₦airaland Forum

kowopealajo:
Stupidity no get rival

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Too bad....
Funny enough ehnnnn this cars with learner signs na them dey do fast and furious pass for road
Them go dey drive like Jason Statham

Tolexander:
What kinda baby carrying style is this? One hand on the baby's chest and the other hand on the private part.
Mr man this is a baby you are carrying and not a babe.

He needs being careful with the way he carried the baby, make he no castrate his son with his hand

SolutionMee:
Reasonable points up there

Most civil servants in Nigeria are too dependent on either their state/federal government

Work ethics shouldn't be like that

People should be exposed that they have to make alternative income

Which in the long run will prevent them from being too dependent on their salary

They can venture into farming, snail breeding, cattle rearing, food hawking and so on

Laziness is when you depend on a single source of income

Laziness is when you depend on your salary alone

It's aftereffect was what makes people to clamor for change and increments of salary

The Governors are trying cuz even when I was the class representative of my class in Harvard University, it wasn't easy controlling the affairs of students in my class. I ended up spending several fees that was meant for my fellow students. And for these Governors to be paying their state workers, they are trying and I really commend them on that.

With the present economic meltdown that recently befell Nigeria, I wasn't expecting the federal government to be discussing about minimum wage

And that's if the workers are even competent enough to deserve one

spencekat:
Heb 11:1.How do you have faith without hoping for it first?

spencekat:
Hope is the foundation of Faith

prettysassygirl:
First of all,pray about the situation on ground,let God lead and direct you to the beat line of action. Am sure there is someone else your wife fears apart from her manipulative pastor,tell the person about it and ask the person to talk to your wife. From what u wrote above,u banned your wife from going to the church and the pastor came begging you,this time around I suggest you ban her again and if the pastor comes begging again,u tell him a piece of your mind and tell him there is no going back on your decisions. The most important thing is to pray,religion is a thing of the mind and it really has strong effects on people. If she is being manipulated spiritually, prayer comes in to break d bondage,and gives you wisdom on the best course of action to take. I really hope you don't want her to stop church permanently cos that won't work,I even forgot to ask u,what u should be after is taking her to the right church where Jesus is worshipped in spirit and in truth.

prettysassygirl:
Did I ask u to be a controlling freak? Making decisions now as the man of the house makes one a controlling freak?? Jeez,I guess you are weak and that's y she doesn't respect u,I won't if I were married to u, moderation is the best way to approach life,don't be a wife beater and a controlling freak and don't be a weakling.simple.

prettysassygirl:
Then don't make it legal,find alternatives in handling this issue. Man up and control your home.

prettysassygirl:
You should have thought of another means of controlling the situation and disciplining your wife.

prettysassygirl:
Its wrong of you to divorce her,after marriage lots of things comes up at different point to put a division between the two people involved,the difference between matured people and kids in marriage is ability to weather the storm. Take for example,in your journey of life we encounter so much problems,but we always maneuver and avoid quitting by committing suicide. Your wife wasn't sensible enough to manage her spiritual life and her home front which is the main thing,but you as a husband ought to have controlled the situation, you would have stood your grounds in keeping her away from the church,that church isn't Gods church because God respects the home front more than Every other thing. You should have thought of another means of controlling the situation and disciplining your wife. Divorce isn't the answer.

kennygee:
Your wife needs to ask her self certain questions.

Then I'm surprised that as a couple, you don't attend the same church. The man is the head of the family altar, it is obvious your family didn't have one, so your wife is taking the bull by the horn and has become over zealous.

You are ti blame for it. But it is not enough to put your wife away, schedule an appointment with her pastor and explain how your wife's over zealousness is affecting your marriage, then talk to your wife. Make her understand her priority is her home, unless she's not ready to be married.

You two should look for a good church you both can attend and grow spiritually, cause it looks like you're lagging behind spiritually.

Truth is, your wife is disregarding her duty as a wife to submit, but make yourself a man that is worth submitting to. You have to be able to lead her in all aspect, including spiritually.

I wish you well.

SUPERPACK:
ok, try to involve her family members, maybe she might listen to their advice.

LewsTherin:
First I will take this from a Christian's point of view.
Second I will assume what the OP posted is the whole story.

Your duties to God begin from those immediately around you. This means husband/wife and children first. IN THAT ORDER. Anyone doing “church“ or ministry work to the detriment or family and secular work is not working for God.

I remember a testimony from my youth. The lady was always at the church early in the morning everyday to clean up before she leaves for her paid employment. As a result she always got to work sometime after 9am. One morning while cleaning she heard a voice from God asking what time it was. It was well after 8am. God asked her what time her office was open and when she was to resume. She said 8 am. God asked what she was doing in church. He took no pleasure in her service.

It is very easy for people to make their churches into emotional crutches and fail to see the damage they are causing in their secular lives. Even the bible admits that we are IN this world and so should render to Ceaser what is his.

Also realise that there are church leaders who like to make a cult following for themselves, where everything about the lives of their members is tied to them. I fear your wife is in such a setting.

Breaking someone out of a cult is an extremely difficult thing. You can Google and see what steps can fit your situation. But know one thing. Agressive displays of anger will drive her further into that cult mentality and further away from you.

But how did your wife get to become a member of a church you are not a part of? Did you have a church you were both committed to when you got married?

SUPERPACK:
it might be the search for a male child that drove her to that church, is she under pressure from your family?. because it is common here in enugu, that a woman without a male child have nt started.