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Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Nobody: 6:43am On Jul 09, 2015 |
kokobi99: Sorry. You can believe what you wanna believe |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by ladkud(m): 6:45am On Jul 09, 2015 |
From my own opinion try to adjust yourself, I would not say abandon them like that because there is an adage that says; because of ten poor people we created one rich person. It is good to be kind to people no matter your relationship with them. Moreover this can be a test from God to see whether if he give you more that what you have presently how will you do. If you are doing good with good intention I swear you will never regret it, not only you alone us going reap the fruit of the kindness but, your children, grand children and great grand children. Remember "the hand if the giver always on top". Look if you are not giving them, saving all what you are earning you will still not contented with it. what you spend in charity is your own hereafter but what you keep is not yours. If you die ( which will not be your portion now) your money another person even your wife will become another person own. My guy if person ask 100 from give him/her 50 do your best and live the rest and see where God will pay you back. 2 Likes |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by sweatlana: 6:47am On Jul 09, 2015 |
MY BROTHER DO WHAT YOU CAN AND LEAVE THE REST! My husband and I are facing the same problem. When my husband was jobless roaming the streets of ph looking for a job, so many times unsuccessfully, with an MBA my husband resorted to painting job just to survive! He would go to different construction sites asking if they need a painter. Today God has blessed us. Tell those people there is something they can do instead of being professional beggars. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by menxer: 6:48am On Jul 09, 2015 |
StOla: You never chin chom ching! that's a trait I am yet to find a way to side step in people without seeming arrogant, proud because I earn an income. the pressure to give is everywhere... nobody is interested if you are saving for or making any worthwhile investment una no wan drop the bomb, abi? make I drop am, una no mention church matter: "giving till it hurts"? PS: Do you know how I rationalize when my giving hurts me? that that is the reason God blessed me with the money at that moment to give... |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by doskie(m): 6:49am On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome:if ure thinking we give a flying phuck about america here, wake up man! phuck yall and your gay infested zone. jew man. you dey show yourself abi? 3 Likes |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by slap1(m): 6:50am On Jul 09, 2015 |
I was in a similar issue, although it was far lesser as I'm not yet rich, but I always try to help people when they come...then I learnt to say "No, it's not possible. I don't think it will work." |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by PassingShot(m): 6:52am On Jul 09, 2015 |
sultaan: With your first line, you spoke my mind. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by tpascal: 6:55am On Jul 09, 2015 |
You should be grateful to God that He is using you to answer some people's prayer. The fact that you have a good job does not mean that you are the most intelligent or the most righteous. Continue being nice, for your own sake and for your children's sake too. Have a nice day. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by slap1(m): 6:55am On Jul 09, 2015 |
Jarus:True... Chairman, e don te small o. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Pamelayoung: 6:58am On Jul 09, 2015 |
You must be a very generous n sensitive person just like me. Can I be ur frnd too? |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Nobody: 6:59am On Jul 09, 2015 |
Givers never lack. God gives you so much without complaining,yet you are busy complaining about the stipend you dolled to folks. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Nobody: 7:03am On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome:...pls,stop this trumpet blowing and craps... |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by ikbnice(m): 7:03am On Jul 09, 2015 |
Sun Tzu once said, 'you can die of someone else misery'. I want to tell you that most of them arent poor for asking you for help, they just see it as an opportunity. And since you send down money without ceasing,who are they not to believe you arent picking money in the U.S. Cut off the means of communications and open a new channel for selected few. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by StOla: 7:06am On Jul 09, 2015 |
jasmines: The problem is posting their demands till the next month. I have made expenses of over N500K to benefit others just this month because I got some allowances. For this reason I was unable to service a debt of N200K that I owe. Thinking I was done with magnanimity for the month, another dude had to source me out from no where telling me all his life issues. Obviously I wasn't liquid enough, guess what? I had to promise a token from my next pay check I'm yet to earn. When will my next pay check come with all the money belonging to me? A lot is already shared to the needy before you even earn it. I just deprive myself of all the good stuff I should have, so as to care for others. Sometimes I want to cry. It is really depressing at times. I barely like comments or pictures on social media anymore. It only puts me back in the consciousness of those I would rather they forget about me. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by gdguy: 7:08am On Jul 09, 2015 |
Bros, you're not alone on this. Almost everyone else who is doing well does. You don't have to bother yourself too much. Try to recognise giving that is compulsory and that which is not. You have to give to your parents no doubt, and give your tithe. Apart from these, any others are optional. You need to be mindful how you project yourself also before others. Finally, remember not to start what you cannot finish. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by oluezekiel(m): 7:08am On Jul 09, 2015 |
tabletman1: The op should just think of the above....same people would blame you if you don't have savings/investment. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Votukpa(m): 7:09am On Jul 09, 2015 |
OREMUSSANCTUS: Hey Jerk...be constructive... And all 251 who liked ur post, grow up dummies. Dude needs helpful counsel. @OP Tell most of them no. Help few whom u rightly judge their neediness JYST SAY NO 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by slap1(m): 7:11am On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome:Did you tell your relatives you mow have a bigger job? |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Tabelachizza(f): 7:18am On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome:. Obu ife Anyi Ga-eri Ka mmadu nuru gi ife biko*** you are over stretching the matter Abeg |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by jasmines(f): 7:18am On Jul 09, 2015 |
jaybee3: will do that |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Ashmark(m): 7:23am On Jul 09, 2015 |
caprini1: The 300k that you gave out was out of love except if it Pride sha which I don't know. You can't really complain when you borrow somebody 300k at once but when that 300k is shared among 15 different people calling you consecutively to borrow money within just week. There is on how you won't complain within yourself, just that you may not make it public like OP. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Nobody: 7:24am On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome:maybe you caused it...how? By posting personal contents of fb..i.e vacation pix,things abt your lifestyle etc... #moneybag,everyone want to get their goodybag. Keep helping those you feel are helpless and not d bonus seeking folks |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by GENTLETEE(m): 7:28am On Jul 09, 2015 |
They believe that u are can afford it so begin to diasbuse their mind and be polite in your refusal. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by richiepolymer(m): 7:30am On Jul 09, 2015 |
How did this post make FP? Is there anything to learn from it? |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by jasmines(f): 7:32am On Jul 09, 2015 |
StOla: My bro it is well..... All these are stories, d bible says that strong men keeps riches, you aren't strong willed, you will be poor? For how long will you keep being the beast of burden to others? One easy way is to get someone who is principled and get them to go to that person to seek approval before you give. Dont you have children? Dont you want to leave a legacy for them? Giving all you have is out-rightly WRONG!!! Promising your future pay check is purely STUPID!!! Sorry if I sound rude but I am angry reading this. Another way too is to get the money, put it in an escrow acct or with someone you trust, come rain, come sunshine, the money isn't coming out till you provide a legitimate need you own. Listen to yourself, Giving 500k, yet you have a debt of 200k. My father was like you, a real father xmas, ppl used to wake us up from sleep with unending stories that touch the heart, now he's late but do you know that when he died, the only thing we received was a mockery loaf of bread. Our house became as quiet as a graveyard, nobody comes anymore, they didn't even attend his funeral, they said he was a secret sinner, and God has punished him cus his money couldn't have been pure. I can keep telling you stories. You need to think of yourself first. Go and keep your cars somewhere safe for 3months, move your family to your wive's parents place, put a quit notice on your door and call them to help you out with house rent and see how fast they'll leave you. I better stop here 4 Likes |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by dollarlander: 7:32am On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome: Hello brother. If what you wrote here is real and you did not make it up, I think I have advice for you. Identify the ones who are your real family members. I mean the nuclear family in which you grew before you have you own nuclear family. Anybody there that needs your help and it is within your capacity, please do. You will be surprised that those you are giving money have more savings than you, if you tell them you don't have savings they will tell you to manage your finance very well because they also save from the ones you give them. Once a while, you can go out to help those in the extended family that you know they really need your help. If things go wrong with you, those you spray your money on will be the one to mock you. They will tell you you are stingy, because the 3k you sent to them is not even enough for them. What they want is for you to bring your income and share everything with them. And also, things are not too difficult in Nigeria unless for those who are lazy. Also be very careful those you are connecting to on FB are not scams. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by otunbadan(m): 7:36am On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome: Can't you just say, No,i don't have that now. Truly you are nice to be really bothered by many people's problems but you are not God. Say no more often. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by HRich(m): 7:36am On Jul 09, 2015 |
I came to read if you are a new elected governor. I never know is one pride dick head who just came out Jail in America. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by debagsy: 7:38am On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome: |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by lexy2014: 7:41am On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome:so u are still looking 4 friends? U are not serious. Go sit down on top maggi 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by fF01(m): 7:42am On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome:see question wey e dey ask me?? |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by lexy2014: 7:43am On Jul 09, 2015 |
otunbadan:4get d guy. He is just playing around 1 Like |
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