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The quickest way is the fast way no?

This sounds promising.

Biafra would be very difficult to achieve

I dont believe in one nigeria

DejiSantos:
Chizi: "I'm for one Nigeria if Nigeria is for one Nigeria."


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bPSSJKUIZ98

This website is very useful

I dont think so

Such a tricky question

It's sad to see all this tribalism

The way we treat homosexuals in Nigeria is part of Christian/Muslim culture.

Whether you agree with it or not.

Putting someone in jail for what they do in the privacy of their bedroom with another consenting adult is crazy.

Are there parts of Christianity worth crushing?

Proudgorgeousga:
well some of the so callled cultural practices Christianity crushed is worth crushing. also culture is not static it is dynamic. for us to advance as a society we need to adapt to the ever changing world.

Amen

staytravel:
chaii i rebuke it!

hahahaha

Aaronsrod:
These people are not true Nigerians. Hear them. They have no fear of God in their hearts.

They are children of Satan. Hellfire will be their portion.

The Okwu ID panel discuss to what extent Christianity has erased the Igbo culture.


DO YOU THINK CHRISTIANITY HAD CRUSHED OUT CULTURES?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m3oBeKCrysw

Great series

It is abusive

Belafonte:
When done right, spanking is beneficial to a child's upbringing, and I say this from experience. If patents know what they are doing, the need to spank a child is almost non-existent.

The first form of discipline a child should have is example because humans, children more so, learn through observation. So, your child has learnt to do certain things because they've observed you do them or observed someone else do them. In this case, you should discontinue behaviour you don't want to see from your children or remove them from the influence of people who they copy. It is really foolish, and abusive, to repeat a behaviour and expect that your own children will stop. Beating them for not stopping only shows you to be a mentally unstable parent.

Secondly, you must learn to speak firmly with them, no stupid shouting like an uneducated market woman. Deepen your voice, look them straight in the eye and ask them to stop. Simple. Will they stop? Actually, most times they will. This is a good time to explain what you don't want them doing and why. Treat the children like they have a brain and can actually understand words, because thats the reality. Of course, this doesn't always work but done right, it will save you the need to spank them by, at least, 90% and you still get to pass the message across.

Thirdly, raise your voice. Something along the lines of "hey, I already told you not to do that", "what is wrong with you, etc". What this does is jolt them and actually bring their attention to what you're saying because talking sometimes just flies over their head and they get used to it pretty quickly. So, give them a menacing look and raise your voice. This drastically reduces the need for spanking.

Fourthly, spank. One hard smack to the bum. This is a proper hard reset. No continuous flogging like a crazed loon, your child hasn't been sentenced by a Sharia court. . Depending on the age of the child, the smack should be sufficient to induce sleep after proper crying. Also, depending on the age of said child, smacking can be increased to about three or four. Never smack a child out of anger. Never. That is the pathway to abuse. The idea is to send the message that "I would normally not do this but since you have chosen to repeat this behaviour, I have no choice but to regster my displeasure and non-tolerance."

Also, you can set them on chores to do around the house. Something you know is beyond their abilities to do like making sure there is no single speck of dust in the house which is an impossibility. The idea is to just humble them by making them feel helpless and incompetent.

Worthy of note is the fact that you must placate them for each level of discipline. They say, "when you discipline a child with the left hand, you console them with the right". The idea is to let them know they brought it upon themselves and you'd rather not punish them but they forced your hand. This lets them know discipline is nin-negotuabke no matter how much you love them, actions have consequences.

By the time you need to start using canes and such on a child, you've already failed as a parent. Discipline is a progressive instrument that is required daily.

Igbo woman no cook good

I think you have a very good point here

addictiv:
I think a lot of parents want to flog and beat their child as a retaliation for how their own parents treated them. It's a subconscious Spiral. Those of us that went to boarding school will attest to the fact that one of the reasons we all looked forward to becoming seniors was so that we can punish and deal with junior students and give them the same treatment we got as juniors. If a child is stubborn or naughty it's a reflection of the parents parenting attitude. Most parents are lazy and go ahead to heap tasks that are beyond the child and expect them to perform wonders. Most parents heap insults on the child without minding the effects on his or her self esteem. it's no wonder a lot of children can't wait to leave home.

Ginger beer.

I know more and I am Yoruba

Wise man.

Chizi: "I'm for one Nigeria if Nigeria is for one Nigeria."


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bPSSJKUIZ98

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fRZWXvT7Xd4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fRZWXvT7Xd4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fRZWXvT7Xd4

hmmmmm

SakuraSimiola:
Why do you think Igbo men don't date Yoruba women....

And when you see it, it is rare.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fRZWXvT7Xd4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fRZWXvT7Xd4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fRZWXvT7Xd4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fRZWXvT7Xd4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fRZWXvT7Xd4

They live in England.

Their parents did not teach many of them Igbo.

They are attempting to engage with the culture in a way that makes sense to them and in a way that will relate to other young Igbos in this situation.

It is not their fault. It is the fault of our father's generation.

StarFlux:
They're asking why Igbo is dying and yet they are speaking in Engrish? Ok.

The truth is that the enviroment in Nigeria is such that it promotes English over any other language, thus you'll have poor people looking for social mobility by disgarding their native tongues in favour of English. Some groups of people may be worse off than others, but the problem is essentially the same all over Nigeria. It's not really a complicated issue.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fRZWXvT7Xd4