shopping spree, but you will never be able to really tell the world how much you love her until you get on your knees and ask her that life-binding question: “Will you marry me?”

If you love your girl, you will marry her.

I can’t express how frustrated I feel when I hear couples spend years and years together and yet have decided against marriage “For the time being”.

Sometimes it’s both couples who decide to delay marriage, sometimes it’s just one of them.

Either way, it’s a sad thing to see a prolonged relationship that is not wholly committed through marriage.

I’ve been taught before that 2 years is the best threshold to get to know each other – and then decide if marriage will be the next step or not.

I agree.

I think the 3 years I’ve had getting to know Apple is actually a little longer than it should’ve gone. Thank God we’ve finally decided to step up and get married on our 2nd year.

4) The Generation Gap

There used to be a time when children can communicate and relate well with their parents. That grew to be less and less true – even to today.

Technology has created a growing number of children who are detached and disrespectful of their parents because they seem to know more due to the advances in technological know-how.

It’s quite obvious that if you decide to marry later, there are more chances of you having a bigger gap with your children once they reach their teen years because of the difference in technology during their time, the difference in age, difference in trends, and so on and so forth.

This is a real situation. Believe me if you decide to marry late and have children even later, you will have to deal with this.

5) s*x is AWESOME!

You know I think the best commandment God ever gave was: “As for you, be fruitful and increase in number; multiply on the earth and increase upon it.” – Genesis 9:7
http://www.familyparliament.com/2740/5-reasons-why-you-should-get-married

s*x in marriage is a lawful and godly marital act by which a couple demonstrates their love to one another. It generates pleasure, love and mutual satisfaction. It is an obligatory act in marriage and it is good for the health of the body, soul and marriage.

1. Sex should not be take place on Sunday being a holy day.
2. Sex must not take place in the afternoon, lest you give birth to an albino.
3. Sex is bad during bre*st feeding (The child will be drinking his father’s sperm).
4. Sex should only take place under the cover of darkness.
5. Sex is permissible during engagement, dating or courtship
6. Women must not enjoy sex; it is for only men to enjoy.
7. Women must not initiate s*x in bed.
8. A woman is the owner of her body, should only give it to her husband whenever she wishes.
9. If young girls do not start having s*x early, they will have complications during child birth.
10. When a young man is not having s*x regularly, he will be having stomach ache.
11. s*x is only for baby-making

Read more from http://www.familyparliament.com/2193/misconceptions-about-sex

A wedding ceremony in Saudi Arabia came to a shocking and abrupt end when a bride told the husband that she would return to work after getting married, a decision which was strongly opposed to by the groom and his family.



Reports reaching us from Saudi Arabia states a groom decided to opt out during a wedding ceremony when his bride declined to be a full time housewife. The wife told him of her plans to continue with her work after the marriage which the man objected to.

Arab News reports that the marriage ceremony was going perfectly as planned but events took a dramtic turn when they were about to sign the marriage certificate when the woman had raised the issue of returning to work which caused a heated argument between the couple's parents at the wedding venue.

A reliable source revealed that “When things started going out of control, the wedding officials requested both the parties to resolve the matter calmly. To everybody’s shock, the groom’s family walked away without any further discussion.”

The bride's mother collapsed immediately as the wedding ceremony was exited by the groom and his family members. A court official said, “Although they were engaged, the couple did not meet or communicate with each other in keeping with the Middle East tradition.”

The official said that such incidents, which have become common, and can be avoided if parents gather all the information and share the willingness of the couple before fixing the wedding date.

Abeer M., a social worker, said most of the Saudi men don’t go for too independent and self-confident women. “They rather prefer a housewife. Although the culture is changing, the tradition is still the same.”

She said: “There has been an increase in the number of highly educated women with good jobs, who are considered overage. This is one of the reasons for the sharp rise in the number of spinsterhood in the Kingdom,”

http://www.familyparliament.com/2247/see-the-flimsy-reason-why-a-wedding-ceremony-was-called-off

• MR. CHEERFUL (SANGUINE).
Positive side: pleasant, friendly, cheerful, good, jovial, loving, open and lovable.
Negative side: talkative, talks before he thinks, over statement, can exaggerate, finds it difficult to keep secret, abusive, can also fail easily.
• MR. COMMANDER (CHOLERIC).
Positive side: Hardworking, not emotional, dynamic , bold, frank, open, fearless, full of action, great achiever, goal-getter, focused, strong and fast.
Negative side: can be proud, too hard, finds it difficult to listen to advise, always wants his opinion to be respected, not always caring, can be wild, can talk to people without considering how they feel.
• MR. THINKER (PHLEGMATIC).
Positive side: Easy, dynamic, deep thinker, good follower, not talking too much, careful, loving, analytical, peaceful, detailed, thorough, careful.
Negative side: Fearful, procrastinates always, keeping malice, does find it difficult to forgive, loses opportunity as a result of being too slow to take action, can harbor bitterness and resentment, may not tell you offend him but will write it in his diary and refuse to have anything to do with you, sad and can also be stubborn.
• MR. PERFECTIONIST (MELANCHOLY).
Positive side: neat, hardly make mistake, detailed, calculative, obeys traffic rule when driving, peace- loving, talks less.
Negative side: Don’t like people around them to make mistake, difficult to please, hardly change, rigid and stubborn.


http://www.familyparliament.com/1379/four-men-in-marriage

RULE 1: NO MEAT FOR THE HUNTER: Never employ an house maid if you cannot really trust your husband with opposite sex or if he has history of sexual infidelity. An adult house keeper will be better who will come to your house in the morning and go in the night, please don’t employ your Hagar dear sister Sarah.

RULE 2. BEAUTY CONTEST: Never employ a house maid that is more beautiful than you, she may turn out to be your nemesis and take your husband from you. Don’t employ somebody that will engage you in beauty contest

RULE 3: BE IN CHARGE: never employ house maid you cannot control, two drivers should not be in the same car.

RULE 4: TIME TO FIRE: If your house maid suddenly becomes uncontrollable, stubborn and disobedient to you, without your husband seeing anything wrong in it, fighting or even beating you because of the girl, open your eyes there may be fire in the room, fire on the mountain. If you lose control of your maid she must gooooo.
RULE 5: COVER- UP: don’t ever allow your house maid to wear see-through and sexy dresses in your house. Somebody else (your husband) may begin to see through her in your absence.

RULE 6: FULLY KITTED: Don’t ever permit your maid to be tying towel around the house for hours just because she want to go and take her bath, it is tempting, help your husband, don’t ever allow this, in fact your blood not even be permitted to do it. Any lady in your house must always be well dressed if they are not in their room, no spaghetti, tying of wrapper without blouse, some girls are so careless that they wear pant and bra around the house, Hey! Sister, the house is yours not theirs don’t permit them to destroy it, every lady around you must be fully dressed in your house! this is one major mistake most wives do make at home, don’t lose your husband to strange women that are close to you.

RULE 8: AVOID MATURE TROUBLE: don’t employ fully grown up, developed, breasted house maid, she may become a fully grown up and developed trouble DON’T permit it.

RULE 9: NO ROOM,NO MAID: never employ a maid if you don’t have a room where you are going to put her, making your maid to sleep in the sitting room can bring doom into that home, as she sleeps carelessly, enticing your husband who may accidentally see her as see sleeps and begin to pursue her.

RULE 10: NO BOY, IF GIRLS: don’t ever employ house boy if you have only girls as children, experience has shown that a whole lots of little girls are been deflowered by their mothers house help. Get female house help, if you have only girls.

RULE11: NO GIRL,IF BOYS : Likewise, if all your children are male, don’t employ house maid, we have also seen situation whereby house maid begin to sexually molest the boys of their madams, rather get a house boy.

RULE 12: NO YOU IN HER: Don’t give your old dresses that your husband likes on you to your maid, lest your husband begin to see you in her.
Those cloths that look beautiful and may-be sexy on you that made your husband to fall for you several times SHOULD NEVER be given to your maid, don’t.

http://www.familyparliament.com/1193/rules-for-handling-your-maids-part-1

Marriage is a relationship between differences that must be brought together into an intimate unit.
In this teaching we want to study different types of differences in marriage and how to manage them so as not to allow them to damage our marriage.
1. Background Differences.This may involve family, religious, social, environmental, and doctrinal; if they are not wisely handled they may destroy the marriage. For example, when a lady that was born into a loud-praying church gets married to a man from a quiet-praying church; a wrong handling of their difference in a matured way will make the man may see the wife as a nuisance when praying.
Work to do; list at least seven background difference you notice when you married your husband or wife, how did you handle them?
2. Culture, Custom and Food Differences. Family customs always differ, some are from the family where everybody normally goes to the dining table to eat together, some families have no time for that. If a lady from family A marries a man from family B, she may expect the man to bring everybody normally to the dining table to eat together for supper; the man may not see it that way. People from different places prefer different food, an Ijesha or Ekiti will prefer “Iyan” while an Ijebu man will prefer “Ikokore”.
3. Gender Differences. Marriage is between a man and a woman not between man and man or woman and woman. When two people of different gender get married, there will always be a little of “fire work” because of their differences.
Discussion: Can we name some major differences between a man and a woman that can cause disharmony in their marriage and how to manage them.
4. Temperamental Differences. One of the most difficult differences to handle in marriage is the temperamental differences; some of the so-called “bad” characters of our spouses are as a result of their temperamental which do not come in line with our own. Hence, we repel it, which may turn to crisis and confrontation.


http://www.familyparliament.com/938/understanding-differences-in-marriage

• MAMA CHEERFUL
Positive side. Cheerful, greets all, generous, accommodating, loving, makes promises, can easily ask for forgiveness and never short of words.
Negative side. Talkative, can lie, exaggerate, cannot keep promise, always wants to be known in society, doesn’t fulfill promises and forgetful.
• MAMA COMMANDER
Positive side. Bold, goal-getter, wants to do what men are doing, fearless, wants to move the husband by all means, wants quick action, hardly cries, an achiever, not easily discouraged.
Negative side. Can be nagging, can seek to dominate the husband, can be quarrelsome, wants things done on her own ways, and wants to push people.
• MAMA THOUGHTFUL
Positive side: Quiet, peaceful, loving, thoughtful, attention to detail, analytical and a good planner.
Negative side. Slow, procrastinates, fails to take step in life, can harbor bitterness and resentment, hardly forgives, and refers to old hurts, fearful and lazy, always afraid of what people will say.
• MAMA PERFECTIONIST.
Positive Side: Detailed, neat house, will set kitchen, neat children, clean bathroom and toilet, will iron clothes, will set dinning table, last to go to bed, first to wake up, hardly makes mistake, good planner, hardworking.
Negative Side: Difficult to please, rigid, hate people to make mistakes around her.
Other differences
Apart from major differences that can be seen in every marriage, we can also see some other differences, which can be:
- Emotional differences
- Financial differences
- Sleeping differences (some love to go to bed early and wake up early and while others may like to go to bed late and wake up late
- Training differences: Sour training can affect the way we handle things, hence it can also affect our marriage.
These and other differences in marriage must not be allowed to destroy our marriage but to make our marriage better. Hence, we need patience, prayer and maturity to make our marriage work.

http://www.familyparliament.com/934/four-women-in-marriage

Most wives believe that men are tough; their heart is hard and impenetrable. Despite this, there are 16 things every wife can do to melt the heart of her husband. They are:
a. PUBLIC RESPECT: Men, regardless of their race, colour, height or class in the society wants to be respected by their wives even if she is the one feeding them. Topmost among the respect they crave is public affirmation of their authority. They want to be addressed with respect in the presence of their friends, colleagues and onlookers, marking the fact that they are in control in their homes. Stop calling him by his first name; call him: My Lord, M.D, Sweet Heart, and My Love, in the public and at home. Respect his orders, instructions, and opinions and respect his uniqueness. Talk to him with respect and let him know that you do. Any woman that disrespects her husband outside shall have a difficult man to live with.
b. TAKE TO HIS CORRECTIONS: No matter your height or achievement in life, you must be humble enough to obey your husband. Honour him; let him control you. Take to his corrections and don’t be stubborn. Don’t disregard his authority; be teachable and he will greatly love you.
c. LOVE HIS MOTHER: Majority of wives often make the mistake of marrying their husbands only and declaring hot hatred and war on his mother. This is a grave error. You cannot hate his mother and expect him to love you.
d. BE -FASHIONABLE: No man can resist an attractive woman, with good dress sense. Be neat, put on clean, current and fitted attire with a very good colour combination. Stop dressing like an old school woman who is colour blind. Dress like a babe, not like a woman.
e. COOK HIS FOOD: Whosoever controls the mouth of a man controls his heart. This is so; the road to the heart of a man is through the kitchen door. Stop delegating preparation of his meal to housemaids or your siblings. Cook delicious and timely meal food for him.
f. SERVE HIS FOOD: Don’t just cook his food, serve it specially. Don’t assign it to someone else; serve his food in special plates and treat him like a VIP. Treat him like a special guest on the dining table.
g. BUY GIFTS FOR HIM: Contrary to general belief that only men should buy gifts for women, in marriage, men normally appreciate gifts from their wives. Don’t just wait for him to buy gifts for you, buy for him too. Strange women often trade with this secret, even though they will get triple of the amount spent. Wives, wise up!
h. GIVE HIM FINANCIAL SUPPORT: Some men go into extra-marital affairs with women older than them, due to her financial status. This attitude is wrong but it is a pointer to the fact that men also want financial support from the women in their lives. Don’t just be his wife, be his financial supporter
i. SPEND TIME WITH HIM:When a woman become too busy to have time for her husband, she has lost a companion. It takes time to build intimacy; companionship doesn’t happen accidentally, it is a product of time investment. Create time for your husband; value him more than your job because he is your life-time job.
j. APPRECIATE HIM: Appreciation is attaching value or importance to any gifts received or kind deeds from somebody. Every man loves to be appreciated. Don’t see anything done for you by your husband as a right; see it as a privilege and thank him.
k. LISTEN TO HIM: Always give your husband a listening ear whenever he is talking to you. Don’t give room to divided attention while he is talking. Stop the phone conversation, turn away from the soap opera; stop losing your hair just to listen to him. Don’t argue with him. This will excites him and make him love you more.
l. BE FAITHFUL TO HIM: Your beauty and dressing will keep attracting other men to you but do not give in to them. Never permit any other man in your life; do not defile your bed. Stick to your husband alone. He is enough for you.
m. TELL THE CHILDREN, HE IS THE BEST MAN: Keep telling your children to his hearing and when he is not around that he is the best husband and a daddy. That they are privilege to have him as their father. No man hears this and become unhappy. Don’t join the league of women that insult their husbands in the presence of their children.
n. DEVELOP INTEREST IN HIS HOBBY: Some women make the mistake of fighting their husband because of his passion for his hobby. The best way to get a man is through his hobby. If he loves football, fall in love with his club. Love his vision, passion, profession and ministry.
o. MASSAGE HIS BODY: After the day’s work, make it a habit to always massage his body. This will bring him to the state of rest, removing tension, making him homely indeed. With this, he always rushes home after work, having no time to hang out with the boys.
p. ENJOY s*x WITH HIM: There is no way you can get to the heart of your husband if you deny him sex. Release your body to him, satisfy his sexual longings. Don’t let him hunt for s*x outside. Enjoy s*x with him and he makes life enjoyable for you.

http://www.familyparliament.com/805/16-ways-to-melt-the-heart-of-your-husband

“Love, Your Wife and Biggest Fan” – With these six words, I closed out a short hand-written note I left on the bathroom counter for my husband to see when he got up at 4:00am for work the next morning.

I contrast the words in this note with years 10 through 15 of our marriage (we’ve now been married for 22 years – YAY!), when I wasn’t inspired to even look at my husband without contempt and anger – a time when we teetered dangerously on the brink of divorce. Since then, healed and restored our marriage to being better than ever, we’ve both grown up, and we now have a juicy marriage. For me, this growing up process has included getting better and better at being my husband’s biggest fan.

The key is being able to take these six words and then back them up with consistent actions and behaviors that say: I believe in you, I’m in your corner, and I think you’re the best.

I’m reminded of how this can sometimes be easier said than done. As a Seattleite and Seahawk fan, I was tested during the recent 2015 NFC Championship game against the Green Bay Packers, the final game that stood between us and the Superbowl. We were down 16 to zero in the third quarter without a single point on the board.

At this point in the game, there were many fans that started to waver and withdraw their belief. I heard stories of fans leaving football parties early or changing channels away from the game. They were allowing the scoreboard to determine their degree of belief. When we were winning, everyone was “all in,” but when the chips were down, many started “jumping ship.” I admit it – I too had doubts that started to creep in, but outwardly, my resolve stayed firm. I kept shouting at the TV, “Come on, fellas. You can do it!” And yes, they went on to miraculously win that game and advance to the Superbowl.

No matter how things may appear, we want to make it clear to our husbands through our words and actions – I’m here for you, with you, and I believe in you, no matter what the “scoreboard” says.

Here are five simple but profound ways to say “I’m Your Biggest Fan” with both your words and your actions.

1. Speak Appreciation INTO him. Imagine that your husband is like a water pitcher. Speaking appreciation INTO your husband’s ears actually fills up his male spirit that same way the water fills up a water pitcher. Speaking Appreciation is about verbalizing to him that you appreciate him, and what you appreciate about him and his character, not just his actions. For example, when I call my husband in the morning when he’s at work (I operate my own business from my home office), I’m amazed at how he cheerfully answers, “Top of the morning!” every time. The other day, I paused to tell him, “Honey, I so appreciate your consistently positive, upbeat attitude whenever I call you at work.”

2. See Him with “New Eyes,” every day. Wow! This can be a tough one because things can occur that upset us, irritate us or p!ss us off. What I’m talking about here is actually demonstrating respect. I encourage you to consider a powerful and relevant definition of respect – one based on the original Latin origin of the word. “Re” means “again,” and “spect” means to “to see,” as in spectator or spectacles (remember those old-fashioned eyeglasses?). Coming from this new understanding of respect means that you are able to “see” your husband with new eyes each day,

Seeing my husband with “new eyes” sometimes requires that I first ask myself: What is it I’m really upset about (sometimes it’s not what I think it is)? Or do I need to apologize, or acknowledge that my perspective or perception may have been off or wrong? Any of these can support an inner attitude re-adjustment, instead of carrying over grudges, blame, or anger from the previous day.

3. Affirm Him. Back in high school, when it came time for me or another one of my girls’ basketball teammates to make a free thrown, the cheerleaders would chant, “You can do it. You can do it – You can. You can!” as they clapped their hands to the beat. We can take these same words and apply them to being our hubby’s biggest fan. Maybe he’s going for a promotion, changing jobs, undertaking a challenging new project, or even recommitting to his gym workout. To hear these words spoken by you lets him know that you believe in him, and his capability, regardless of the outcome.

4. Say THANK YOU, and add why you’re thankful. Men are wired to desire to be our heroes. So the days of slaying dragons may be long gone, but the opportunity to fulfill on simpler feats still exists. I recently asked my husband to change the lightbulb of one of the outside lights that illuminates our driveway. Yes, it took a 2nd reminder a day later (a loving reminder) before he got the lightbulb changed, but once he did, I thanked him and then added, I feel safer because I can now see better when I walk up or down the outside steps to get in and out of my car at night.

5. Notes, Notes, Notes. Post-it Notes are great because they can easily stick to smooth surfaces – the bathroom mirror, the refrigerator, certain places on his car dashboard, the headboard of your bed; or on his dresser drawer. They are quick but highly impactful. The Post-it note on our bathroom mirror right now reads, “SMILE – your wife thinks the world of you.”

http://www.familyparliament.com/686/5-ways-to-be-your-husband-s-biggest-fan

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“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

God has a wonderful, world-changing, custom-made plan for your life. Seriously.

Your family, your faith and your life will be stronger when you discover the beautiful truth of who you really are. Your true identity can’t be found by “looking within yourself” for the answers. Your identity can only be found by looking to the One who Created you. Here are seven important principles God wants you to know about Yourself:

1. You are Loved.

One of the most mind-blowing realities the Bible teaches is that the God of the Universe loves us! He loves you so much He sent His only Son Jesus to rescue you and bring you home.

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16

2. You need a Savior.

We’ve all “sinned” (blown it) and we need the grace Jesus makes possible. He desires to be the Savior of your Soul, the Leader of your Life, your guide and your friend. Without Him, your life will never be what God intended it to be. With Him, you can experience all God has for you. Jesus did not come to make you religious; He came to make you alive!

“Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” John 14:6

3. You are a Masterpiece.

You might now feel like it, but how you feel doesn’t change who you are! God’s sees you as a one-in-a-trillion priceless Masterpiece created in His Own Image. The Mona Lisa has got nothing on You!

“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.” Ephesians 2:10

4. You can be made new.

Once you trust Jesus for forgiveness, your sins are no longer counted against you, so don’t live in regret! You are not defined by what you’ve done. God never measures our value by what we’ve done or by what’s been done to us, but by what He has done for us on the Cross. God’s Grace takes away our sin and makes us a New Creation so we can live in freedom and peace.

“This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” 2 Corinthians 5:17

5. You are not Alone.

We all have those moments where we feel lonely and abandoned, but even in your darkest hour, God is with you. He has never left your side and He never will.

“…God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” Hebrews 13:5

6. You are part of God’s Family.

Our faith in Christ brings us adoption into God’s family. You are literally a Son or Daughter of God and an heir in His Eternal Kingdom.

“See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! “ 1 John 3:1

7. You can have a Home in Heaven.

Jesus is preparing a place just for you. A perfect place awaits where the trouble and pain of this life will be no more and you’ll celebrate forever with your Savior and all of God’s Family!

““Don’t let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God, and trust also in me. There is more than enough room in my Father’s home. If this were not so, would I have told you that I am going to prepare a place for you? When everything is ready, I will come and get you, so that you will always be with me where I am.” John 14:1-3

http://www.familyparliament.com/627/7-things-god-wants-you-to-know-about-yourself

Six things that will determine the state of your marriage are:

1. Your conversion. Whether you are a genuine child of God or not.
2. Your yielding to the Holy Ghost. The relationship you have with the Holy Ghost will affect your marriage.
3. Your Choices. The choices you make in life will also affect your marriage
4. Your Wisdom. The level of knowledge you have about marriage and family life will definitely affect your marriage.
5. Your commitment. The commitment you invest in your marriage will determine its success or otherwise.
6. Your Capacity. Your capacity will also affect your marriage.

http://www.familyparliament.com/630/capacity-building-for-a-stronger-marriage

- Bisi Adewale

“Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself and the wife see that she REVERENCE her husband”. (Ephesians 5:33).
Wives should know that they must respect their husbands in every way. Honour him not because of his PROFESSION but because of his POSITION as your head. Avoid arguments and disobedience. Talk to him with respect; serve his food with respect, be a godly woman and obey the Lord.
HOW TO RESPECT
1. Let there be respect in your speech. Avoid nagging, cursing, shouting, murmuring, etc (Eph. 4:29)
2. Listen to the counsel of your spouse, don’t be too big to be corrected by your wife/husband
3. Never embarrass your spouse
4. Avoid public correction
5. Welcome your spouse home honourably
6. Never expose the secret of your spouse
7. Never report your spouse to anybody except (if need be) your pastor and counsellor.


Rewards of Respect in Marriage
1. Positive Reverberation. Respect is a positive action. Respecting your partner inspires him or her to take positive steps while supporting and loving you in return
2. Brings Cycle of Good Deeds. If you respect your spouse, he/she will respect you in return and it will continue like that.
3. Build positive self-esteem of your spouse
4. Breeds togetherness, oneness and unity
5. It is a way to build good homes
6. It is a good insurance on your marriage
Whatever you don’t appreciate will depreciate in value. Value your spouse; he or she is a rare gift from God to you. He or she is part of your life (Eccl 9:9). Don’t lose your partner before you appreciate him or her.

http://www.familyparliament.com/544/wifely-respect-in-marriage

Bisi Adewale

Maturity does not just base on age or physical appearances, it involves a lot of things; namely

Physical maturity. Anybody that wants to get marry must NOT be a teenagers, he or she must be mature physically. Marriage is neither a crèche nor a day care, it is a place of work and responsibility. Based on counseling experience, we recommend the following ages:

The woman to be at least 21 years
The man to be at least 25 years

Financially maturity.

There must be willingness to work and provide for the family.
There must be regular income
There must be prudence

Spiritual Maturity

Must be born again
Must be filled with Holy Ghost
Understand God’s principles on marriage as it pertains to leadership, love, parenting, submission, contentment, commitment, faithfulness, responsibilities, oneness etc. (Genesis 2:24-25, Matt. 19:4-6)
Must pass the test in (11 Pet 1:5-9 only)
Quality prayer life
Lover of the Bible
Working for God
Quality time with God.

Social Maturity. Ability to make and keep friends, willingness to say “I am sorry” when wrong, ability to commend, appreciate, and praise. Readiness to change and adjust where necessary.
Moral Maturity.

Ability to keep to one’s s*x partner
Ability to control lust
Being able to manage sexuality

Emotional /Psychological maturity.

Ability to handle anger, pride, etc
Control over fear, joy, love, jealously, etc
Display of boldness, faith, courage, tolerance, forbearance, meekness, etc.
Ability to manage stress/crisis
Doggedness in time of test and trial
Willingness to suffer shame for the sake of truth.

http://www.familyparliament.com/538/types-of-maturity-in-marriage

- Pastor Bisi Adewale
“The secret of the Lord is with them that fear Him, and He will show them His covenant”. (Psalm 25:14)
Years back, a total of 6,000 couples were asked the secret of their strong marriage, in a research that took about twenty-five years to complete. During this research conducted by marriage counselors, it was discovered that almost all these 6,000 couples have some things in common which happen to be the secret of their blissful home. If we too can put them into our marriages, it will turn it to heaven on earth.
They are:
(1). COMMITMENT: Commitment is a state of being willing to give a lot of time, energy and resources to one’s spouse. Commitment is being there for him/her when there’s every reason not to. It also means to be committed to one’s spouse to defend and protect.
Successful couples are dedicated to promoting each other’s welfare and happiness. They focused their home and are committed to their marriage vows. They made their marriages a top priority with respect to how they invest their time and energy on their homes. There’s no marriage without its own challenges but commitment enables them to weather the storms. No marriage, no matter how good it seems can be successful without the commitment of the parties involved. Without commitment, marriage will be in danger. Marriage is not a Sprint, it is a marathon race, it needs stamina, courage and commitment to make it a success.
(Eccl 9:10)
(2). SPIRITUAL WELL-BEING: These happy couples are all children of God, devoted to God in all ways, make Bible their authority and totally submitted to its ordinance. They are men and women of prayer. They don’t joke with prayer; prayer and fasting are their ways of life. They allow God in their homes and give Him the leadership role. Once the presence of God is missing in a marriage, devil will be at the driver’s seat driving such homes into stormy water. These couples secured the presence of God and the peace of God with other heavenly benefits reign supreme in their homes
(Galatians 5:22-26).
(3). TIME TOGETHER: Togetherness is compulsory where marriage must be the best .Research indicates that couples that do things together tends to be more closer, understand each other and have a successful marriage than those that are not having time together. If your marriage must be strong, you must live together, talk, sleep, play, pray and eat together. Mind you, many things like hours spent at work, in watching T.V, talking to your friends, salon, visitation, newspaper, computer games are competing seriously with your time to the detriment of your marriage, if care is not taking. To make your marriage a success, make your spouse part of your daily schedules regardless of how busy you are. Your marriage is very vital; incorporate it in your daily routines lest you have the time for quarrel or divorce.
Time is not negotiable in marriage; spend quality time together and in generous quality.
Time spent together as a couple is not a waste; it is the best period in fanning love in your life. Investment of time is the best investment in your marriage.



source;http://www.familyparliament.com/57/secret-of-strong-marriages

Pastor Bisi Adewale



The choice of a life partner may determine the success of a marriage. It must be made with utmost care because it is a life-time choice

Counsel and conviction are necessary.
 Inform your pastor after you might have prayed through.
 The pastor could call you together or allow the brother to go ahead with the proposal.
 Only brothers should propose (Prov. 18:22).
 When proposing, the brother should be direct, polite, resolute but simple.
 No use of proverb, adage and so on during proposal.
 Avoid saying ‘thus saith the Lord’.
 Never intimidate or terrify the sister.
 Do not share your vision, dreams, prophecy and so on with her.
 Do not rush her into giving her consent; give her enough time to confirm.
 Avoid constant visits after proposal and do not give the sister any gifts. Let her take an independent decision.
 Leave room for refusal but do not give up if you are sure.
 Never make a lady who rejects your proposal an enemy.
 Never throw away a proposal without finding from the heavenly father. Don’t be snobbish.
 Do not fail to pray seriously about it.
 Do not bother to pray about proposal from an unbeliever, divorcee and married men. It is not the will of God (Joshua 23:11-13, Malachi 2:14-16).
 Go for counsel.
 Check love and character.
 Do not target financial gain.
 Do not delay giving the brother an answer as soon as you have it

http://www.familyparliament.com/471/how-to-handle-proposal

-Pastor Bisi Adewale

For a marriage to work, it requires two genuinely converted people, who have accepted Jesus as the final authority on every issue of life. They must be ready to obey the scriptures in any circumstances. It is only in this way they can have the marriage of their dream.

1. He obeys God and his word.
2. The spouse needs not to battle with the fear of unfaithfulness.
3. He together with his partner handles family problems prayerfully.
4. One faith breeds one love.
5. Drunkenness and night crawling will be far away from the home.
6. There will be no fear of divorce.
7. Children are raised in the fear of the Lord.
8. Money will be handled according to Biblical injunction.
9. In-laws will be put where they belong
10. There will be no room for third party.
11. Christ will be at the centre of the home.
12. There will be divine provision for the house (Philippians 4:19).
13. There will be divine protection for the home (Psalm 91).
14. People around will see the beauty of God in the home.
15. The joy of salvation will fill the house.
16. The wife willingly submits to her husband Eph. 5:22.
17. The husband likewise loves his wife Eph. 5:23.
18. Children obey their parents in the fear of the Lord.
19. God is ever-present Psalm 40:1.

source:http://www.familyparliament.com/468/advantages-of-marrying-a-genuine-child-of-god#509

By Tim Lanigan, a retired speechwriter who worked at the U.S. Drug Enforcement Administration from 1998 to 2004

How likely is it that my child will use marijuana?

Marijuana use is widespread, especially among teens. Each year, the Institute for Social Research at the University of Michigan conducts an extensive survey of 8th, 10th, and 12th graders. The 2008 survey found that by the 12th grade, 43 percent of the students had tried marijuana, 19 percent had used it in the month preceding the survey, and five percent used it every day.

When should I start worrying about it?

Earlier than you might think. According to Dr. Karen Miotto, a professor at the UCLA School of Medicine and former director of its Alcoholism and Addiction Medicine Service, “kids are starting to experiment with marijuana at ages 10 or 11.” But the most important years come when the child leaves middle school for high school, says Joseph Califano, Jr., head of the National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University. Fourteen-year olds are three times more likely to be offered marijuana than 13-year olds, he says………read more… http://www.familyparliament.com/273/marijuana-what-every-parent-should-know

If you want to be up-to-date or you want to be empowered or you want life to be easy for you,then there are some websites you must visit daily if you live in Nigeria or are you a Nigerian living abroad,or you just love the beautiful country call Nigeria?
Here I will mention eight important sites you must visit daily.
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3) FAMILYPARLIAMENT.COM
Familyparliament.com Forum is the best place to be if news,teachings,stories,discussions that affects the family is what you really want.
Though relatively new, Familyparliament.com has pride itself as Nigeria's best Family and relationship Forum,it is very good on the issues of love,romance,marriage,relationship,parenting,family health and other things that affects the Family.
If deep knowledge in family and relationship is what you want,I recommend you visit Familyparliament.com daily.

4) VANGUARDNGR.COM
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It is ranked number 27 on alexa in Nigeria. Visit the site daily to get unbiased and balance news from Nigeria.

5) KONGA.COM
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It claim to be number one online shopping destination in Nigeria. I think they are. You can now Forget all the long queues, staying long hours in traffic and crowded malls as you can now buy just anything online and at the best price in Nigeria just for you to have the best shopping experience with the option of pay on delivery either by cash or with the use of your debit card. You can also make use of your KongaPay as a more convenient and secure payment method.
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6). Jobberman is Nigeria's No. 1 Job Website, keeping you in the loop on the latest jobs in Nigeria, recent vacancies and current Nigerian job recruitment opportunities. You can easily get a job you love on jobberman, so visit it daily.


7) MAMALETTE.COM
This is Nigeria number one website on Motherhood,Mamalette is Nigeria’s most inspiring community for mothers and mothers-to-be. Founder Anike Lawal, a mum herself, set up Mamalette in 2013 and today Mamalette has recorded over 300,000 unique readers and 1,500,000 page views. If you are a mother,your day is not complete until you visit Mamalette.

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This site is own by Nigeria's Premier Sports paper. If current News about sports,transfer,result and sporting activities is what you want,completesportsnigeria is the best place

http://www.familyparliament.com/242/8-websites-you-must-visit-daily-in-nigeria

If you want to be up-to-date or you want to be empowered or you want life to be easy for you,then there are some websites you must visit daily if you live in Nigeria or are you a Nigerian living abroad,or you just love the beautiful country call Nigeria?
Here I will mention eight important sites you must visit daily.
1) NAIRALAND.COM
Nairaland is the undisputed number one forum in Nigeria with more than 1.3 Million members. It has been there consistently since 2005. It can be seen as the melting point of Nigeria and Nigerians.If you are not visiting nairaland, you are definitely missing something. Visit it Now!!!!!

2) NAIJ.COM
Naij is Nigeria's number one news portal,Naij is ranked number 17 on Alexa in Nigeria,It is dynamic,has dynamic staff working 24/7 to update the site,naij.com has definitely made a point of how a news portal should be, if hot news from Nigeria that you can not find in regular newspapers and sites is what you want,then Naij.com is the place to visit everyday

3) FAMILYPARLIAMENT.COM
Familyparliament.com Forum is the best place to be if news,teachings,stories,discussions that affects the family is what you really want.
Though relatively new, Familyparliament.com has pride itself as Nigeria's best Family and relationship Forum,it is very good on the issues of love,romance,marriage,relationship,parenting,family health and other things that affects the Family.
If deep knowledge in family and relationship is what you want,I recommend you visit Familyparliament.com daily.

4) VANGUARDNGR.COM
Vanguardngr.com is Nigeria Leading sites among regular newspaper in Nigeria
It is ranked number 27 on alexa in Nigeria. Visit the site daily to get unbiased and balance news from Nigeria.

5) KONGA.COM
Konga is an Online Shopping Mall
It claim to be number one online shopping destination in Nigeria. I think they are. You can now Forget all the long queues, staying long hours in traffic and crowded malls as you can now buy just anything online and at the best price in Nigeria just for you to have the best shopping experience with the option of pay on delivery either by cash or with the use of your debit card. You can also make use of your KongaPay as a more convenient and secure payment method.
I advise you to visit Konga daily.

6)

Jobberman is Nigeria's No. 1 Job Website, keeping you in the loop on the latest jobs in Nigeria, recent vacancies and current Nigerian job recruitment opportunities. You can easily get a job you love on jobberman,so visit it daily.


7) MAMALETTE.COM
This is Nigeria number one website on Motherhood,Mamalette is Nigeria’s most inspiring community for mothers and mothers-to-be. Founder Anike Lawal, a mum herself, set up Mamalette in 2013 and today Mamalette has recorded over 300,000 unique readers and 1,500,000 page views. If you are a mother,your day is not complete until you visit Mamalette.

COMPLETESPORTSNIGERIA.COM
This site is own by Nigeria's Premier Sports paper. If current News about sports,transfer,result and sporting activities is what you want,completesportsnigeria is the best place

http://www.familyparliament.com/242/8-websites-you-must-visit-daily-in-nigeria

SOURCE: http://www.familyparliament.com/220/happy-birthday-daddy-amp-mummy-olukoya

GENERAL Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG), Pastor Enoch Adejare Adeboye, has hailed his wife as she celebrates her 67th birthday.

“Happy birthday to my sweet baby, my friend, my sister, my lover, my confidant, my pali, my only wife, my mummy and my partner in Christ. Love you today and always. @PastorFAAdeboye with love from @PastorEAAdeboye,” Pastor Adeboye posted on his Facebook account.

Foluke Adeboye, wife of the General Overseer Redeemed Christian Church of God, Enoch Adeboye, turned 67 on Monday.

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http://www.familyparliament.com/203/pastor-adeboye-happy-birthday-to-my-sweet-baby

A wife sent this to us, let help her.

I am almost ashamed to share this but I had to share this with you so that I can get your candid opinion before I completely lose my mind. My husband and I have been married for over 8 years and we haven’t had it good financially. He just got a new job and I never really liked his new boss because the first time I visited my husband at work he started making passes at me and that was the last time I visited that office. I spoke to my hubby about it and he said I was overreacting until he came home a month ago telling me about how I hold the key to the prosperity of the family. I was still trying to understand what he was up to when he broke the news that his boss would want me to have a night out with him in exchange for N3.5million. I almost lost my mind because I wasn’t sure this was my husband talking. I have not known peace since then and I am totally confused about his pressure

http://www.familyparliament.com/200/he-wants-me-to-sleep-with-his-boss-for-money

By: Bisi Adewale
As innocent as these phrases may be if they are commonly used in your marriage, your marriage be heading for the rock, if you want a better marriage, simply don't use them. They are:
"I did everything on my own.
"We can't do that."
"It's too bad we couldn't work together.
"I miss marry"
"I can't"
"I'm sorry, I'm too busy"
"I can't love him/her again"
Let's catch up sometime.
"I never read books."
"Time off is for suckers."
I don't have time for you
"So and so is better than you"
"I wish I marry ......"
"I don't like sex"
"I wish you change to...."
"I hate you"
"I can't change, that is how God created me"
"You remind me of my grand ma/pa"
"That girl look beautiful"
"This food is bad"
"Don't you know what your mates are doing"
"I will kill you"
"You are stupid"


http://www.familyparliament.com/167/21-phrases-that-can-destroy-your-marriage

I need ur help sir, i assisted a divorce lady to rent an apartment where she staying up till now. But after sometime i find myself dating her. And she has giving birth to a child for the husband before the husband went to impregnant another lady and the husband is living with the new lady now, that lead to the divorce issue. Now that am dating her, and we are also staying together. And i really want to marry her. The problem am having now is that the former husband is now calling her again, and i try to caution this lady about the man and i noticed she didnt want to listen, even of recent she went to sleep with her. Although she didnt know i am aware of dat because she lied to him that she is going to visit her uncle. Infact i am confused and i dont know what to do. Pls i need an urgent reply...I will be happy to read from you....... Thanks

http://www.familyparliament.com/143/what-do-you-have-to-say-to-this-guy-pls-help

I need ur help sir, i assisted a divorce lady to rent an apartment where she staying up till now. But after sometime i find myself dating her. And she has giving birth to a child for the husband before the husband went to impregnant another lady and the husband is living with the new lady now, that lead to the divorce issue. Now that am dating her, and we are also staying together. And i really want to marry her. The problem am having now is that the former husband is now calling her again, and i try to caution this lady about the man and i noticed she didnt want to listen, even of recent she went to sleep with her. Although she didnt know i am aware of dat because she lied to him that she is going to visit her uncle. Infact i am confused and i dont know what to do. Pls i need an urgent reply...I will be happy to read from you....... Thanks


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