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[Angel Gabriella...quote author=LilMissFavvy post=88879526]Ohh.... God pls help married women o, it's like nigerian husband's are so unfaithful to an extent that those commenting are telling the woman to be grateful that her husband still finds her attractive, or is having sex with her alone. So a Nigerian man is not supposed to be having sex with his wife alone or find her attractive, huh! [/quote]

Mr Poster, did you marry her because you love her or because you saw her as a means to travel Abroad? tell yourself the truth, she was in a relationship over there with someone you know, gets back and you quickly reconnect and get married... Tell yourself the truth.

You put her under pressure, harassed her incessantly with calls and you said you can cook, you would have just made tea and ate bread. Perhaps there were some things she wanted to do at once outside and had it been you were patient, she would have gisted you when she got back, Let Us men not get this submissive thing out of context, Be submissive doesn't mean she is a slave, she is a human being that you should always care for, Her forgetting her ring is no big deal, we have all done it at one point or the other. Your WIFE is not a GIRLFRIEND, correct her with patience and in love. Cheers, go and make peace with your wife.

fhutson500:
Nlanders,

Good afternoon all, something happened of recent I thought I should make it known here. I work from home, cos my wife runs a daycare, though she's got two Nannies that work with her which means she gets to work at anytime she wants at times.

This fateful morning, I had gone to drop the kids @school and branched at the carwash to wash the car, on getting there, she called me that she needs to leave home to meet up the nanny and assist at the daycare cos the other nanny has not arrived, I said can you quickly make something for me to eat b4 u leave, she
said time has gone that she wont be able to do that, being a very understanding and considerate husband, I said she could leave, that I'll sort myself.

In fact she was so much in a rush that she had to leave our maid that follows her from home to work @ home cos the lady was still in the bathroom like she told me. It wasn't up to 10mins, maybe she forgot oo, she said there is traffic jam on the road, that it seems that fuel scarcity is looming again due to queue, asking me if that was the case, Instead of answering her question, I asked where she was going, because that wasn't the way to the daycare she claimed she was heading to. She said she wants to go and pick her internet modem she forgot @ fcmb bank. I was like, but you left due to the fact that you wanted to assist the only nanny with the kids @ daycare, how come modem is more important than that or the food I begged you to make b4 u left, she said well I just have to go there now before her modem vanishes, I said no P.

At that time, I was back home and was really hungry, am the type that makes food, but the hustle in January was hella much, the motive of having to do anything was greatly paralytic, I take care of all the bills, so I understand what am talking about, body nor be fire wood. So i called her later on to ask if she can come home to quickly make the food, work place to home is like 5 mins drive, she said she's been stuck in traffic that she would need to head back to the creche since she didn't go there at first, I was like no P.

10 mins later, I called to ask her something, she apparently was in a noisy environment, I was like, aren't u back at the daycare, she was like NO, I quickly branched at the market to buy something, in which Market wasn't even far from home, like 2 mins, at that moment, I was so angry, so I flared up, I told her 'but why are u doing this", all along the reason u left the house has not been met to the detriment of the hunger am going through now, I was like u know what don't bother, will sort myself, and she was like no P.

However, she had left her wedding band on the room table, though we both agreed that whenever she forgets her ring, she would have to come back home to pick it, so I quickly used the ring as opportunity to trick her home, I was like come and pick ur ring, u have forgotten it again, she was like no oo, she cant, I was like have u forgotten our agreement, I said just come home and pick it. 4 mins later, she bashed in, started yelling, I am sure its because of trust u have enforced me to come home and pick the ring, blah blah blah, at the worms in my stomach were doing takwando training at the moment, I just kept quiet, she tried to abusively hold my head acting like she wanted to pet me, I withdrew, next thing, she just hissed and left, saying I am not even picking the ring, you can do your worse. From that day, I have decided not to eat her food, 2nd reason I am posting this is regarding this thread below:

https://www.nairaland.com/1307880/not-eating-wife-food-punishment

Is my situation legitimate enough to deny her food? Cos it seems a lot of people are against refusal of wifey food no matter the situation, but i feel the situation here is different. Plus she has been remorseless about the situation, and 7 years already into this union, we have been battling the issue of her responsibility on food from day 1, old problem that I feel should have expired, so we can work on new probs. Brothers and sisters, your 10kobo is needed.

Dont be too quick go make pronouncements...

MhizzAJ:
God knows i can't get married to any man that doesn't know how to cook and do some basic chores

You are smart, I respect you.

sabama007:
In this age, are you expecting him to hide his ring because he wanna have a bite of you? Hell No!

It's very hard to see semi-faithful man these days. Also, dude might wanna just ease some home stress by flirting....

Marriage is really an institution!

If a lady meets a wrong guy and gets hurt, how does that make ALL MEN scum?you met a bad guy with no conscience... That's all. Or just maybe, Your Father, brothers, male cousins, nephews, uncles and men in your lineage, your boyfriend and future husband ARE ALL SCUM, then I can understand.

No matter what happens, don't try it... Instead, SEND HER AWAY.

samtoles:
I have a beautiful, curvy, tall and fair woman in my compound. Her husband has been in America for 2 years without visiting once. She is clearly sex deprived. I am the only barchelor in the compound. She a 10 year old kid.

This woman has given me too many green lights. It is just too clear that she wants to sleep with me, but I can see she is kind of careful cos of fear of rejection. She discusses everything in the world with me including how she misses sex and doesnt mind cheating on her husband. She didnt tell me or show me directly that she wants to sleep with me but from her expression and our discussion, everuthing points towards that direction.

I have reprimanded guys who have slept with married women and would tell others not to indulge in such, but sincerely I am in a dilemma here. This woman is too beautiful to ignore and coupled with the fact that the husband hasnt been around. I am tempted to show her some real good signs too and just sleep with her. Plus some other benefits will follow: She is the richest in the compound, a big business woman, drives the best car et al.

I know most of you will ask why I have come here since I already want to do it. Well, I just need some people to give me reason why I shouldnt maybe that would keep my mind off it.

Flee from every appearance of evil... FLEE! DONT DARE IT

Pls, Dont be paranoid. Don't you trust her?What if she gets a job she has to share a 3bedroom flat with two guys? Do u think her staying alone is the guarantee for her not to misbehave if she chooses? Guy, stay calm, you should know your worth in her life and the state of your relationship. You're a man...Be a man.

You are a gold digger...looking for a man to drop anchor on.Do you work?have you ever earned a dime of your own?keep strolling all over the internet looking for a rich man to heap all your burden on.you are calling him names,you have no shame.Crook.It's people like you who will cause a scene at oshodi because of #50 change and you are here harassing the poor fellow.crook.

firstEVA:
I believe it boils down to the woman's ability to maintain her self, I have seen a couple who are age mates yet the woman looks younger.

A man who decides to run after younger women will still do so even if his wife is 20 yrs younger.

You are smart...I appreciate you...

cruzita:
u should have steered clear the moment u saw she was in NAGGING MODE that's what men do .but since the deed has been done just buy her an iPhone 6 and a car,take her on a shopping spree and everything will be normal. BUT REMEMBER DONT TRY THAT AGAIN

R u even married?do u use an Iphone6 and can u buy a car?crook.

Thanks

Youngpo413:
check store settings,there is an option for mobile data,I just remembered now.

As in,it will insist i use wifi by force?or i can use my data or it will give me the option of both?

Youngpo413:
it will,sometimes.

so what if i want to download with my data,is it compulsory i must use wifi?

Youngpo413:
Yes,from that their "weird" store...even just 25mb file will be waiting for wifi...pathetic isn't it?

Aystarz,what phone is that?

thanks very much

Youngpo413:
the battery is awesome,trust nokia and windows is not a battery sucking Os,so that 3,000mAh is more than ok.

but all in all,will it serve this few purposes of mine i.e calls,pictures and occasional browsing?and is the battery story true?

Youngpo413:
you are welcome.

youngpo413, you are right anyways,av always used android,and my standard phone is xperia M2,i just want a different yet beautiful experience for calls,sms and pictures and i heard the batt is really really good too.tanx alot for the response,am grateful

this might be coming late,but is it still available?

Youngpo413 pls how did ur 640 xl behave,was it a good phone,i want to buy it

Good day ladies and gentlemen,pls i would like to know just how efficient the microsoft Lumia 640XL dual sim is and if 4G model of it is available in Nigeria,is anyone here using it?i would love to buy it as i use an Xperia M2 but i want something new and affordable to use as my regular day to day calling and sms phone,Thanks in anticipation.

You have done all that is humanly possible,but have you tried God?turn to Jesus and in faith,all will be well,never ever give up.
I had the same experience as yourself,from being very smart in primary school to secondary and even scored 240 in JAMB back then only to fail hugely in the university,i turned to God and asked for help,i didnt want an extra yr and i prayed,and God helped me,delivered me from extra yr and i graduated with a 2.2,i never left God alone,i held and still hold on to him as the one who does it all and now i have a job that 2.2 doesnt merit,Dont give up because God is able.