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Biglittlelois:
So polygamy is now your excuse for the nonsense you did with a married woman because most people condemned you here abi

Oya show your wife the sex chats, nudity and video calls you did with the woman, then see how she will react, and show us here if e sure for you

@all the bashers... I have come to realize hiding of truth, maintaining mute and intentionally hypocritical are what you all want on this forum. Lesson learnt.
Next time, I will not even bother myself bringing something like that here. I will just go ahead and be towing your line of hypocrisy. Thank you for being my wonderful teachers.

WoundedLamb:
Once again, the angelic and infallible men have gathered to wonder what makes the opposite gender cheat instead of being faithful like them. Nice.

The fact that the OP believes he could just come here to call our women without realizing the fact thar he's just as dirty as the woman in question is just hilarious.

Bro. A married woman is not expected to show such level of vulnerability or immorality under any circumstances you can think of. This is not debatable at all. A married woman on whose head a dowry was paid in the presence of every respectable member of her family. There are some customs that support "one man, plenty woman" This tells you that there are some form of justification/defense for polygamy.

freddie009:
Leave am, they form innocent and he collect number. Why didn't he block her?

Who has bigger moral weight to distant themselves from such immorality? Me or She? Why does Islam permit its adherents to marry more than one wife? Listen again, If I wanted to, I would have sexed her and wouldn't have even brought it here in the first place

Amarkkah:
Not all married women are like that. Don't generalize

I never generalized Amaka... Fact is it's becoming very very prevalent now. It will be hard to 3 out of 10 married women not doing it

flokii:
You didn't see where he said he was the one making excuses of not having time?.. it's another thing to play along which I think is what the OP did.
Honestly if he wants the woman this very minute, he'd have her.
It's even more severe with single guys they know are living alone. Soon it'll be single guys chasing married women cos of less stress and all compared to single ladies. It is well.

Thanks jare. If I want to sex her as it is raining right now, it's just some seconds of calling...... Am only concerned about the proliferation of our married women's immorality...

CsRockefeller:
Okota again?

Seems there's an infidelity spirit hovering around that area. Last year I escaped that temptation.

Funnily, they always put up lovely pictures of their man and kids. Always gushing about how happy they are. So why cheat?

I will never do such.

In my former area where I was staying in Egbeda, they are worse....

gbadexy:
What were you expecting to be discussing when you exchanged contact with the opposite sex.

So having a woman's contacts on ur phone is synonymous to having a fling with her ba?

medriano:
Shameless lose married women. I only feel sorry for the unfortunate men that married them.
You OP, I see you you enjoy your flirty chat with her. What stops you from blocking her?
You are irresponsible too.
Imagine her husband stumbles on your chat with her, what would be your excuse? What do you think would happen?
You don’t want something, don’t encourage it.

Thanks bro. Blocking her? This i have just done

obi4eze:



Your story goes to show that you're also stupid and will soon sleep with her if you don't retreat.

Why are you doing video call with her? Do you both have any business that must be discussed via vc?

While you blame her also know that you have given her a lot of space already. You claim that you don't have time for her. So if you have time you will sleep with her?

On the flip side, I found your comment funny. Anyways I acknowledge that I Bleep up too

damo2014:
I understand you are saying this because of the woman you are... In her defense!

Am only trying to unearth the frailty of our women these days. I think there should be a kind of robust counselling against an immorality like this. Why married if you cannot be responsible then? My own report is just one out of a million married women are doing.

Under any circumstances, it is there are certain things unbefitting of a *married* woman to be imagined doing, let alone flirting...

RoyalBlu:
Well... Your first two paragraphs made it seem you knew she's married.

The best thing you could have done was telling her straight up to stop flirting with you. You encouraged her into getting more bold with her foolishness, here you're now, berating married women.

I understand you are saying this because of the woman you are... In her defense!

Am only trying to unearth the frailty of our women these days. I think there should be a kind of robust counselling against an immorality like this. Why married if you cannot be responsible then? My own report is just one out of a million married women are doing.

2dice01:
Normal stuff
They praise their husband on social media still search for other random D

Honestly bro. I have specifically warned my wife that I do NOT crave for social media praise-singing. Anything other than showing me love face to face, she should not worry herself..... A lot of women are very fake these days. My eyes and ears have seen and heard enough of them tireeeee

RoyalBlu:
What kind of friendship were you seeking with her when you collected her number

And what stopped you from deleting her number when she first deviated from normal chats

I never saw her as a married woman. Like I said in my original post, she does not look it at all.... About 28, sexy and beautiful

gaius01:
Arrrrrrrh


Wow !! You said she was happy you both exchange numbers and she was kinda trying to flirt with you right? But you were the first person to ask for her number. A married man for that matter? Your wife omg !!!


Who is gonna believe this talk?
You have seen how vulnerable she can be yet you are chatting and giving her your time. Are you really helping matters or you are just getting the fire flare up the more?

Women like this, need help so that they won't fall into temptation. Talk to her and if she don't want to change cut tiles and save your marriage with her as you are emotionally getting drawn to her as the day goes by.

In as much as I have already decided not to take it beyond the level it has got to, I really do appreciate your advice.

lexy20I4:
Oga hold tight,don't fall for her oo e come be married woman still living with her husband,small thing na rape accusation don enter.

If I wanted to, I would have.... I naturally don't do married women

This is a personal experience with a married woman... Honestly, it is only God that will help men o in this generation of very loose married women. I stay in Okota, married with two kids. Although there are a few of them that will just be staring at one with one kind look. But as a man who doesn't even create any space, they hardly see my "gullible" face for ground.

Last last, I stumbled on one early this year when I was taking a stroll in the street before going to work. Prior to this day, we have had few random times we just said hi and good morning to each other, because she looks calmer and a bit serious. We shared contacts and ever since, it's being terrible, I must say.
She pointedly told me she was happy that we shared each other's contact, that she's being wishing that I do that for a long time. Btw, she is married with two kids as well.

Her WhatsApp status daily is a consistent display of love for her husband, appreciation to him for being the best husband any woman could have. Infact she has told me on a number of times that her husband actually brought to the beautiful level she has become. That she doesn't a spend a dime on herself because everything is catered for by him. She's so fond of him, as far as what I observe.

But this woman has some philandering tendencies. She is d one that will be begging one to come online for video calls. A lot of shit already done. Her nudity. She's made herself come cum one day while on vc that I never expected. Frankly, the only thing remaining between us is making those things real. My excuse has always been time availability on my part.

My submission from all these her potential escapades from my study is
She's relatively young, about 28 and more beautiful/sexier since her marriage to the man. And I also think she never really was exposed like that before marriage. During one of our convos, she told me her husband is a "churchy" person who is not really into all these worldly things. She told me her husband may not touch her in more than one month and he won't complain. This woman is starved.

Men, pls some women like fantasy. They like being taken out of boredom into weird stuffs. They like sex. Occasionally, have a romantic chats with them, both physically and online. A few dirty chats I have had with her confirms this. She was all over the moon at the end of them.

I know I won't give in to her eventually as I have done to a lot of them in this category. But am afraid, she may not be lucky with other men who are uncontrollably randy....

Am genuinely happy we are getting more informed. It will happen gradually, though. Very soon, religion will die a natural death because people would have known that it is all fallacy. Somehow, it may degenerate into loss of belief in God, situation of which will be total danger for all. The world is just too secretive and spiritual that it still beats my imagination that some people think one religious leader somewhere is truly holy. We shall get there someday!

If u cannot war war, u must be able to jaw jaw.

It is not uncommon to hear advocates of qualitative education and by extension, enlightenment, putting forward reasons why acquiring good education should never be under-estimated, as against popular belief that it is costly. In their defense, they say ''if you say education is expensive, try ignorance''. Yes, they know educating an individual is synonymous to filling up a vacuum. It demands a lot. It is a direct function of two factors - capacity and will.
You might have come out as the most outstanding student whom everyone regards as a bookworm among your fellow graduants. If the will is missing, you may end up a failure in your attempt to educating others. At the same time, you may have penchant for impacting others to learn more, but that alone cannot make you a teacher, least a good one. So these two are considered for any would-be tutor. The price you pay for getting informed, educated or enlightened is not cheap. You pay for it.
Similar analogy works for healthy living. Medical spending has its toll on the psychological health of the victim whose main mind preoccupation at that moment, is to return to their former self, which is good health. As little as a migraine can be to its host, it has the capacity of making one hate oneself and triggering depressive mood for whoever feels it. That is how far ill-health can go to make life unbearable for an individual.
Sadly, the 21st generation has progressed beyond minor health issues. Headaches, stomach pain, cuts and bruises, burns, cold and flu, ear infections, allergies and allergic reactions are becoming old-fashioned. It looks like they are leaving the stage for bigger health issues. Kidney-related problems are now rampant. Lungs now get infected very easily. Blood clotting is no longer the exclusive right of the rich. You can be very poor and still be carrying a clotted blood for years. Living dead! Hypertension is no loner an age-related medical issue. You can be in your third year in a college and be hypertensive. Blood does have cancer now. As small and useless an appendix can be to the human body, if it is inflamed and you do not detect it early, you are dead. I once had its frightening bitter experience.
While the traumatic experiences of these health problems never leave the victim even after scaling through, only very few can stand their financial torture. The management of most of these ''big brother'' health conditions usually involves costly surgery, closely-monitored pattern of drugs prescription and usage. These are quite demanding and it takes only a handful of strong-willed victims to pass their test and remain the same. After recovery, what you have got to manage is post-trauma. Trauma after recuperating from certain major health issues that have undergone surgery requires special services of an experienced psychologist. And these uncommon services often come with financial sacrifice.
The list is immeasurable, and so are their painful costs. In avoiding the costs that those situations unavoidably need, a simple lifestyle remains a better option. It is cost effective. It assures one of a restful mind - a mind that is devoid of crisis (both actual and expected), an undisturbed and undisrupted mindset. Please drink water regularly. Please live and drink responsibly. Please exercise more, preferably aerobics. Please go for regular check ups. Please take less calories.
It is always cheaper to stay on the preventive lane where you may not spend a dime, than to struggle for getting cured of an ailment.

I will never stop saying this:

The most stupid thing u can do as a human being, most especially Africans, is to be religious.


uote author=obembet post=110506867]There is questions I want to ask our religion brothers and sisters here..

Please can someone educate me why God allow all this suffering? Watching innocent children suffering, watching wicked man Killing the unharmed people, watch wicked one living longer in wealthy life?

Geni Sani abachi is one the most wicked man we have in this country, after his death, his 4th generation can never be so poor like adenuga or adeleke, look at the wicked people In North sponsor boko Haram and bandits, they are enjoying life, according to the history, Gumi father enjoying life more than anyone in North. Look at Buhari, Putin, Africa slavery... etc. Why God is watching all this people without any action on them. This people nare living longer and leave inheritance for the generations to come

Don't you think wicked are enjoying life then good people?

Please correct me with fact if am wrong.[/quote]

When you place side by side, the open embrace, acceptance and way of practice of religion – especially Christianity and Islam - by Africans with the corresponding under-development, hopelessness and despair that permeate the continent; you should be left with two choices in whatever conclusion you envisage making. These choices are it is either the religions, which we have been made to forcefully embrace is ineffective or their relevance in the life and affairs of Africans has been over flogged. It is therefore right to say some form of crime has/is being committed against humanity, with African descent at the greater receiving end. This is because the African traditional religion which was genuinely original and a good fit to the nature of Africans was so bad-mouthed to the extent of being substituted for some organized religions that are completely alien to the true cause of Africanism. My opinion on this is a topic for an entirely different day.

One unique feature that stays non-detachable from the understanding of the cultural wirings of Africa is that ‘’she’’ genuinely owns primitiveness. Times without number, various scientific findings and researches have successfully linked certain age-long events, happenings and behaviors to the continent which also give credence to the highly-traditional nature of Africa. Every African born on the African soil knows their root and knows how to trace it. It is almost impossible to see an African man or woman totally detached from some African cultural practices. For instance, it is not all impossible to come across a Catholic nun seeking fortifications with concoctions made of purely traditional leaves and roots. You can equally see a strong Imam making incantations learnable with the help of a trusted and tested ‘babalawo’.

So I find it quite easy to come to terms with the obvious reality that Africans’ acceptance of these organized religions is a direct opposite of what they truly are. More concerning is it that I brought this opinionated piece of mine to among other reasons, try to seek answers to some questions like: What do these religions really say about how they should be practiced? As a staunch religious bigot, what are my gains - earthly and celestially? What should be my limitations in the course of my religious practice? What are my sacrosanct duties, obligations and expected privileges, provided I do not fail in my discharge of those duties? How far can I go in the defense of these tenets? While answers to these questions should be readily provided for in the Bible and the Koran, simple reasoning can still be applied to do some justice.

Numerously defined by different scholars depending on their environment and leanings, the Wikipedia, a renowned encyclopedia also posits that it lacks an agreed definition as various scholars fail to beautify the term with a generally-acceptable definition. However, web.pdx.edu puts it simply as ‘’a set of beliefs that is passionately held by a group of people that is reflected in a world view and in expected beliefs and actions (which are often ritualized)’’.

Since these religions were founded by individuals who were not Africans, the peculiarity and perhaps, true inborn nature of Africans would naturally make it easy for them to be wrongly practiced, poorly-duplicated, bastardized and flawed.
Africans are not good at replicating foreign cultures with perfection and completeness. They have tried it with democracy that started from Greek. What have their leaders brought back with it? Failure. In lieu of elections which democracy is known for, they have chosen selection. This is also aptly playing out in the way they do with name bearing. They do not totally throw away their original African tradition when answering biblical names, which they only do for nominal sake, though. The efficacy attributed to names was what made a Nigerian human rights activist and Afro-musician, Fela Ransom Kuti, in recognition of his African root, change his name from Ransom to Anikulapo.

By African context, ALL prayers said in accordance with guidelines and acceptable tenets of any of the two foreign religions MUST be answered hook, line and sinker. This is irrespective of the fact that not only would such requests fall within the operational capacity of the government of the day, it may also be a core function of any responsible and responsive government. As basic as good road network, potable water system, stable electricity supply, conducive business environment constitute the smallest dividends of the citizenry to cry for, failures to meet them become a luxury for African citizens. Through religiosity which they know they are not sincere about, they push its delivery to God to sort out. This type of false entitlement is inherently an African thing and of a sad truth, it will remain so.

An average religious man would rather wait for an imaginary heavenly breakthrough in his business, study, marriage or job while equally spending precious man-hours in a church or mosque. Taking realistic decisions and constantly measuring them against results is tantamount to chasing a wild goose, to him. He thinks succeeding in this way is not as assuring as fervently following the orders of his religious preachers. Sit him down and ask what drives him in pursuing all of those inordinate desires, his response "i want to receive divine blessings that will make me shame his ‘invisible’ enemies". He wants to increase his worldly accumulations. He wants to marry more wives. He wants to drive expensive cars. He just wants to humiliate his fellow man. Everything is geared towards Self-aggrandizement and Nothing is geared towards the real intent of ‘’Religionizing’’.

This is not how religious Europeans think. Religious Americans are too busy to waste their good time in one church or mosque. Religious Arabians are not ridiculously self-centered like we are. Religious Chinese are even afraid of being outnumbered by the ever-increasing irreligious ones. They are becoming more concerned about their technological advancement. The Indians are busy leading the rat rate in world’s medicine and health system. The Jews have grown past what history makes us to know about them. Sadly, Africa is hypocritically ‘’religionizing’’.

It's very simple. Don't go home

soundOsonic:
Young man that is a kitten not a malevolent spirit.
Stray cats often times live on the roof of houses and cat cries like babies actual babies. It's just a kitten crying and moving from roof to roof guy.

Funny thing is, we Africans believe our "education, sophistication and exposure" should nullify or downplay the existence of some spiritism somewhere. It amazes me, even though the oyinbos that we all accord respect to, are proud custodians and believers of such myth. So u want to defend this ur lame warped thinking? Just don't try it cos u can never...
Bro, this world that we are living in ehn, it is habited by equal number of human creatures like us and powerful evil spirits. Believe this and know peace

Here is my contact: 08023028588
Kola is my name

seankim:
Rome was not built in a day.

Lol. Funnily though, it was destroyed in a day

The only problem we have here in Nigeria is our government... They are the major culprit why Nigerians are not taking this covid of a thing seriously. If the ncdc which is a FG agency in charge of daily reportage of cases of coronavirus is behaving so childish and inconsistent, what does the government expect people to do? To believe them? They are bunch of jokers I swear. They really need to ensure there is seriousness on their part, especially with what they are making us believe as regards Kogi and some other states whose figures completely antagonize every reasoning and intelligence.. We have a lot of intelligent people mehn.... I spit on them all

quote author=TheWrita post=97668113]I said it before that our own covid battle will start when that of other countries is ending.
It's a disaster in the offing
This government cannot do anything about it except quickly get the vaccines for themselves and their families..that's if they haven't done that already.
Soon other countries will start banning nigerians from their places.
Incase it hasn't sunk in yet...
We are on our own
So please observe social distance and wear your mask and wash your hands and avoid crowds this year.
Covid is not a joke
You hear that its 99% survivable but what you dont hear is that you never really get back to normal.It scars the lungs,damages the kidneys,raises your risk of having stroke and heart attack in the future...long after the disease has gone
Being a new disease,there may still be other sequale only time will reveal.
This disease is just a year old.
Why are more Nigerians less concerned?[/quote]

To be honest with u Op. As a man who grew under the watch of a single mum , it is best advised u allow his dad wade into this sensitive issue. There are so many things I wish it was my dad who mentored me, but sadly my mum did all of that.....

Danhoys:
It's obvious you're a teen. You'll know better when you're older.

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