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More blessings, more wins. Amen.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8a.

Lovely

Glimpsetv:
A hilarious video of a Ugandan family celebrating Christmas with a feast has sparked a lot of online chatter. In the video, people are seen eating together from large trays filled with an assortment of food, while the table in front of them is packed with a variety of drinks.

What makes the video even funnier is the sight of some women in the kitchen, asleep with their hands still in the trays, showing they dozed off while eating!

The video has led many to question the common stereotype about Africans not having enough food to eat.

Enjoy the funny video!



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DKLehL90wL0?si=JHVlSYi0uT0ffJaE

Omo see the huge tray everyone's eating from! 👀 No way one person can finish a tray.

At least 60% of that food was wasted. Could've ran it buffet format.

JAMO84:
I expect Peter Obi to do a twitter post on this. Like:

I woke up to the great news of Ugandans dozing off while eating jollof rice and assorted meat. Such a development can be replicated here, if only Mahamood Yakubu did not rig the 2023 election.
In Uganda, the number of meat and jollof rice eaten per square meter everyday is 10 times that of Niger and Zamfara state combined. A new Nigeria is possible - PO

Why did I read this in PO's voice? 😭😂

You're not well! 🤣🤣🤣

The other day na Nigeria you dey accuse, today na Ivory Coast, tomorrow Mali. Na everibodi wan destabilize wuna kwantri?

Yeye dey smell.

Pesin dey thief somtin somwia, dey try distract the whole country with imaginary enemies.

Warning: Sanctimonious Rant Ahead



I’ve been here for a minute, but I’ve already noticed how the most viral threads on Nairaland are always the dramatic ones. "Man Served Cheating Wife Divorce Papers For Christmas After DNA Test (Photos)"—6 pages "I Would Divorce My Husband If He Conducts DNA Test – Lady Rants"—5 pages. If you’ve spent any time in the "Romance" or "Family" sections, you know exactly what I mean.

And the comment sections? Absolute war zones! Such threads turn into a battleground between the Redpill Brigade and the Feminist Warriors. Although ever at each other's throats, both groups are preaching the same message: trust nobody!

I’m not saying it’s all rosy in Loveland and Marriageville, or that we’re all innocent angels with the best intentions, but when was the last time we saw a thread titled "My parents are celebrating 40 years of peaceful marriage"? On FP and it had up to 2 pages of comments? Why is there no balance in the narrative?

People are now scared of commitment before they’ve even started getting into anything serious. Someone who’s never been heartbroken already believes "all men are users" because of what she reads on FP. Meanwhile, another guy is convinced he needs to make millions first because "women only want rich men"—an idea he picked up from the comments in the "Romance" section.

It’s like selling Gala in Lagos traffic—if everyone keeps claiming Gala in traffic is poisoned, even vendors selling perfectly good ones will struggle to find buyers. Many Nairalanders are shaping their views on relationships based solely on these extreme, toxic gender battles. Secondhand trust issues everywhere.

Why don’t we see more threads celebrating positive stories? Like couples who met in the "Business" section and now run successful a company together. What about families raising decent, well-adjusted kids, no paternity fraud? Do these not exist? Must every relationship end up as a cautionary tale in the "Family" section?

Warning: Sanctimonious Rant Ahead



I’ve been here for a minute, but I’ve already noticed how the most viral threads on Nairaland are always the dramatic ones. "Man Served Cheating Wife Divorce Papers For Christmas After DNA Test (Photos)"—6 pages. If you’ve spent any time in the "Romance" or "Family" sections, you know exactly what I mean.

And the comment sections? Absolute war zones! Such threads turn into a battleground between the Redpill Brigade and the Feminist Warriors. Both groups are preaching the same message with different flavors: trust nobody!

I’m not saying it’s all rosy in Loveland and Marriageville, or that we’re all innocent angels with the best intentions, but when was the last time we saw a thread titled "My parents are celebrating 40 years of peaceful marriage"? On FP and it had up to 3 pages of comments? Why is there no balance in the narrative?

People are now scared of commitment before they’ve even started getting into anything serious. Someone who’s never been heartbroken already believes "all men are users" because of what she reads on FP. Meanwhile, another guy is convinced he needs to make millions first because "women only want rich men"—an idea he picked up from the comments in the "Romance" section.

It’s like selling Gala in Lagos traffic—if everyone keeps claiming Gala in traffic is poisoned, even vendors selling perfectly good ones will struggle to find buyers. Many Nairalanders are shaping their views on relationships based solely on these extreme, toxic gender battles. Secondhand trust issues everywhere.

Why don’t we see more threads celebrating positive stories? Like couples who met in the "Education" section and now have three degrees between them. Or the ones who started conversations in "Business" and now run successful a company together. What about families raising decent, well-adjusted kids, no paternity fraud? Do these not exist? Must every relationship end up as a cautionary tale in the "Family" section?

The rest of the story...

Beuberry:
This is the time to spend wisely. January 2025 will be a very long month. Learn from this short story below.



Firsr few scene were cash out and oblee periods.

Ahhhh finesse
if I broke na my business!

Kinzo0917:
Learn to research

Google is your friend

Go-to Google and ask why is South Korea concerned about north Korea sending troops to russia to fight Ukraine

But u won't do. But u come online to ask silly questions

Ogede

Took your advice and overcame my laziness, below is what I found out for the benefit of anyone coming after that shares the same strain of ignorance:

Why S/Korea is concerned with N/Korea involvement in the Russia-Ukraine war.

North Korean Combat Experience: For the first time since the Korean War, North Korean soldiers are gaining large-scale combat experience in Ukraine, witnessing modern warfare and advanced weaponry.

Military Knowledge Transfer: Returning soldiers could contribute to North Korea's military planning and preparedness.

Economic Gains: North Korea could earn $20 million monthly from Russia, boosting its economic flexibility and funding military enhancements.

Potential Military Tech Transfers from Russia:

* Re-entry vehicle technology for missile improvements.

* Nuclear-powered submarine technology for second-strike capabilities.

* High-resolution satellite imaging for better intelligence and surveillance.

* Combat aircraft to reduce South Korea’s air superiority advantage.


Strategic Impact: These developments could shift the military balance, bolstering North Korea's nuclear and conventional forces while weakening South Korea’s advantage.

Thanks for calling me out on my BS, my bro. 🙌🏾💯

Samantha125:
Well, all children from same parents are born unique with different tastes in life.

Maybe she doesn't fully trust any guy after her exes left her with the burden of looking after the children by herself.

That makes sense. However, the root of her problems seems to predate her relationships with her baby daddies and is likely what influenced her choice of irresponsible partners who would ultimately neglect their own children. The fact that she has made this choice twice already suggests it’s more than an innocent mistake from a naïve phase in her life. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice...

As someone who grew up in the same household with her, if you were to analyze her life and unique personality, considering how they might have shaped her decisions, what would you say has been the biggest contributor to her current circumstances?

Kinzo0917:
Learn to research

Google is your friend

Go-to Google and ask why is South Korea concerned about north Korea sending troops to russia to fight Ukraine

But u won't do. But u come online to ask silly questions

Ogede

🤣🤣🤣 Ogede!!

Samantha125:
The post is very true... Sometimes some of us ladies would be labelling men trash because we'd be in denial of the fact that we have a trashy taste in men.

I have this one sister who hasn't been lucky in relationships to a point that the family started looking down on her and regarded her as the black sheep of the family for being in multiple failed relationships... Because two of us are married to our high school boyfriends while one is married to her varsity boyfriend.

She's the only one with multiple failed relationships together with two kids from two different baby daddies... All her exes treated her like trash and her baby daddies don't even care about the kids... I once even confronted one of them for abandoning his own child, but the guy didn't seem to care... My sister was still willing to do anything to continue being with these guys until they finally ghosted her.

Now she's engaged to this wonderful man who was willing to overlook her flaws and adopt her children as his own, the guy's family also love her, but this sister of mine has all of a sudden started growing some wings and taking the guy's goodness for granted... Sometimes she'd be acting as if she's doing him a favour by being with him and I don't like it one bit, but there's nothing I can do.

She lied to the guy about her monthly salary and immediately they got engaged, she asked me to open a second savings account from another bank so that every month she could deposit a certain amount from her monthly salary into the account just so the guy can continue giving her that monthly allowance... If it happens that she wants something and the guy is short of cash, she'd then ask me to sent her a certain amount from that same account, so it can seem as if I'm the one who borrowed her the money because the account was registered in my personal details... I tried talking her out of it, but she wouldn't take a no for an answer.

When the guy asks her where she got the money, she'd lie by telling him that she borrowed it from me knowing very well that the guy would start feeling bad and looking for a way to repay me, but the truth is that, that money never gets to me... She'll spent it on herself... Now the guy recently bought a new car and my sister is already planning on manipulating him into giving her the car.

Interesting contribution.

I've reached a point in my life where I don't directly blame people for how messed up they are, especially in the relationship arena. I've gotten here because of my understanding of trauma, attachment styles deeply engrained from early childhood and how everything comes together to manifest; things that occasioned the most vulnerable developmental periods of people's lives. It is what gets people addicted to toxicity such that a calm and peaceful relationship doesn't give them the high that drama and conflicts gives.

I'm curious, seeing that the other sisters have turned out fairly well (going by what you've shared, at least) what's so unique about your sister's experience that makes her so sh!tty as far as relationships are concerned?

DLifeless1:
Are you a Muslim?

Only to the extent that it allows me access to stuff. E.g. posting in certain sections on NL or enjoying reduced workload at the office during ramadan.

Skincare:
Vitamin C and retinol make an amazing skincare combo as long as the routine remains consistence and sunscreen is a constant.

Car Paper Renewal:
VIO in Abuja descends on the roads like vultures in January because they know most people's paperwork has expired at the turn of the year. You can be sure of being exploited once your car gets into their office. Renew your papers online before you run into these vultures.

NCAIR and NITDA Are Just As Bad:
NCAIR, by extension NITDA, with all their social media PR, are as lazy and corrupt as the average government agency. Young public servants learn exploitation early.

Meal Prep:
Is amazing! Saves money and gives greater control over one's diet and health by extension. It can be a lot of fun learning about ingredients and cooking techniques.

Pygmalion Effect:
Because of my ability to articulate technical concepts—knowing the right terminology and registers in tech to ensure conciseness—I'm easily perceived as being smart when contributing in class. This perception casts me in a certain light and creates an expectation from my instructors, peers, and myself to stay in character, which further drives me to put in more effort, and I end up rising to the top of most classes I'm in.

The Power of "Yes, it can be done":
Just saying "yes, it can be done" in a meeting where I represented my unit head, even when I wasn't sure how, ended up in my implementing a solution and presenting it to our national chairman several months down the line. I got the best staff award and a ton of respect from peers.

The Cost of "Yes, it can be done":
"Yes, it can be done!" brought me sleepless nights, coding, debugging, working on slides, rehearsing presentations, the inconvenience of being moved around like a pawn on a big man's board, and brought very little monetary reward to justify the effort.

The Advantage of Allowing Coworkers to Fail:
If you're always on hand to help with issues, you might not be fully appreciated, and you create the opportunity for others to steal your shine. Even if you know how to do stuff, fold your hands and don't do anything. Even when approached for help, drag feet and let them struggle. Swoop in at the dying minute and save the day after all hope has been lost—that's the only time everyone would see you as a hero and you get full recognition for your ingenuity.

How to Beat Alcohol:
To beat alcohol, I have to stay as engaged with the journey as I'd be with the bottle, and even more so. I've got to track urges, understand triggers, journal experiences, and learn from the insights generated.

The Power of Community:
As reclusive and introverted as I may be, I'm still a social animal, and belonging to a community that understands and is on the same journey gives me an immense advantage. How do I contribute to community? By engaging with people, providing encouragement, sharing experiences and insights, and learning from others.

Bureaucracy is Messed Up:
I've known this for years, but this year I have experienced it firsthand more than any other time.

AI is an Incredibly Powerful Tool:
AI has multiplied my learning by astounding magnitudes. I've used AI to gain greater self-awareness and understanding of my own mind.

My Mind is a Complex Machine:
I've always felt my mind is simple and my issues are straightforward. I felt I had to protect myself by concealing my simplicity so others don't take advantage. I make fun of people who say they're complex. This year I spent a lot of time contemplating my complexes and their interactions; I ended up with a map of factors and interactions that resemble a cobweb with deeply convoluted networks. This is the most fascinating self-exploratory exercise I've carried out this year.

My Body is Rugged:
I don't always feel like it, but I inhabit a body that can wake up on a Saturday morning, run 21km in less than 3 hours, and recover within two days.

The Incredible Power of Environment Engineering:
If you want to kill bad habits, add as much friction as possible in your environment between you and the habit; if you want to form a new habit, remove as much friction from your environment between you and the habit. I rearranged my room, moved my workspace, and created more space around it, and moved my bed to the wall, creating more, again, space between these. This greater delineation of bed and desk, sleep and work, boosted my productivity and improved my sleep.

Dealing with Illness:
I fell ill in August after doing some deep sanitation of my spaces. I realized how a simple task of cleaning spiraled into a significant health crisis. The combination of stress, exposure to allergens, and delayed medical attention all contributed. I've learned to be more mindful of my environment, my stress level, and the importance of taking immediate action when health issues arise. If ill, the important role of rest, hydration, fresh air, and sticking to prescriptions is crucial.

The Depth of My Ignorance:
I'm still as ignorant as ever. I still have A LOT to learn. I learned to not cover my ignorance to keep up appearances; to ask as many questions and request as much clarity as is allowed. I don't know everything, I can never know everything. People have so much to teach me if I treat them with respect and enter conversation with humility and openness to learn.

Meti99:
Because Nigeria is too complex for an individual to manage.
Nigeria don't have the brain to manage complex society and even if you are lucky to find one now, next president and even more may be too mentally weak to manage it

Haba my bro, of all the problems plaguing Nigerian society, "weak brain" is not one of them. Nigeria is known to export brilliance. The problem is cultural—corruption has become part of our everyday experience, which has nothing to do with society's complexity or the competency of any single leader. The elite class is used to rent-seeking, the public service is used to sabotaging systems for personal gain, and the ordinary citizen is not left behind in the opportunistic exploitation of whatever resources come under their influence.

chatinent:
Another bogus entity to feed fat on taxpayers money.

What's the need of the establishment? What's the work of the NNPL if it needs to create another parastatal?

Good questions. Not holding brief for NNPCL, but here's how I see it:

Knowing exactly how much oil we're pumping out is crucial as it helps us predict money coming in and brings some much needed transparency into the process. About that center—it's not separate from NNPCL, it's just a department within the company that's been given this specific job to do.

Great100000:
Source: https://www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2024/12/27/nnpc-floats-crude-production-monitoring-centre-to-track-oil-output/

Long overdue but positive step. If properly implemented it'll provide good data to track production levels and projected sales revenue. However, given NNPC's track record, and this could easily be another smokescreen.

Iweakbro:
They are powerful. They have a high chance of defeating the US in conventional warfare. They have developed a lot of weapons and defenses since the last war.

However, the US is more tactically sound, which will be the edge.

Haba my bro. Propaganda aside, head to head, boots on ground, USA vs Russia, Russia go chop correct beating. That common Ukraine has managed to fight them into a stalemate says a lot.

TobiAbuja:
Then seek out the truth. There are tens if not hundreds of videos confirming them as North Koreans, including from pro-Russian telegram channels. One only has to look.

It's because that war has dragged on at a very slow tempo and has gotten boring. I'm no longer as invested so it's easier to doubt everything from both sides. Now I wing it by judging the underlying motivations behind headlines to approximate what could be true.

It'll be perfectly reasonable if the update, real or fake, was from Kyiv, but it's rather out of place coming from Seoul. Have they got any skin in the game or na just bad belle against Pyongyang?

Kaa4:
North Korea, Dude.

N
How many persons ever notice that the North Korean President is the only fatso in his country, while the other are malnourished and skinny

South Korea, Dude.

North dey fight but na South dey give update.

The first casualty of war is truth.

Don't believe everything you see online, especially regarding war.

Why is Seoul so keen on providing updates on a war they're not directly involved in?

mysticwarrior:
Why South Korea come carry dey matter for head?

I wonder! Na shisshigi dey do them.

Do you pay the agent a tour fee like they do in Abuja? If so, this might just be a scheme for them to cash out without needing to have any available houses. They could pick a prospective client, show them an unreasonably priced rubbish dump they know the client won’t like, and still earn their commission without having to finalize anything.

Ouchbabe:



Though the situation of this country weighs me down when I ponder on it, God can still remember us.
I don't know if you believe in God or not but I do.
There is nothing He cannot do, no situation He can not change.

Compliments of the season

I believe in God, it's people I don't believe in.

By the way, there are things God cannot do. E.g lie, sin, change. In our own particular case, He has blessed Nigeria and its people with everything they need, including freewill, which they're using in the ugliest of ways. He's not going to come down from heaven and fix the country for us.

Ouchbabe:
Kilode?

What's the story behind your moniker?

Ouchbabe