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JustcallmeFavou:
So sorry about what you went through in your marriage. But what's with the generalization that women raised by single mothers are bad and bitter?

There are men and women who are raised by both parents that are so crazy, irresponsible, and wicked. Whether a man or a woman is raised by a single mother or not. Pray for a partner that is yours, that's what I will always say.

And also, in the dating or courting stage;

1. Check if your partner listens to you when you talk or give them advice.

2. Check if he/she is ready to change or adjust to things or habits about them you don't like, and can you willingly do the same for them as well?

3. Check if they are generous, and supportive towards you no matter how little.

4. Check if there is an iota of the fear of God still left in them.

5. Check if they are promiscuous in nature.

6. Check if they can at least talk to you about like 80% of their personal plans ie if they can't tell you everything yet.

7. Check if when he/she is angry, can you pacify them, or are they revengeful or don't forgive at all.

8. Is he/she so proud or humble, kind, and a nice human?

9. Check if he/she easily apologizes when they wrong you without always trying to play the manipulative card? And can you easily do the same as well when you offend your partner?

10. Check if he/she is mentally, and psychologically mature. Or are they still babies in their early, mid, or late 20's, 30's..... ??

11. Check if he/she is accommodating, and friendly to your friends and family members, or do they have one complaint or another with almost everyone in your life?

12. What are their reactions whenever you extend a kind gesture to your family members or to others? Do they encourage you to do more, or do they frown or complain bitterly?

13. Lastly, go down on your knees and pray to God to reveal the true nature of your partner to you. This way, no matter how he/she wants to pretend to you God sees the unknown, and He will reveal their true nature to you.

I believe, if one can easily get answers to the above, then it's a step to know if he/she is who you want to settle down with or not.

May God help us all, amen!

Ladies like you and nancee give me hope that sane women still exist unlike two that derailed this thread completely

Afodot0022:
Hmmm am just speechless with OP experience. Seems like we both are going through the same issues mentioned by you. Infact it looks like your wife is related to my own wife in some certain ways cos she exhibit same trait your wife display. You have said all and a word is enough for the wise. Single guys should open their eyes and pray real hard before settling down with any lady expecially those that were raised by single ladies and those that came out of polygamous home. They are really toxic and unbearable. My wife mom abandone them to their father when they were young and it was their step mom that raised them. The father had many wives and also her mum married multiple husband before she married their father and still left him to marry another again. So you can imagine how messed up their background was. I knew all this when i was still dating her but let me say i was carried away with love or probably lust and didnt make me consider those things.
The issue am facing now with my woman, when i maried her, i only did traditional marriage and didnt do any registry. After the traditional, madam show me hell o that i was even looking for a way out cos of peace of mind. Now after some years, my father inlaw just called me recently that we should go and do our registry which is court wedding. He mentioned that he gave me a week to get this done and if i dont have enough funds , he is willing to assist financially. Now my question is with the way my wife has behave in the past, should i still go ahead and do the court wedding now after 5 years we did our traditional. Pls i need answers and advice from matured married men out there cos if left to me, i am not doing any court wedding cos the way i look at it, i dont think our marriage will last with the way my wife had behaved. If its you, will you proceed to do the court marriage.

Don't do it especially if your father In-law is to finance it beside financing it think deeply how much you can tolerate your wife by the way 5years of marriage how many children yet?

adedayourt:
OP, let me first empathize with you as this must be that very phase of your life you wish not to arrive at.

Exactly what you stated up their is what I go through, but mine is happening while we still dating and we already have a wedding date. Introduction is supposed to be in few weeks from now.


But this lady is raised by partially her mum, partially her dad. She does most of the things you stated up there to the extend that when I step out of the house to buy stuff, she tails me and locks around behind (I have caught her doing this).



Now she has gone to my family to speak a whole lot and currently I am the worst guy on earth before my folks while she walks like an angel. Presently I called off everything with her and cancelling the wedding even though everybody is insisting I cannot take such decision.


I am only glad I am not married to her yet.

Congratulations

Mutemenot:
d nigga is very confused, he probably want to die like a fly that followed corpse to the grave.

Please help him to this thread so his eyes will be opened

Mutemenot:
I wish my friend could see this thread, his own hell is on this earth; courtesy of wife trained by a single mother...
our women are becoming trap, looking for who to catch and, they re after the good men in the society to devour...

Invite him

He need helps seriously from the shackles of the bleeding hoes

Spy360:
Someone once told me there is a reason God didn't create a wife for Himself (even when he has a 'son') and that Jesus refused to marry. Even Satan, seems to not willing to follow that path.

This one deep

Last last na human being him be not a super natural being

88m do we have a deal?

Welcome development

This guy took simpleton to a whole new level

Many years Back then in school I actually did these and it worked fine

Was more like friend zoning them

The true benefit is that they will be the one dying for you instead

FCMB in the mud

Them nor want this person to rest in peace at all

Look like a pit bull

MKV?

I have to agree with you

Muslim should also accept Jesus as the Lord and personal saviour before commenting on Christian thread/topic

Its so simple as ABC

But

I won't say a word

You forgot those that came for the food

Reno will give this one flawless victory with fatality

Na wow for those saying 40k

Are you guys speaking from experience or from a point of assumption

Not even the so called Prophet or pastor hear anything

Its just their personal deep conviction

Maybe a dream nothing else
Do not be deceived

I think it's psychological because "I think you are going through a financial difficult time"

Even for married men when they encounter financial difficult time they hardly have time for their wife

So sort out your finances and the urge will come

Monogamy:
Privilege? Are those people disabled? If the guy had been like them, would he be able to help?

Not saying all those beggars are not genuine but there are some that are just lazy ass.

Nairaland is another good example of how begging has gone into extreme in Nigeria

My brother pray that tough times don't hit you
Just like a saying goes....
"Na person when things better for dey think say him neighbor nor sabi plan"

Bro lazy people exist but with the current situation of things in the country I don't blame people so much

Better for a man to beg me than to rob me

Peace

Just because you are priveledge for "NOW" don't feel entitled

When anybody approach me I simply tell you straight don't tell.me your story because I won't help you

And if I am to help I just give what I can afford without asking for stories either

Well

I won't say a word