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KINGwax: you cry at other people's wedding? Pls who u be?

jim jones: really!? who are the moderators on here, walai? smh

tpia@:
went through your posts and you said you're ghanaian, right?

shymmex: Why don't you believe it?

I guess it's because the victims are not xtians, no?

slimyem: ....at least someone got my point....

slimyem: i'm so sorry that my so simple rendition is hard for you to decipher.
However,it is subject to many interpretations as the case may be.
This is the best i can do to help ma'am!

tpia@:
where are you seeing fight here?

just saying i do not need to respond to senseless threads, that's all!

na by force?

my presence on a thread often implies the subject matter [and poster] is worthwhile. Seeing me post there can make others assume the same.Therefore, i need to check people's post history before responding to a topic.

abeg- am out.

adeola_drg: @deedee, well i dont know much..but i suggest u give him a little space but given the distance, it depends on how often u guys talk..but u didnt answer d question asking ur reaction if he doesnt call u for a long time..

wat i know is an equation..ur spouse equals ur best friend..and bout his wife..i doubt she's okay with it..i rili doubt..she might not show it..women are that complex..but deep somewhere she is watchin ur proximity to her husband..im sure of dat..

2buff: As long as his madame understands it, that's all there is to it.
But, as always, walk in wisdom.

Resist the urge to try to prove anything to anybody and Know when to limit your familiarity.

tpia@:
they speak nigerian english in finland?

joeydozzy: this is too shallow even for you

slimyem: smh@everyone screaming a NO STRINGS ATTACHED relationship cannot exist between a male a female!
Smh seriously @ your dirty mind,self-control issues and fear of slipping up ultimately!
Smh@the usual nairaland style of somebody posts something and others thumbs up after without any personal conviction of theirs just to avoid being bashed!
What would you say about friendships that have existed for as long as ten,twenty years between opposite sexes,with NO STRINGS WHATSOEVER ATTACHED and with both parties in unthreatened and happy marriages till date?
What would you say?
I'm sure your lips would be so widened it'll make your whole face scare the hell out of a new born child.
Smh!

tpia@:
the op should get her own man, end of.

jealousy is her main motivation here.

if the guy didnt take your friendship to the next level and propose to you, then let him be.

yes, it hurts but that's one of the risks that come with being friends with the opposite gender.

especially if you're both of marriageable age?

dont mean to sound harsh but you really have got to move on. If you really like/love this guy, you wont attempt to destroy his relationship.

ijebabe: I agree with killz when he says in a marriage the wife is supposed to be the best friend (even though that is not always the case these days). Once you're married your priorities change and the lifestyle you led when you were dating has to change to include your spouse. We can't all maintain the same kind of friendships we had with the opposite sex when marriage is in effect.

I am not saying you are doing anything wrong by being his friend and I am glad you guys understood the change your relationship would take from the beginning, but you would have to distance urself a little bit more from him because your statement "while makin sure, i get my share of his attention" shows you're possessive over him. It's not ur fault as you guys have been that way with each other for a long time but it has to be kept in check so that there are no issues in the future between you and his wife.

If he doesn't call you in 2-3 weeks do you call him upset demanding why you haven't heard from him all the while?

Your relationship with him now doesn't seem like an issue, I'm only speaking about what may result in the future if something goes wrong.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]
A married man owes you NO SHARE of his attention, to the point of MAKING SURE you receive yours. What nonsense! The guy is just confused.

You cannot say you are not here to put your conscience at ease, and then again, you say the conscience you have is making you ask questions. . . That is some pure undiluted discombobulated ramblings! If you know something is right, you DO NOT ask if it's wrong. . .

If you have no intentions, can you say the same about him? What if he develops intentions? And don't you tell me he cannot develop intentions, because he is human as well. So what will you do when he develops feelings for you?

What will you do when you get married ? And your husband refuses the friendship with this guy?

What will you do or how will you feel if your husband's best friend is another woman?

I could learn from you, so pls answer. [/color]

tpia@:
Why did you title your thread "her husband is my best friend" and not "my best friend got married"


Women and their destructive behaviour, may God help us.


In any case, when are you going to find your own man, or are you waiting for this so-called "best friend" to marry you?

sexkillz: [color=#000030]It's wrong.

Except you want to lie to yourself and keep lying to yourself, there is no way a guy and a lady will remain friends for so long without feelings developing. Making it more wrong is the fact that he is a married man, and his wife should be his best friend and not you.
For the fact that you are here asking this question also shows that your conscience tells you, you are wrong. And you are here to get contrary opinions so that you can put your conscience at rest. But factually, when your conscience tells you to back off, pls back off, else, it would stop nudging you even in seemingly small matters.

The wife may say she has no problems with it, but that's not an approval for you to continue, cos one day, when her husband reduces the attention on her, the first suspect is you, and when that happens, "sorry" is your name. Do you have plans of getting married? Do you plan to make your future husband your best friend, or will you stick to another married man? If that happens, you two would only be fooling no one but yourselves.

There's nothing like happily ever after in marriage, so problems are bound to arise. A wise man or woman who loves his partner and his marriage, would seek those holes where problems could creep in from and what? And close them!

Realize that there are some things that has to come to an end, he is your best friend, yes, but it could cause problems. People are talking, and that's not because they are poke nosing, but because they are concerned and may have been in such a situation themselves. . . Do not disregard the voice of reason![/color]

cindyrella: Lemme answer this

Oh yeah i will get suspicious, because if i am opportuned to be backstage with john dumelo for over 2hours.. i know i won't waste time just signing autographs

werepeLeri: Conspiracy theory.

GEJ ordered the police to kill him because the boy was going to expose GEJ. Naija.

fnk: Any idea who placed the bomb there?

fnk: Any idea who placed the bomb there?

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Virginity is a virtue to those that value it. And a plague to those that do not value it. You will agree with me that we were all born virgins. There are those that are virgins and it's a plague to them, while there are non virgins today who still seem virginity. It all boils down to morals and your level of permissiveness. I can't choose for you what to do, neither can you choose for me. In cases surrounding morals, you simply know what is right, and you do it! A lot of things could factor your decisions, it could be sad experiences of people who lost theirs or your moral inclination as an individual. Even people who were brought up eating the bible for breakfast, lunch and dinner, person wen go spoil go spoil. It's just a matter of making your mind up.
It's wrong to talk down on non virgins or anyone else for that matter, cos you do not know under the conditions they lost theirs or why they have refused to lose theirs. I was in a bus that was robbed few weeks ago and the ladies on that bus were r'aped. Now tell me what you will say to a girl that made up her mind to lose it on the day she got married, and it was forcefully taken from her. Will you talk down on her? Or will you talk down on a married lady cos she's no longer a virgin?

Some just make up their mind to keep it till whenever, so who are you to tell them it's a plague? Or it's a lack of opportunity? Most virgins even get more opportunity than non virgins for crying out loud! The difference her is how able you are to control your self and your body!
In helping you make decisions about virginity, you have to know what sex really means. Do you see it as sacred and a means of procreation, or do you just see it as a means of pleasure? What does the statistics say about sexually transmitted diseases and what is your take on that? Would you want to place yourself at risk just for a few minutes of pleasure? And don't use condoms as an excuse cos they are not as safe as they are made to sound, heck, even the condom manufacturers would tell you abstinence is the best! A lot of heartbreaks have been caused by this sex craze, leading many non virgins to deem sex as "overrated". So what will you do with the information you receive from the experiences of others?

No matter what you do with it, avoid judging. You are a virgin doesn't make you better than a non virgin, and you are a non virgin doesn't mean you are better than a virgin. Some virgins are worse than non virgins, even in morals! A girl or boy may lose his or her virginity today, and vow never to go back to sex till marriage and their conscience helps them keep it. All you need to do is listen to your conscience. If your conscience ministers to you, you need to listen to it. If you keep disobeying your conscience, it will die, and when you have a dead conscience, you are FINISHED, virgin or not. It's just like driving a car at night without head lights, your crash is certain. . . [/color]

xynerise: *pukes*

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Should i talk?[/color]

Cuddlemii: I don't think anyone talks down on virgins. The issue most peeps have with virginity tales on nairaland is the need to keep some information dearest to your heart. If you are a virgin or not, that is your personal business and achievement. I don't think we need to dwell so much on what we cant verify as being truthful or not. I don't care and don't need to know if a member's hymen is intact or not. The re-occurring Bomb blast is far more important to me than virginity.