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Izen:
When you people want to argue, you don't even make it believable. One of your colleagues too was saying changing light bulb, taking waste out and washing car up there..... LMAO. Anyone that compares a once in a week chore to a 3 times a day job, or a chore that would take all of 3mins to one that would take nothing less than an hour; such fellow is too dumb to argue with in the first place LMAO.

People like you are either ignorant or just too narrow-minded not to know that WORK is not all about what you do physically.
Planning, layout, monitoring, e.t.c are all part of work! They are BRAIN WORK!
Men/husbands in the household, do more of the brain work, which is even more tiring..... if in doubt, ask a student studying for exams why he/she eats much when all he/she does is sit somewhere and read.

"Work" does not have to be PHYSICAL or time consuming.
If not so, the Labourer that carries Cement on his head should be more paid that the Architect that 'just draws' some skecthes for a few minutes or the mech Engineer that 'just puts on his helmet' and directs the labourers on what to do.

Some of you need to see the "Big/Whole Picture" and stop whinning like a horse, just because you cook.

Honestly, l dont enjoy engaging people like YOU who are intellectually challenged and whose mindset is 'weak'.
You can go and challenge your husband to a fight, because you cook the food you both eat, e nor 'consign' me.

Demure1:
Thank you oo, I laugh when I hear women age faster than men, please what do most men expect?, she goes to work same as you comes back home while you relax with football, she is in the kitchen cooking till God knows when, you devour the meal by this time you already in bed waiting to pound her life out, then she goes to the kitchen to clean up, wakes up before you to prepare the meal and the children for school and its an ongoing cycle.
To crown it all you still expect her to look like a Barbie doll.

Before you come for me I wash cars, change the bulb, take out the trash and what not.
There's nothing like helping her out since you eat out of the meal so you doing no one a favour.

I hope you also laugh when you hear that "men die younger than women" or that 'women live longer than men'?

I dont even want to go into details of how men work themselves to death, over their family and then die when its time to start enjoying it, only for the woman to enjoy the sweat of the man and probably doing so with a new husband/lover.

As men, we dont whine. We do our bit and get on with it

All the things you listed up there, from the food to the 'pounding' to the children, are all SHARED BENEFITS BETWEEN BOTH OF THEM.
No one is doing the other a favor.

Like in any organisation, their are ROLES each person plays, for the success of the organisation.
You play yours, l play mine and things work.
No one should start whinning about how their role is giving them headache, except they are just plain lazy.

Same in the family/home.
The husband has his role and the wife has her role (which includes cooking for the family).

If you dont like the heat, get the feck out of the kitchen.
Marriage is not by force.

Izen:
Because you have no comeback for my question, you decided to derail. I asked a simple question, your woman is also providing so why is she still expected to be solely responsible for the home front? You think paying her for the chores is more important than actually collaborating with her? Even the big corporations you all work for understand the importance of collaboration and team work, but I guess our men enjoy the bliss of being blind to the truth.

Let us stop this fallacy that women do ALL the "home Chore/work" whether they work or not.

There is division of labour. Cooking the meal is for women. End of story.

If for example (just an example here so dont start farting), the roof starts leaking after a rain or the Generator breaks down in the middle of the night when there is no public power supply, is it the wife or the husband that takes responsibility for such, even if he has just returned from a grueling day's work? Does he start moaning like a cow about how his office work is preventing him from doing the repair?

That is when you hear tales like: 'Is he not a man'? or 'That is why he is a man'.
Fair enough, it is his responsiblity/chore in the home front and he does it without whinning.

Women should do theirs, like cooking, without whinning as well.
Any wife/woman that feels she cant cook the family meal is USELESS to the family and should move out or be kicked out.
End of story.

BTW: I can cook like mad because l am one of those men that believe that no woman should ever blackmail me with good food!.

pedrilo:
bros, i do not have a problem cooking ok, carry ur oversabi comot from my mention.

Dont mind that Cow, he thinks by pandering to all these senseless demands of some women, he is going to win some votes!

Any woman that can not do her woman-chores without complaining, should either resign her job or get the feck out of the marriage.
It is not by force to be called "Mrs" Xyz.

- Mrs Alakija is a Billionaire and she still cooks her husband's food.
- Late Dora Akinyilu of blessed memory tells us about her she serves her husband's food to him everyday, despite fighting all the Drug fakers in Nigeria.
Many more 'women of substance' know where to draw the line and dont joke with their house duties.

All you see are these under-accomplished mofos on Nairaland whinning about how their peanut-paying job has turned them to the 'husband of the house'.

Metchew

IamD18:
Then resign and stop seeking for attention on social media. Fvcking resign, you lazy ass or leave your m'dafvqin marriage for you to be free.


Why must a wife make such statement " If women were being paid for these chores "
What manner of selfishness is that? To get paid for doing chores in your home?

Is she mad? I don't know why women of these days finds it difficult to take their mothers as their role model. So pathetic.

The Ediot probably started fucking the Boss on her first day at work so she needs an excuse to leave her marriage.
Marriage is not by force, if she cant cook because she is working, she should just leave.

Just imagine if a Man came back from work and decided because he works, he wont mow his own lawn or do Madam as when due!

These women of today are really pushing their luck too far.

MrJohnson1987:
Hi Great professionals.
My name is Johnson,sometimes ago I spoke with Thathistoryguy on this thread that sells tiles in Lagos.So he gave me his contact cus I needed some tiles for my housing projects,I contacted him and we chatted on WhatsApp, after he showed me some samples of the tiles I needed I went over to his place in Odun-Ade to do business with him.
When I got there he attended to me warmly, I must say he's good . To cut the story short I bought goods worth over 3million from him mostly tiles and promised to come back for WC and sanitary wares which he sells too.
Now where the problem came in is,during the time I was in his showroom there is this 60x60 Spanish tiles I bought 160m² he told me it will be totalled 111cartons but to my amazement when my engineer brought it to the site the next day it was 109.3cartons.
I have been talking to him since and he's making calculations I don't understand.

Pls I meet him here and I believe you guys can talk to him cus I need the remaining 2cartons or so.

Hmmm, stories that touch....

Contact the people here, that recommended him to you, so they can talk to him.

Buyers Beware.

Luck2016:
Lovers of education and industrial revolution of Nigeria should please rise and condemn this barbaric act by the present NDDC management. The common man in Nigeria with the requisite qualifications can longer share in the common wealth of this great nation in order to contribute in the economic development of our dear country.

NDDC is for South-South, managed by South-South indigenes, for the people of South-South!
Yet, they still cheat thier own people, only to turn around and blame others.
Blow up these Criminals in NDDC, who by the way are your own people...instead of blowing up pipelines.

"A man's worst enemies, are members of his own household". - Holy Bible.

kense88:
There are so many occasions and actions that suggests that he should at least be arrested and investigated for link with book haram.If bukola saraki can be questioned for having any connection with offa bank robbers, then buhari should be arrested for been choosen as a representative of boko haram, by the terror group. But you can start the impeachment with his habit of flouting court orders example, detention of zakzaky the leader of shiite Muslims for over two years without any trial. You can also open a file on how Yusuf buhari got the money he used in purchasing his power bike, just like the way SARS has been harassing our youths with flashy cars.

As for my PVC, sure i have gotten it. We know Buhari and APC is planning to rig, but they can bring it on we are ready( I mean anambra state, not too sure of other western states). We are ready for his dogs and baboon soaking in blood.

Please if you must reply me, address the first point I mentioned in this very post

This is my problem with you Ibos!
Too much chest-beating!

Let me quickly address your 'first point':
There is a difference between an allegation made without PROOF..... and an allegation corroborated with PROOF and WITNESSES.
This is the difference between what Saraki is going through..... and you wanting to hang Buahri for 'link' with Boko haram.


Buhari will NOT investigate or jail himself, somebody has to do it.
Jonathan should have investigated and "proved" that link and put the Buahri in jail but he go no-balls and you his Igbo supporters are all noise and no action.

Hopefully, when he leaves Govt, he would be investigated for his 'links' with herdsmen ajd dealt with decisively.

Saraki is being questioned, not by Saraki himself but by another party with authority to question him, with "Evidence and Proofs".


I hope you know that Buhari has the most rabid supporters from the people of the South East?.
Left to the South West, they have passed a verdict of failure on him.
But just watch as things unfold and see how una "Lion heart" people will vote for him en-masse,..he even dangled Presidency in 2026 before una eyes!

Smart Fulani Herdsman, playing on the 'selfishness/self-centredness' of IPOB since 1914.


NB: This is just a private discussion, l dont need all Nairaland IPOBS on my mention otherwise, thunder fire anybody.

positivethought:
very well then,sometimes ago perhaps out of a tip off saraki n gov Ahmed raised alarm that there was a plot to incriminate them in cases of murder using persons of questionable characters by the police,infact saraki made attempts to see the president over this n other issues,in the heat of those claims n counter claims the DPP In kwara state issued a statement where he was categorical that based on the statements made by the suspects in ilorin there was absolutely nothing connecting saraki or Gov Ahmed to any crime,the suspects were move to Abuja n the story suddenly changed!,may be the DPP should be invited to come n clarify his statement because he definitely has access to the fact of the case,we are all aware of the circumstances surrounding the emergence of saraki as the senate president n the protracted political fued that has ensued after that,infact Tinubu once boasted that saraki must be humbled one way or the other,it is not a secret that the police IG has been having a running battle with the senate so also is the custom boss Ahmed Ali, you don't need a soothsayer to know that this is just pure dangerous politiking,saraki may not be clean just as there is no one single clean politician buhari n his boy osibanjo inclusive,but this script is just raw n crude not to be seen through easily,go back n read the history n accounts of Adikwu the dismissed police officer leader of the robery gang,also find out the account of the hotel manager where the robbers lodged prior to the robbery n so on,personally something inside tells me that the Apc are only shooting themselves in the foot with this desperate bid by the power brokers in the party to destroy their opponents n maintain a total control of the party to the exclusion of others,saraki may just emerged stronger to their dismay after all.

What you wrote above...and especially your Conclusion (which l highlighted) falls under the realm of CONJECTURES!

Politicians generally, are very dirty people with a lot of 'evil skeletons' in their cupboard. Non of them is clean, from Police to Saraki, Ahmed, Buhari, Amaechi, Tinubu, just name it.

- Do you know that Politicians, including Saraki, have 'moles' in the Police, who give them information.

- Do you know that Saraki/Gov Ahmed got wind that their "Good boys" have been arrested by the Police, even before it was made Public?

- Saraki/Ahmed then tried to PRE-EMPT the investigation by shouting in newspaper, that they want to incriminate them (Just like Dino Melaye always shout wolf!)
- Go back and read that detailed Police Report again.

- The Lexus used to rob that was recorvered, was it 'planted' or owned by the PA of the Governor?

- The guns that were buried in the farm (not knowing that their calls are being monitored), was it also planted or owned by the P.A?

- Was the plate number of the Lexus changed or not and was it registered to the P.A to Gov?

- Was Saraki's tag on one of the vehicles used for the robbery?

- Did the Governor Ahmed agree that they sponsored (Youths Empowerment) Youths or not?

- Were some of these Armed Robbers on Kwara state Payrol (level 12 and above) or not?

The above is a clear summary of the truth.

Now, even if you decide not to take their CONFESSION into consideration, you can at least take their ADMISSION into consideration.

If Saraki has issues with people like Tinubu, Buhari, APC, e.t.c, that is no big deal.
All he needed to to was ensure that he does not "make mistakes" like this.

Remember that the former Governoship aspirant of Kwara was murdered by these sort (if not same) assailants, armed by political opponents (maybe Saraki himself or the current Gov. Ahmed).

What we need is for the Police to do a thorough investigation and let the matter go before a Judge.
If Saraki is innocent, he has nothing to worry about.
If he is guilty, he should be hanged ...but l think they will politicise the matter and tell him to "take a bow" and be a good boy henceforth.

Such is the level of "non- fiancial" corruption in this Buhari Govt.

BTW: What is the 'account and confession' of that dismissed SARS police officer, Adikwu?
Can you let us have it as l have not seen it.

kense88:
Do you know the number of people buhari sponsored book haram and Fulani herdsmen kill in a year ? They are very used to killing

You dont have any EVIDENCE of such sponsorship, l wish you have because l personally (and many others) would like to use it to impeach the man and prosecute him.

But l will agree that his performance, security-wise, is more than woeful.
You have your PVC. I have my PVC.
Put your PVC where your 'mouth' is.

Talk is cheap.

positivethought:
I'm not a saraki supporter but i have no doubt whatsoever in my mind that this is all about a grand scheme to politically destroy saraki finally,this is a very dangerous precedence,i don't expect buhari supporters not to be happy with this but those who truly love this country n thinks of a tommorow should condemn this.

I am not a Buhari supporter anymore.
Tell me why anyone who had read the Police report on the previous page, who has listened to the "Media" statements of Saraki and the Governor fatah....should condemn the investigation "invitation" given to Saraki.

Just explain your own position to us 'clearly'

wingmanII:
Early hours of Jan 1,2018,some blood thirsty hoodlums attacked and slaughtered over 15 innocent people returning from New year church service in Omoku rivers state. The state governor subsequently placed bounty on the heads of these ruthless animals.
The same month, the Imo state governor granted some of these wanted killers "amnesty", they are now working as armed political thugs for him and his son in-law.
Neither the presidency, dss or the IG batted an eyelid.
Now the senate president is facing arrest because some armed robbers claimed they worked as his thugs in the past. What kind of hypocrisy is this?

Just read what you wrote!

Was it Buhari that granted them amnesty or the Governor of a State?

If in future, these killers now confess that it was the Governor that armed them, l am sure you will still come back to shout Buhari-Buhari!

As much as l dont think Buhari deserves a second term (for his inability to perform his "sworn duty" of being the C-in-C and chief security officer of the country, with a duty to protect the life and property of ALL citizens..... not less than a few dozens get deliberately slaughtered on a daily basis and the President has not done anything tangible about it since over nine months now!), just making random and useless accusations against his person is just stupidity.

madridguy:
Look at how Omokri is fooling himself up and down like a kid. What has GEJ issue got to do with the present situation?

I think the suspects are not kids and they can say how they got fire arms used at the Offa Bank robbery. Saraki should get his legal team ready for this case. Shikena.

The problem with Nigeria is that a large majority of the citizens are so daft and ignorant, they start shouting anytime they see smoke!

Even that snub-nosed Reno Omokri is hiding in the US and spewing nonsense on Twitter, let him come down here and run his mouth and let us see.

- Was there a Robbery in Kwara where people were killed? Yes
- Were the Robbers apprehended? Yes
- Did the robbers mention 'names"? Yes
- Does the Police have the right to "invite for questioning", any name(s) mention? Absolutely Yes
- Does it matter who those names are or who they are 'enemies or friends' to? Not at all
- Does it mean Saraki is guilty? Absolutely No

Now, all you need to do is read the statement put out by the Governor of Kwara State (wherein he admitted that his Govt "funded some Youth and Empowered them").

Compare it with what the police have told us (That the captured Armed Robbers said it was some Politicians that gave them "resources" (Money, Guns, vehicles, e.t.c) which they used in the robbery operation.



All you need to do is replace "resources" in that statement, with ""funding and Youth empowerment" ...... and the ridule is solved!

Meanwhile, Saraki has no immunity and knows this, so he has done the sensible thing by accepting to be "quizzed" by the investigating authorities. No Big Deal

All these "noise" and "attachement to Jonathan" that runaway Reno-the-Mockery is making, is just to justify the money TAN Money Jonathan gave him.
At the appointed time, Reno Mockery will account for his words/actions.
The inconsequential midget wants to be identified as "a big political player", by making the loudest noise

Yusuf4:
Shut up
Her son is not dumb
Nigeria university entrance exams are not a test of knowledge...

I scored 185 out of 400 during my time but graduated with 4.1

No wonder the Uni. Proffessors are complaining that Undergraduates students don develop ""laser chips" they use in cheating in exams, only to get 100%!

BTW: We are supposed to just swallow it that you scored 4.1 CGPA, abi?
No evidence, No proof, No Name, No Transcript, No Certificate, e.t.c?

Even Dino Me-Lying is a 1st Class Graduate of Harvard University!

bixton:
It depends on what you mean by privacy?


The external walls of every house is enough for privacy and we all live within the walls of the main house.

Not always true!

There are "layers", in any security apparachne.
We cal it the "Onion principle"...to reflect the layers of the Onion flesh, while it shields it central-core.

- Security layers actually start by just demarcating where your territory starts/ends.... using something as simple as a 'different color' of paint or even sand, on the floor (as long as it is different and clearly identifiable by others.)
- As the 'threat level' overcomes or trespasses the outermost layer and walks its way inwards, your level of response also increases commensurately

The message you are sending, for example by planting a different flower in your frontage, is to tell intruders: you are stepping on private space, pls keep off!
if they cross your flower-hedge and approach your gate, that is another "layer" and the response could be a Dog barking or a security personnel giving them the shoo-off signal or an announcement over your CCTV monitor reminding them that they are being watched and recorded and could be putting themselves in a precarious situation that can land them in jail.

Now, inside your compound, your 'privacy' is not just your unclothedness, it also includes what you can leave within the compound or expose within it, and you dont want others to be privy-to.

For example (and this is just an example), if you have a swimming pool within your compound, low walls wont do.
If you leave expensive 'Toys' within your compound, low walls wont do.
Even having your children play within the compound, if for example you just came from abroad , low walls wont do otherwise they become a target of kidnappers.

I do a little bit of 'advicing' on such subjects for a living, so l am quite familiar with it.

bixton:
I do not think "safety perspective" in kitchen placement is actually thought about in Nigeria per se even with home owners putting up walls as fence line. Home owners prefer to put up 20 course block wall as fence behind and sides of the house and choose to put see through or dwarf wall in front.
Given a good neighbourhood and nothing to hide by home owners, all sides of your fence is supposed to be a dwarf wall so if there be any fire incident any neighbour can be of help from any angle to assist.

Very true.

But the security situation is some hoods (and to some extent, the 'mischief' of some home-owners), makes such type of fencing impossible.

ednut1:
wat is marriage is not forthcoming as there are more gals dan guys

Evangkatsoulis:
Actually, there are more guys than girls.

Instead of back-and-forth arguement, one of you should provide the "source" of their assertion, like Census figures.

RuthlessLeader:
Your god and role model is a paedophilic murderer and sadist if you read your bible well

Face your lane joor, you rotten mongrel.
Get something else to fill your empty, frustrated life.

lovelygurl:
I was tempted to stop reading at number 1, which is by the way such an insult to rape victims out there, but that's another topic for another day.
It's impossible for another person to heal your wounds. The only person capable of doing that is YOU. An "other person" might be able to help heal her wounds by supporting her etc., however the only person who is able to do healing itself, is her. Besides, this other person supporting her doesn't have to be a man. It could be her mum, sister, friend etc.

That a woman doesn't necessarily need a man to raise her kids has been proven times without number throughout history, starting from the women who had no other option than to do so during the wars, to the modern women today, who might for some reason be a single mum. Yet, they had been able to raise strong men and women, who were able to contribute positively to the society. But I'm guessing you're of the opinion, of them not being worth it because according to your bible, God forbid! Being raised by a single mum is by far one of the worst things that can happen to you! In fact, it is an "insult" to God, a slap in the face!

The fact that a woman is capable of choosing and saying yes to marriage, means she's also capable of saying "no". And the only people I expect to critize this and point hands and whine about hoq wrong this is, are those who have never sinned before and in fact aren't born sinners or living a sinful life!

Those who wouldn't survive something as little as an infection or malaria and therefore use science to prolong their lives. Those who I expect not to do a blood transfusion even if their lives depend on it. Those who do not support fornication and aren't into adultery.

That a child grew up "UNDER YOUR GUARDIANSHIP" even when you are one of the parent (mother), does not equate to RAISING A CHILD.

A child can "grow up under the guardianship" of anybody or even anything afterall, we occassionally see a "mad woman" under the bridge, with a child who is alive and eating, from day-to-day. I guess you would say "she is RAISING a child".

"Raising a child" implies supplying ALL the child needs, physically, mentally and most especially PSYCHOLOGICALLY, to result in a BALANCED and WELL ADJUSTED ADULT.

Most people., especially those that trump and parrot "single parenthood" (whether male of female) have no idea what they are saying, when they talk about 'raising a child".

Have you ever sat back and give a thought to a child from a supposedly "good home" who just turned out to be a serial killer?
Some of you need to read the "growing-up history" of some of these "unbalanced adults" to see the damage done to them, by their parental upbringing.
Then you would see and know the difference.
It is an indepth topic not suited for a 'light platform' like Nairaland.

Let us just leave it at that.
The best upbringing and way to raise a child is when both parents are there, together and funcionally active.

RuthlessLeader:
Here i was thinking that christians are supposed to be loving and kind people who turn the other cheek.

I understand the book well. It was written by an assortment of goat herders in a desert so even children can understand it. Jesus was a bastard who is a result of divine rape of a 14-15 year old girl. I no be muslim before you call me paedophile

You are worse than a Paedophile.

There is a reason they say "IGNORANCE is a DISEASE".

You are just a lost, confused, ignorant, diseased goat.

RuthlessLeader:
I am not a muslim at all.Is it not the same bible that rewards rape? Deutonomy 22:28-29. So if you have a daughter....

If the Bible "rewards rape" (as you claim, then all Christians or majority of Christians would have been rapist by now or which Christian would not like to be rewarded by the Bible? You see yourself?
Even 'if' you are not a Muslim, I did not know you are this IGNORANT!

I love to help people reach an understanding that cures them of 'dangerous ignorance' but in your case, you have elevated it to an art and it will take more than an online re-orientation, to educate you on matters you know nothing about, yet crass-arrogantly speak-of!

So, you are not a Christian and neither are you a Muslim, right?
How then do l expect you to have the slimmest, foggiest idea of " Biblical spiritual things"?

Please, you can do better by quoting a Dictionary, at least then, all we have to battle-to-explain to you, will be the grammar and context of the quote.

That you quote one line in the Bible seems to delude you into the thinking that you "understand" the Bible, huh?

Ability to READ, does not equate the Ability to COMPREHEND/UNDERSTAND, moreso that most thing sin the bible are written in "figures of speech" (Proverbial, oxymoronic, colloquialism, ironies, e.t.c).

Have a good day, my time is precious to me.

procky:
Polygamy that destroy the world from the beginning in Abraham and Sarah's life.. Polygamy that has birthed Hatred, jealousy, envy, fights and killings..

The above is a FALLACY!

Everything you said up there can be found in monogamous marriages...... otherwise, there wont be DIVORCE.

The most cheating - Monogamous marriages
The most jealousy - Monogamous marriages
The most envy - Monogamous marriages
The most fights (with spouse) - Monogamous marriages
The most spousal murders - Monogamous marriages

This is not an endorsement of Polygamy but to show you that Polygamy itself, is not the cause of what you have up there, it is the individuals and their evil traits, that lead to such outcomes.

I have seen lots of polygamous families that are fit to be called "models" of family life.... and l have seen thousands of monogamous marriages that are best described as "marriage from hell'.

I am sure we all have seen these as well.

procky:
If we should conclude as Christians
Then Married Barren women should not do IVF.. They should wait, fast and pray like Sarah and Hannah..

It is "over-sabi Christianity" that is worrying people who would dare say that.
All good knowledge is from God.
If he wants to prevent us from using IVF, He can 'blind us' to such knowledge afterall, we are 'still blinded' on trying to know where God actually resides.

Knowledge can be used for Evil or for Good.
where a family is experiencung challenges in concieving, there is nothing wrong for them to go through the iVF route.

What we should condemn is those who use it to circumvent the natural arraingement of marriage, to their own selfish end.

There are Men who want to marry another Man ...and still want to have children.
It is these type of dysfuntional and mentally unhinged people that shoudl not be allowed anywhere near IVF because Science has made it possible to implant Placenta in one of them or for them to supply evil seeds that would fertilize a female Egg, resulting in a child.

Generally, the world is getting more and more phucked-up in the name of advancement...... and the end will just be like a Sci-Fi movie, one day.
Just look at what is happening in the field of Artificial Intelligence.
We may eventually self-destruct, mistakenly or intentionally, one of these days.

procky:
What about the widows raising children without their fathers.. and stop making it look like the single women are only pregnant through IVF.. it is the men who pregnant them and run away.. besides there is currently high level of[b] lazy men and wife beaters[/b] making the women scared of marriage. the list goes on.. IT IS NOT WRONG FOR A WOMAN TO RAISE A CHILD WITHOUT A FATHER..

And "Money-car" and "Husband killers" to that list of what is chasing even Men away from amrriage.

and YES, it is fundamentally wrong for a woman to INTENTIONALLY raise a child without a Father, just as it is for a man to "intentionally" raise one without a Mother!

What most of you dont know (and l am speaking generally for both Men and Women) is that Each Parent contributes a Unique and Specific quality to the nature and psychological balance of a growing child.

The woman maybe the best mother in the world, just as the Man may be the best father in the world but each can never provide what the other Parent is supposed to provide (not money or material things), to the complete, balanced, wellbeing of a growing child.

You need to look at statictics of Prisons to see what single parentage (mostly mothers), have done to the life of Youths (mostly Young men!)
If you have the time, just Google it and read it up.
It will open the eyes of those of you who think once l spoil my children with the best things of life, they dont need a father.

RuthlessLeader:
Jesus was born out of wedlock so he is a bastard.
I am learned. I even know your bible pass you.
Don't go to church again because you are surely a bastard's descendant

I beg sharrap there joor, is this all your parents taught you!
Which Bible do you know?
The one they taught you in your Quranic Almanjeri School or what?

While it may not have any 'immdiate physical consequence' for you to utter the imbecilic statement you made up there (as bolded) because you are referring to a Jesus of the "Peace-loving" Christians who are so forgiving and accomodating of even the most foolish trogodlite, l am sure you know what the result would have been, if someone had said the same thing about the Muhammed of your own faith.

Since you are not a Christian, stick to what you know and stop esposuing idiocy, on the WWW.
Half knowledge is not only dangerous, it is a danger to the person who has it.
Stay safe and dont commit suicide.

Sanchez01:
And to think you called some folks lazy but you failed to understand the topic yourself before commenting. And I sure believe you also failed to see the video.

'Unmarried' here, contextually and in the video refers to ladies who don't want to get tied to a man but are willing to raise children on their own. It's a Christian topic, so let's treat it as such and not give a hundred and one reasons on why Nigeria won't win the World Cup.

You obviously read only half of what l wrote and jumped to make a reply!

Read it slowly, especially the last paragrapgh where l said "I do not support....".

That paragrapgh is enough to deal with your mis-yarns above.

Again, what is a "Christian topic" or when did IVF become a Christian topic for God's sake?
- IVF is a medical procedure and a medical terminoly.
- It is available and intended for Chiristians, Muslims, Atheist, Traditional worshipers and just about anyone who wanst it and can afford it or where did you get your own idea from?
Do l also need to refer you to a Textbook and get someone to explain it to you in a Language you understand? - Ex President Obasanjo.

That you are looking at the issue from a 'religiously myopic' view-point (reason we have all these crass comments up there) or that one Pastor decides he is the 'decider' of what anyone can do, does not mean we all have to sleep, facing the same direction.

My comments was basically to point out that there is not need to "generally castigate" anyone for opting to go for IVF, on the assumption that they are wayward and dont want to settle down with a husband, .....the reasons behind such decisions are varied and important to the individual.

Rubbiish:
I guess u it is 50 × 145ft?
If it is, i fear for parking space, for me 6 units will be ideal like someone suggested above to have good parking space & adequate set back.

Sir,
If the land is stable and good, do we ever consider using the basement/ground floor for parking or doing an underground parking space?
It is not as difficult as we think, just like having another floor beneath the livable one or below ground.

Just imagine the space saving anf functionality, compared to the little, additional cost.

bixton:
I think the ideal response should be the kitchen is adjacent to the lounge/parlour/living room.
In the instance where there is a dinning then it is to it.

Very True.

Functionality Perspective!

Rubbiish:
It is more of personal preference sir
Considering the kind of activities we carry out in the kitchen in this part of the world. I really do not find it appealing seeing all the steem & aroma coming out through d window from the approach view. I prefer it to be hidden as much as possible.

Again, very true.

Aesthetic Perspective!

But l would not mind to 'trap' the aroma from your kitchen so that anytime you are cooking some nice stew, l will simply make Pounded yam or Akpu and stand close to oyur kitchen, swallowing my Akpu with the aroma of your stew.

What about "Safety perspective"?
Where we all know that most fires start from the kitchen and putting it where it is easily accessible to say Fire trucks and their hose (like we bury soakaway in the front of the house so that it is easily accessible to evacuation trucks .....old fashion style).

A kitchen buried deep behind the house may not be easily noticeable to neighbours in case of fire and may not be as easily accessible to fire fighters in an emergency, compared to one that is at the front.

josite:
Obviously you want her to leave and it is obvious you dont want to be labelled a bad person.firstly ask GOD for wisdom ,particularly ask him to tell you what you dont know about your in law presence in your house and what yo dont see.after some deep reflections,use wise words to let your wife knows how you feel taking heed that you dont hurt her and knowing what goes around comes around because you might also need an inlaw of yours to come around and stay in the future.Then get ready to assist your in law to find a place ,maybe near your house just in case she has a financial challenge or any other challenge.YOU may not know but her presence in your house may be in the end for your own good.if you deal rashly with the situation,i can sure you the regrets will be yours.That people marries us doesnt mean thy should hate or be cruel to their own,who stood in for them in times past and without them ,your wife may not have been in a marriageable.dont self justified,your approach to her presence may actually be found reprehensible by GOD.Its easy for you to complain about privacy ,about eating chicken all the time forgetting there was a time you yourself couldnt afford a roof over your head and someone's else provided that roof.

With all these many 'Might', 'May' and "Maybe's" ........ the Op cannot take any lesson from your post!

He wants "answers/solutions" ...not conjectures!

You want Op to ask God for wisdom?
Who tells you he even knows how to pray or even believe in God!

Best solution, that would not offend or incriminate anyone is for him to start walking around the house, UNCLAD.
The sister herself will have no option than to request to leave.....abi she wan get pregnant for her junior sister's husband?

BTW: Op, you have deliberately refused to answer people's question concerning what she came to do in your house, whether schooling, working, job-hunting, e.t.c.
This makes me to think the story is all FABRICATED to generate traffic.

Too many lazy and ignorant 'Yoots'!

IVF is not just about a single lady wanting to get pregnant all by herself, haaba!

There are hundreds of married women, living happily with their husbands, who also undergo IVF treatment because they have difficulty in concieving naturally.

For example:
- Blocked tubes
- Hubby erectile dysfunction
- damaged sperms (low motility, deformations, e.t.c)
- Damaged Placenta
- Fibroid issues
....and many more situations that may warrant the IVF route.

It is not for any silly Pastor to say it is allowed or not, just based on his own convinience.

Mind you, l am not saying or in support of an unmarried woman like Linda Ikeji, taking advantage of such procedure, for her illicit disposition, if oyu know what l mean (I know the daft ones wont know what l mean).

Like Abortion, it is not to be encouraged but to be used as a 'last resort', to remedy a hopeless situation.