Acidosis:


So if elites like Tony Elumelu dies without a son, his "wicked" brothers will take over his wealth and conglomerates while Mrs Elumelu and daughters are very much alive?

If your uncles take over your father's wealth while you're alive, it simply means y'all are disgusting illiterates. Your tribe got nothing to do with this. Backward traditions thrive where stupidity and low self-esteem reign. Tell your father to write a WILL, give you all access to his assets, and stop crying!

Am not crying ok, Elumelu is not from my home town. Women don't have access to anything in my home town and if you like take them to the highest court in the whole world, they will still win because it is already in the culture that only men can inherit anything

EVILFOREST:

Why would you blame your BROTHER, after all he is carrying out the FAMILY WISHES.
I think say na MARRIAGE uh na dey find...??
Why rush to Nairaland ...?
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MARRIAGE don come naaaa

Actually I didn't seek advise from people like you because I know you are still under your parent eating "mama thank ma"

ireneidiva:

If roles were reversed and your brother was the sick one, will you advice her to leave him? Stop disturbing people to marry by the way.

I wish you understand ma'am. We are Igbo and you know what it means to have only one son in the family. God forbid anything happen, our wicked uncle and their children will take over all my father's property and land. They will take over everything my dad has worked for. Now I think you can see the reason why we are on his neck to get marry so that my daddy's name will continue

We are just 3 in my family (which is 2 boys and a girl) though the last born died last year. Now it remain only me and my brother and he's 29yrs. Since he's the only son we've been disturbing him to get marry, recently he brought a girl to my house and this girl look so sick though she told me she has been taking treatment because she have hepatitis B. I called my brother and told to leave the girl alone because hepatitis B is very deadly and I don't want anything to happen to him, he told me thats the person he want to marry and no one can stop it. I have read so many stories about hepatitis B that it is incurable and very dangerous. My brother won't just listen. Please advise me on what to do. I don't want to loose my brother. Don't mind my grammatical errors please

For everyone telling me to leave my only brother and sibling alone to make his decision, you people don't know what it means to have only one son in Igbo land. This is the only person that can inherit everything my father owns but God forbid anything happen to him, my wicked uncle and children will take over everything thing. So please stop telling me to leave my only sibling alone

cococandy:
Are you still in that marriage?

Yes ma but am planning to move out because I don't want to hurt myself again. This January I attempted suicide but thank God for our landlord son that came at that moment to ask for pressing iron and he rushed me to hospital. I believe if I continue with him, I can still try the suicide again and may not be lucky

LadySarah:


Accept my condolence dear.It is well indeed.

Thank you ma

tabithababy:
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Don't tell me your brother died because your husband didn't want him to come over

It was already late before he agreed to let him come. He died 2 days after he came to my house in lagos

ericbertrand:
I'm sorry for your loss. May God comfort you and your family.

Thank you sir

Yes I was married and am planning to leave because it is not working out. I have tried everything, I even attempted suicide this January thank God I was rushed to hospital. I want to live for my 2 lovely boys and I want someone we can both share 2 bedroom apartment.

Ganjafama:
If you are unhappy why not quit the marriage. You can file for custody of your son. I assure you that you'll win custody of the boy because the law favours women in that regard. Marriage no be by force o! Maintaining you sanity is of utmost importance right now

Thank you for your advise. My junior brother died few months I open this thread it was so painful I swear and I really blamed myself for not acting fast.

yvelchstores:
The annoying part of everything is that someone I your compound told u.... Why will u listen to gossip in the first place. Ask yourself what is d intention of the person telling you this? She obviously wants to cause division as she is of her father the devil.
Whether or not it's true, it's up to you to mend your home.
For u to open up here saying he is a 1 minute man and so on, obviously u don't respect that man.
Treat him like a man who deserves respect. Also allow him to take up any responsibility, even if it's to buy bread and appreciate the bread like u have never eaten bread before. Boost that man's ego, make him feel like a hero. Maintain the peace in your home, irrespective of any truths or facts, very impt.

Thank you ma. I really appreciate this

Shibaraba:
Madam youre looking for an excuse to divorce the man so do it and stop disturbing our peace here. Calling him a one minute man plus you pay the bills. By the way what is a married woman doing with her phone by this time? Shouldn't you be collecting the one minute from him?

Women... Una go hear am for my hand aswearugod
Just imagine this nonsense

My phone is what keeps my company at night because he's sleeping in different room. Without my phone I will cry myself to sleep because I don't have any friend I can talk to. But reading comment on Instagram, nairaland and advertising my product(I have a business) always makes me happy every night

Shibaraba:
Madam youre looking for an excuse to divorce the man so do it and stop disturbing our peace here. Calling him a one minute man plus you pay the bills. By the way what is a married woman doing with her phone by this time? Shouldn't you be collecting the one minute from him?

Women... Una go hear am for my hand aswearugod
Just imagine this nonsense

If any woman has frustrated you why not go and vent your anger on the woman and not me. Did I tell you I want to divorce him now? A lady that was respecting him before just stopped greeting him and I have heard fron a reliable source that my husband do give the lady money for upkeep whereas he's leaving his responsibility at home for me to do just because I own a business and you are here typing what I don't know. A lady here asked if he flirt with other women and I said yes because I don't trust him with women at all. I have seen a lot and I know what am saying.

bukatyne:


You are sounding like Tonto.

He is a 1 min man, does only one round and chases everything in skirts.

Does he have sex only once with them cos I doubt they will come for a repeat performance.

Have you caught him cheating before?

Why/How did you get married to him?

Ma'am, you asked if he's flirting with other women and am trying to explain his relationship with women. I haven't caught him red handed but I have read so many message on his phone telling his girlfriend to meet him in hotel and am wondering why a man that can't go more than 1 min will be doing with other women. Anyway thanks for your opinion

bukatyne:


You are sounding like a typical Nigerian wife already.

@Feeding money: you told us she is currently stranded with her aged mom and kids. How does he giving her money equate to giving a married woman feeding money?

@her not greeting your husband: it could be as a result of jealousy, sadness for their situation, reminiscing on the past etc. It could also be your mind playing games.

Going from past precedence, has your husband cheated on you, flirted with other women? Were you a side chic turned wife?

I think you and hubby should have better communication channels.

I also think you should apply yourself more. If have a reason to suspect your husband, investigate critically before coming to a conclusion.

Goodluck.

The lady is married and having accommodation issue. She live with her parent and her parent are not really old like that. My husband can go after anything on skirt, I am 100% sure of that. It is just a pity I end up with such man and the most annoying part of it is he's 1min man. I swear to God he can't do more than 1min and can't also do more than 1 round in a day

dingbang:
Why not ask your husband this question than coming to Nairaland to be misled?

Of course he denied it when I asked him

Good evening beautiful people, not like am suspecting my husband but I want to hear people opinion. There's this lady with 2 kids that is staying with her parent in our compound. I heard their landlord evicted her and her husband and they have not been able to raise money and get another apartment so she brought her two kids to stay with her parent while her husband squat with someone else.
I normally hear this lady greet my husband "good morning sir" "afternoon sir" I mean she always add sir anytime she's greeting him. But recently she stopped greeting him even if she come to our apartment to charge phone(their apartment light was disconnected and they haven't pay their bills). Just some months ago, someone from our compound told me my husband is giving this lady feeding money(a married woman o) I didn't believe the amebo because I have been the one financing almost everything in that house including paying my son's school fees because oga said he's broke which I believe him.
Is it possible he's dating the lady or am just getting worried over nothing? Please don't mind all my grammatical error because am not in good mood now at all

Oyindidi:
All these prophets and their way of meddling into people's personal affairs. Anyway you've seen for yourself what the prophet is made of.
I feel for you sincerely, you must be going through a lot.

Thank you ma

dominique:


Going by your previous replies, I'm afraid you made him this way. You should have boldly put your foot down rather than cower in his presence. You have to STOP fuelling his bad behaviour with your constant begging and learn to be more assertive and outspoken. Stop listening to those silly pastors about your marriage, all they know is preaching to women about submission, they hardly ever admonish the erring husband about how to a better husband. Apply wisdom in talking to him but let him know that you're no longer a doormat for him to walk all over. To be sincere, the man has no love or respect for you. You should be making plans on how to exit that toxic marriage.

Thank you ma

dominique:
This shouldn't be an issue. Even though your husband is an unrepentant cheat, he should have human feelings. I believe he is aware of your brother's condition. If you ask him to allow him come and spend some time with you, he shouldn't oppose except he's a devil in human skin.

If I were you, I'd be planning my exit from that miserable marriage.

someone that doesn't even call to check how he's feeling

Agbaletu:


Is this a Pastor or just a guy man? The world belongs to everybody, it is not created for men alone.

Your last sentence is very annoying. You have even considered yourself not a co-owner of the house. The two of you own the house, madam. Just talk to him when he is in a good mood. Let him know that you will be responsible for the hospital bill,if not, he will not support their coming.


Please, stop begging him!

my brother, am talking of a Redeemed church pastor. I know my reason of getting worried about telling him. last year, my junior brother(he's just 15 and last born. we are only 3 in family and am the only girl) told me he want to come and spend the long vacation in our house and that night I made favourite dish for my husband, after he finish eating, I knelt down and started praying for him and calling him sweet names, he told me to go straight to the point and i told him my brother is coming to spend the 3rd term vacation in our house,Jesus you need to see how he reacted like the boy will kill him if he come. he said never I should not just dream it. I even told him not to give the boy penny even when he's going back that I will take care of everything, he said no and want to turn it to fight. And he knows am the first born of that family which means most things lies ob my head.

Oyindidi:
Sorry dear, you mean his girlfriend threatened you? Is it phone call or in person?

she sent me a message on Facebook. Though he has lot of them but that one was so bold

ladycomfort:
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Did you trap him with pregnancy??

Hope you didn't snatch him from anyone??

Hmmmm.... Tell him you are bringing your brother biko and make sure you take good care of your brother o..... Blood is thicker than water

No I didn't. you need to see him how he was always begging and crying for me to marry him. my heart rejected him but I consulted a prophet that told me if I did not marry him, I may not find husband again according to the vision he told me he saw. my heart never wanted him but I have to follow prophecy. Though I didn't regret it because of my handsome intelligent and adorable son

smellingmenses:
I am ONLY bothered about your mental health.

I feel depressed most times. Atimes I cry myself to sleep. if not for my son, I would have end the life. I tried leaving but he won't let me take my son away and that's my life

Hi everyone, I need an advise from you please. my marriage is 7 years old with a son. I and my husband doesn't love ourselves anymore, infact I will say I married the wrong man. He cheat without any sign of remorse and each time I catch him cheating he will be very annoy and will tell me I will beg him, of course I normally go down on my knee to beg him. I told our pastor(I hate calling him pastor) about his behaviour and he told me men are always right and it is a man's world so I should be the one doing the begging. ok that's fine and good but that doesn't make him to love me or see me as anything. Each time I ask myself what is it that am not doing right, and several times I have asked him while kneeling down to tell me what am not doing right but he will always say nothing. I have my business that is fetching me money so I don't ask him money and he doesn't give me too. something happened last year, his girlfriend confronted me telling me I won't have a second child. when he came back, I told him what his girlfriend told me and I expected him to at least tell me he's sorry. But he asked me why did I abuse the girl first which I didn't do. I told my parent because the girl also threatened to kill me and my mum called him and told him to divorce me if he know he's tired of the marriage. He got angry and abuse all my family, I didn't answer him. Now my junior brother is sick( my parent has spent a lot) and I suggested they bring him to lagos so that I will take them to LASUTH or LUTH. The question is how do I tell a man that doesn't love me or my family that my junior brother is coming to spend some days in his house so I can take them to hospital. Thanks for reading

So? What's the big deal in Atiku drinking pure water. I know oga MOD will push it to front page

What an awesomely awesome God

Done