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But all d money he'll spend petitning & calling authorities left&right is it not more dan 250?

Nywys its up to u 2 decide wat 2 do sha!

! Now I'm heartbroken!

Na wa o! Women&money sha! Nw he gives u money, d problem is pet name chaiii! But remember dere's no perfect man o! U can't have ur cake, eat it & xpect 2 have it as a snack later. Isorite!

@OP, I think time will heal this. Just give her sum more time, she needs 2 build her confidence in u a little more cos of her bad past. Its good 2 no u're in 4 d right reasons, but pls exercise more patience.

I'll recommend d best movie I've watched dis year, THE GREAT GATSBY! I love dat movie, I love Leornado Dicapirrio ! Oda movies metnd above are also good&I've seen most of dem. But none is compared 2 my recommendatn.

Seems u like romantic movies, go see dat &get back 2 moi!

Wow ! Not surprised, wud have been surprised if he didnt get it! I no ppl dont like him, but I love him. He is highly intelligent and eloquent. He exhibits so much confidence and courage dat makes me naturally fall in love with him!

Well don Lamido Sanusi! My political crush!

Wow ! Not surprised, wud have been surprised if he didnt get it! I no ppl dont like him, but I love him. He is highly intelligent and eloquent. He exhibits so much confidence and courage dat makes me naturally fall in love with him!

Well don Lamido Sanusi! My political crush!

@OP, I think deir exposure is way faster dan ours! Some of those thins dat were hidden in our time, have nw become more open.

But d issue I have is, some of dis thins don't translate 2 academic prowess. Dey are more focused on those oda thins dan in their academics. Reading has become a serious issue 2 dem, I hope as dey mature dey'll realise dey also need 2 love reading.

I love dis forum, I dunno y

Back to topic, @ OP, u started it, so tell her 2 stop it&admit u snore. Tell her u accept shikena! Abi na ur wife naaaa!

Sincerely, life can be so unfair @ times& I feel it shud end. I remember 2yrs ago, wen I lost a bank job offer @ d tail end of d recruitment process&it was like I shud commit sucide. Considering I'm d first born&d whole family looked up 2 me & xpected d job 2 be a breakthru 4 our family financially. The pay was very lucrative&my siblings were still in skool. It was like a guarantee dat dere skooling won't stop.

Now screwing up made it look like a curse&I remember telling God one night in dat period, "Father as I sleep, please don't allow me 2 see d dawn of a new day" I felt death was the best optn dat tym&i woke up and again asked God, "why did u wake me up". I didn't want 2 commit sucide cos its a sin&it means double suffering both on earth&in hell. I wanted 2 give God d choice since he giveth&taketh.

But I look back&aldo I got anoda job which wen I calculated d %decrease in salary, it was over 80% wen I started, I still thank God 4 his mercies. Nw I'm able 2 take care of my sibilings, I feel proud of myself cos I feed my family with d little I earn, I ensure dey are very comfortable, but I must confess it comes with a lot of sacrifice&discipline. I sumtyms feel I came 2 dis world for dem becos, dey always came first b4 me.

But sumtimes wen I'm faced with pressures of life again, den I get tired&look up 2 him& he gives me hope. Most ppl think its only during relatnship probs dat ppl want 2 commit sucide, life is way more dan dose issues.

Pls share urs, pardon my epistle.

Aldo d way we came is not we will go, but as d first in my house, I'll like 2 go first cos I can't stand seeing d grave of any of my younger ones.

@OP, I must confess u really tried, with my orientatn abt men, I can't do half of wat u did @ a dating level. OYO ni everybody wa o! Nywys, all is well dear!

@OP, I quite understd u, but d fact dat a guy asks u if u're safe doesn't mean he doesn't love u or he can't marry u. I feel its 4 d lady's good, not all courtships or dating leads 2 marriage, so its best 2 always play safe. D guy doesn't want 2 rush tins.

! Family friend or Second Wife?

I always came first in my class! I had over 300 in JAMB. D last JAMB, I heard a parent saying dat 2 his son.

Leonardo Dicapirrio, I love him so much

Bro! U're on a loooooonnnnnngggggg tin! U had better run 4 ur life! Dat baby is not urs spiritual or no spiritual, take it or leave it!

Hmmmmmm! Technology no go chop my money finish!

4rm d business angle, 1+1=3&why? This is called synergy, a whole is greater than the sum of its parts.

@OP, its rada unfortunate u dated sumone 4 10yrs& u didn't notice dis. Dis kind of attitude is very obvious&u shudnt be oblivious of it.

Nywys, d truth is she can't change, I believe u must have talked 2 her abt it several tyms&I won't be surprised if she's still d same. Nw dat u no she's better wen apologised 2, y don't u apologise 2 her, rada dan also allowing ur ego of being "d head" set in. She's ur wife, u have 2 accept her like dat&take dat as part of her weakness. Sorry doesn't hurt or make u less of a man, she will even respect u more wen she notices dat u are quick 2 apologise, it doesn't mean she'll take u 4 granted, xcept she's immature, dats her weakness work around it.

Na wa o! Me don tire 4 all dese dos&donts. Like say marriage na person's death warrant.

It is well bro!

ayando: It is sad that most ladies have a general belief that an abusive person cant change. The truth is the man has realized his mistakes. The question is: Does she still love him? can she ever forget those bad incidents in the past. she needs to evaluate what is most important for her in a man because there are two sides of a person. We choose what we can put up with in a person.

Am in no way supporting an abusive relationship but what i am saying is we all get a second chance and we should not sound so perfect in course of advising someone in need.
If we read what she said, she said he was very good at first but along the line something happened. what happened? what went wrong? This clearly means any good person can turn to a bad person.
I wish you the best n I hope the Lord guide your thought to choose rightly. Shalom

Dear, wat went wrong was he took her for granted. He probably noticed she loved him more, so dat gave him d liberty to do wat he did!

debrief08: La shawn, Take time off and understand your self, write down what you want generally from life and from relationships.
Also write down your own strenghts and weaknesses, know them and own them.

The problem I see is that you are begining to panic and believe that you won't get married because of the ones you have met. So you are telling yourself that you might as well settle.

I also see a pattern, those men smell desperation, do you go about doing things to convince them that you are wife material? Calm down, remove your minds from the clock ticking on your head, concentrate on your own self, enjoy your own company, heal your own wounds or learn to manage them.

When you meet a man, don't start planning the wedding in your head, don't start showing him how good of a wife you can be, enjoy dating
When you build your esteem it glows and keeps aways losers and whinners, it attracts the right man with the right mind set.

The choice is yours, slow down, learn to enjoy life and Gods blessings or rush on, settle just to settle and say you are married. Which ever you make has benefits and consequencies, decide which you can live with

I love this!

All is well! Sheet happens!

[quote author=Jaidey-one]Ignorance is bliss!!!
Here's my comment from another thread[/quote]Guy, u swept me off my feet with ur comment, u're so sweet!

Chanchit: Dem don get you..! You know who I'm talking about..? Principalities and power that do wickedness in high places, your sperm dey inside bottle of life.

Hehehehehe Daz all!

Chanchit: Dem don get you..! You know who I'm talking about..? Principalities and power that do wickedness in high places, your sperm dey inside bottle of life.

Daz all!

@OP, I like ur spirit. But its rada unfortunate ur wife doesn't know ur worth. Pls don't give up, well done!