When Yul Edochie made his big annoucement, a lot of the ensuing commentary focused on gender politics, marital infidelity and the usual mind -numblingly boring themes that unfortunately animates the Nigeria social media spaces. Let me just state clearly I have zero opinion on Yul Edochie's indiscretions or decision. What a person does with their Instruments is nobody's business but theirs and theirs spouse unless it involves activity like RAPE.

Since Yul Edochie did not rape, there is zero case to answer regarding the morality or lack thereof of his decision of father a child outside of his marital home. Let me repeat that for emphasis: A decision to play a metaphorical away match and some away with the metaphorical trophy is not an issue for hundreds of thousands of occupationally challenge young people to obsess over. It's none of our business and it's really not that important anyway.

My issues however, is with the ancillary implication raisedby actors action. Remember how is the previous subheading, I complained about an infantile unthinking devotion to "the ways of our ancestors", as though our ancestors were an especially wise or successful people worthy of emulation? Let me reiterate using the issue of polygamy: why does there continue to be a belief that polygamy is or should be a good thing simply because our ancestors did it? Could out ancestors not be wrong about many things -perhaps even disastrously so?

In 2019 while working with International Committee on Nigeria (ICON) and the International Project for Peace Building and Social Justice (PSJ) on the silent Genocide report that later for Nigeria placed on a US state Department diplomatic notice list, I came across something that expanded my mind. One of the sources interviewed in the report explained that some of tension between Christian and Muslim communities in Northern Nigeria caused by economic disparity directly resulting from outcome of polygamous marriage practice in the Muslim area.

He explained that while the Christian area had linear inheritance practices since one man generally had one set of immediately descendants, the Muslim areas had severe economic dislocation since one man could have up to 4 set of immediate descendants (and sometimes more). Thus the monogamous Christian area were able to pass wealth down in a linear societal cohesion while the polygamous Muslim areas ended up with thousands of an angry men who had no inheritance, no land, no education and no hope.

In addition, where 10 men and 10 women cam theoretically marry each other and have 10 set of children who are genetically diverse enough to marry each other, 1 man and 10 women in a polygamous setting may produce the same children, but said children are siblings, which means they cannot marry each other. Unsurprisingly, geographical area with high rates of polygamy also tend to have more wars and conflict, as the pool of marriageable women is too small to accommodate a growing population of angry, undersexed young men who soon turn feral.

If this all sounds strangely familiar to you, that because you have already seen all of this happen - in fact you are seeing it happen right now in front of you Boko Haram, Ansaru, ISWAP and whatever designation terrorist give themselves tomorrow, we are all direct beneficiaries of the economic and societal dislocation caused by polygamy. Without it, their ranks could never have been swelled to their current number. There is even a strong argument to be made for linking the 300-year long slave trade abomination in West Africa to the practice of polygamy.

The fact that our ancestors did something does not - should not- make it acceptable for us to do it. Our ancestors did lots of things. The sold human beings for coloured pieces and corrugated roofing sheets. They made smallpox a god and worshipped it. They created writing scripts like Nsibidi, and hoarded them exclusively for elite priest and royalty so that information and knowledge could not be saved and compounded across generation. They became the only civilisation in human history to be completely, utterly, comprehensively and decisively conquered on their own land to the extent of adopting other people's gods, claiming other people's ancestry and even adopting skin bleaching.

A wise man once said, "For what is tradition, but peer pressure from dead people?"
Think about it

When Yul Edochie made his big annoucement, a lot of the ensuing commentary focused on gender politics, marital infidelity and the usual mind -numblingly boring themes that unfortunately animates the Nigeria social media spaces. Let me just state clearly I have zero opinion on Yul Edochie's indiscretions or decision. What a person does with their Instruments is nobody's business but theirs and theirs spouse unless it involves activity like RAPE.

Since Yul Edochie did not rape, there is zero case to answer regarding the morality or lack thereof of his decision of father a child outside of his marital home. Let me repeat that for emphasis: A decision to play a metaphorical away match and some away with the metaphorical trophy is not an issue for hundreds of thousands of occupationally challenge young people to obsess over. It's none of our business and it's really not that important anyway.

My issues however, is with the ancillary implication raisedby actors action. Remember how is the previous subheading, I complained about an infantile unthinking devotion to "the ways of our ancestors", as though our ancestors were an especially wise or successful people worthy of emulation? Let me reiterate using the issue of polygamy: why does there continue to be a belief that polygamy is or should be a good thing simply because our ancestors did it? Could out ancestors not be wrong about many things -perhaps even disastrously so?

In 2019 while working with International Committee on Nigeria (ICON) and the International Project for Peace Building and Social Justice (PSJ) on the silent Genocide report that later for Nigeria placed on a US state Department diplomatic notice list, I came across something that expanded my mind. One of the sources interviewed in the report explained that some of tension between Christian and Muslim communities in Northern Nigeria caused by economic disparity directly resulting from outcome of polygamous marriage practice in the Muslim area.

He explained that while the Christian area had linear inheritance practices since one man generally had one set of immediately descendants, the Muslim areas had severe economic dislocation since one man could have up to 4 set of immediate descendants (and sometimes more). Thus the monogamous Christian area were able to pass wealth down in a linear societal cohesion while the polygamous Muslim areas ended up with thousands of an angry men who had no inheritance, no land, no education and no hope.

In addition, where 10 men and 10 women cam theoretically marry each other and have 10 set of children who are genetically diverse enough to marry each other, 1 man and 10 women in a polygamous setting may produce the same children, but said children are siblings, which means they cannot marry each other. Unsurprisingly, geographical area with high rates of polygamy also tend to have more wars and conflict, as the pool of marriageable women is too small to accommodate a growing population of angry, undersexed young men who soon turn feral.

If this all sounds strangely familiar to you, that because you have already seen all of this happen - in fact you are seeing it happen right now in front of you Boko Haram, Ansaru, ISWAP and whatever designation terrorist give themselves tomorrow, we are all direct beneficiaries of the economic and societal dislocation caused by polygamy. Without it, their ranks could never have been swelled to their current number. There is even a strong argument to be made for linking the 300-year long slave trade abomination in West Africa to the practice of polygamy.

The fact that our ancestors did something does not - should not- make it acceptable for us to do it. Our ancestors did lots of things. The sold human beings for coloured pieces and corrugated roofing sheets. They made smallpox a god and worshipped it. They created writing scripts like Nsibidi, and hoarded them exclusively for elite priest and royalty so that information and knowledge could not be saved and compounded across generation. They became the only civilisation in human history to be completely, utterly, comprehensively and decisively conquered on their own land to the extent of adopting other people's gods, claiming other people's ancestry and even adopting skin bleaching.

A wise man once said, "For what is tradition, but peer pressure from dead people?"
Think about it

phemmyfour:
It's a sin cos you are not married to the woman. Sex and other sexual secretions are not what you can share with a third party in the name of "HELP"

Blessedpalms:

Akalia:
He hinted on starting his venture with some money running in thousands but below 200k as he rightly mentioned.
The truth is that no idea will fly without funding; there is a swam of problem solvers wielding brilliant problem solving ideas in Nigeria but lack of fund is even a bigger challenge to actualising the blue print .

Pojomojo:
Wondering why this is not on front page

LordIsaac:
You see?

Onepiece007:



Well , this is a problem . What we need to do is find a solution ? Brillant minds , work on it!

Agboconsult1:
Relocated from JOS to PH..hope to meet a female nairalander.

nextstep:


Forget sin. Have the married woman and the donor talked with the husband? The husband better be fully aware and accept. I mean, that's the man who would assume the role of father for the child. Otherwise that's parental fraud brewing.

Demigod22:
For those saying men do one of those things, we have men that don't smoke, drink nor womanize. I don't do any of those things, but I do other things since we all have vice.

Celsony:
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There are so many videos on YouTube, it was in 2016 that I watched those videos. The Basic thing about barbing yourself is that you need 2 mirrors which will enable you to barb the front and back of your head comfortably. Here are some links:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9oi6-AnolEw


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gkC6BFlDqWc


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zlv1wdGtCUM


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VULJ96XFAhw

Miracle112:
500

I have standard unisex Salon for sale
Fully Equipped with modern Facilities for Haircuts and Hairdressing. Located at a very busy junction in Portharcourt close to The University of PortHarcourt.
3 Executive barbing Chiars
3 Modern Towel warmer
3 Sterilizer
4 furniture mirrors with Lights and a personal Television for each seaters/mirrors
1 Modern Hair washing Basin
1 Executive Hairdressing chair
1 Tattooing machine Furnitures+AC
1 styling stool Sales of clippers and Hairs etc...
Both the Female Salon and Male salon is fully Equipped with all cosmetics and tools for hair styling and Barbing

Celsony:
Since 2013 I have been barbing myself except on occasional basis where I am out of town and far away from my clipper. I watched YouTube videos on how to cut your hair yourself.

Datboredberry:
Lol.... Some women spend 300k and above on their hair... Intimidating the rest of us...

Being a man is easy...

I hate that black men cut their hair

Blunttruth:

Bunch of babies, faceless forum.