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Beatswim:
i can sense u aren't married.. Get married and learn dear sister... This man was loving and hard working before his change of attitude due to frustration and his not been able to fend for his family... Now back to the op.. Shes a strong and God fearing woman just like my wife... I passsed through the same issue for 5years and my wife did the same but everything turned around since 2018...dear op pls be patient wt this man.. See a good prophet... And respect your husband wt all you have... If u can continue... Your husband will regain all hr has lost.. And those your 3 lucky children will become great in life... This is just a passing phase for your family so that u can have a story to train those children..

Really? 5 years? Your wife must be a superwoman.

24kmagic:
I just feel he's kicking against strangers coming into your house because he doesn't want outsiders to find out that you're the one running the home. Because one way or the other, they will know and he'll lose his respect before the public, you know how 9ja people do reason.

As for not wanting to assist, he doesn't want to lose his dominance over you. Cos believe me once he starts helping, you'll unconsciously think that's his responsibility.

Honestly, all I see in this is a family man that is frustrated due to his inability to provide for his family. He will come around as soon as he gets a nice job.

But he's lucky to have you tho, 95 inside 100 women will not take that from their man.

They'll rub his joblessness on his face till he gets depressed, leading to suicide.

You're blessed!

Hmmmm...this could be true. There are men like this. I was in my uncle's house several years ago while in Unilag and his 7 years old boy asked me why are fathers described as the bread winner of the family in his civic education textbook. I simply said because he is the one who takes care of the major needs of the family. My uncle was right there in the sitting room watching a program on the television. My little cousin later responded sharply "it is a lie my dad is not the bread winner. Everyday he sits at home and watch movies while my mum is the one who goes out to work and provide money for us". If you see the look on my uncle's face ehn. I just helped to save the situation by saying "come on Junior, your dad gave your mum money to start her business, so he is still the one financing the family. Your dad sells cars, so he does not necessarily need to go to work everyday, so he can work from home." No be small thing o .

genq:
Based on your previous comment I shouldn't even be responding to an uncouth scallywag like you.

You said OP's husband should be locked up - of course you'd say something so senseless and idiotic being that you have no man of your own.

Local champion

Biko, you need water to cool your body. I understand that everywhere is hot today.

As for a good cleaning company, I can recommend Afterlifecleaning.com 08180458852. Call them to make your requests and bookings. As per price range for 4 bedroom, I don't have an idea. 2 bedroom is about 15k per month for once in a week cleaning.

Inside life...

Truly, you won't understand the value of Kemi if you have not dated Ore.

Seeing is believing...those guys amazed me.

It is so funny that the OP also made a grammatical blunder in the title of the post. There is nothing like jargons in English language. It is an uncountable noun, so it shouldn't be pluralised. Jargon is Jargon.

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theButterfly:
1. I was still on the thread writing my final reply [which I posted minutes after my initial submission] before you quoted me hurriedly. You should've seen that what you had quoted looks unfinished.

2. If you didn't comprehend what I had written, a sensible, mature person would've communicated that respectfully. Respect begets respect.

3. FYI: This is a public forum and no one owes anybody anything. If I want to write like crap and leave it as such, that's my business.

4. I take absolutely no offense to you asking whether I speak English [it's hilarious, tbh], but learn not to attack other NLers' English. It's something I try to refrain from doing when I see tons of grammatical blunders on posts and on blogs here. If I look through your post history I will undoubtedly find grammatical blunders, so make sure your own writing is p erfection before attacking another's.

Thanks so much for this.

CHoccolaTE:
Can you imagine if a woman started a topic claiming she married her husband for his money and ability to provide but now he's very sick and can't hustle so she's irritated by him and his laziness.

Imagine all the insults that would have littered this thread if that happened.

Mr op better find someone to assist her now she's pregnant because pregnancy hormones cause extreme tiredness and sickness, there are workers going door to door in Nigeria looking for any work, in fact that's their name, "any work", and they charge cheap for helping you clean and wash at home. Ask neighbors for their contact if you dont know any.


This thread dey make me vex
Selfish and heartless men littering everywhere mtscheew

Many women leave their husband for this same reason on a daily basis. They don't need to post it here before you know. Shit happens from both sides. In fact the society is now becoming more sympathetic to the women than the men today. We blame the men for everything and anything. When he rapes, he deserves to be castrated. If he is raped, he is an slowpoke. When he beats his wife, he is a beast, he should rot in jail. But if his wife stabs him to death, he is the cause, he is a coward, he is a serial womanizer and a pathological liar. There are now many charity organisations supporting women everywhere while men are left to cater for themselves. Now tell me, are we not human? Why won't we be heartless?
#InsideLife

zed7:
You married her because she could clean. Now that she can't clean you want to run. This is a lesson to singles. Marry for deep reasons and not for superficial reasons
Enough said.

We all marry for a purpose. Thank God @OP stated his own clearly. Why run him down because of his reason for getting married? You go to a store, you see a product, after checking its description, you buy it, but it fails to give you what you expect, won't you feel cheated? That is of course a breach of contract. So let us be calm about castigating this guy here. His wife could have just cajoled him into believing she is clean but now she could just be hiding under the umbrella of pregnancy to show her true colours. Na Dem...I just want us to take a chill and view it from his perspective too. However, I still support that he gets a cleaner with affordable price.

theButterfly:
Perhaps you can come and teach me in Canada because you apparently know more English than I do. Dummy.

I asked a question because I could not comprehend your expression. I expected you to respond by taking some efforts to go through what you wrote and make it clearer. Dummy? No, I'm DanielJones

Acidosis:
This is not enough to grumble, man. What do you do with your weekends (Saturday and Sunday)?

Find a way to help and try to reduce the quantity of household stuff you keep in the house. If you have items you haven't used in 2-3 years, please dispose.

When you embrace a minimalist setting/design, you're saving yourself at least 50% of workload, time, expenses, and stress.

You don't need 20 plates in your house, you're not a restaurant. You don't need 10 pots. Keep them minimal and save yourself unecessary maintenance and workload.

When the few get old or outdated, dispose all and get new sets. There are clothes you no longer need. Don't keep 10 bedsheets. This is how to run a home. The more empty spaces you have, the lower your stress level.

The best advice so far on this thread apart from mine. @OP Take note.

theButterfly:
Because her uncleanliness started since she got pregnant, then it's likely the pregnancy hormones , although pregnancy does not render one incapable of doing household chores or keeping the house clean in general. When my SIL was pregnant I would visit to see her doing chores

Do you speak English at all?

Try using Afterlife Cleaning Services, 08180458852, www.afterlifecleaning.com. They have different plans to suit your cleaning needs. Please don't kill your wife o, she is not a slave.

Vyolet:
When we tell some women not to do what they naturally wouldn't do in other to win over a man only for them to change once they achieved their aim, they would say we are not wife materials.

Op, you don't have extra money to pay cleaners but you are not paying her for doing the extra she is doing, later you will use your mouth to say "my wife is not working and not contributing anything to the house".

Oya na, do your chores yourself and allow the poor woman be, your baby is growing in her and you don't expect her to die from chores.


Taink you.

Haba! So na you be the first love that the @OP mentioned that he dropped to go marry him wife? Pele.

My brother, it is a normal thing for women. The process of child bearing comes with many funny behaviour from them. You can't predict them but you can manage them to make you live long. Try check up www.afterlifecleaning.com or call 08180458852 for a good cleaning plan. A cleaner does not need to show up at your home everyday so you can pay less and achieve more. They have different plans available for you. Try them and don't forget to thank me later.

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Orlando's song comes to mind...Oh Kangaroo

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Good one

Ihedinobi3:
Hello there.

For what it is worth, I will give an answer.

[19]For the fate of the sons of men and the fate of beasts is the same. As one dies so dies the other; indeed, they all have the same breath and there is no advantage for man over beast, for all is vanity. [20]All go to the same place. All came from the dust and all return to the dust. [21]Who knows that the breath of man ascends upward and the breath of the beast descends downward to the earth?
Ecclesiastes 3:19-21 NASB

Animals possess a spirit just like man too does, according to the above passage, so they too are indestructible. They do not go out of existence when their flesh returns to the dust. Rather, we can expect that we will have them in eternity in new bodies too.

Since they do not possess the Image of God, that is, a free will, like mankind and the angels do, they don't have to face any kind of judgment. Rather, just as this creation will be resurrected after the Last Judgment, that is, the Judgment of the Great White Throne, they too will be resurrected as part of it, but only in perfect bodies with none of the frailty and corruption of this current corrupt creation, for the perfect enjoyment of the perfect Family of God including the elect angels and all resurrected human believers consisting of the Church and Millennial Believers.

This is well structured. Thanks for your time.

emrain:
In the belly of Mother Earth.

Inside life?

emrain:
Same place Moses went when he died.

Where, Please?

Oma307:
there is only an afterlife for creatures that reason and not for creatures that thinks

Any proof?

The bible is presented to us as the word of God but you also need to understand how to start looking at it as the word of God flowing out from different writers with different personalities. Solomon's advice in the book of Proverbs should not be examined out of context. God used him to warn many who are addicted to drinking alcohol. There are parts of his writings where he would encourage us to drink our favourite wine and go out with the best women we choose because life is short. Paul in the new testerment made reference to drinking alcohol as a remedy to health issue. In other books in the new testerment the same God used prophets like Moses to pass messages to the people about alcohol.

@OP The bible is from and of God but you need to get to the level where you start seeing the bible as a flow of God's pure expression to human spiced up by the personal experience and the personality of the writer. This one of the reasons we have it as compilation of books. Ask yourself why God instructed Samson not to taste alcohol from birth but King David never received such instruction from God. Why did God instruct Hoses to marry prostitute but didn't instruct Samson, Elijah, Moses to do so. All prophets have personal encounter with God and God deals with you according to his covenant with you.

So, be guided.

Good morning Nairaland. I have been pondering on this issue for a very long time. It is a common belief by Christians and Muslims that when human die, they go to either hell or heaven to spend their afterlife. Some doctrines even say their soul/spirit goes to purgatory first before moving to hell or heaven. Jehovah witnesses on the other hand believe that once we die, that is all. The body decays and the spirit goes to rest till the day of ressurection for the hope of kingdom of God.

My chief concern here is not about the doctrines but on aspects that I think are not well covered by religion. Where do animals go to when they die? Do they reincanate? Do some also go to hell while others go to heaven? Or will the good animals also ressuracte on the judgement day?

Don't forget that the animal kingdom is closely related to the human kingdom. The have life, they recreate, they communicate and they also hustle to survive. They fight, they show love to one another and some of them are hostile to another. What are your views about this? Let us learn from you. Feel free to back up your points with scriptural verses or quranic references or other relevant sources.

Thank you all.

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Afterlife Cleaning is tested and trusted. No doubt.

No significant difference. They both refer to a document that introduces you to your employer. However, CV is British while Resume is American/French.

I think what the OP means is that his wife feels comfortable being naked while with her cousin sisters. She however adjusts herself when her husband comes in...while she is still with her cousins. But when she is with the OP in the oza room, being naked is not a problem.

To me, it is normal. She had been like that with her cousins before she got married and it could be difficult to adjust. Some ladies do same with their friends in hostel. The only thing is that the OP has to talk to her to adjust and stop being naked even when with family members. She is now someone's property, she is expected to be admired and celebrated by him alone.