₦airaland Forum

Boriqua:
Babalawo, there is one that occured to a friend where he was used for yahoo ritual by his cousin who now snatches his stars when ever he masturbates and sleeps at night, the guy keeps losing his job within months and his depressed, please what can he do to stop this nonsense.

Wahala dey o

she no go rest now o. She don carry enter social media

GraGra247:
I don't think that kind of weight loss is possible in 2 to 3 months.

Also weight loss of this type and speed will "certainly" leave a lot of wrinkles, folds and "sagged flesh" on her stomach and upper arms. Yet her stomach looks so smooth without a single blemish.

Sometimes you take online stories with a pinch of salt. Don't believe all you read.

FortifiedCity:
She's still young. Those flaps won't be there

Yes you are right. She had surgery to reduce the boobs and other parts. She definitely would have loose skin if she did not undergo cosmetic surgery. As for how quickly when lost the weight, maybe she tied her stomach.

ubunja:
you dont get it
this desperate setting is the Factory Setting for 80% of men. men are raised deperate for approval and validation.thats why the majority become Nice Guys to whom the Friendzone is almost equal to love coz they are losers to the core.
when women become like that its always a wonder.

Same thing. Those women also grew up desperate for attention or true friendship. Men and women are humans in need of love, true friendship and in this present over sexualized world where beauty standards are set high, women are raised to want to achieve perfection hence if they fall short, they start becoming desperate.

ubunja:
cruel but true.
the lowest of the low women will part with money to get validation.
agreed.

Anybody that is desperate for validation would part with money, time, energy etc not only women. Why do you think men Rob, do rituals, join cults, hang unto bad friends who use them, remain with girlfriends who abuse their emotions etc? Anyone could be used if they need validation.

All in all in summary, go for women with LOW self esteem/worth/value arising from what ever cause that life throws at them. Capitalize on their misery and keep them down and low as long as the money is there?

Ngwanu, may God give your daughters, sisters etc men that would be like you. Amen.

I am sure he is also missing the slavery part of it.

Well, those women did it because they owned those servants and treated them like property which were mostly discarded after they achieved their aim.
The woman allows her maid sleep with her husband mostly because she is baren and any child resulting from that union is considered hers hence she feels that the reward far outweighs the sacrifice because in those days the man could take any woman of his choice who may trouble the wife, for her sanity sake she offers her maid.
In those days women were not given priority so it's do it or lose your position.

Sexyolori:
bros no mind d oversabi,no be i am at anger na ayamatanga dem talk for d film.even mike bamiloye son condemned d pix when he saw it & said it wasnt english.

I guess as much... Na Ayamatanga be that queen of the coast name. Just like Karashika, sakobi etc they want to make it sound unearthly

Statue builders in Imo state ... Season of bountiful harvest is here.

efficiencie:
you might want to be careful though. Because the formation of moral ideals in the mind of a child is usually an unstable process that may go either way - meaning the kid may accept your judgment of what is right or wrong or decide to try out what he or she has learned to form his or her own moral ideals. I believe for children at tender ages below 13, when children are yet to learn the connection between power and responsibility as well as morality, parents should do a lot of shielding to keep their children away from sexual information till their moral foundations are well set and some sense of responsibility has been instilled in the minds of the children!

Thank you. I don't tell what they do not ask about mostly. I can only do my best. I did not open an adult center in my house. I understand you tho.

money121:
Ok

Haha You sure about that Ayamatanga thing? For years na Ayamatanga we dey call am o. Maybe na you dey mistake am to be English did you ask Mike Bamiloye?

If say Na other tribe, different photos of them for dey available. But since na Fúlàní, only this one photo dey on internet. Are they hiding their faces from us?

Simplep:
Lol..ur kids are now wild,u will take dem to a naming ceremony one day and dey will tell d couple in front of everybody,'sir u put ur peepee inside ur wife's vig dats y u now hv a baby'..abeg i dnt tink i can follow dis ur advice o.....d only tin i can do at dat young age of thiers is tell dem no1 shud touch their private parts,dey shudnt expose dem because its very dangerous,dey should ask any question on anything they found new..until dey are 10 to 12....i wont open their eye,u kn how curious little kids can b..dey will statr doing experiment in school toilet

LOL, so? People no know say sex dey produce babies? my little nice said same to us when the wife was pregnant. She said.... I know where your baby will come out from. It entered from the peepee and will come out from the peepee. Wifey said yes, who taught you? You are such a smart girl and I believe now you know how special the peepee is to the creation of little babies. Then her mom called her to leave us alone that also inspired us. She wasn't bad, she just was knowledgeable in my opinion.
Like I keep saying, we started the training slowly but early and we do not have friends who are stuff or ignorant or too holly. I wouldn't be caught in a family gathering where the people would be shocked that a child knows such. Our friends would take the opportunity to teach. Maybe environment influences things too who knows. But me o, of a child says such, I smile and ask more questions like did you know that what you just said is reserved for when a man and a woman grow up, fall in love and decide to go to their families and get married? Only after then is the body designed to do that? Or did you know that that part is special only to you? Etc.

RALPHOW:
AT WHAT AGE PLEASE?

My son age 3 my daughter age 2 with random small talks or when she gets a crush on a cute boy, when she says she wants mom to marry Superman in the cartoon, when they give each other wedgies because it's funny etc. It is not what you must always sit them down to talk. As time goes on tho, you may have to start the talk.... like Marry, do you know what pedophile is? Then you go ahead to explain how you read in the papers a bunch of wicked adults sexually abusing kids and how sometimes they use fellow kids to lure their little friends etc. Then you let the child ask questions and explain accordingly. That alone will open the door to telling the a child how sacred the body is and a unique to only them etc. We do not talk only sex Ed, we talk safety, how to avoid danger, proper road crossing, porn and bad words in movies or cartoons etc.

Simplep:
Lol..ur kids are now wild,u will take dem to a naming ceremony one day and dey will tell d couple in front of everybody,'sir u put ur peepee inside ur wife's vig dats y u now hv a baby'..abeg i dnt tink i can follow dis ur advice o.....d only tin i can do at dat young age of thiers is tell dem no1 shud touch their private parts,dey shudnt expose dem because its very dangerous,dey should ask any question on anything they found new..until dey are 10 to 12....i wont open their eye,u kn how curious little kids can b..dey will statr doing experiment in school toilet

If yours are curious like that, then filter the knowledge but don't deny them. Mine are not the type they even don't appreciate someone seeing their privates when they pee at school and they complain if a fellow kid shows them their bumbum as a form of joke. They believe those parts are private and should not be shared with anyone. Even if you jokingly spank their bums they come home and report toe how you invaded their privacy. Maybe because I made sure to correct them anytime I feel like they want to play rough. I will not say there were not days of fascination and rough play like pulling each other's pants down as a form of punishment for maybe snatching toys or stealing songs but every mistake was an opportunity to seriously remind them how sacred our bodies are to only us. I can't say it is easy, but as parents we do our best to guide and when we must we yell or spank. It is done done like people think it(sit them down and talk) no, it is a life long process a lifestyle and every opportunity do it comes bit by bit one knowledge today, another tomorrow and on and on it goes. It was never a one moment thing.

mhisbliss:
the school they attend also plays a major role, they might innocently mention it to the hearing of a highly religious teacher and get the beating of their lives not knowing its ya fault

No ooo, we tell them some people feel those parts are not to be mentioned outside the home but we believe they are smart and need to know. They know that people are judgmental towards those things. They don't attend school where a teacher can just beat them. Me I go flog that teacher too no be lie funny enough they never said anything to non family members. in short I think they discuss such only with us and their grand ma they have NEVER gone to anyone else to discuss issues about the body.

In my opinion start as soon as they ask and also make them know that not everyone appreciates talking about such things so anytime they need to talk, they wait till dad and mom are available. Also tailor the lesson according to the child's mental capacity and environment.

mhisbliss:
I can deduce from your write up that your kids are intelligent and matured as well, that's all I hope for, some stupid kids would make a career out of it just to make you regret

hahaha, well they are smart and like to discuss about everything. Depends on when the talk starts and if you make it a hush hush affair plus the environment. They may be prone to abuse when they mention what they know to other kids or neighbors who may take it like they are spoilt. So parents need to watch who they leave their kids with and also correct other over sabi adults that may judge the child negatively. If kids are made to believe that nature handles things from design to function, they will not take it like a big deal. The earlier the better according to the child's wisdom.

mhisbliss:
oh my God I'm just laughing out loud here, when I was younger I see the word sex as a call for cruxification and the kids who mention it are super spoiled, wao you're really trying, I can't deal with that, I'd have to do it in a subtle way though

Do it as it is comfortable for all of you. My kids are just used to asking and we tell them the truth but in a way that their brain can get at that stage. Take your time and make them feel comfortable in their skin. problem starts when the child thinks what he is saying or asking is a taboo.

greatgod2012:
Delishpot, happy new year. I'm always eager to read your posts, especially when it comes to kids.



@op, Lol @ "you chose the prettiest "

And what did your parent say afterwards?

Thank you. Happy and prosperous new year to you too.


That got me laughing too. The mom knows what is good haha

mhisbliss:
lol same here @ bolded, did your kids become wayward after the sensitization? Like they talk about it anyhow and whenever they like?

No, they just take it like biology. Although they once were wanting new siblings and said in our presence mom, dad... when will you guys get sex and give us brothers and sisters? sometimes they look at new babies and ask if those were also as a result of mom and dad getting sex? yes, they processed the info openly but nothing extra. They just were curious. If you mention sex they will just laugh because the process is funny to them. They still wonder how dad gets his peepee inside the moms vagina tho. I told them it is lesson for another day. if they ask again tho, I will tell.
Although I never discouraged them from talking about their bodies, the major eye opener for me was when my son came home saying he now knows how babies are made. I said oh yeah.... who taught you? he said a friend showed him from a book at school. Fortunately it was a book about conception and pregnancy. showing the sperm and egg meeting and what happens till full term. I thought it was a matter of time before he might see a video. make we teach them before world people teach them anyhow for us.

mhisbliss:
oh my God you guys are rare kind of parents, like you aint nigerian, I'd faint before I say it to an innocent kid lol, until I was 12 I used to believe babies were bought from the hospital

LOL, I am Nigerian I just believe that as soon as a child starts asking, it is time to tell them like you teaching biology, Of course there is the occasional ewws and laughter and whatever but they pick important info. At 2 my daughter and I talked about crushing and how it was okay to crush but that as time went on, she will have to get a hold of herself and use her big girl brain more.We still talk about falling in love from time to time. she also learnt about kiss and tell guys and why it is important to be good friends with a boy she may crush on LOL. We as parents are doing our best. I grew up in a home where if you asked what penis and vagina was, a strong slap would re arrange your teeth in your mouth My lil cousin in those days was almost killed because he wrote Toto in his book. I don't want to raise ignorant kids. I can say we started when they were 2 yrs old. I forgot to add, we treated the gay topic last week. Gosh no thanks to one show on FOX. my 6 year old asked how do gays get sex? I told her they touch each others peepee since they both have only peepee. Hahahaha, I no know how to explain that one now o. Make I no explode her head. But I think I will tell if they ask again.

mhisbliss:
how did you do it and what was their reaction

My kids are under 10 yrs old. Every time they as questions about the body we take as an opportunity to talk about it and tell them how those parts should be used. They know babies are a product of sex, they know about vaginal and CS births, They know how sex happens, they know when the right time is for sex, they have a vague idea about menses(thanks to mom) but they aren't too interested at the moment to learn more about it. We do not go all out but we explain the basics and what are the NO NO like not allowing someone touch their privates, they know that as siblings they need to respect each others bodies and boundaries, they know that they can not date or have sex until a certain age, they know about pedophilia and they know that they can come to us at anytime to talk. No topic is sacred, if they ask we talk although from time to time we ask them to give us time to think how best to explain for their level of understanding and we make sure to revisit the topic as much as they will understand.

They are welcome to ask questions and we hope to keep them educated and smart about their sexuality until adulthood. They are honestly not fazed by sex, for them it is just a way of life for adults and biology ie body parts and functions. Although they are confused these days about women having babies without being married. I told them it happens but it isn't the norm but an exception.

Yes. We already had the talk with the kids.

MrPresident1

Will there not be a rapture before the coming of Christ which will usher in peace on earth? If we should follow the bible then Christ will come from the clouds and we shall all see him. Yes, there will be no time for repentance when the time comes but humanity can cry out to God for mercy...... at all at all naim bad pass.



But you are right, I had a dream where God returned and God did not judge based on religion, God judged based on our actions in that dream.

It was exactly like you said, God came because men were so selfish, and evil to each other and nature.

The slave masters have not endorsed it.

Ahhh...........the beauty of being a man.
Your wife will beg you to please look small and commot eyes and she will pet you ontop of it. Imagine if it was the wife even smiling interestingly while answering greetings from a man while the hubby is there. Just one time o. Dem for Don throw her bags out through window. Man's life sweet o.

What can I say ooo. If you say Nigerians should not work there, you will see people who will offer them their mothers in exchange for the job. Nigerians need to organize and agree on something without back stabbing.

Single Nigerian boys and girls, look closely at what finger she put the engagement ring.

Na nollywood movie you come dey advertise like leaked tape?

Slay Bobo. Slay king, slay boy.

Is this even allowed by the law? To storm and shoot at sight anyone in the building? I don't know what to say again o. Of police Can act like this, what hope is there for the people? If they are confirmed cultist okay but the likely hood of gunning down 1 innocent sould is scary to me.

To whom much is given......