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judewrites:
Marriage is two different people living together who have made a decision to love despite all their weaknesses.

Love is a decision, not just emotions, and it's expressed through giving/sacrifices.

True Love is unselfish. The reason why many marriages fail these days is selfishness and lack of true love between couples.

Many especially women marry out of pressure, envy, competition, mockery, greed, anxiety, revenge, etc.

Only God can give you a partner that truly loves you and vice versa.

zinny377:
Anyone in Cambridge, ON here? am new, looking to network and find a job.

help a sis. Thank you in advance!!!

a little tips here and there would equally be appreciated.

PigTormentor:
How can you self deport when you don't have anything back home?
Most of the people who talk bad about Nigeria in this diaspora are usually people who don't have nothing to fall back on in Nigeria. I have lived for as long as this guy in diaspora but in the last 20 years, I have been living in both Nigeria and diaspora.
I can easily live in Nigeria happily and comfortably.
My friends who refused to come home cannot and are always wishing bad news on Nigeria just to justify their reasons for not coming back home.
Most are miserable and sometimes will admit that they messed up.
I.love going home, I'm always at peace and in the best state of mind whenever I'm back home.
In fact, i have the same euphoria whenever I'm going home as I did when I first migrated to the US in the 80s. The excitement is comparable to a kid in a candy store.

casualobserver:
if you have to teach a woman of 30+ how to find a husband, it means she is fundamentally not wifeable!

pansophist:
The irony is that the man that deflowered her, and those men who had her at her best paid zero, but the man that is inheriting the older version of her and the baggages that comes with her past will pay heavily.

INTEGRITYA1:
In as much he have capacity and ready to foot the bill, I'm so indifferent about such.

But if you try to add me up in such lavish spending, that's when the palarva dey.

I will not bother you with my own party, don't carry your own lifestyle put on my neck.

Also if you spend recklessly and tomorrow you're looking for money to eat, I will just dey manage myself dey go. Na your wahala be that.

In all, I sell real estate, hit me up for your real estate related needs.

Xisnin:
She won't.
This motivational speakers usually have support that they won't tell you.
She could have found a sponsor who encourages her to relocate.
She could already be running a highly profitable business in Nigeria.
We don't even know her family background.

They never reveal their unfair advantage because it will make their story less gracious.

bewisemasses:
Sure. Send ur email I'll send it

GeneralPula:
Well well..

All the girls I’ve ever dated all my life are always virgin. I never initiated a relationship with any girl that’s not a virgin..

Fearyourcreator:
Are you a virgin? If not ,you are an idiot for giving this advise or opinion... Oloriburuku

Caseless:
Person wey you surrender your virginity to went on to marry another virgin and it must be painful.

The guy ask for "benefits", tell him if there's any or shut it if there's none. It's not written anywhere that a non-virgin man should not marry a virgin girl. And no one is saying non-virgin girls are all bad and all virgins are good.

Virgins can turn monsters after marriage and start what they didn't do before marriage and non-virgin can stay committed after marriage and won't go back to what they did before marriage.

Mariangeles:
Front page again for the same topic? For what naa?
Isn't one front page enough, hmm?

Pray4meJC:
Real Christians are not LUCKY PEOPLE, they get what they want

First is the OP a True Christian? Marriage is for christians and not for worldly folks because they will never understand the true essence of marriage. If truly he is and by extension being a virgin as well, then let him ask God Almighty to grant him the qualities of a wife spelled out in Proverbs 31:10 to the end.

od501:
That guy na fòòl, please pay no attention to that rubbịsh. Your choice of a Virgin is perfect as a man. Please be persistent.

It is very beneficial both physically, medically, and spiritually. Too bad I can't go into more details, but stay on course. And my $2 advice is, stay away from Nigerian girls, direct your search to East African women if you can afford it.

Thank you.

Ponmoalata:
Oga, nothing wrong with the quest of searching for Virgin to marry.

You're one of those idiots that loves false chivalry. It's either You're obsessed with likes from female nairalanders or you just have a feminine energy.

The guy did no wrong

If women could be obsessed with 6 ft, 6 figures, 6 packs then nothing wrong with guys looking for virgin only.

RussellRutherfo:

Savage

highchief1:
you are very matured.i like the way u replied him.

StPete:

I love the fatality you gave that silly guy. His I-Too-Know is out of this world

DesireV:
Keep searching for a virgin IF you're a virgin too, otherwise focus on who you can tolerate most.

In my opinion, a virgin man deserves nothing but a virgin woman for marriage. Forget about "some virgins have bad character bla bla". If an average virgin is bad, then an average non virgin is worse. I believe every man deserves to legally tear a leather.

Ability to keep one's virginity is a sign of discipline and strong will, especially in this era of heightened level of immorality. The chances of working marriage out with a virgin, whether man or woman is higher than for non virgins. What do you think make an individual to want to keep his or her virginity? The answer is part of what's needed to make a marriage work. Part of the benefits include, zero "past/baggages", reduced paternity fraud risk, increased loyalty chances, high reproductive health prospect, etc

I was a virgin at marriage and I married a virgin. Praise be His, I feel like paying her bride price again every single day.

Fryx:
I really don’t know why it’s hard for you to find one.

Two of my lovers are Virgins (I confirm one, haven’t had the time to confirm the second) but it won’t be hard for me to confirm if I want to.

Maybe change your environment. And it is not even a matter of age. While one is just about 20, the other is in her mid twenties, and also very beautiful.

I’m not a virgin myself. And they know. Abd they even know that I am sexually active, but they don’t mind.

I think it’s how you relate with women. Thats very important.

But while I will never say it to any man or woman (that knows me) - I will never keep a woman that is not a virgin at home, even if she had children for me.


Before anyone quote me about “I am not a virgin.” First go and learn what a “Man” is and what a “Woman” is.

Like someone pointed out about genetic pollution, I think one key indicator of a virgin is a woman without a troubled soul. If you are cool headed enough to handle a reasonable woman, you should not find it difficult to find a virgin. Non. Virgins has lots of drama (mostly) and trust issues.

Just be a man, and be responsible, they will come to you themselves. You don’t even need to look for one.

irumole1975:
You have time to even respond to that fool. He/she is always on the side of wrong. I’ve never seen any sense coming from kobojunkie post here. Always better. Always on the side of wrong.

braine:
Correct. I’ve been on this platform for almost 18 years and Kobojunkie is not one few old timers to have a reasonable conversation with. So this response is very befitting.

SIRKAY98:
You have asked a beautiful question,but you see, marrying a virgin is good but not paramount, just watch out for some of this factors when considering who you will settle with, make sure the person is not a single parent raised person, it always ends in regret.Watchout, and make sure there upbringing is topnotch,if they had a bad experience through marriage from there parent you will see sege. Virginity is nothing compare to a good upbringing and the person also retrained there self to be a good personality on there own.You can marry non virgin and still be happy if they have a good character and fear of GOD.

sarkinbauchi:
Your comment is rubbish.
If person want marry virgin, let him marry a virgin.
If you didn't marry a vrigin, allow him to marry a virgin. Stop castigating people who want to do the right thing.

NuCypher:
To be honest with you, banking operations for 7 years is not premium experience to bring to Canada. Banking is very saturated here and because it operates quite differently (in some ways) from what obtains in Nigeria, many Canadian banks will hesitate to bring you in at the same level as you are in Nigeria. That's not to mention the need for Canadian experience that could sometimes be a hinderance. However, that shouldn't deter you. I'll recommend a few things to you.

Start looking at additional transferable skills you could layer on top of or adjacent to your banking experience. For example, say you also did project management while you were at the bank, try to sell this as a different skill by (1) trying to write PMP if you can, and (2) preparing a different resume that sells you as a project manager (and not a banking advisor, for example). If you have other transferable skills, try to build resumes in those directions and claim your normal years of experience doing this. Things that I can imagine you can spin out of working in a bank could be project management, business intelligence, business development, customer success, customer service, etc. You are the one who knows better, in any case. But these could help increase the breadth of organizations you can apply to outside of banking institutions. I remember once successfully advising a process engineer to spin out into data analysis because he did work with a lot of data as a process engineer, except he had to write a few Microsoft data certifications to layer on top of that experience and get up to speed quickly with some well-known data analysis tools like PowerBI.

Second thing is to start building your network. LinkedIn is a very good place to start. So are arrival services, which are almost all free. Try to register for one of these arrival services in Canada once you land and go take many of their programs, and try to build your networks from there. If possible, reach out on LinkedIn to people working in your desired field and look into going to the same networking events they are going to, so that when you are there you can say stuff like "Oh, I actually follow you on LinkedIn. I like what you discussed about ......It's quite related to what I did back in my previous organization where I was employed as......I've been looking for new opportunities in this area since I came to Canada some few months ago so that I can expand my skills...." Anything along those lines.

Third thing is to start furiously applying for jobs RIGHT now. Nothing should be stopping you from throwing as many resumes out there as you can, making sure to tailor each according to the job you want. You don't have to expect anything, but it doesn't hurt to try. My recommendation here is to keep your expectation low, as you continue to do the two above. If you find that there is need for you to acquire a few certifications here and there to boost your chances, this is when you start working on them. For example, would you be shooting for project management jobs while leveraging your banking experience, then start prepping to write PMP, etc. THis is the part where you are building yourself, while not waiting for a job first.

Finally, in addition to all above, you want to prepare for the worst case. What's the worst case? That all these efforts don't pay off for several months. In that case, what's your plan? Do you want to do Uber on the side? Ubereats? Skip? Or you want to shoot for a quick Amazon warehouse job? Or customer service from home? Something in retail? Or you are quite handy and don't mind becoming a blue collar? If you are open to any of such contingencies, this is the time to start working towards them. For example, if you think you are going to do Uber, then go tidy up your Nigerian driver's licence and learn how you can quickly transition to start driving in Canada. Would you need to start studying the driver's handbook for the exam? Time to start now. Just plan, plan, plan. If you would love to get into welding because it's something you've always thought about, time to visit a welder in Nigeria and start learning the basics, etc.

I have always maintained that all that ecstasy or excitement from getting Canadian PR, all that excitement that follows "He has finally done it!", all that jumping up and screams of excitement that is so palpable all over the Canadian express entry thread once folks get their visa; all that excitement is unwarranted and doesn't prepare you for what to expect in Canada. Canada is no heaven. In fact, anyone could be easily worse off once they get here. It doesn't get any easier. If anything, it could get crazy mental. What matters is to start preparing once you are sure you are leaving the country. There is a lot of preparations to do and only those who prepare win in the end!

Namaster:
DON'T get married.
It's POINTLESS!

But if you insist, your bride's virginity must be NON-NEGOTIABLE.

The fact that you are finding it difficult to see a virgin is a SIGN.

It's a sign of the CALIBRE of women out there today:
LOOSE in morals and LOOSE in pussy.

The idea that you can settle down with "one with a good character" is MADNESS!

First of all, virginity is a good MARKER of good character in women. It speaks to a woman's CHASTITY and SEXUAL DISCIPLINE. Both of which are essential to a great home.

PLUS, once a woman is NO longer a virgin. You'll NEVER know her body counts.

She'd swear on ALL the gods that it's NOT more than three. Meanwhile, she's had 3 dicccks in one day. Sometimes, all at ONCE.

But you'll NEVER know. And you'll have to take her words for it.

Finally, there is the issue of GENETIC POLLUTION.

Scientists once conducted an experiment using spiders. They had ONE group of female spiders and TWO groups of male spiders.

One group of the male spiders contained LARGE spiders and the other contained SMALL ones.

First they let the large ones mate with the females. Then they let the small ones IMPREGNATE them.

They found that the OFFSPRINGS carried a SIGNIFICANT trace of the DNA of the mother's previous partner even though he didn't sire them.

At first, the scientists thought that the results were because the LARGE spiders had more dominant and powerful genes.

So they conducted a NEW test with new sets of spiders. This time, the small spiders first mated with the female spiders while the larges ones IMPREGNATED them.

Shockingly, the results were the SAME.
The OFFSPRINGS still had significant levels of the DNA of the mother's previous partner.

Put simply:

Marrying a NON-VIRGIN could result in having children with the genetic qualities of a STRANGE man.

Your child will have more than ONE father.
They will NOT be 100% yours.

A QUASI-BASTARD, if you will.

So insisting on a VIRGIN is not just about you.
It's about your KIDS too.

Virginity in a bride is a standard that must NEVER be compromised.

EDGEof2MORO:
nobody said women should not marry virgins too, why e dey pain you?

the man want virgin, if you are not a virgin, don't feel bad that he will not marry you.


damzy88, do not listen to bitter non-virgins on the internet. they hate seeing men getting what they want and it is one of the core tenets of nigerian-feminism (also including nigerian women abroad, they somehow carry that stupid way of life outside)

Kobojunkie:
1. You are not a virgin, but you expected that there would be virgins everywhere abi? No be craze dem dey call that?

2. I honestly don't think you will benefit from marriage at all as there is the chance that this virginity obsession of yours will most likely lead you to raping your own daughter or maybe even your wife's sibling/house help who you happen to perceive is a virgin. I have read enough stories of your kind to realize that these delusions never simply go away. They find other ways to compensate for the lack; Nigeria is riddled with stories of your kind that it is probably better you not be allowed near children at all.

PlayerMeji:
If you like, kill yourself for a lady.... if she no go gree, she no go gree

A woman will only allow herself to fall in love with you if she loves you... not as a degree of what ever level of game you may have deployed.

Letmecum:
them no force you marry her. All this married men should please allow we to rest. If you see how they indimidate single people sometimes it will looks as if marriage is a golden opportunity to see God. Please suffer your suffer alone.

Gerrard59:
This is the number one factor globally for men marrying late or deciding not to marry. From what I have read so far, men are seemingly tired of the job market which pits them against women and other men for scarce roles. At the same time, these women are hypergamous - so the men do not just have to compete with women for limited jobs, but have to satisfy their hypergamous tendencies.

Marriage rates have plunged across the developed world, and if not for culture and strong religion inclinations, the same would have replicated itself across Africa.