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excel101:
So you want to convince a grown up house maid you don't know from Adam, to eat or rest by putting your hands across her shoulder. OP, na big lie. I beg talk another thing.

MezieFresh:
Let's take this scenario out...

Let me even ask...
What is wrong in holding someone's shoulders... ?
If it was termed over stepping boundaries... That would sound better..

But sexual assault or rape?
For heaven's sake am lost...

But ladies do this... to guys and no one screams rape.

Beside the shoulder is not a private part...
One can tap you on the shoulder to get you attention.

This things are peculiar to different situations.

Ladies should stop all these false allegations.

livebyday:
Very well.said

He is a closet rapist .. he doesn't respect boundaries . His day of reckoning has come , Lord knows what some ladies have suffered from him in the past

Waste not your pity on this one

Your comment is the best

sammyscholar:
Your message is not strong enough to acquit you. And, you didn't disappoint the woman in the first place, unless you had the intention of raping the maid truly.

"See this:


"Ma, all my life, I have always worked to protect my integrity. This is important to me, for it is from it that I derive joy and pride. I did not and do not have evil, devilish intention (not even as grave as sexual assault) towards your maid; for that was never my way of life and I never pray it does!

The mistake I made, Ma, was that I tried to take a "good gesture' too far! I went too far out of my way to show hands of care! But I was only moved to care and assist a person I was meeting for the first.

Although I don't know the lady's experience: she might have had a 'rape' or a 'near-rape' experience in the hand of somebody who first showed normal care as I did before, and that might have prompted her to act the way she did. I think that might have resulted in her feeling of insecurity and paranoia as I see it to be.

I know that in life, things happen. I have taken her reaction to my gesture in good fate, and I have learnt to adjust in my relating and interacting with people. But, ma, I wanted to clarify: it is not in my thought, let alone my intention, to assault her either sexually or in any other form her. Despite all that occurred, I leave her with my best wishes. I pwish the her best in life.

I still remain my faithful self,
Your Name."


This is powerful that what you sent her

blaze7x:
Some years back i came back from work early which was quite unusual back then and there was no light. so i strolled around my new neighborhood which was a developing area with zero commercial activities, i was so carried away in my thought to the extent that i didn't know i had covered a long distance and it was dusk, i quickly turned back to go home, on my way back i saw some children waving at me and calling me uncle. i didn't respond, as they started moving towards me i took to my heels before somebody will come out and call me kidnapper.
The point is, in this present time one has to be careful, giving thorough thought to all his actions. For me its not logical for you to move close to a lady before you convince her to eat. I just pray God helps you get it resolved

ideabuilder:
Next time bros defend yourself. Don't beg. Only if you knew what begging means to lawyer. It means you admit your guilt.

If you have nothing to hide, You should have chose police station option instead of sack and pursue your case.

God knows I can go to jail to prove my innocence.

DGoldenJenny:
what a pathetic story. My heart got broken as i read through.
The deed has been done man, wipe your tears and dust your shirts, That cannot be the end of your relationship with your Madam, i bet you: she will come along, just give her time( Time and distance heals).

The girl maybe reacting from her past experience(s). who knows her story too because from the look of thing you know her not hence my assumption.
Try and revisit this issue later long and clear the air, for i believe more secret shall be review and bigger truth awaits you .
However if you can, LET IT GO.

emeijeh:
Na so!
Anything to avoid a repeat of Munich '58 disaster.


But will this move make Lingard improve?
Dude is as useless as "waste"

jubrilELsudan:
So long as it doesn't affect the price of kukunase, we don't care.

magicminister:
Interesting

Since there isn’t any solution, I’d recommend random audits of restaurants.

You can audit 50 restaurants a day and get multiple food sample after which it is tested for paracetamol. Should it test positive, the restaurant will be closed and the property handed over to the government. Awareness has been created and restaurants have been warned. This is not time to stand and look! Now it’s time to act as the nations regulatory body!

GuestLog:
This is only creating more awareness of this nonsense.

Tonylyte:
Anything that will remove Buhari from office is a welcomed development.

DesChyko:
Is it just me or did anyone else notice some political thread invaders are notably absent here?

SimDan95:
I will keep on saying it and shouting from the roof top, nothing I. this administration suprises me anymore.

The fact that onnoghen assets suddenly became public when election campaigns were going on says a lot, the plan was to remove onnoghen by shamelessly plying the “pighting kwarupsion" brouhaha.


Now to think of it who else notice that thread like this one is usually toxic to BMC'S zombies, it goes a long way to tell you that they are full of hypocrisy, bigotry and nepotism.

Dead meat seller arise and defend the dirty butts of ur pay masters it's what u are paid to do. Shit eater

lexy2014:
How is it her right?

seguno2:
You are waiting for God, who made you in His image, to do what exactly

Mac1807:

Good morning y’all,as usual I would expect the normal ranting online condemning this abuse of power by the top elite.
my Question goes like this:For how long can we keep ranting here online whence nothing will happen in reality?
1: For long how can these elite keep on misusing funds then we ‘only’ complain online and move on ?Aint we youth tooooo weak?aint it time we stop fearing the concept of death and show these fucktards how things are being done in reality?
2.Police and law enforcement agencies kill at will people’s sons,daughters,breadwinners like they ain’t got no family,kids,wives,like they ain’t humans just cuz the world government gave em power....I will put it to them JUDGMENT DAY is coming even if it’s 50 years from now.we must go back to the old African ways to correct these abnormalities.
The most annoying part is that religion has bleeped us all mentality that we wait for coming of a Gay Christ or Allah to save us from all this people.The original African man is a fearless man,there is nothing like judgment day after death by a white man on the throne.we should unlearn what we learnt from colonization cuz it’s really fucking us hard mentally and we believe things will be better.Next election we vote a new set of looters and d status quo keeps goin on and on.Its time we start resisting like a real African blood the concept of ‘Government’ imposed on us when dis fucking Neanderthal crossed the Mediterranean to Africa. WE JUST WANT a JUST SOCIETY.

Make I leave matter here godi......

Bobby4090:
Na wa ooo. Using the a tax payers funded Presidential Jet and received by a convoy of 15 vehicles for her personal photo project.
The Buhari I used to know that was with Idiagbon then wouldn't have authorized and defended this publicly. The Buhari I see now is a changed person. When will salvation come to Nigeria.
When my brother? When?

NiklauseFred:
Lol that means ur eye was rebooting when you overlooked the bending car in the first place

Logobenz:
bros it wasn't so rosy to me too but somehow turned with full force somewhere in the middle.
No lose hope,continue your struggle and find a GOOD WOMAN!!
Na woman help me ooo,I can't lie.
Pulled my business this year out of going into oblivion and made it a force to contend with.
Goodluck men...
If I reason you my issues this past year ehn,you go cry.
2018 was very good to me too.

uninspired07:
It really just sucks when there’s nobody to share the whole New Year joy with. Was tempted to Bleep into the New Year but I resisted the urge & I entered the New Year in a local church.

Not really excited, just another new day. You can’t really be Happy in Nigeria unless you’re rich.

Happy New Year all the same.

Fastestmanalive:
Happy new year guys u love this forum.

Wishing you all a successful 2020

mascot87:
Worst year for me since I was born. Sad 2019, nothing except been alive & well to be thankful for. Going into 2020 with empty stomach....
Life

NiklauseFred:
Hello dear
Why is the car bending?

ify2016:
Christmas has come and gone, but we have just a stone throw away from New year. Therefore,we should try to apply this security tips for yourself and love ones, not even for festive period alone but also when embarking on journey with a stranger.

More crimes against people are committed on the streets during Yuletide season than in any other place.

Therefore, the following precautions can help you to reduce your chances of being a victim:

AVOID FOLLOWING A ROUTINE e.g. fixed shopping times and places,Seek advice on safe and crime prone areas

Do not carry more cash or valuables than you can’t afford to lose.

Adjust your profile to the area you are visiting.

Keep keys in a pocket rather than in a bag; never attach your name and address to your key

If you are walking on a lonely street or at night, walk facing the traffic and near the kerb.

Always Walk with someone. Most attackers will be discouraged if you have company - male or female.

Avoid dark, deserted areas, stay in well-lit areas.

Avoid shortcuts through parks, vacant lots and other deserted places.

Hold your purse close to you, not dangling. Never set it down on store counters, restaurant seats or bus seats.

If a driver stops to ask you directions, avoid getting too close to car - you could be pulled inside.

If you're being followed by someone, cross the street, act suspicious and keep looking behind you. This may discourage the follower. Walk towards a well-lit business or a group of people.

If you're being followed by someone in a car, turn around and walk in the opposite direction.  If possible record the license number, seek a safe location and call the police.

When you return home, have your key ready to open door without delay.

Leave your outside light on so you can easily see when you return home.

If you are on your cell phone, keep your head up, look around and be alert.  

BEACH SECURITY
For those who intend to visit the beach during the break, here are a few tips to follow:

Go in company of others and wherever possible, with communication set such as radio GSM

If you are using a vehicle to the beach, ensure that it is securely locked even if you are going to be within the immediate vicinity

Please leave all valuable at home

Consider leaving the beach before 1800hrs or during a period when you will not be isolated from persons that are able to offer assistance in the event of an emergency

If you are with your children, please ensure they are always within your sight view.

HOTEL SECURITY
For those of us who travelled and lodged in hotel, this is for you:

Do not entertain strangers in your hotel room

Be alert to overly friendly locals who may have criminal intentions

Never leave valuables in your hotel room exposed or unattended to, even in a locked suitcase

Place valuables, money, jewelry, airplane tickets, credit cards, passport, in a hotel safe deposit box or room safe

Familiarize yourself with escape routes in case of fire or other catastrophe

Use the door chain or bolt lock whenever you are in your room

Use the door viewer (peephole) before opening the door for visitors or hotel attendance.

Do not discuss your room number, while standing in the lobby or leave your room key on restaurant or bar tables

USE OF PUBLIC TRANSPORT
Some of us might travel in public transport this festive period. Please note these:

Petty criminals frequent public transport parks everywhere in the world. In order to avoid being a victim, we advise as follows:

Select a taxi, which is registered, and preferably agree on the fee before departure

Do not share a taxi with unknown persons especially when you are carrying valuables

Use a rental car only if you are familiar with the route or the routes are clearly signposted and do rent an inconspicuous car

Use a reputable bus company for long distance bus travel and book in advance. If possible, select a seat at the middle.

If traveling in crowded public transport, keep personal belongings close to your person and in front of you

Avoid the use of public transport 2000-0600hrs if possible

Stay far away from luggage's whose owner is unidentified.
Happy New Year in Advance.

ify2016:
Christmas has come and gone, but we have just a stone throw away from New year. Therefore,we should try to apply this security tips for yourself and love ones, not even for festive period alone but also when embarking on journey with a stranger.

More crimes against people are committed on the streets during Yuletide season than in any other place.

Therefore, the following precautions can help you to reduce your chances of being a victim:

AVOID FOLLOWING A ROUTINE e.g. fixed shopping times and places,Seek advice on safe and crime prone areas

Do not carry more cash or valuables than you can’t afford to lose.

Adjust your profile to the area you are visiting.

Keep keys in a pocket rather than in a bag; never attach your name and address to your key

If you are walking on a lonely street or at night, walk facing the traffic and near the kerb.

Always Walk with someone. Most attackers will be discouraged if you have company - male or female.

Avoid dark, deserted areas, stay in well-lit areas.

Avoid shortcuts through parks, vacant lots and other deserted places.

Hold your purse close to you, not dangling. Never set it down on store counters, restaurant seats or bus seats.

If a driver stops to ask you directions, avoid getting too close to car - you could be pulled inside.

If you're being followed by someone, cross the street, act suspicious and keep looking behind you. This may discourage the follower. Walk towards a well-lit business or a group of people.

If you're being followed by someone in a car, turn around and walk in the opposite direction.  If possible record the license number, seek a safe location and call the police.

When you return home, have your key ready to open door without delay.

Leave your outside light on so you can easily see when you return home.

If you are on your cell phone, keep your head up, look around and be alert.  

BEACH SECURITY
For those who intend to visit the beach during the break, here are a few tips to follow:

Go in company of others and wherever possible, with communication set such as radio GSM

If you are using a vehicle to the beach, ensure that it is securely locked even if you are going to be within the immediate vicinity

Please leave all valuable at home

Consider leaving the beach before 1800hrs or during a period when you will not be isolated from persons that are able to offer assistance in the event of an emergency

If you are with your children, please ensure they are always within your sight view.

HOTEL SECURITY
For those of us who travelled and lodged in hotel, this is for you:

Do not entertain strangers in your hotel room

Be alert to overly friendly locals who may have criminal intentions

Never leave valuables in your hotel room exposed or unattended to, even in a locked suitcase

Place valuables, money, jewelry, airplane tickets, credit cards, passport, in a hotel safe deposit box or room safe

Familiarize yourself with escape routes in case of fire or other catastrophe

Use the door chain or bolt lock whenever you are in your room

Use the door viewer (peephole) before opening the door for visitors or hotel attendance.

Do not discuss your room number, while standing in the lobby or leave your room key on restaurant or bar tables

USE OF PUBLIC TRANSPORT
Some of us might travel in public transport this festive period. Please note these:

Petty criminals frequent public transport parks everywhere in the world. In order to avoid being a victim, we advise as follows:

Select a taxi, which is registered, and preferably agree on the fee before departure

Do not share a taxi with unknown persons especially when you are carrying valuables

Use a rental car only if you are familiar with the route or the routes are clearly signposted and do rent an inconspicuous car

Use a reputable bus company for long distance bus travel and book in advance. If possible, select a seat at the middle.

If traveling in crowded public transport, keep personal belongings close to your person and in front of you

Avoid the use of public transport 2000-0600hrs if possible

Stay far away from luggage's whose owner is unidentified.
Happy New Year in Advance.

ify2016:
Christmas has come and gone, but we have just a stone throw away from New year. Therefore,we should try to apply this security tips for yourself and love ones, not even for festive period alone but also when embarking on journey with a stranger.

More crimes against people are committed on the streets during Yuletide season than in any other place.

Therefore, the following precautions can help you to reduce your chances of being a victim:

AVOID FOLLOWING A ROUTINE e.g. fixed shopping times and places,Seek advice on safe and crime prone areas

Do not carry more cash or valuables than you can’t afford to lose.

Adjust your profile to the area you are visiting.

Keep keys in a pocket rather than in a bag; never attach your name and address to your key

If you are walking on a lonely street or at night, walk facing the traffic and near the kerb.

Always Walk with someone. Most attackers will be discouraged if you have company - male or female.

Avoid dark, deserted areas, stay in well-lit areas.

Avoid shortcuts through parks, vacant lots and other deserted places.

Hold your purse close to you, not dangling. Never set it down on store counters, restaurant seats or bus seats.

If a driver stops to ask you directions, avoid getting too close to car - you could be pulled inside.

If you're being followed by someone, cross the street, act suspicious and keep looking behind you. This may discourage the follower. Walk towards a well-lit business or a group of people.

If you're being followed by someone in a car, turn around and walk in the opposite direction.  If possible record the license number, seek a safe location and call the police.

When you return home, have your key ready to open door without delay.

Leave your outside light on so you can easily see when you return home.

If you are on your cell phone, keep your head up, look around and be alert.  

BEACH SECURITY
For those who intend to visit the beach during the break, here are a few tips to follow:

Go in company of others and wherever possible, with communication set such as radio GSM

If you are using a vehicle to the beach, ensure that it is securely locked even if you are going to be within the immediate vicinity

Please leave all valuable at home

Consider leaving the beach before 1800hrs or during a period when you will not be isolated from persons that are able to offer assistance in the event of an emergency

If you are with your children, please ensure they are always within your sight view.

HOTEL SECURITY
For those of us who travelled and lodged in hotel, this is for you:

Do not entertain strangers in your hotel room

Be alert to overly friendly locals who may have criminal intentions

Never leave valuables in your hotel room exposed or unattended to, even in a locked suitcase

Place valuables, money, jewelry, airplane tickets, credit cards, passport, in a hotel safe deposit box or room safe

Familiarize yourself with escape routes in case of fire or other catastrophe

Use the door chain or bolt lock whenever you are in your room

Use the door viewer (peephole) before opening the door for visitors or hotel attendance.

Do not discuss your room number, while standing in the lobby or leave your room key on restaurant or bar tables

USE OF PUBLIC TRANSPORT
Some of us might travel in public transport this festive period. Please note these:

Petty criminals frequent public transport parks everywhere in the world. In order to avoid being a victim, we advise as follows:

Select a taxi, which is registered, and preferably agree on the fee before departure

Do not share a taxi with unknown persons especially when you are carrying valuables

Use a rental car only if you are familiar with the route or the routes are clearly signposted and do rent an inconspicuous car

Use a reputable bus company for long distance bus travel and book in advance. If possible, select a seat at the middle.

If traveling in crowded public transport, keep personal belongings close to your person and in front of you

Avoid the use of public transport 2000-0600hrs if possible

Stay far away from luggage's whose owner is unidentified.
Happy New Year in Advance.

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