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Somewhat true, but I have always been taught that God helps those who help themselves. You can't simply repent and sit back and expect God to do all the work. There is no better way of being sincere with God than for her to repent, and still tell her husband the truth. I feel that is the only way. To rely on God simply to take care of such a problem would be taking advantage of him. I say she should still tell her husband the truth. She can repent now, but if she takes no action, she will just fall back into the same activities she was doing before.

Yes, yes, but after which, you will still have this situation to deal with. Do you have any suggestions that are relevant to this particular problem? We can all sit here and act holier than thou, and feel good afterward, but at the end of the day, the physical problems still aren't solved.

The ultimate assurance is not in what cyber-entities tell you here or anywhere else. You need to believe in yourself, and have a full self assurance that all will be well.

If not, you will keep living your life in misery, self pity and sorrow.

Cheers mate.

[size=14pt]I'm sure that very soon another fellow from the northern part of Nigeria will visit Ibadan to deliver the same type of message; and it would probably have the same effect.[/size]
The content of this message suits well no matter where it is delivered as long as it is being delivered in Nigeria.

Therefore, the messenger shouldn't matter as much as the content of the message itself.

That is the problem with the Northern part of Nigeria. THEIR STATE OF MIND.

What deepzone fails to realize is that the US environment makes it really difficult to instill the values and discipline
yorubas (and even others) are noted for.

Yes, I get your point, but I don't think telling Northerners they are poorer than southerners and their elites need to do something
about it would get them offended. I really don't think it's offensive.

But to think about it, the symptom of poverty in the north is not much different from the one in the south or west or east. Of course, the levels may not be similar, but the dots are pretty much the same and well connected to the same root.

We do?? You mean with the many polls showing how majority of Americans are not comfortable with that ,and the many hate crimes against them, Americans walk on shells for homosexuals? You mean the push by the homosexual society for marriage that continues to be blocked in most all states is America being cautious around them? Don't believe all you hear on the news. Let's keep going,

Same reason why the German government treats the average Jew with caution;.
I doubt that is the case judging from what I have read and seen. There is a huge difference between the case of the Germans and the Jews and what we have in Nigeria. What we have in Nigeria is a case of some in the south being too cowardly to actually deal with the north as they would with each other down south. Fear is not the relationship between the Germans and the Jews. I would say it has a hint of shame to it but not fear for the jews. Completely different situations here.

Well, majority of white people do it out of shame and also some do it so as not to be branded racists. Now this is close.

But I am sorry, they are not to be measured or seen the same way. I mean should we continue to cower to the north because some whites are afraid of telling the truth out of fear of being branded racist?? Is that the connection we should try make to make in our minds each time we are faced with telling the northerners the obvious truth, as reason not to??

I mean if you posted all this so we can all comfortably say It is ok not to tell the truth out of fear of the northerners: fear that is, maybe, justified by the fact that some whites avoid telling the truth out of fear of being labelled racists, please go ahead and let me know now. So I can feel better next time I decide to trade integrity for fragility when I face northerners.

Even Gen. Danjuma has made similar statements in the past. Soludo is just re-echoing well known facts

Why should we care how inflammable the northerners are? I mean should we continue to walk on shells for them?? For how long? When do we start dealing with them the right way instead of giving them so much lee way?

I still do not understand why telling them what most of Nigeria already knows requires gutso!! After so many decades of knowing this to be fact?? come on , LMAO!!

[b]Have you ever wondered why northern politicians object to issuance of social security numb[/b]ers or other enumerative measures that would have backed up stipulated census figures?

How much culture can you learn in say . . 2 years of living in Nigeria, scratch that . . . Lagos? Discipline maybe. You learn to interact with a bunch of crooks while living in a depressive economy.

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You don't have to take your kids back to naija. Just make sure it's only your native language you speak to them, in and out of the house. That's what my mom did with us.

I find it very uncomfortable leaving my kids in Nigeria, even if it's with a family member. My children stays with me, even if I have to force them to learn it. Sure they can visit Nigeria once in a while, but to live there with another family? Very uncomfortable for me

@deepzone

The issues you have raised are not unique to yoruba kids in the US., it applies to all US. kids

No matter how dark the night is, God has shown me that Morning will come. Don't be afraid of hard times, like in my case I can tell you that Gods strength is made perfect in our time of weakness. Thank you all so much

Just like a person named Tosan Adeola saying he's Itsekiri, not Yoruba

37 Billion Naira IN ERROR!!! Shocked let me ROFLMAO like kobojunkie.

This is nothing but a view of point; based on what he (Soludo) knows and sees.
I do not see anything wrong with this statement.
It is now up to the northerners to stand together and positively address this situation.

Not a big deal at-all.

We need more people with guts that are well informed and can say it as it is.

I like him a lot.

send him back home for a while to be disciplined

maybe women shld think more seriously about the consequences of "single motherhood". Its more than a fancy term.

Mentally ready to pay child support. hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha Grin Cheesy Smiley Wink Cheesy Grin Cheesy Wink Smiley Smiley Wink Grin Cheesy Wink Smiley Wink Cheesy Grin Grin Grin Grin
i go laugh die. Is that the issue?

The problem is not speaking it to the kids on time esp. at home. I know couple of kids here, not up to 10 years old that speaks Igbo. Infact, there is an igbo school here and the level of participation is high. Once you speak to them, they would get it. That's just like me though writing and reading is a no go area and YES, i went 2 a FEDERAL BOARDING SKOOL, Infact, ma little family friends here speak proper NNEWI dialect,

and u really think that will make him change?
i was flogged with everything imaginable,yet i didnt change,it will only made the child stronger,for me its only all these waking people up at 5am in the morning and advicing that i avoid,with beating i will do everything bad i need to do because i know its not more than beating

children growing up without a father figure tend to end up like that.

I suggest she just shuts her doors and tells him not to come home again.