₦airaland Forum

Bugatie:
I see no rape here, it's obvious they had consensual sex/relationship.... but whatever their true story is, both parties should shut it and refrain from disturbing our peace cos it's no more funny but irritating.

And to imagine that our own Oby almost got herself into defending this lady is very disappointing.
I advice she tunes down on her Twitter/online activism.

timilehing:
Ke' IPoB/MASSOB? Can't they stop all these Biafra citizens from taking Nigeria ministerial appointments?

SirJeffry:
The osuofia (comedian) of Nigeria senate is now taking his jokes and stupidity to the fed ministry. Kudos

Damalex4luv:
Jagaban

saaedlee:
Were you adopted? Or do you plan on adopting since you CAN'T have biological child(ren)?

Ilekeh:
If igbos aren't lazy, why are they littering the market with fake products? Are successful Yoruba businessmen like Odetola littering the market with fake products?

If you don't want a leader to organize the market, head back to the east. It's a tradition in Yorubaland,...if you don't like, go back home and sell. Or is the east a pariah?

TALKING ABOUT POOR PEOPLE, WHEN WILL IGBOS STOP ASKING YORUBA LEADERS FOR GOVERNMENT ASSISTANT?

Orjioorji:
Buhari is a cause to Nigeria

MrCork:
...act like a lady & u will get yor shance to sleep wit me...I gots Pounds sterlin!! (TRUE TALK)

astrodome:
Help!! Friends, family, former school mates and others are killing me with financial demands. Everyday I receive facebook (fb) messages, phone calls, email messages and messages from other communication avenues from family members, friends close and distant, school mates I have not seen in 20 years but with whom I reconnected on fb, and even random fb friends (meaning I do not know them personally but somehow we managed to be friends on fb). They all have the same story: please send me money, anything.

Each month I send nearly 3k to Nigeria and they keep asking for more.

Do they think I pluck money from trees in America?
Do they think every Nigerian in America is doing drugs or credit card fraud to make money?
Are they thinking that since Akin or Emeka made it in America (in many cases by selling drugs and doing credit card fraud), I should also make it and therefore be able to satisfy their unending demands?

How do I explain to them that I have bills (auto, mortgage, water-sewer, electricity, gas, phone, credit card) to pay. And then I have to run my family (of 4) and fuel 2 cars, and on top of that, I have to save also for the rainy day - for when kids get to college.

I am able to resist the random fb friends because I do not have any personal connection with them, but how do I scare the ones I know off without sounding rude and unhelping? I know that when you stop giving, you become an enemy.
Help! Before a fellow nairalander runs amock on the streets of America because of pressure from Nigeria

Just for disclosure: I am well-heeled in the US mid-upper middle class, earning a 6-figure pay, holds a PhD, and involved in R4D activities. But I live in a US city (name withheld) where mortgage payment alone takes 25% of my monthly income. So you can imagine that after paying all bills, I do not have tons of money left over to give out on frequent basis.





Its very simple, apart from your parents and your siblings (to an extent) you dont owe any other person any obligation, so just say NO. By the time they ask and you dont give repeatedly they will know you no be mugu again....... you cant give what you dont have

Please advise on how to handle this, Naija style . Thanks