₦airaland Forum

bakynes:
Am sure the man didn't even see it as an issue, he just did what he had to do. At least if you feel disrespected, after church service give him a call and he will retrace his step. Instead of just telling your husband to remove him.

Marotzke:
From the facts on ground, that chapel belongs to the lagos state government.
That chaplain is paid from the collections from the church ,which is government property.
The church building and chaplain's residency were built by the state Government.
So technically speaking the chaplain was an appointee of lagos State Government.
There is nothing different between the chaplain and KAI administrator or LASTMA commander, or LAMATA MD except job description.
What the Chaplain did was a complete breach of protocol , which is a grieveous offence in civil service administration.
Without protocol, there will be a complete break down in hierachy, law and order and perfidy will reign supreme.
When you appoint people from outside civil service ,this kind of anomally manifest.
There is Hierachy, even in Heaven.
The Chaplain completely goofed.

jashar:
That right there is the problem....

royalty18:
Hmmm. There is no first lady in Church. As far as God is concerned. We are all equal in sonship before God. She obviously wanted the first lady treatment in Church and was not given! No problem. The government has done its worse. God will do His best for the pastor!

bakynes:
Very disappointing from the Governor who couldn't differentiate women stupidity and foolishness to actual disrespect.

Never knew Ambode was a woman wrapper like this.
Some people just like to take food away from another person's mouth just because of no issues.

Is this enough reason to relieve him of his position? Very painful because I have been a victim of something similar before.

MrBrownJay1:
He had to protect himself from this woman, one way or another.... And since she wasn't gonna let him go, he had to do something.

ImaIma1:
Let's wait for you to kill yoirs then.

Crazy kid. You started with the insults and quoting me and acting like a rabies infected dog.

Snow84:
Learn how to pass relationship-related comments from that Raine80 moniker. If the father had made it known that he gave the car to her daughter, that marriage is doomed, especially if the man is not rich enough to own a car. If the husband is not rich, and the wife is from a rich family, enrich the man, for charity sake, and see the man becoming grateful by loving his wife more, assuming what brought them together initially is genuine love. Before marriage, the father should have tested the man by giving him 1m naira to see r what he can do with it. If the 1m naira vanishes without making any good use of it, the father would advise her daughter to be wary of the man, and steer clear of interfering in the affairs of the upcoming family. You don't have to teach young people, adversities will teach them.

ImaIma1:
But if he had given them a tray as a gift he wouldn't need to ask permission in case they already have enough trays. Such myopic and egocentric mindset! Whatever they do with their gifts is left to them. It is a wedding gift and she is his daughter.
What broke the marriage might not be the gifts bit how the couple handled it.

ImaIma1:
They are both dead and gone. Nice try. You can keep the insults for yours.

DOnlooker:
Be careful what you wish for. A father who just one hour after you and his daughter has been joined together as ONE, singles her out and gifts her a car in the full glare of the wedding guests is sending you some strong non-coded messages among which are;
1.) He doesn't see you as the head of the newly created family otherwise it should have been both of you together he will hand over the car keys.
2.) No matter the circumstances, in the event of any misunderstanding, you will always be the one at fault.
3.) He is trying to intimidate you already with money.
etc, etc.
I wouldn't want to have a FIL that will do that, not on the wedding day at least because it will leave a lasting impression on the guests that her father will continue to bankroll my marriage. A real man will understand.

olaife80:
Guess you are not married. Please ask your parent they will lecture you more.
A wise person knows its wrong.
This is a Wedding gift not birthday gift.

ImaIma1:
If u go and read from my first response, you would see that I am not a dude and that I do not see anything wrong in the car gift

ImaIma1:
You are the slowpoke that quoted me without having your facts straight. Covering your ignorance with loose talk. Unam ikot

charain:
The question you should ask yourself is why an egoistic poor man will marry a rich woman ?
when a woman refuse to marry below her class you say; women are only after money,
when a rich woman fall for a poor guy you accuse her of disrespecting the husband by being rich.
What exactly do you want ?

kennygee:
So as a parent, after raising a daughter from birth to her wedding day, after paying her fees, feeding, clothing her and giving her all the love I can give, I then need to seek permission from one guy before I can give her a gift?

I don't know about y'all, but I think its an ego problem.

The car or house gift won't be a problem later, they have bigger problems waiting for them.

thotianna:
Gosh African men are so annoying. Can you imagine some people saying any car gift must be for both husband and wife and not for wife alone?
If the long throat man wants a car he should ask his wife to share her car or hustle like his mates and buy one instead of trying to get his greedy paws on his wifes property and claiming it as his own.
Haba. A woman cannot get a gift from her father and have it in her name again. it must also belong to the husband.
Men are so heartless and greedy. Such rubbish
If you have a problem with your wife having more money than you then marry poor women that will depend on you financially so your stupid egos can get even more bloated.

ImaIma1:
If u go and read from my first response, you would see that I am not a dude and that I do not see anything wrong in the car gift

PaperLace:
If you like, present it to the couple and their ancestors, the party that wants to insult the other will do so_ as long as he/she knows the money came from the parents purse.

Presenting it to both is just protocol and they know it, what will be will be, if they don't handle it well. If it were mortar and pestle, will you be overly concerned who it is presented to?

One word? Inferiority complex fuelled by ego.

Hannysmilez:
Wawuuuu!!! Ordinary car and Nigerian men already are threatened. Wonder what they'd do if she buys a jet

Jsaviour:
Nigerian mentality sucks like hell. Even God that invented the marriage will look at you like "what the hell are these people saying". Take permission to give a daughter a gift. He should also take permission to include her in his will. Yeye dey smell. Who did this to Nigerians?.

Hannysmilez:
why on earth would I need my son-in-law's consent to get my daughter a damn car?

innobarca:
Every gift for a new couple should be for the couple, It doesn't matter where it is coming from... Many people married from rich families and car gifts or big gifts is not new ,When you go to marriage ceremonies you should observe it always that any gift is for the couple.. most people,I repeat most people insults their husband/wife later in the marriage because of such gifts and that is why it is good to tag the couple.

smithsydny:
I dey see u

ImaIma1:
You are barking up the wrong tree

ImaIma1:
No the mother needs to get permission from the wife..."my dear I want to give my son a car as a wedding gift,should i go ahead?"

smithsydny:
sisi