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|Romance / Re: Couple Of Questions For Misswrite. by DaisyMellow(f): 3:28pm On Jul 28, 2018|
Thank you for your words of encouragement. I'll keep writing and hopefully I'll get better as I write. I don't know if I'll have the courage to upload my stories for thousands of people to see and critique. I'm too softhearted to offer myself to be torn apart by criticism-ready Nairalanders. A lot of the people on this website aren't very polite with their words and I cry easily. *facepalm*
Can I message you privately? There is something I want to tell you and I'm shy to say it openly.
|Romance / Re: Couple Of Questions For Misswrite. by DaisyMellow(f): 9:05pm On Jul 25, 2018|
Thank you so much for your response. I'll try to read as much as I can like you suggested and I'll try to be more indiscriminate in my reading. I tend to be very selective in my book selection. I enjoy reading romance and adult fiction. I'm not really a fan of fantasy, sci fi or anything that I can't directly relate with. Maybe it's because I have a terrible imagination. Crime and horror aren't my cup of tea because I get scared easily and I don't like it when I read about people being harmed. I have a vicarious response to descriptions of acts of violence.
Thank you for complimenting my writing. Coming from you, this means a lot. But a part of me thinks you are just trying to make me feel better, because I honestly don't think I can write well at all. My mates in school usually say that I write well and that I should apply for writing competitions, but I don't see myself as a good writer because I'm always comparing my writing to the writing of other good writers like you and mine is garbage by comparison.
Did I embarrass you by my excessive adulation? I'm very sorry. I just had to express how much of an influence you have been to me and why.
I appreciate every piece of advice that you have given me and I'll implement all of them. You've made my day by responding to me. Thank you very much.
|Romance / Re: Couple Of Questions For Misswrite. by DaisyMellow(f): 6:52pm On Jul 25, 2018|
Please respond to my questions.
|Romance / Re: Couple Of Questions For Misswrite. by DaisyMellow(f): 6:50pm On Jul 25, 2018|
But now, when women have access to the tools to survive independently - education and life skills, when they have begun to have ambitions for themselves beyond the home, marriage ceases to be a necessity for financial security, and instead becomes a matter of personal choice. But still, society does not trust that enough women would chose to be married for the pure joys of companionship and procreation, so it stigmatizes single women and, thus, propagates marriage as a stamp of social approval.
|Romance / Re: Couple Of Questions For Misswrite. by DaisyMellow(f): 6:47pm On Jul 25, 2018|
Fitting in with men’s expectations has caused some women, over time, to bend in unnatural ways. Women are held to higher moral standards than men, not because they are naturally more virtuous, or biologically more capable, but because men are in the position to impose those standards that women have to conform to (if they wanted to be taken off the shelf). Female virginity, for instance, is still a requirement amongst many African men, while male virginity isn’t even a thing anymore. In an effort to present themselves as required, pure and sacred on a platter of divine offering, girls conceal and suppress ugly histories of sexual abuse, or even just a healthy appetite for sex (a God-given libido). Girls are shamed for their sexuality and even mutilated to control it, until her only reason for engaging in sex is to help achieve the male orgasm. A derivative human being. And although the cutting of the clitoris has been widely abolished in Nigeria, the fundamentals remain: that women ought to be sexually coy and repressed. If it isn’t being achieved with a razor blade, it’s being done by slut-shaming girls who explore their sexuality.
|Romance / Re: Couple Of Questions For Misswrite. by DaisyMellow(f): 6:41pm On Jul 25, 2018|
>I don’t believe that, as a feminist, I ought to belong to a world club, subscribing to a definitive code of practice; that feminism must be copied ‘correctly’ or even copied at all, from anywhere. I believe that the prevailing conditions of a place are enough to inspire a reaction if it is warranted; and that the prevailing conditions would uniquely shape that reaction to suit the specificity of the stimulus. It’s the wearer of the shoe that knows exactly where it pinches and would adjust his toes accordingly. Unifying feminism, under one large umbrella of a particular creed, would only breed confusion and it would not solve any of the problems which necessitated its inception in the first place; because every region deals with very unique issues of misogyny which feminism seeks to address. And these issues of misogyny are dynamic and so feminist reactions must be equally dynamic.
|Romance / Re: Couple Of Questions For Misswrite. by DaisyMellow(f): 6:38pm On Jul 25, 2018|
I consider feminism to be contextual and organic in nature. It grows out of the ground on which we stand, and doesn't necessarily require a precursor to exist in any given place, (even if a precursor can be a catalyst). It is reactionary just like any other movement that resists oppression. And the oppression which it resists is the deliberate disenfranchisement of women (by constitution, common law or culture) on account of their gender alone. Feminism seeks to give acknowledgement to the full human value of women, by permitting the uninhibited expression of their content (intellect & desires) within unbiased limits of the law, and to validate a woman’s right to an independent social standing. The premise of feminism is that all human beings are equally human and should be allowed equal human rights. This does not mean that all human beings are equal. In fact, our inequalities as human beings go far beyond gender. There's race, height, weight, complexion, IQ, the list is practically endless. But we don't (and shouldn’t)apportion rights to people by considering any of these differences; even when certain physical attributes can have significant ramifications on a person’s performance and ability to contribute as a citizen of the world. In the end, what matters is that we are all human beings, and equal in our humanness.
|Romance / Couple Of Questions For Misswrite. by DaisyMellow(f): 6:25pm On Jul 25, 2018|
Hi Misswrite. I just want to say that I am a big fan of your work and I've been secretly reading all your stories. You write absolutely well. What I love most about your writing is how artistically you weave your sentences and how effective these sentences are in expressing your idea in a clear and precise way.
I'm only 16 and my dream is to become a writer. I spend most of my free time reading and trying to write. I am a very very bad writer. I find it hard to craft elaborate descriptions of settings and I'm useless when it comes to describing the actions of my characters and qualifying those actions, because my verb and adjective vocabulary is very limited. I am also unable to express abstract ideas and expand on cultural issues in a clear, beautiful, succinct and persuasive way like you do.
Please I need advice from you. How can I improve my writing? What books do I need to read to increase my vocabulary, especially my verbs and adjective?
What books did you read growing up? What books do you usually read? What kind of books do you think influenced your writing?
Your post on feminism is the most beautiful and evocative piece I've ever read on the subject. I'll like to share tidbits of the post so that people will read and actually understand what real feminism is in a Nigerian context, and also so that they'd acknowledge what an amazing writer you are.
Please reply to this post. It will mean a lot to me.
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