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Daniel058:
I'm not sure you can truly change her, she [b]maybe [/b]the one to dump you last last. Seems You are too emotional to handle stubborn woman matter. Most woman NATURALy need and respect men that are unpredictable.

Change maybe to WILL.
Now she knows the man will eventually dump her because she knows she can't change. Her parents would have already tried in vain to make her change her dirty ways.

She will now become far more open to toasting by other men. And do what the guy had no determination to do: jettison the relationship.

Wow!

gracias124:
She blocked me after that convo

Dude, you don't respond to a girl of that age like that.
It's not really about your age but your attitude. She just used age as an excuse.
Also remember, at that age most, most girls nowadays just dey mature into olosho phase of life. They have all the physical attributes, attention from men, but not the wisdom to be a proper woman yet. Boys from 18 years old to men up to 60 years dey toast them.
Olosho phase can last from around 19 to 30 years depending on the woman.

But from the age of 23-25, the wiser ones will have learned from been played by men, with a few abortions in their CV and will start looking out for a guy ready for marriage.

If you are still playing around, continue with 20 year olds. If looking for marriage material, 23 and above. At least 22. Done with NYSC and all.

Bluntguy:
I just sincerely hope Fubara has an ace up his sleeve because no governor can take the nonsense Wike has been dishing out to him on a daily basis and keep quiet like that, no matter what you have done for me. I will use the instrument of my office and fight you to a standstill. Honestly this Fubara's docility is very irritating.

Not really docile. He reads the situation. FG owes Wike one for rigging Rivers in 2023.

Remember it was a very close win. Fubara is aware of Federal might behind Wike. He nearly lost his governorship already. Fubara needs time.

Wike will also fall out with Chinda soon enough. He falls out with everyone over time.

Disappointing.
Somebody of Aremo Osoba's age and stature should know not to call political aspirants enemies.

You now call President GEJ that people ganged up against in 2025 an enemy? So what will you now call those who ganged up in 2015? Southern Bandits?

OgThanos:
The elephant that swims in coconut oil does not use ATM to buy meat at the pharmacy.”

-By Chiwetalu Agwu. 1989.

Vision101:
This one na for career and politics forever politicians. Technocrats in the government have no time and interest in politics. Once they leave, they head back to their profession.

Ministers are mostly political acolytes from the business and political class.

Considering the huge money in 9ja politics, many former technocrats want to go into politics these days. But most don't have the godfather, grassroot and financial base 9ja politics require.

But true, the genuine technocrats/intellectuals find 9ja politics too messy to venture into.

oarowosola,

You dey try o. Abeg try have a bit of taste in women.

Haba! How do you date such a dirty woman?

There is no way her environment can be so disgusting and her clothes will be clean.
Women don't value you trying to clean after them. Especially an unappreciative one like her.

Well, may be she's your class of woman.
Na wa o.

Elibaba1:
Wait ooo

A Minister resigned FEC Cabinet just to contest for House of Reps? Wowwww!!!!

Not Guber, not Senatorial.
Chaiiiiiiiii

House of Rep is better than minister. Unless it's a major ministry. One was even only a minister of state (junior minister).

In the HoR if you win, you can stay for 4 years. FEC minister, you can be fired at any time. If by chance you become a Select Committee chairman/woman, as Ibori's daughter became in her first term in the HoR, you will make money.

Also, during this current government, most ministries didn't even get 25% of their budget/allocations. It was in the news recently, before the former Minister of Finance left. In fact, the revelation by the former finance minister was one of the unpalatable things Tinubu was unhappy about.

illicit:
So they later made a sex tape

Werey!

Nor be only indecency, na cloud 9 tape.

Hezmatosky210:
If you become rich and powerful before you marry, please look for a young and decent girl and wife her, whether poor or rich. Leave all those rich, intelligent, outspoken, exposed, matured, otangele, agadi ekwenka women. They gat nothing to offer you. Congrats your highness!

Dude, some 18 and 19 years old have already used abortion to destroy their wombs o. Don't be fooled.

Let her be pregnant before you marry. If not let her go.

A man should also check his sperm count and quality before going into marriage.

Yes, in rare cases, the man's and woman's reproductive resources can be excellent but still no pregnancy.

But at least the chances are higher if both of you have no reproductive issues.

Nor let romance talk fool anybarry. No romance in jungle. The world is a VERY thick jungle.

Ah! Lest I forget, still run DNA test for every child you born o. Unless you want to run an orphanage in your household.

thatigboman:
just listen to yourself. Did u even read the story? He said he took full responsibility. But his only problem was that while an African was denied entry in another African country, Europeans from another continent were allowed to go in without visa.

Look, some Africans hate themselves more than other races hate Africans. You can see their comments.

It baffles me that I can easily travel to African countries just by holding a Western passport. And I see fellow Africans being shoved aside for deep questioning, even with their valid visas in Africa.

Sickening.

youngrichnigga:
Black African countries in general and Nigeria in particular have very low record and statistics keeping compared to these western countries regarding many things, we don't have stats and records of what's injested especially for such things as depression etc most of which are alien to us as illnesses. With the level of hardship faced, we have more worries but these are managed in unorthodox manners without records etc, so the statistics here may not be all-encompassing

Nor mind them. Has anyone studied the rate of depression, psychopathy and substance abuse among Boko Haram, herdsmen, killers, and the prison inmates in Nigeria?

Many don't know that mental health conditions are high but largely undiagnosed in such categories of people.
Ignorance is bliss.

Let the animal live. A true hunter will not kill it.

Gboom:
The conclusion of the whole matter is there is nothing like unconditional love

Gbam! No long talk.

Cash for hand, back for ground.

Allen Avenue style is the reality model for life. Nor let romance talk fool anybarry.

EmperorIsaac:
Hmmmm...they will curse you for this counsel. Do not waste your words...let them!

Abi.

TheStoriesOfMan:
The caption is funny.

Ogun students shine at ttjkoitfddrthjjjkkkjiokjv

For a moment, I thought it was son's and daughters of Ogun traditional worshippers who won the competition.

Commendable.

Werey!

Na Sopana abi Oya worshippers' kids.

Na open air picnic. No biggie.

Ancient people used tents and caves. They brought these religions.

DeltaBachelor:
LOL. Your friend (YOU) is just insecure. There is temptation everywhere even in that supermarket he intends to open for her. When there is no trust in a relationship, it is better for both parties to quit

We know there's promiscuity in all jobs, teaching and health care rank towards the top.

You see that hotel work, enh? It's on another level. Some hotel ladies will even approach you as a guest with indecent proposals. Some begin harmlessly asking for tips.
Wetin eyes don see, mouth nor fit talk.

I ended up sitting one lady down to advise her to be patient. Her fiancé was doing his best, according to what I gathered from our conversation. He was working, in a top profession, but in early stages. She complained about having to shoulder too many family expenses, siblings and such. I was in shock and pitied her fiancé.

I am sure many other guests would have been happily obliging her there.

Sure, all ladies are not the same. But way too risky.

Peter Obi may become like Atiku.

Jumping from party to party makes you look unstable.

LP would have been the best for Obi. Remain and build it.

In fact Atiku/Obi in 2023 would have probably won the presidential election narrowly.
That was their chance gone.

Obi knows that 2031 will probably go to the North, hence his promise of single term. But people won't believe him, even if he might truly mean it.

Wordson:
My brother,I just pray that next season, we will be on fire again.
Liverpool will be Liverpool once again, a team that most teams will rather avoid to play against at any level.
With that monstrous never give up winning mentality.
I Pray we will be back

Isak, Wirtz, Ekatike and teenage Ngomoha will all really pick up big time.

Gravenberch, Sloboszlai and Kerkez will sync much better in MF and Defence.

Maybe Frimpong should become a proper wingback like Victor Moses at Chelsea. His defensive work is not good enough. Selling Jared Quansah was a bad idea. We need to correctly sort out the Centre halves. Konate and VvD have struggled a bit. I guess that's because our MF has been less effective and ball carriers like Diaz and Trent that allowed us to keep pressing in yesteryears are missing. Defence has come under more pressure in each game than usual. Errors have crept in.

I can't figure out what has happened to Macalister this season.

Wordson:
I no know wetin remain for this my team this season..
Liverpool has lost everything to play for this season.. we've bn reaped to our bones!! no flesh,muscles,tendons, ligaments only bones.. na carcass of Liverpool dey play now
Their MATCH DON TAYA ME TO WATCH!

I won't be surprised if the usual happens today.

Nor worry. LFC are come back kings.

The spirit of Milan lives on.

Next season will be great.

Cum4me:
Getting married is not a good thing for broke man in this Nigeria. We should stop deceiving ourselves. Marriage is another level of death trap for a broke man. It even worse if a broke man married a broke woman that is a low key Olosho. You go talk Waka

Where broke man wan see unbroke woman marry?

brain54:
It's fashion...


What were you thinking? Wash your mind with hypo!

Una ehn, Hypo can't do it. Too late. That guy name don delete for heaven list. Unless......

Wait o, what if that zip fail and she nor wear pant or na only that tiny one she wear?

wellmax:
Nobody wakes up to threaten you randomly.

Let’s hear the full gist and from the Alaafin.

Unfortunately, the alaafin may not be interested in engaging the media.

Abi o. A lot of people with no idea how monarchies work are saying nonsense on NL.

Can anyone just wake up and do documentaries on the Emperor of Japan, King of Saudi Arabia, Kings of England, Belgium, Netherlands, Sweden, Thailand, etc? By local filmmakers without collaboration?

Just because we loathe ourselves and feel inferior, consciously or subconsciously, due to colonial brainwash, doesn't mean we should rubbish our ancient institutions.

Well, how can such a documentary be made without the Palace of Alafin's involvement?

If it's a Nollywood film, that's different. But a documentary? It should be based on collabroation.

With any monarch anywhere, redaction of some information is expected. How did the relationship get so fractured that it led to threats?

sleek214:
Ooh wow. How are the mighty fallen. 1983, Nigeria chased out over one million immigrants, mostly Ghanaians. Fast forward to 2026, Ghana and other Africa Countries might kick out millions of nigerians.1983, Ghana Must Go. 2026, Nigeria Must Go

Ghana first chased out 500, 000 Nigerians in 1971, many were refugees from Biafra war that just ended the year before, others had lived there for decades with lots of properties. They lost everything they owned in Ghana.
By 1973, the Israeli-Arab war led to surge in oil price and 9ja was swimming in petrodollars.
Ghanaians flooded into 9ja.

Funny enough, Dr Kofi Busia, their PM then, one of Africa's most educated politicians back then, was the architect of Nigerian expulsion in 1971.

b0rn2fuck:
Na the best way to pay bride price be that , that's is called payment after delivered product have been tested ,used and trusted .. not the one you don't know the value of what you are paying

If you check well, na their daughter planning to get married force them to marry.

Because he can't collect bride price on his daughter otherwise. That's usually the reason.

Most times, the parents-in-law will already be dead. Na some uncles who didn't know how the lady was raised that will collect the bride price.

Not very wise.

b0rn2fuck:
Na the best way to pay bride price be that , that's is called payment after delivered product have been tested ,used and trusted .. not the one you don't know the value of what you are paying

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sonssyo:
I made this pot of soup onto Sapa level, make the bashing no plenty abeg,nah naija we dey like this.

The outcome be this...

Come and join me..

Bia, Madam, so which kind soup you dey eat during GEJ presidency if you are eating loaded Oha soup in this economy?
I never see executive red garri eba laidis since IBB's SAP sapped 9ja.

Are you sure are not one of those benefitting from Abacha loot?

CYBERWEAVER:
I am currently planning to get married. I’ve been with my babe for about a year now.

After several consultations, we agreed on a wedding budget of about 3 million Naira.

But I keep asking myself one very honest question: how do I commit that kind of money to someone who hasn’t really shown the same level of effort back, even in something as small as 5k, despite earning a little?


Asin, I never smell her 5k since we started dating.


At this point, it’s not even about the money anymore. It’s about intention, balance, and simple acts of kindness.

Even on my birthday, I didn’t receive a gift from her, and that stayed with me more than I expected.

I’ve never had to deliberately test her money, because genuine care and small acts of giving usually show themselves naturally over time.

To be clear, I’ve been carrying most of the financial weight in this relationship, and there’s hardly anything tangible she has ever done for herself without at least my 50% contribution since we met.

I don’t complain, but I also don’t want to ignore what I’m seeing.

As a responsible man, I’m trying to be honest with myself before I take a step I can’t easily undo.

So I want to ask people who are married or have real experience: if I go ahead and marry in a relationship where this is the current dynamic, what should I realistically expect in marriage?

I’m not trying to assume the worst, but I also believe experience speaks louder than hope.

You need to test her. Fake being in debt and cannot go ahead with marriage at this time.

Or you can afford only a very low key one. Not more than 15 guests. See her reaction. That will let you know her better.
A good lady will want to work with you to clear the debt. Or at least be genuinely interested in how you accrued the debt.

nairalanda1:
On the topic, writing now

Pain in the leg plus breathlessness may mean pulmonary embolism

Also the heart condition is a strong possibility. Remember Marc Vivien foe.

But when all is said and done, AUTOPSY and Investigation.

Very likely to be PE. I wanted to see that he was immediately given oxygen as he gasped for breath. The field being opposite the clinic.

Did an autopsy already reveal that he had an undisclosed heart condition so soon? I can't imagine the full report, including toxicology being ready so soon.

RIP to the dude.