nonix22:

exactly whatI had in mind. Americans will always amaze us. smh

hah, as an American living with a nigerian, i can assure u... Nigerians always amazed me! BTW, not all of us are bad parents, divorced or wealthy, don't believe everything u see on tv!

Poverty turns deadly... is a better title for this.

Does anyone have any tips or tricks in growing vegetable leaf? My husband and I currently live in Northwest USA and it is impossible to find or purchase. We had some seeds sent to us, so I may include them in our garden, last year I managed to get it to grow, but the leaves were small. I know our short growing season and cooler weather is a factor, but is there something special that I should be doing with it

The sadness that overshadows her beautiful face is overwhelming. What is being done for her and the baby?

I have a small area, no bigger than a space for a car and grow my own peppers and tomatoes, always fresh, doesn't cost me hardly anything

Silly post, doesn't matter what currency u use, a naira wil only be worth what it's worth

Draginfruit, very bland!

Ugh, the smell of locus beans... I can cook anything for my husband, but that smell is awful! Anytime we are home visiting family, i also make sure I know for sure what meat is in my food, no big rat (forgot it's name, sorry!) On the other hand, the fruit is so fresh, in the usa, our fruit is picked unripe, and allowed to somewhat ripen in the store before we bring it home, tastes awful, and there is no palm wine here, miss that!!

Just a thank you to most everone for your kind help, and for the curious... we had a long conversation, and since I believe him, and most of u, we are still married. Honestly it's been a few years now, and we are still adjusting to the intercultural marriage thing!

Gwan2:
Secularism, westernization and materialism have taken away the little integrity and morality left in most female folks...
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I gat som little tym at d momentl..so lemme while it away here eventhough I know wat am puttin out is juz a shear waste of tym to many...
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What som galz dnt knw is dat most guyz lyk me cherish a scare and hard to get "resources"....Yep if u throw urself at me..we wil get along n enjoy d moment while it last...bt belief you me, u ain't my ideal gal. what baffles me most is that am stil in search 4 that gal that wil clear my doubt
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My sister wedded a forthnight ago...I saw her beautiful frnd n ask my sis of her number...Although d damsel saw me driving helter shelter during d wedding bt she never knew am related to d celebrant....Fast forward, I called her n we got along on phone,,after lyk 3days I dint called n she dint call either...inside me I was impressed, my passion reignited 4 her....after a week without communication she den placed a missed call 3 dayz back....I called back and told her abt my tight schedule as d reason 4 nt calling dat long....I intentionally ask her to pass by my house when she's done frm work 2mao...sincerely if she calls n tell me shez on her way, som part of me wil deflate....worst is wen she coms n she easily gives in to the passes I wil mak at her......Summarily d crust of d epistle is that far frm d perception of most gals, most guys want it quite scare n not too easy.

hmm... so u prefer a woman to play games with you, instead of honesty? She must pretend to not want to have sex with you and not to want to speak to you for over a week for your attention. Seems like childsplay.

henryhemon:


He's a Nigerian?

yes

Airport in Lagos

PushPlay:
This applies to Nigerian gays especially.
I've noticed that most guys turn gay due to mere curiosity and more importantly because of an unavailable sexual partner.

We all know how Nigerian girls like to take advantage of guys especially when you date them or approach them for casual sex.

They often times form , play hard to get or sometimes just make demand which some guys find very difficult to meet.

The only alternative for some is to visit a brothel just like Cutehector did a few days ago when the bastard called Konji grabbed him.

Others just approach their fellow guys and start experimenting since it's a lot easier for them.
This is how someone like Durentt turned gay.

Some even have sexual partners but then she's usually not available when he needs her most or not adventurous enough to try new stuff hence the dude turns to another guy for some more fun.

These are the categories of gay and bi curious guys I have come to notice.

My personal opinion.

um... or if u don't have sex for a while, double suddenly feel the need to have sex with another man? It seems to me that it's just a matter of what attracts u to someone... I personally like dark skinned men that are intellegent

Lunar2010:
You would wonder if we have not become a laughing stock...

https://twitter.com/JohnAshbourne/status/715592091410292736

in his defense the western world just doesn't know anything about living with Nepa.. we haven't had a power outage in 3 years and that last one was a few hours. We don't get any news hardly at all about africa, the last time Nigeria was even in our newspaper, was the chibok girls

x240:


Might be his mother sending him a message. Most yoruba mums call their male kids "Oko mi" when praising them or doind what we call "oriki".

Be sure it is from the other lady before you act.

Also, sorry about that. Lots of sweet Nigerians, just guess its the assholes most foreigners meet. Those who send you scam messages are not up to 20,000 even if we have to inflate the total number of them .


Just do a fraction and guess what 20k is in a population of 180million people. More like 0.02 % which is very minute to judge an entire country on.

I know very well it is her, it said it was from her. I agree completely, honestly love love Nigeria, and the Nigerians I have met, give me Palm wine & souya under a tree with the warm sun anyday!.

Ramanto:

YOU DON'T SEEM TO GET IT. SUCH MESSAGES IN THE YORUBA TRIBE ARE SENT BY MOTHERS. DON'T GO BY THE LITERARY TRANSLATION

I do understand, but do mothers in English also use husband and say how much love the have for each other?

PushPlay:

This is why I don't like Americans.

Ya'll easily break up marriages.

ahh, but not all of us, i only ask for his complete fidelity, anything else can be forgiven.

wolfgangg:
Oh go make peace with your man!

lol we are working opposite shifts, i work all night at the hospital, and he is at work an hour before I get home, we won't cross paths till tuesday!

kumulus:
This is a simple case of mistrust arising from a possible miscontrusion. It's an oriki ( praise poetry) usually used by people very close to you. But now you seem to have confirmed the identity of the lady in question but I will advise you talk to your man still cos I believe you married him only because you love him. I understand you are beginning to feel insecure sort of. Loving could be really difficult most times but try to make your findings before you take any decisive measure. If it turns out he has nothing going between him and the lady, you would hurt more than anyone else involved. Moreover, some ladies can be very smart, having seen that he's becoming comfortable, she may be trying to comeback into his life. You just have to be smart....don't lose your guard and don't be too hasty in making decisions.
Have a blessed week.

I do plan on having a conversation with him about it. And yes, a few thirsty girls have tried to cause havoc. In his defense, i didnt see the answer to this message. My problem is that in English she called him her husband and said she wanted him not to be angry because of the love they have...

wolfgangg:
Ma Nigga!

lol, we don't really say that , occasionally u might hear it, but not like the movies!

Lol , every day I get scammer messages, i know the game. I am not uneducated, i have spent considerable amount of of time in nigeria, and yes even in the villages.

Because I am a good woman, i have my own house, car and make my own money. I take care of my husband, i learned to cook his food, i accept our differences in culture, clean our home, i dont ask or complain if he sends money home, as a matter of fact if he doesnt mention he has, i remind him. I don't need a husband. I married him because I truly love him, and enjoy spending my time with him. I explained to him when we married that this was a marriage forever, on one condition, there is no cheating.

Ahh, lol ur so sweet, all ready to leave ur beautiful country for me?

PushPlay:

It is what Yoruba's call Oriki.

You don't have to be a yoruba's husband to be called Oko mi.

The message could be from anyone ranging from mother, relative or admirer.

You need to explain the origin of such a message for me to give you a clear interpretation.

Just had to let you know so you don't misinterprete this.

the beginning of the message she called him her husband and asked him not to be angry with her. Then ended it with the yoruba. She is the mother of my husbands child, conceived 5 years before we met. He said that she cheated so he didn't marry her.
To me it sounds like he is married to her, and lied to me I am not, nor will I ever be ok with that.

I am trying, but being so far naija makes it difficult! Although I had a pretty good idea, just wanted to make sure before I explained to my husband that I know his dirty secret, and send him from my house back to naija with just the clothes on his back!

Thanks! I knew it was something like that just wasn't sure.... and I thought my husband was different, smdh!

English, please

Oko mi ajao, omo aroloja yajiyan, Esi oja mee je, omo ina kankan idi abari