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Atmmachine:
I laugh at news like this.
You craved for change that's why you voted for Buhari & He's now your president.
Now, you can enjoy the change you all have been craving for.
And your president is currently in New York enjoying.

Whats your point? Ode

humilitypays:
Some days ago, I and a friend who recently returned from abroad were gisting about life, and one thing led to another, we ended up discussing Nigerian issues like- insecurity in the northeastern Nigeria, abnormal increase in graduate unemployment, politics, and of course romance; basically the rate at which true love is fading away in Nigeria of our time.

It was at this point that my friend started telling me stories of how Nigerian ladies abroad (especially those living in US and UK according to him) play hard-to-get and difficult for Nigerian guys living abroad, especially if they discover that the guy isn't from a wealthy family back in Nigeria.

He revealed to me that many Nigerian guys living in US and Uk would love to marry Nigerian ladies living there, but that the problem is that Nigerian ladies don't always make it easy for Naija guys living there with them to approach them and that most of the Naija ladies there usually flock around a Nigerian guy there if they notice that the guy is from a wealthy Nigerian family or at worst, studying medicine or working as a doctor there.

He also mentioned that he has observed that Nigerian ladies who come from wealthy family backgrounds or those who worked hard to become rich themselves will never agree to date or marry a Nigerian guy who isn't richer than them or popular; that's a celebrity.

His statement shocked me because exactly what he said was also my thought having observed things here in Nigeria for some time now, and some months ago, I also overheard a group of guys discussing same thing at a gathering I went to.

Now, I want to throw this question open to Nigerian ladies of all social status, since nairaland is a popular forum where people of all class visit...please no insults, I just want to hear your opinion.

Why don't we see more of rich single Nigerian ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys? Is it a crime or does it mean Nigerian ladies only develop love when they see or smell wealth and success?

At least, we have witnessed or heard of several cases of wealthy Nigerian guys date and marry poor Nigerian girls from poor families who don't even have a job, but on the other hand, we rarely hear or see rich Nigerian single ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys; I am not even talking of dating or marrying broke guys, I mean guys who aren't that rich or popular.

Before anyone come calling for my head, please kindly sit back and observe things in your area of residence; you will notice that we now have plenty number of Nigerian single ladies working in big companies and earning fat salaries, some are born into wealth, some have become rich doing business, yet these ladies are single probably waiting for a rich or richer guy to come ask them out and marry them, hence making it difficult for them to find husband.

But in other countries of Africa, Europe, Asia, and Americas, rich ladies date and marry broke and not-so-rich guys without issues, but is seems to be different in Nigeria, why pls

What then is the need of fighting for feminism and gender-equality if NIgerian ladies can't embrace the changes that comes with gender equality/feminism?

Let me give some examples:

Linda Ikeji, Genevieve Nnajia, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, Tonto Dikeh, Kate Henshaw, etc

Believe it or not, Linda Ikeji wants to marry, but she's probably waiting for one rich guy or son of a former minister, governor, MD, etc to settle down with.....same with Genevieve Nnaji, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, and so many others that are not that popular but rich or come from rich family background.

Does it mean that rich Nigerian guys dating and marrying poor or not-so-rich Nigerian girls are fools

At least Marriah Carey married poor Nick Cannon...and many of such cases abound in western countries, but rarely happen in Nigeria, why? Something is wrong somewhere, can someone please explain.

Note:
I am not saying its a crime for a lady to date or marry rich guy, neither am I saying that a lady must date/marry broke guy, I am just curious as to why it is rare to hear that a rich single Nigerian lady is dating or married to a guy who isn't rich?

Nick cannon networth was 13million dollars before he met Mariah Carey.

You friend is right about the Nigerian girls in Yankee, they all wants to marry rich guys, that's why a lot of guys come to Nigeria to get a wife. Ugly Nigerian girl will be picking and choosing because there are more guys than girls. Some girls rewrite there past when they get to yankee.

Because time passed them by. Rich guys tend to marry younger girls

Nigerians and follow follow. One track mind. Everyone is now buying overboard.

ObiOmaMu:
News broke yesterday that the Emir of Kano, Muhammadu Sanusi II, has finally tied the knot with his rumoured 18 year old heartthrob, Sa’adatu Barkindo-Musdafa, the daughter of the Lamido of Adamawa, Muhammadu Barkindo-Musdafa. The 18-year old becomes the emir’s fourth wife. She recently completed secondary school and is been enrolled for advanced level studies.

Shortly after the news broke, Nigerians took to Twitter to air their unhappiness that the Emir could marry someone that young. Their reactions are below. Do you think the Emir did something 'wrong'?

http://www.lailasblog.com/2015/09/childnotbride-trends-on-twitter-after.html

A 16 year old can get Marry in U.S, so what's the big deal is he suppose to marry a Old Cargo? The king is suppose to marry a Virgin.

Rest in peace Bro. This is why you can't give Someone market on credit, the probably killed him in other not to pay

Mariojane:
OP though you shouldn't have started it at all but you are into it already. Most times it is advisable not to date your friends cos friendship last longer than some relationships.

I think the reason why she is still angry with you is cos she loves you. But she had shown it in the past and it was not reciprocated. you won't want her to lose out on the present guy she is dating cos of your unseriousness.are you saying if you truly love her the way she loves you that you won't do it RAW?
If you know you don't love her then stop saying it. Let her move on with her life. Maybe with time she will get over your love and find love elsewhere.
Am sure she will be regretting showing her love towards you and if she truly loves you, she can't heal within months of your separation. Give her time not you coming how many months after to profess love that you never appreciate.

He's only telling her he loves are now because he miss the attention she was giving then. Now no girl is paying him no mind he's now lying to the girl he loves her trying to suck her back in. You time passed .

OZAOEKPE:
"just read it, its a life experience".

Grown men don't use my mommy. Mother , ma, mama , moms. You can call her mommy, but you can not say my mommy. Even my 12 year old son stop saying my mommy.

Well the girl was treating you nicely then because she loves you, she doesn't love you anymore that's why Shea treating you like a random dude. You Should have explained to her that you were Scared of pregnancy and later on when she's on birth control you will start doing skin to skin. Everything is this life with good result is approach and Communication.

Is the Nigeria Ambassador to the UN that a suppos to attend that meeting not the president.

mekaboy:
Jealous of?

Dbanji is World famous, Don j is only Africa famous

The Lord is my light and my Salvation, whom shall I fear, the long is the Strong hold of my life.

I know Dbanji personal, the guy have the Sweetest heart, very nice and personable. Don J need to get off his arrogant high horse. They are Just Jealous

londoner:
So basically, nothing will be done to you but your pregnant sister will be slapped all the way to her husband's house right?

You would not be forced to marry the girl though. So many double standards between male and female in Nigeria. So called culture does not impress on the male to live up to their responsibilities.

Jim Iyke has also become a father and if you check the thread on NL about it there is no single criticism of him having a so called bas.tar.d child......none whatsoever.

This is evidence of the point I was making about the night and day treatment of unmarried father's like wiz kid, timaya, davido and now Jim when compared to unmarried mothers like Nadia, Genny, Anna Banner etc

So much hypocrisy.

All this low Class entertaimers are trying to make baby mama and baby daddies cool in our society. Dumb fans cheer them on too

Should you tell? Is the boy you step brother that you hate h enough not to tell him

LeoFish92:
Your head dey there, I'm currently on the second season, that show make sense die, please can someone recommend a good TV series where the lead actor displays high class intelligence, smartness and ingenuity, something like scofield of prison break or Leonardo da Vinci of da Vinci demons etc such movies help to upgrade my IQ

Power great show.

Hauwi:
How to get away with murder... Annalise kaeting

To much Hay activities in that Show I had to Stop

Chinwem:
Narcos !!!

I just finished Narcos nice show, check out Crisis After that.

Power ..... That show is the baddest and sexist show on tv

Dozzmani:
Hello friends

I have been a reader in this forum for a while now,usually see the help through advise being given to people,which made me to bring this issue here because at this point,I don't know what exactly to tell this my guy becuase this issue is beyond me.

My friend has been dating his girlfriend for two years now,the babe is know to us(his friends) and his family as the only woman for him. It was a no sex relationship as the girl said her virginity is her pride. My guy accepted to wait till when they get married as he truly love this babe. Last year ending, one guy moved into the compound of this girl, that was when stories entered their beautiful relationship.

To cut the long story short, recently my guy's girlfriend that never wanted sex started disturbing him of sex, he was surprised about it, later agreed as she made him promise her to indulge in it with her. Alarm blew on the supposed day they were meant to have the sex as he wanted to cover his white sheets because of possible blood stains, she told him blood won't come out. He went in and blood never came out. Since then, she had been lying and swearing she was a virgin which my guy persisted she was not.

She opened up to him of recent that she lost it to the new guy in their compound who as of then almost made them to break up but was pleaded with him not to break the relationship by her aunt and some good friends of hers'.

She doesn't have anything to do with that guy she lost it to because the issue went out of proportion then in their compound, which made my guy to start growing faith in her again upon knowing she slept with that guy in her compound few times when she cheated with him.

She recently confessed to him she knew blood won't come out as she slept with the compound guy once before the day they had sex. The twist now is that who he met a virgin could not hold on to it for him but gave it away to another guy.he is questioning the girl's love on how she could have done such.he still loves her but can't say if he can trust her not to try such if eventually he marries her.she begged for forgiveness.but to be honest,I don't know what to say to this guy.

Please, friends, your candid advise will go a long way in shaping someone's future here as of life partner as he plans on getting married by next year ending..

My Guy since you already Chop your own let her go, Once a girl cheat on you she will Cheat on you always, fact. You Deserve better because you waited for her it shows good character.

londoner:
You did not answer my question.

I'm talking about what your folks would do to you if you got a girl pregnant. You are able to tell us what they would do to your sister. What if it were you that got a girl pregnant, what would your folks do to you?

Am a Grown men, my mother will be disappointed, but what can she do?

londoner:
I don't doubt, but what if it is you that got a woman pregnant? What would you folks do to you?

What are they going to do? The point is her daughter is pregnant with no Husband and she's kissing her tummy like a Proud Mother. It's really Shameful

All this Fake Nigerian Celebrities trying to make baby mama and baby daddy cool. Imagine someone saying Cute.

Shameless People, If my Sister bring Home Pregnancy before getting married, no matter her age my other Will Slap her to the man's house. She kissing her tummy

5minsmadness:
What's there to advice Your boyfriend said u should buy him something and he'll pay u back when u enter naija. You should have even offered to tell him not to bother paying back and bring it as a gift but that aside what's wrong with it?

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Well maybe a girl should answer this. As a guy I see nothing wrong with it, we give girls gifts all the time. Even when they say they'll pay back and deep down we know they won't we give them anyway. If u don't trust him then u Ave no buisness calling him your boyfriend. If you can afford the n97k but don't want to give him cos you think it's too expensive then politely tell him so.

Abi ladies Wat do you think? Tearoses, MarvellousGod?

True take from a broke azz, what part of she's a student you don't understand? If she's was working I understand. If you have to save up money to buy Shoes then you can't afford it

Toks2008:
If he remains as the senate president he does not need to wait tiill 2019! If his dad can speak from grave he wiill ask Nigerians to chase him away from there because this man lacks regard for even his own clan.

All he had to do Was waiting his turn by Screaming no to Corruption like that Form love-vendor Ben Bruce. He will ride on the Platform of they People's Liberator

AdoraAmadi:
Twitter user Olaniran Michael just shared these photos of an alleged thief caught in broad daylight trying to rob a shop owner at Segun Coker Rd Agbado Ijaiye, Lagos. An angry mob that gathered has already stripped him to his underwear.

http://www.lailasblog.com/2015/09/photos-thief-caught-broad-daylight.html

Why Would anyone in their right mind steal in that area, the Guy is a Kalamazoo. They once burn a teenager boy for Stealing toothpaste

Odale He's Ambition super seed the Needs of Nigerians. He's definitely going to Be 2019 pdp Candidate. Let Him chase himself from the party now

jerrywool:
reasoning

This guy they Look am like See Babe

So no one in that village have a camera phone?

simdam500:
Lol... only in a place if worship will an economic students loose it's course of study.




G.O will live long but you can't talk of the future you know nothing of. The possibilities of a greater person taking over is 1/2.


Irrespective, RCCG has come to stay

Ode Man Warshiper

nairalandist:
I have to confess, sometimes I ask myself why pastors need private jets to preach the gospel. But I understand that sometimes the work of Evangelism may be more complex than we think. These are people who are always preaching the gospel around the world from day to day. . .

I respect Pastor EA Adeboye so much and I believe he's not the type to lavish church funds. . . so this must really have been needed.

PS: The EA Logo and the Dove are really cool sha. . . makes me wanna get me some

Idiot . I want you to lodge 10% of your income in my bank Account this Sunday. Give and you Shall receive

Your 10%