₦airaland Forum

Kotodoctor:
You still don't get the point do you?

It's s given that lecturers are currupt. However allowing young female student get away with this, ultimately exempt them of blame. Is like asking in case of adultry, we're is the man?

Women true like playing the victim card. I have seen this first hand in my school days. Am Not making a case for lectures. Far be it from me. But women on there part should learn to take responsibility. We all know they are two state away from innocent.

This even translate to the Labour market. You look at the banks and it dominated by women, mtn offices nkor. Yet everyone act like they are there on merit list.

Women know what they want, most times they end up using us. Men are the real victimes here. Because when a woman decide to exact her powers on a man, it take the grace of god to resist.Am just being honest. However, when it comes into the open, they are too a shame to admitt.

I get your point and believe me when such cases are made public I will condemn the woman.

boolet:
Young man, my first sentence states I do not support it, save your epistle.

Yinmu! You already were cutting those sex for mark lecturers some slack. I hope every lecturer who collects bribe(in cash or kind) both males and females will be kicked out of our institution.

Kotodoctor:
Can you prove that this things are always initiate by lectures?

I don't care about initiation, I care about the lecturer accepting this foul offer. Will you overlook such a case if you have a school and your teachers sleep with students in exchange for marks? will you buy his she initiated sex and I accepted story?

Kotodoctor:
That's not what he is saying. Sometime girls initiate, but end up acting like victimes when it all come out in the sun. More bribe is a two way thing. Both the giver and the receivers.

Can he prove that she initiated it and was ready to go with her plans until it came out in the sun?
If he is known to accept such offers then I am happy she set him up and exposed his sins. Same way we will applaud anyone who sets up a top politician with bribery in exchange for political position. We will not say ah, why did he initiate it and then play victim when he is exposed? Rather we will say......ooo so if it wasn't exposed, this is what our politicians do in secrete ba?

pstnicodemus:
you are indeed a real man.
men don't hit women, no matter what

Wrong.... She messed up and got the result. He was drunk and wisdom should teach her that a drunk man will act without weighing the consequence.A drunk man doesn't know about not hitting women. Stoning a drunk angry man with bread? A wise woman will shut up and take her kids to a safe room when such a man is at home and when he becomes unbearable she should leave.

alsudaes1:
I wonder too

She should have covered up a bit more

for sure.

what is she wearing? Did she not look in the mirror before leaving her house? That top doesn't do her religion and faith justice.

False. People have condemned and spoken against it. You must realize that the media is controlled by the same people who destroy and attack so yeah, they paint the picture they want you to see. Facebook made the feature available to say we are french, we stand with America etc but do they make it available for the rest so that others can also join in? Do you honestly think if it is made available people would not stand with those innocent souls killed? Did you know that Obama was voted into power because he promised to bring back the soldiers home from Iraq? He also promised to investigate the rights of prisoners or detainees of war held by the US. Did you know that people have protested against the war in Iraq and other middle east countries? and yeah, those protesters aint mostly muslims. So do not fall for the trap many ignorant muslims fall into killing innocents believing that they did not speak up against their leaders.

Rapsino:
Don't claim holy.. U don't know how persistent these girls are.. Body no b fire wood. U will fall 102 times if its u

I claim holy because I am in that context. I have lectured before and I can tell you that saying get out of my office is not difficult. I will repeat myself.....Any lecturer that has girls openly throwing themselves at him non stop has no moral value and is also corrupt. Those that stylishly do so can be walked out or ignored. I know very well that the first thing students learn when they enter campus is how each of their lecturers behave. You hear stuff like.....This one is wicked o, this one will not fail you; all you have to do is read and pass, if this one catches you cheating it's carry over straight, This one likes sorting, This one likes sleeping with students even if she is married and pregnant etc. So yeah, unless you are a new lecturer which means students have not gotten used to your character on the job, I see no reason why girls will be comfortable making sexual advances at you.
Inshort that term body no be firewood annoys me. Like men are expected to be goats who just go about fucking anything that has a hole . If I want to have an encounter I go look for one where my career will not be affected.

boolet:
Inasmuch as I do not support the corruption of upgrading marks for sexual gratification or money, some truth must be told. The young girl sounded like she was willing to do it but only got repulsed because it wouldn't be done just once but five times. I schooled in OAU and was friends with a certain lecturer who told me how the girls threw themselves at him. In fact, he made it clear that they (the lecturers) seldom initiate it, but the body language of the girls could lead the dumbest person on earth on. Guys paid with money and the females paid in kind.

And this trend seems normal and okay to you? I expect you to be pissed at the degeneration going on in our campuses but here you are sounding like oh well, sometimes the lectures can't help it. Girls would always throw themselves if they see that the trend is acceptable and normal same way boys would offer bribe if it is the trend in that school. If a lecturer is known to not condone bribery in cash or kind but is just and diligent in his course available and eager to help his students excel in their studies, I believe students will love and appreciate him.
How often do you hear about sex for mark in proper universities around the world? Yeah, you are right that is because it is not a trend in normal societies and the results of such actions if exposed would not turn out good for student and lecturer involved. What flimsy excuse; so a student shows body language and the lecturer is so stupid and helpless that he can not walk her out? If his reputation as a no nonsense man is known I can guarantee you that no girl would ever dare such stupid stunt because that will be the first thing they(students) will learn about that lecturer in that department. Any lecturer that has females throwing themselves at him constantly is a very corrupt lecturer with no integrity.

Give her the money to cook from her place. Maybe she doesn't like your kitchen. Jokes aside sha, she is a very stupid girl If she can not cook without being married why bang without being married?Or she doesn't see you as a future mate just friends with benefit.

Quite unfortunate that the military way of abusing civilians is now a common and expected way of life in Nigeria

see how grown ass men carry women matter for head like gala. Women this, women that. Chai a world without women will leave some men bored and useless. Men who can not stand shoulder to shoulder with fellow men usually resort to bullying women. If they go to shiloh, is it your shiloh? Marry your own and dash out your daughters and sisters and leave others alone.

No one can say for sure. But she sure is encouraging you to keep pushing

Johnny

kokosheen:
Leave the guy, he thinks he's James Bond.

What is money compared to ones limbs or life, abeg pay under duress and search for means of identifying them. Just get off their hands in one piece and alert their superiors.

Exactly.

That guy no make sense. So we can not trust lecturers to be morally upright in handling their business at school? The same excuse some men make when they rape kids. She seduced me!!!

The society has sunk so low that being morally upright and doing so diligently is now seen as a thing of no importance. How can someone say it was a deal gone bad? Even if it all went well and a third party found out and exposed the lecturer it should still be considered a big blow to the integrity of lecturerers and he should be dealt with. Can a police officer make excuse for recieving bribe by saying Oga he tempted me with it?

hedonistic:
You can imagine the audacity of these fools called SARS.

But Nigerians can be too docile for my liking. Imagine idiotic SARS asking me irrelevant questions like what does my company do and why am I banking in Okota and not in Ikoyi? Why should I answer such stupid questions? What is your business with that, when you should be out chasing armed robbers and kidnappers - which is your primary duty. If I have committed a crime, why not simply arrest me and charge me accordingly?

I certainly wouldn't answer these kinds of foolish and unnecessary questions, wouldn't hand over my company documents, wouldn't hand in my phone, and generally wouldn't cooperate with animals who are clearly out on an illegal mission. Let them shoot if they want. We need to man up and quit being so stupid and docile, otherwise this madness would never end.

Once you encounter these guys, just tell them straight that you cannot answer their unnecessary questions, and that they should arrest you if they think you have committed any specific crime, but that they would have to answer to the X-Squad. If you know how much they dread the X-Squad, you would be shocked.

Then be prepared to have your corpse on the front page of newspapers with the headline..... SARS operatives Kill notorious armed robber linked to the badoo killer gang and other armed robberies around Lagos and Ogun state.
They will shoot you and nothing will change except in the lives of your family and loved ones. All the ones that have died trying to stand their ground what changed?
The only thing that will work is if the people mob them and lynch them once they kill anyone.That might curb their excesses but then they will start taking victims away from public.

Following. Please Op return with feedback after the test is carried out and made public.

Kukuma open ministry of Boko Haram in every state let us rest. With the terrible state of security in Nigeria you people want states to officialy give land to killer herdsmen? Only a few of those herds men will be genuine the rest will be government sponsored killer men They will pay the tax with the support of top polliticians and unleash terror to communities. If Nigerians like..... they should fall mugu

234GT:
Very correct.
But it's just natural for mothers to be appreciated more.
The father pays school fees for years and the mother ends up reaping most of the goodies.
Men don suffer

A man that carries his family along will never face this. The ones that face such challenges either marry bad wives or they leave their family in the dark concerning their finances. Some fathers even act like lords and kings in the home making their children avoid them when growing up unless they absolutly must . Giving money is not the onky way a father can show love to his family. That is a very big mistake many men make.
Hardly you find a good father that is neglected by his children.

Tellemall:
He must support a brother, whether said brother is wrong or guilty.

Bro code.

Support a brother over his blood. That is not a wise thing. No wonder many wives are forced to return to their abusers by their fathers.....
bro code at play.

Me I no go do bro code with my sis or daughters o. But I will not do blood code if they are not kind wives. They need to lay goid foundation by marrying kind men.



@OP she should stop thinking about what has not happened. Even if she did not wed in the court she will still need the law to decide who keeps the children same way she wll depend on the court even if she did court wedding.
If she knew that his people may poison his mind against her why did she marry into that family? She should better face her marriage and her life. She should not look for trouble where there is none.

MrBrownJay1:
fear of losing her children is more important to her than the fear of losing her husband?!?!?! this woman has misplaced priorities.
but hey, pls do enlighten us by telling us HOW a woman (supposedly richer than her husband) can lose her damn children?!

Stop being naive. The fear of losing children after a marriage ends has been more important to Nigerian women since the beggining of time. That fear has kept many women in unhappy marriages. Even some nen have endured much because they fear for what becomes of their children should they leave the marriage.
If a man is not a good husband why should the woman fear to lose him after all said and done? Which normal mother will not choose her children over a man who has decided to move on? Who doesnt know that the typical Nigerian man who decides to push his wife out ussually keep the children and send her out empty handed? Even those who escape with their children are told to return them or have the kids taken by force. Why are you acting like you were born yesterday?

Who doesnt know that FG and herds men are partners?

Lol. There is nothing wrong with being the 2nd wife so long as it is you doing the takeover. The moment his eyes starts to fancy someone else it no longer is fun being the second wife Haha

It means nothing. Just a dream based on your emotions. If it means anything at all it is that you will get a visa after so much trials. That is why your passport was worn out in your dream. The praying person is just that. A praying person.

I heard that if you are a black woman visiting the UAE you are considered a prostitute by their men until priven otherwise.

She stone him with bread. She sef needed the beating. Why challenge a drunk man to a fight? He did good flogging her. She should learn manners and learn to hussle. Then she should learn to hand over domestic issues to the right authourity.