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Sunshine34:
Many guys pay for this, imagine on a platter of gold and you go report

CodeTemplarr:
Hmmm. We need to develop a marriage video game and have couples play for days at a time to test waters and solidify their perspective.

busariabeyx24:
Why I Want to Separate from My Wife

Our relationship has become emotionally unsustainable for me, and after long periods of silence, inner conflict, and attempts to make things work, I have come to the difficult conclusion that separation is the healthiest path forward—for both of us. There are several deeply rooted issues that have contributed to this decision, and I believe it’s important to lay them out clearly.

1. Lack of Intimacy and Weaponization of Sex
Intimacy has all but vanished in our relationship. What’s more painful is that she uses sex as a tool—to control, punish, or manipulate. This has left me feeling undesired, unwanted, and emotionally abandoned. Intimacy is not just physical, it's also about connection, vulnerability, and shared closeness—and we have none of that left.

2. Emotional Abandonment and Loneliness
While she often chooses to go out and spend hours with her friends, I’m left alone in the house, feeling isolated and neglected. Even when we’re in the same space, we’re disconnected. Her priorities have shifted away from our relationship and family, and I feel like a ghost in my own home.

3. Neglect of Parental Responsibilities
Despite being a trained teacher, she makes no effort to support the children academically. Their homework, school needs, and learning challenges fall entirely on me, even though I’m also the primary provider. It hurts to watch our children miss out on guidance that she’s perfectly capable of giving.

4. Communication Breakdown
We barely talk. When we do, it's either transactional or tense. There's no emotional sharing, no joint planning, no meaningful conversation. We exist like two strangers under the same roof.

5. Disregard for My Input and Support
Time and again, I’ve offered her advice that could have helped her avoid unnecessary stress or mistakes, but she disregards me—only to later face the exact consequences I warned about. It feels like my voice has no value in her life.

6. Encouraging Poor Habits in the Kids
She not only neglects the kids’ school work, but she also encourages them to go to the next neighborhood to play or hang out—at times when they should be studying or resting. It undermines my efforts to instill discipline and focus in our children.

7. Lack of Respect for My Hustle
She shows no interest or concern in how I make money, the pressure I’m under, or the sacrifices I make to keep the family going. There’s no appreciation, no empathy, just entitlement and expectation. I feel invisible, like a machine that’s supposed to produce without rest or recognition.

8. Misplaced Priorities
Her life seems to revolve around eating, watching TV, and spending hours gossiping with friends. There’s little to no effort toward improving our household, our relationship, or our children’s future. That kind of passivity is damaging, not just for our marriage but for our family as a whole.

9. Manipulation by Friends
She allows her so-called friends to influence how she treats me, even to the point of disrespect. Rather than defending or standing by me as a partner, she lets their words shape her actions against me. This betrayal by proxy is incredibly painful.

10. Ongoing Emotional Disregard
As I write this, she has been outside gossiping with a friend for over three hours—leaving me inside, emotionally abandoned once again. This isn’t an isolated event; it’s a pattern. I’ve begged for her time, attention, and partnership, but she chooses others over and over again.

Parrot69:
I thought Gombe is a Muslim state?

Kobojunkie:
1. Nope!

2. Again, the answer is an emphatic No! Jesus Christ of Israel's claim, as recorded in Israelites-only Scripture, is that only individuals born from their mother's womb of the bloodline of Jacob require this supposed atonement of sins and could help obtain it by way of the Covenant, which is the Kingdom of God. The same Jesus Christ of Israel went to state that those who were not born of that bloodline had no capacity to handle that which is Holy... His Covenant.. and hence warned His followers to avoid them where it concerns the details of the Covenant. This all directly conflicts with the religious narratives, all of which mostly insist that all humans require atonement and all qualify for Jesus Christ of Israel's death.

3. thinking emoticon ➜🤔

4. The existence of mainstream Christianity in Nigeria is a perception, though not a reality. You only need to directly interact with some of the members from the many different Christian organizations to realize that they do not consider themselves the same. The competition between the various sects is palpable in some communities. Within the same organization/denomination(complete overarching interpretation of scriptures), you are bound to find several other mini-denominations with their own additional ideas regarding the core interpretations fed to them from the religion's overlord higher up on the organizational hierarchy. RCCG and Deeper Life are two particular organizations/denominations that I am aware operate in this manner. Mainstream Christianity does not exist in Nigeria as far as I know.

4. It sounds extreme, but if you reason it clearly, you will find it isn't.
⚉ Can a book written in plaintext — not alien language or by aliens — really have over 46,000 different interpretations?
⚉ Does any book written by human authors in human language for the direct consumption of humans, no formal education required, require interpreting?
⚉ If the contextual content of a book— author's message — points to logic A, but the reader's particular forced interpretation points away from logic A, do we conclude that the author was wrong and the reader is instead correct?

The God of the Book took on the title God of Israel alone, declaring Israel His only inheritance in the land of men — Humans. Jesus Christ of Israel came declaring His Father, YHWH, God of Israel, sent Him only to the Lost Sheep of Israel(He never went on this declaration). All of the prophets of Israel before and after Jesus Christ of Israel were Israelites. But somehow Religion of Christianity(Islam as well) would have us believe that right after the Roman war against the Jews which lead to complete decimation of Jerusalem, the exile of the Jewish Population from much of the Roman Empire, and the destruction of the nation of Judah by the Romans during the first Century AD, the Romans — non-Israelites — took over the reigns and became the chosen people of this very same God of Israel and His Son, Jesus Christ of Israel.

Truthseeker10:
In the above scriptures that you've quote
1)what part of human burn in hell fire?
2)where will people burn forever, hell fire or lake of fire?

Truthseeker10:
Does the Bible teach that God will burn people forever in Hell?

Matthew 13
49 So shall it be at the end of the world: the angels shall come forth, and sever the wicked from among the just,

50 And shall cast them into the furnace of fire: there shall be wailing and gnashing of teeth.

Matthew 25
31 When the Son of man shall come in his glory, and all the holy angels with him, then shall he sit upon the throne of his glory:

32 And before him shall be gathered all nations: and he shall separate them one from another, as a shepherd divideth his sheep from the goats:

33 And he shall set the sheep on his right hand, but the goats on the left.

34 Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand, Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world:

41 Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels:

Mark 9:43
And if thy hand offend thee, cut it off: it is better for thee to enter into life maimed, than having two hands to go into hell, into the fire that never shall be quenched:

Revelation 20:15
And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.

Thankgod89:
You're right, it wasn’t murder or theft in the usual sense. It was disobedience. But not just breaking a random rule, it was a rupture in relationship. God gave humans everything, life, freedom, purpose, joy and one boundary to honor His authority and trust. Eating the fruit wasn’t about snacking; it was about saying, “I want to decide what’s right and wrong without You.” It was a declaration of independence from the very Source of life.

The consequence of separating from God isn’t just punishment, it’s death, because God is life. If I unplug a lamp, it doesn’t get punished—it just goes dark. Sin is unplugging from the Source, and darkness naturally follows. It’s not about God being offended over a technicality. It’s about the human race stepping out of harmony with the Creator and everything else unraveling from there.

Could God have just forgiven them? Absolutely. But forgiveness, even for God, isn’t ignoring the reality of damage. True forgiveness costs something emotionally, relationally, even spiritually. And that cost is what Jesus eventually bore. But even in the garden, God didn’t sever ties. He went looking for them. He clothed them. He promised a future Redeemer (Genesis 3:15). Discipline came, yes but not abandonment. It was a fracture, not a final goodbye.

Now about the analogy of parenting, it’s a good one. We don’t disown toddlers for breaking plates, true. But we do teach them that choices have consequences. And if that child one day grows up and says, “I don’t want your rules, your values, or your love, I’ll live how I want,” that’s not just a broken plate. That’s a broken relationship. That’s the tragedy of sin and it’s not that God won’t forgive, it’s that people can choose to reject Him.

I believe in the Holy Bible, guided by the help of the Holy Spirit. I don’t compare my faith with Islam or any other belief system. Someone once asked you question from Hebrews 11:3:
“Through faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the word of God, so that things which are seen were not made of things which do appear.”

From there, the conversation just kept unfolding…

Christianity isn’t filled with heavy doctrines, the message is actually clear. The problem isn’t with the faith, but with how it’s often misunderstood. As Jesus said in John 5:39:
“Search the Scriptures; for in them you think you have eternal life: and they are they which testify of Me.”
The heart of it all is Christ. If you truly seek Him through the Word, the message becomes clearer.

Kobojunkie:
1. The bulk of what you claim and seem to believe comes not from The Bible but from the many doctrines compiled by the religion of Christianity, a religion whose only connection is. That is what I have been trying to get you to see here. Yes, there was a man called Jesus Christ who happened to be an Israelite(of the Jewish subset), but everything else you claimed in your OP and insist on after that is not biblical but sourced from the various interpretations that belong instead to the religion of Christianity — religious gobbledegook.

2. Yes!

3. The framework of the Christian faith is the same as arguing from a religious standpoint. This is because the doctrines that comprise the religion of Christianity— its over 46000 different denominations/interpretations included— are 99.99999% removed from the actual content of the Bible —Israelite Scripture. Many of the ideas spewed so far by those who argue from within the religion have nothing to do with the original messages intended by the authors of the individual books, let alone the YHWH of Israel or Jesus Christ of Israel, His Son.

Truthseeker10:
Who do you think should determine what Justice is?

Truthseeker10:
But don't you think that you are trying to define Justice based on your own viewpoint instead of the viewpoint of the creator? Do you really think that you have the right to determine what Justice is?

Truthseeker10:
So why did you come up with that analogy as the best thing that he could have done after the disobedience?

Truthseeker10:
Why should God even punish them at all for disobeying him according to your Analogy above? Could he not forgive them without the drama that you wrote above?

Kobojunkie:
1. But none of what you stated in your OP connects back to what is in fact written in any of the books contained in the compendium called The Bible. And yes, I don't believe the religious delusion that is faith is a prerequisite for understanding, but going around spewing religious rhetoric— gobbledegook— does not equally amount to having understanding of the actual content of the book.

2. Reason can only exist where there is understanding. And the ability to reason is one thing religion, or at least subscribing to religious delusions, gradually deprives one of. If your understanding amounts to the same gobbledegook spewed by the religious(they first need their faith delusion to comprehend what is written in the book), then what makes you think your grasp of reason is different or better then theirs?

Thankgod89:
Let me share a perspective,not to argue but to offer another lens:

You’re absolutely right in saying that God is the source of justice, love, and mercy. These aren’t qualities He’s subject to; they flow from His very nature. But that’s exactly why they can’t be compromised or played against each other. Love without justice ignores real harm. Justice without love crushes the guilty. The cross is not God at war with Himself—it’s God expressing the full depth of both justice and love, simultaneously.

Your analogy about slaughtering your own child to forgive someone is powerful, but I think it’s missing something key: Jesus wasn’t just an innocent third party. In my belief and according to the scripture (John 1:14 - "And the Word was made flesh",) Jesus is God in the flesh. He wasn’t a victim caught in the middle—He was the one choosing to step in. That changes the entire picture. It’s more like a judge stepping down from the bench to serve the sentence on behalf of the guilty. It’s radical, yes but not senseless. It’s not God needing blood to calm Himself, it’s God absorbing the cost of justice Himself, so that mercy can be real and still be righteous.

You brought up restorative justice, and I love that. That’s actually what the cross is aiming at not just pardon, but transformation. In Christ, sin isn’t just excused, it’s dealt with. Evil is named, exposed, and broken. And we’re invited not just to be forgiven, but to be made new.

As for original sin, that’s a heavy doctrine. But it’s not about God punishing people for something they didn’t do; it’s about acknowledging that we’re born into a broken system. We all experience and contribute to a world shaped by generations of pride, injustice, and pain. The doctrine says, “This is not how things were meant to be.” And the good news is that God doesn’t leave us in it. Through Christ, He offers a new start, a new nature, and a new family.

Finally, your question about the “wages of sin is death” is fair. But it’s not about God punishing every offense with equal fury, it’s about separation from the source of life. Sin, by nature, disconnects us from God. [/b]And death is just the name for that disconnect. But the story doesn’t end there. “[b]The wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord” (Romans 6:23).

Kobojunkie:
1. All those are false tales fed to you by your religious overlords. None of that is found anywhere in the book of Israelite Scriptures, which you pretend to quote.

2. Would you rather He, Jesus Christ of Israel, lived forever?

3. Nonsense! Easter is a pagan holiday for people to relax, and maybe hang out with friends and family. It has absolutely nothing to do with the person of Jesus Christ of Israel as it has no direct or indirect connection to him except for the ideas fed you by your religious overlords.

MightySparrow:
You once had faith but now an apostate, what really is your point?

Heb.11.3 - Through faith we understand that ..........

You must have faith to understand or any other reasonable thinking is useless here.

Thankgod89:
The cross isn’t about God’s inability to forgive—it’s about the fullness of His justice and love meeting in one powerful moment. If God simply wiped away humanity’s sin without addressing the real weight of evil, He would be a merciful God, but not a just one. On the other hand, if He chose to prove His justice without showing compassion, He would be just, but not loving. The cross is where both justice and love collide perfectly—where God says, “I love you enough to take the hit Myself.
John 3:16 - For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.